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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 17/02/2025

Positivity isn’t a cure for anger. It may distract from it, but the anger isn’t going away. Anger isn’t bad. It’s a normal response to a felt disrespect to the mind/body. Healing happens by affirming honest emotions rather than attempting to swap them out-which will delay growth.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 17/02/2025

Our trauma conditioning, that self-sabotaging programming our bullies & abuses laid on us years ago, wants us responding to every memory & feeling we experience w/ panic & self-cruelty. Trauma programming gets scrambled & weakened when we respond w/ compassion & patience.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 16/02/2025

“But, it made you strong” What people don’t see is it also made them lonely, afraid to ask for what they need, & fearful that if they ask for help they’ll be rejected. There is often a lot of pain the strong people you know are hiding. Strong is sometimes the only option.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

Survivors often feel pressure to talk or not talk about their story, from lots of people, for lots of reasons. It's real important, if we're going to talk about our experience, that we feel ready, & we do it for our reasons, not anyone else's pressure. Your story. Your rules.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

We are not always gonna feel great about ourselves or be thrilled w/ all our decisions as we recover from trauma-- but facing that sh*t without shame or self-abuse is what building realistic self-esteem is all about. Easy does it. Just do the next right thing.

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Patsy “Resistance Kitty” Evans Ph.D. @drharmony.net · 27/01/2025

Germans know...

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 28/01/2025

I have never once met a trauma survivor who "wanted" to "play the victim card." Every survivor I've ever met would happily burn their "victim card" & never think about it again. Trauma is about conditioning we have to systematically undo, not a "mindset" we "choose."

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WuTangIsForTheChildren @wutangforchildren.bsky.social · 21/01/2025

This Bishop is amazing for the courage she had to do this to their smug faces

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 22/01/2025

"Victim" is not a bad word-- & it behooves us all to get curious about who has been working, effortfully, to make it taboo & shameful to identify as a victim. Who benefits from there being "no true victims," except those who "choose" to be victim? That's right. Perpetrators.

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Vox @vox.com · 15/01/2025

The Los Angeles wildfires are at risk of contaminating the city's water supply, with ash, pathogens, toxic chemicals, flame retardants, and even melted pipes able to enter reservoirs and aqueducts. Several communities have advised residents not to drink tap water.

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WuTangIsForTheChildren @wutangforchildren.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

Incredible footage by a KTLA helicopter at the badass firefighters working their asses off to contain the new fire that flared up last night in Jurupa Valley 🙏💪

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

Direct yourself away from "should" statements as quickly & emphatically as possible. 90% of "shoulds" are recovery sabotaging black holes. Unless a "should" is tied to a concrete goal-- "to accomplish X, I should do Y"-- it's very likely of limited or negative impact on you.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

Every time we choose to talk to ourselves w/ realism, kindness, & respect, we make a tiny, incremental investment in new neural pathways that will serve us better than those formed early on through abuse, neglect, & trauma. Invest, invest, invest. Plant emotional acorns.

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The Met: Asian Art @metasian.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

Collection of Short Poems in Chinese from Itako www.metmuseum.org/art/collection/se…

Purchase, Mary and James G. Wallach Foundation Gift, 2013

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The Watch Duty app is making the rounds online right now due to the unfolding tragedy in Los Angeles. Here's a past look at what it is, how to use it, and how it helps in times of crisis* *reposted after correcting grammatical errors. It's been... a week, y'all. www.popsci.com/technology/w...

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This app is helping Californians stay on top of wildfire risks

An interest in getting more sources of intel on wildfires in California spurred John Mills to create an app. He's not alone.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 13/01/2025

When we get triggered, have a sh*t day, backslide, relapse, we gotta remember: we're not starting again from scratch. We're STILL skilled & experienced, even if our struggles got the better of us for a sec. We're NOT at Square One. Easy does it. Just pick up where you left off.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 14/01/2025

The fantasy of living a "normal" life was a roadblock to my trauma recovery. The stuff that happened to us wasn't "normal." The stuff we need to do to recover isn't gonna be "normal." Look around you; "normal" isn't all it's cracked up to be anyway. Yeet "normal."

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 05/01/2025

For trauma recovery to stick, self-forgiveness & self-compassion need to be more than just abstract concepts-- we need to have realistic, practiced things to tell ourselves & visualize in the moment when trauma responses try to make us hate & sabotage ourselves.

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The Met: Asian Art @metasian.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

Landscape with Pavilion www.metmuseum.org/art/collection/se…

Purchase, Bequest of Stephen Whitney Phoenix, by exchange, 1985

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Science Friday @scifri.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

A new book asks a giant question: How did we end up in a climate crisis? In today's episode, a historian joins us to explore the common threads that run through both human and environmental history. Listen here 🎧: buff.ly/3Mut28J

State of the art fire-fighting equipment in 1866 included a horse drawn fire engine accompanied by separate hose and ladder carts. Text says A new book explores over 800 years of history, connecting the pursuit of empire, environmental destruction, and human migration.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 15/12/2024

Let 'em make fun of "breathe & talk yourself through this" if they must. "They" don't have to handle the triggers kicking your ass. YOU do, & you need somewhere to start-- & in my experience, "breathe & talk yourself through this" is where ALL successful coping strategies start.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 15/12/2024

Our bullies & abusers do not want us talking kindly or supportively to ourselves. They want us echoing the harsh, mocking ways they spoke to us-- because us relating positively & safely to ourselves? Will eventually result in us holding them accountable for their behavior.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 15/12/2024

Wrangling a trauma response starts w/ how we breathe, how we talk to ourselves, & what we visualize & focus on. I know, trauma responses are overwhelming, & none of this is easy-- but survivors who successfully recover keep going back to these basics, again & again. And again.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

Validating our pain & the reality of our past is not somehow affirming our unchangeable identity as a passive "victim." Anyone who tries to tell you trauma recovery hinges on denying or disowning our wounds doesn't understand trauma OR recovery.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 16/12/2024

Remember today that your playlists, your books, your comics, your movies, your poems, your historical figures, your fictional characters-- these are all trauma recovery tools that are as real & important as anything a trauma "expert" has to say. Use 'em. Use the hell out of 'em.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 12/12/2024

Sending peace to those who are tired. Not just the sleepy kind. The grind kind. The lack of people who understand. The lack of moments that make sense. The lack of time to process it. Peace for you for a moment. Peace that helps you pause to be proud of what you’re trying to heal

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Deb Grey @mrsgrey0718.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

Who is all curious if @jayhernandez001.bsky.social will post something and set up his profile? Someone tell him we miss him🥰🥰🥰 We need our aloha back and #MagnumPI back on the air. Help😢🙏🤙

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ALT: a woman in a white robe is looking at something

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

If you were born into a family that had expectations for you to play a specific role in order for them to accept you, your work is deconstructing their ideas of who you were supposed to be and learning to respect who you are. You do not owe your family a character.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

Trauma survivors aren't sensitive to criticism because we're "thin skinned"-- we're sensitive to it because our nervous system has internalized connections between criticism, shame, punishment & abandonment. We've been trained to flinch at early warning signs of all sorts.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

Instead of “You attracted your abuser” try “Our brain craves familiarity & due to past experiences, poor treatment was familiar to me.” Language matters. Please don’t take the blame for how someone else mistreated you. You didn’t deserve that either time.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 10/12/2024

Every thought & feeling we have has value. Our thoughts & feelings deserve attention & respect. Ignoring or belittling our thoughts & feelings ruins self-esteem. And also: our thoughts & feelings are influenced, & sometimes distorted, by trauma conditioning. Both are true.

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Alvia Alcedo @alviaalcedo.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

Water dragon ✨ Pencils, white pen on a craft paper #dragon #dragons #art #magic #fantasyart #pencils

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

Trauma conditioning lies to us about how important others' approval is. It just does. It knows getting us to believe that others' approval is as (or more!) important than oxygen is an amazing way to keep us anxious & focused on things other than our own needs, goals, & recovery.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

Managing anxiety is never about telling ourselves what we're worried about is "stupid." I don't care if you think what you're worried about IS "stupid"-- that's not how we talk ourselves through a tough moment. Contempt is not a recovery tool-- it's an echo of our past abuse.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

"Abandonment" doesn't just mean being literally left by the side of the road (although some people reading this did experience that). There are emotional & relational forms of "abandonment" that contribute to complex trauma our culture never talks about or acknowledges.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 09/12/2024

Not being overtly, demonstrably valued by the people who should have valued us once upon a time leaves a wound. Whether we want to call that wound "trauma" or not doesn't especially matter-- it's still on us to acknowledge & resolve it w/ compassion & realism.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 07/12/2024

I don't say "never doubt yourself." Remembering we're not perfect & our judgment can get f*cked up by trauma conditioning is important to realistic recovery. I DO say you're probably doing better than you think-- because Trauma Brain is forever telling us we suck.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 08/12/2024

Developing realistic self-love starts w/ talking to ourselves like someone we love, understand, & want to succeed-- regardless of whether we like or f*cking hate ourselves in this moment. Consider it practice.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 08/12/2024

Self love is not just a feeling, it's a verb. We're not always gonna feel loving toward ourselves-- but we can always behave lovingly toward ourselves. The consistency w/ which we do so is gonna be what makes or breaks our trauma recovery.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 06/12/2024

If you can read this, you're not finished yet. I don't care what Trauma Brain is telling you. If you can read these words, there are options. Breathe; blink; focus; and do the next right thing. Just focus on the next teeny, tiny micro choice. Easy does it. That's it.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 06/12/2024

We get to say "no." Even if it's awkward. Even if we think we should soften it with a "maybe." (If it's a "no," we're not doing anyone any favors by calling it a "maybe.") "No" is not a dirty word. Neither are "not anymore," "not ever again," or "I changed my mind."

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 04/12/2024

Some feelings & memories will stick with us, even for years, until we acknowledge them, honor them, & fit them into our life story in a way that makes sense (trauma "processing"). Dissociation doesn't bypass the need for processing-- it just delays it. But the bill comes due.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 04/12/2024

We experience the emotional & physical responses we do because of meanings we've associated w/ certain people, events, or even sounds, smells, or vibes. Understanding & wrangling our triggers starts w/ consistently asking: what MEANING has my nervous system attached to this?

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 04/12/2024

You are allowed to exist. You are allowed to breathe air & take up space & have feelings & even needs. Obvious, right? Not so much to trauma survivors who have been conditioned for years to feel shame about the reality & mechanics of mere existence. Consider this a reminder.

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Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @drdoylesays.bsky.social · 30/11/2024

If you're like 99% of trauma survivors, you've struggled w/ questions of "was it real?", "was it really that bad?", and/or "was it my fault?" Trauma Brain uses those questions to invalidate our pain-- & try to convince us we don't "deserve" sympathy or support. Don't bite.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 28/11/2024

Not all hurt people, hurt people. Some of them remember how much it cost them and couldn’t imagine putting someone else through that.

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