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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 17/02/2026

“Family is everything.” No, healing is. And if the family is who caused the pain, they don’t always get to participate in the healing.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 15/02/2026

Highly sensitive is often linked to highly intuitive and let me tell you there’s a reason people don’t like that. Sensitivity is often criticized, but it’s the intuitive part that scares people who have stuff to hide.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 09/02/2026

No one will tell you to stop dwelling on the past quicker than a person who doesn’t want you to remember the things they’ve never apologized for.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 02/02/2026

Sending compassion to every complex trauma survivor who remains in a freeze state due to the news, the world, the inundation with constant triggering information that your mind and body is trying to navigate. Do what you have to do to respect that response.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 23/01/2026

You will know you’ve found your people when you experience them in difficult moments and realize honesty doesn’t have to be brutal and love doesn’t have to be tough.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 21/01/2026

If they support the people who’ve traumatized you, they don’t need to know anything about your life. Let them guess.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 19/01/2026

You are supposed to be triggered when someone mistreats, lies to, or disrespects you. You can heal to lessen the intensity of that trigger, but having a reaction to poor treatment means your body is alive, alert, and reminding you that you deserve better.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 16/01/2026

The people who cause you the most hurt, will then create false narratives around you, your experiences, and your character. They do this because in order to be honest about who you are, they would have to be honest about what they’ve done.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 11/01/2026

Dysfunctional families can’t survive without denial and a scapegoat. So, when one person begins to speak up about the dysfunction, those who survive by and benefit from the dysfunction will eagerly blame that person to keep their survival and security in tact.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 27/12/2025

The people who choose to heal from a dysfunctional family, are trusting themselves to be an example of someone they've never had. Brave as hell.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 21/12/2025

I wish people understood that when someone seems to overexplain, it’s often because of how much they’ve been misunderstood. They’re trying to give you information that they assume is hard to understand based on how they’ve been treated. This deserves compassion, not criticism.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 10/12/2025

Please stop spending your time trying to be understood by people who have contributed to your trauma, but never to your healing.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 08/12/2025

“You’re still hurt by that? That was a long time ago!” Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 06/12/2025

To understand the life of a person with cPTSD, is to understand they’ve experienced multiple traumas and after each one, people taught them how to adapt to that pain, rather than making the traumas stop.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 02/12/2025

It’s typical of dysfunctional families to blame a person for speaking up about the dysfunction, rather than address it. That’s called scapegoating. The scapegoat is often a bright light and no one hates that more than those willing to remain in the dark.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 27/11/2025

An honest child will pay a significant price in a family or home where truths are hidden.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 23/11/2025

There’s nothing normal about expecting family members to be in the same room when one has abused the other. This is abnormal. This is harmful. This is perpetuating more abusive patterns. When you elevate family traditions over protecting the abused, you are re-creating the abuse

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 20/11/2025

You will be disrespected by people who envy your ability to be authentic. You will be dismissed by people who fear your strength in how you address your pain. You will be critiqued by oppressors as you find the things that set you free. It’s your life. Don’t slow down for them.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 14/11/2025

The scapegoat is often the empath or highly sensitive person who expresses an authentic hunger for better treatment, truth, and/or change. This is the most threatening temperament to a toxic system-familial or other.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 09/11/2025

I hope you heal from all the things your family denied happening to you.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 05/11/2025

To those who've felt unlovable: This is often a painful aftermath of not having support when you needed it most. I hope you find ways to love all parts of you, but especially the parts that felt rejected or like they they didn't belong.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 03/11/2025

Be kind to people-pleasers. Many of them were taught the only way to be accepted was to give others what they want without getting anything back. They were taught this by people that were supposed to keep them safe and teach them about love. Seriously, be kind.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 03/11/2025

There are people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they’ve done to you. Let them go.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 31/10/2025

A haunted house for people with cPTSD, but it's just a room full of people saying "Everything happens for a reason."

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 26/10/2025

cPTSD is a result of not having the freedom (or access) to acknowledge and process trauma. The complex part is because the trauma was ongoing. PTSD represents specific traumatic memories. Complex PTSD presents those memories and experiences having no end.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 18/10/2025

Abuse survivors are heavily triggered by dishonest people. When you’ve sacrificed your time and security in order to figure out the truth, people who lack truth will feel like they’re pulling you back to your darkest days.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 15/10/2025

“Family is everything.” No, healing is. And if the family is who caused the trauma, they don’t always get to participate in the healing.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 10/10/2025

An enabler will listen to you share the most harmful things someone has done to you, and then tell you you’re misunderstanding what happened. When I say enablers are just as dangerous as perpetrators, this is what I’m talking about.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 05/10/2025

We’re too quick to tell a traumatized person that it’s their responsibility to heal without considering what has been taken from them.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 01/10/2025

When a person chooses their dysfunction and denial over a healthy connection, they’re helping you make choices too.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 29/09/2025

“But forgiveness is for you!” So is justice. So is accountability for those who hurt them. So is the anger that must be heard for them to find peace. Stop using forgiveness to shame people for healing on their own terms. If it’s for them, let them decide. Stay out of their way.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 27/09/2025

People have a hard time detecting red flags when they grow up being taught to normalize the way they were being hurt by people who were supposed to protect them.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 26/09/2025

When you hear someone over-explaining, know one (or all) of these is true: 1). They’ve often had their reality denied. 2). They've been hurt in unpredictable ways & believe it was because they didn't explain better. 3). They've grown up being ignored. Please be patient.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 23/09/2025

Pay close attention to any person who has issue with you wanting to live life on your own terms. Terms that don’t hurt other people. Terms that give you security and peace. Pay very close attention.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 21/09/2025

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 19/09/2025

People don't understand what a big deal it is for a childhood trauma survivor to depend on others, & god forbid, ask for help. When you've had to be dependent on people who hurt you, you try to not need people. If you know someone like this please be patient, clear, & kind.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 16/09/2025

When you lose the respect of an empathetic person, it’s permanent. Not because they’re bitter, but because they’re wise.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 14/09/2025

A person who is not changed by you telling them how their actions are hurting you, is a person you need to move away from.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 09/09/2025

No one will tell you to stop dwelling on the past quicker than a person who doesn’t want you to remember the things they’ve never apologized for.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 05/09/2025

A traumatized child is not resilient-they’re hypervigilant. What they did to get by was not from strength, but from being faced with a world that felt like a threat. Suggesting traumatized children are resilient is dismissing the severity of what never should’ve happened to them.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

People with cPTSD have difficulty explaining why things feel so intense. Think of a person in pain who was always denied help with past pain & imagine what they’ve had to do all those years to get by. The c in cPTSD is complex. A life built in survival mode is not easy to explain

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 30/08/2025

Forgiveness isn’t the cure for injustice. Justice is.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 29/08/2025

There is still much unknown about cPTSD because it’s the result of things people were never meant to endure.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 27/08/2025

Being shamed for your anger by a person who has taken advantage of you is them taking further advantage of you. That shit makes you feel crazy. You have every right to be mad.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 25/08/2025

The older I get the more I appreciate the people who make it safe to be sensitive in their presence.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 21/08/2025

When the people who are meant to protect you, become the people who hurt you, you don't stop wanting protection-you stop wanting people.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 16/08/2025

There is no one who will dismiss your growth more than the people who are mad you did work they aren’t willing to do.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 14/08/2025

Stop telling people who've been abused in relationships that they attracted it. Please stop.

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Nate Postlethwait @natepost.bsky.social · 12/08/2025

People don’t choose estrangement to hurt others. They choose estrangement to stop getting hurt.

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