“Don’t believe everything you think.”This little quote, on a pin badge my other half bought me for Christmas, has been sitting with me today.It’s a powerful reminder that some thoughts we have don’t d...

I had a conversation with a parent this week they said “I don’t like who I become when my child pushes me to my limits?”It got me thinking - we are all that person. And if you think you’re not, you ar...

I was talking to a friend yesterday - an adopter and fellow NVR practitioner. I can’t tag her because she doesn’t have a page.The conversation was around how we often don’t know what we’re dealing wit...

It’s been a bumpy ride over the past few months. My girls lost their mum unexpectedly late last year. There’s this idea that children who don’t grow up with their parents aren’t impacted, or are less ...

Happy New Year from one courageous parent to another.This year, I’ve seen so much quiet courage - tough decisions that needed to be made, hard conversations that needed to be had, limits that needed t...

“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind” – Brene BrownThis quote comes to mind often, because it’s so true - for our young people but also for us adults. We all feel safer when our environments and the peop...

How was your Christmas?I’m not sure that a drama-free Christmas is possible for families raising children with significant early trauma. Because trauma isn’t something that lives in the past. When the...

As we get ready for the magic of Christmas, here’s a helpful list for mums and dads - a reminder that the joyful season isn’t always so joyful for children who’ve had a lot of disruption in their litt...

Content warning - suicide.Having recently discovered and started to engage in the world of AI, I'm impressed. Chat GPT and Copilot are transforming my work and personal life in small but significant ways. But there is a dark side. A recent news story talks about the experience of a 29 year old student. He was asking an AI platform for help and received an abusive response. www.cbsnews.com/news/google-ai-chatbot-threatening-message-human-please-die/In another news story, a parent is suing an AI c

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Research has proven that social health – wellbeing that comes from connection – is as essential as food and water, but it is vastly underappreciated

I saw this on Bluesky and was very moved. It's hard living with children who were hurt in the most awful ways and still respond from that hurt - because that's what happens with early trauma - it impa...

NVR as a parenting approach was developed in the 1990s to help parents take a firm stance around harmful behaviours - like drugs, drinking, violence, crime, opting out of school and work, and opting o...

In an NVR group for kinship/connected carers we talked about the importance of venting. Sometimes we don’t want advice - we just want to offload and be heard. It's tricky when we offload and we people...

One of my favourite quotes is from one of Dan Siegel’s earlier books - parenting from the inside out. He explains that it isn’t what happens to us in childhood that impacts the attachment security of ...

The stories we tell ourselves matter.Whether emotions shape our narrative or our narrative shapes our emotions is up for debate. But one thing is clear - the narrative we hold about our children's beh...

One of the really good things about NVR is that it provides something of a map for those times where we might be in survival mode.Most of my work is with trauma in some form or another - children and ...

The mobile phone network recommends parents buy under-11s phones that can only text or call.