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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast

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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Wouldn’t it be great if we always communicated perfectly and understood what our partner needed? Could you imagine never feeling insecure or dealing with rejection in a long-term relationship? 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/LL6tX...
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Rejection and Connection in Relationships
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 01/10/2026
Getting older comes with wisdom, experience, and apparently NO guarantee that you’ll get better at relationships. 😅 This week, we are joined by Wendy, founder of Good Clean Love, to talk about aging, menopause, and changing desire. 🎧 Listen to the episode: youtu.be/ozPPBs36cBQ
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Ep 28. How Aging Changes Your Relationships w/ Wendy Strgar
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
First, “Never talk to” is usually “please don’t harass us.” Second, taking the lead doesn't always mean making the first move. It includes texting back with real answers, making plans, engaging, flirting, and showing someone how you’ll show up in a partnership. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/WGS_6...
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
People on the internet can tell you what women want, what men want, what you should absolutely do or not do in modern dating, but they can’t tell what the specific human being standing in front of you wants. For that, you’re going to have to talk to them. 😉 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/NIl7H...
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Just Treat Them Like a Person!
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
On the latest episode @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social are setting the record straight on modern dating. While there are no objective rules, learning how to read the room and treating romantic prospects as real human beings is a good place to start. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/vSv5o...
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Do You Want a Person or a Body
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
We are skipping next week’s episode because our amazing producer, Allie, is getting married! 💍🥂 We will be back with a new episode on 9/30. Be sure to send her some love and congratulations in the comments! 👇🎉
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Look, as certified ADHD goblins, we love the internet…but we also have to admit that it really freaking sucks. 😬 Algorithms are really good at figuring out what makes you anxious, angry, sad, and straight up miserable. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/GC558...
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Do You Need an Internet Break 😬
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Yes, you can totally approach people. However, that doesn’t mean you should just approach every single person, in every place, at every moment of the day. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/vFyTO...
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Can You Actually Approach People
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
You can all thank @doctornerdlove.com for finding this absolute gem (🙄) of a post from r/DatingOver30: “I Feel Gaslit by Modern Dating. Am I Completely Wrong?” And yes, OP really is. 🎧 Listen to the episode: youtu.be/CI7wsUW3XkI
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
Men do themselves a disservice when they think the only thing they can bring to a relationship is being a financial provider. You are so much more than your paycheck. 🙌 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/MQOBv...
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You Have More to Offer than Being a Provider
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
We love when men are allowed to kiss about their feelings. 😉 BUT if every close, emotionally intimate friendship between men gets treated as romantic, we’re just reinforcing the same idea culture already teaches men: emotional vulnerability is only for romance. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/QEHIO...
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Men Can Be Friends
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 14/09/2026
The male loneliness epidemic doesn’t exist. 📣 Yes, men are lonely. But so are women, trans folks, nonbinary folks, and people across the gender spectrum. And the research backs that up. We don’t have a male loneliness epidemic. We have a loneliness epidemic. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/eFQlc...
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Loneliness Isn’t a “Men Problem” 📣
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
What’s the most romantic gesture you can think of? Is it a surprise trip or a huge bouquet of flowers? What if it looked like doing the dishes after your partner cooks? What if it was making sure they had a hot cup of coffee every morning?...without being asked. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/VYkuM...
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Love Is in the Little Things
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
On the latest episode, @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social are unpacking what’s really causing loneliness and what we can do about it (even if we can’t dismantle capitalism by next week 😉). 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/g6YKA...
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One in Five Adults Have No Close Friends
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
Everyone keeps talking about the male loneliness epidemic, but there’s just one teensy problem… repeated studies show that loneliness isn’t uniquely a man problem. Tune in to hear why it’s easier than ever before to isolate yourself, and how to actually meet other people. 🎧 youtu.be/C3n3rqsbQ2E
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 08/09/2026
This belief that men should be providers, combined with the fear that women are gold diggers, is just one of the many ways that misogyny hurts men, too. Most women aren’t looking for an ATM. They want a partner. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/BZWcR... . . . @doctornerdlove.com @drlizpowell.bsky.social
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The Problem with Labeling Men as Providers
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 08/09/2026
This week @drlizpowell.bsky.social & @doctornerdlove.com are pushing back on the myth that gold diggers are lurking everywhere, waiting to pounce on men who frequently don’t have that much gold to dig. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/qi17y...
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If You Want Model Hot, Bring Model Hotness or Money
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 03/09/2026
Most women you meet aren’t lurking around waiting for the chance to drain your bank account. They’re trying to find someone they actually connect with. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/J6rj2...
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Gold Diggers Are Like “Stranger Danger” 💰
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 02/09/2026
This week on @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social read through a 12-point list on how men can avoid gold diggers from the perspective of a woman. Yes, it’s as painful as it sounds... 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/GKrkF...
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Don't Order a Steak at McDonald's 🥩
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 02/09/2026
@doctornerdlove.com hasn’t scarred @drlizpowell.bsky.social in a while with a cursed podcast topic, so of course, this week we’re reading a Reddit list helping men avoid gold diggers. AKA basically, the judgiest ways to say: find women with jobs and hobbies. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/LpWUe...
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The Biggest Modern Dating Fear for Men
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 02/09/2026
This week, @drlizpowell.bsky.social & @doctornerdlove.com are in the trenches of r/DatingAdvice to read, “A Guide for Men on How to Avoid Gold Diggers (From a Woman).” Just a totally normal post that definitely isn’t violating any community guidelines. 🙃 🎧 Listen to the episode: youtu.be/T5IYk64Z3Tk
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
When everything is built around making an instant yes-or-no decision about someone, we lose some of the serendipity of meeting and connecting with people we would have never chosen for ourselves. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/DGetl... . . . @doctornerdlove.com @drlizpowell.bsky.social
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What You Want vs Need in a Relationship
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
Tune into the latest episode as @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social break down the problem with modern dating culture and how to focus on quality over quantity when you’re trying to find someone you truly, genuinely like! 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/URSaq...
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The Problem with Modern Dating Culture
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
A “low-effort” first date is the perfect way to get over those first-date jitters. You can’t know if someone is marriage material in a day, so don’t try it. Start with deciding if you’d like to go on a second date. 😉 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/oj5-4... . . . @doctornerdlove.com @drlizpowell.bsky.social
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Ice Cream Is the Perfect First Date 🍦
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
How much would you pay a matchmaker for the CHANCE at finding love? In the latest episode, @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social are talking about dating apps, matchmaking, and why capitalism ruins literally everything it touches. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/K7bD3...
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How Much Would You Pay for a Matchmaker?
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 28/08/2026
Would you rather spend a first date talking about your favorite color, sports team, and how many weddings you’re going to this summer OR talk about all the things you’re passionate about? The things that are meaningful to you and have shaped who you are. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/bkl3l...
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Good Questions to Ask on the First Date
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 27/08/2026
In the latest episode, @drlizpowell.bsky.social and @doctornerdlove.com look at relationship expectations by diving into the current dating app hellscape and the world of high-end matchmakers. 👀 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/2n-rf...
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How Gender Impacts Relationship Expectations
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 27/08/2026
This week, @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social skip the Reddit disasters and get right to the source of modern dating…and why it sucks so much. When capitalism impacts literally everything, how are we actually supposed to date in 2026? 🎧 Listen to the episode: youtu.be/7jptNcCwQMQ
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
We should be in relationships because they feel good for everyone involved. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/jyeGl... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Your Partner Should Help You Succeed
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
What if we’ve been thinking about the “friend zone” all wrong? 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/W9bLH... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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The Truth About the Friend Zone
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
It’s not your job to make your partner not mad. Full stop. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. And this is ESPECIALLY true if your partner gets mad at you for doing literally anything. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/FgYnV... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Emotional Coercion Is Still Abuse
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
It doesn’t matter how old or young you are, or how many relationships you have been in or haven’t been in. There are going to be awkward moments and uncomfortable conversations. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/aIxYs... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Embrace the Awkward
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
Toxic or abusive relationships don’t always look like threats or physical violence. Sometimes your first sign that something isn’t right is when you’re always asking yourself: “How do I keep them from getting mad?” 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/p5rI1... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Anger As a Form of Control
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
In the latest episode, @doctornerdlove.com and @drlizpowell.bsky.social are diving into everything from questionable relationship choices and awkward communication to red flags and controlling behavior. 🎧 Listen to the episode: youtu.be/9vWibCPsyW4
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
Building a healthy relationship starts with communication. You’re a person, so you’re going to have needs, wants, preferences, and desires. That’s okay! 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/Tija6... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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What Does Building a Relationship Look Like?
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
The more upfront you are about who you are and what you want, the better your matches will be. Sure, you might get fewer of them. But the people who DO match with you are much more likely to actually want to date you. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/oSwKF... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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It's Better to Get Dates Than Matches
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 17/08/2026
Consent is more than just getting a “yes.” That’s where the FRIES model of consent comes in. And if you don’t think clearly communicating consent can be hot? You need to get more creative. 😉 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/C0RH3... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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The FRIES Model of Consent
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
In this week’s episode, we are finally getting around to the infamous TikTok Voice Memo Guy, who essentially told his date that no getting laid = no second date. 🎧 www.youtube.com/shorts/HDED-... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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"I Don't Know" Is a No
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 12/08/2026
Not everything that looks like a boundary actually is one. Sometimes people use the language of boundaries to control someone else’s behavior…all while insisting they’re just “communicating their needs.” 🫩 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/yyXk9... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Is It a Boundary or Just Boundary Shaped?
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 12/08/2026
Look, we know we might be a little late (that’s what happens when your podcast is hosted by 2 ADHD goblins), but we have thoughts about the TikTok Voice Memo Guy. And if you haven’t heard him yet, we can’t wait to fill you in. 🎧 youtu.be/QiqgXU4DbiE . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
If nothing has inherent meaning, why not choose joy, kindness, love, or connection? That’s the whole idea behind optimistic nihilism. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/jrsBS... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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Optimistic Nihilism
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 10/08/2026
Instead of chasing ambiguity, try this affirmation: 💚 I am worthy of unambiguous desire. 💚 I am worthy of enthusiastic yeses. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/oX0j3... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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I Am Worthy of Unambiguous Desire
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 07/08/2026
Look, everybody wants love. We all want connection. That’s not the issue. The issue comes when our feelings take precedence over respecting other people and viewing them as human beings. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/Wn-hl... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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Humans Want Connection
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 06/08/2026
Trying to get a $1 relationship while only investing 15 cents isn’t the best way to approach a relationship. (And it won’t save you from pain or conflict either.) 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/bt8Tf... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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15 Cents for a Dollar Experience
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 05/08/2026
If you’re caught up in wanting and waiting for someone to change their mind or hoping that the “maybe” you got really meant “yes,” this one’s for you. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/KeFMe... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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Ambiguity Is a No
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 05/08/2026
This week we are joined by Evita Sawyers. The stories are messy, but the lesson is simple: healthy relationships aren’t built on wishful thinking, avoiding conflict, or waiting for someone to change. 🎧 youtu.be/pFrat5xjf_I . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 04/08/2026
DON'T GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE! Trust isn’t built on surveillance. If you have to keep checking your partner’s phone to “trust” them, you might wanna listen to this episode. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/MKTUi... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Trust Isn't Built Through Surveillance
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 04/08/2026
The internet is great because you can find your people. But it also kind of sucks because those people might live thousands of miles away. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/evQgV... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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We've Lost Third Spaces
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 03/08/2026
Have you ever gone looking for evidence that your worst fear was true, all so you could feel even worse than before? 😬 Sometimes we’re so desperate for certainty that we’ll end up being our own worst enemy. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/4rNeh... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Setting Ourselves Up For Hurt
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Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast @doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 01/08/2026
Why is it easier to go on a romantic date than schedule and follow through with that friendship date? 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/NhMmq... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
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Building Intentional Relationships
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