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Cody Daigle-Orians

@dadstoyevsky.bsky.social
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Writer and queer sexualities educator. educator. Also: Books. Horror. Hockey Theatre.

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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 31/07/2026
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"Obsession" is a gnarly tale of aromantic horror.
Amatonormativity is the monster in this latest entry in an aspec-coded run of relationship horror.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 31/07/2026
“Gay, not queer” folks are gay MAGA. Paranoid, selfish tools of fascists.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 07/07/2026
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"I discovered I'm aro. Have I deceived my partner?"
GB writes:
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
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"I'm aro, and I don't want romance. I want to be chosen."
How do we deal with the feeling of not being chosen?
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
This is the intersection of white queer bullshit and “just asking questions” that is better left in your drafts.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/06/2026
URINETOWN goes from allegory to documentary.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
On Sunday, I'm leading a collaborative arts-based workshop for Pride. We'll get together, make stuff, and share how we live and express our pride!
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Envisioning Aspec Pride: A Collage Workshop
Register now for Envisioning Aspec Pride: A Collage Workshop on crowdcast, scheduled to go live on June 21, 2026, 12:00 PM EDT.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Bro someone on the apps just asked me how old I was and followed it with “I assume you’re retired.”
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Raingump Kto: Smile Through The Pain Harold
ALT: Raingump Kto: Smile Through The Pain Harold
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
I finished the first draft of the book proposal for a new project that's (hopefully) going to be a big departure from my work so far. I'm so stoked to have finished it and now desperately want this book in the world. It combines two of my biggest joys and passions. let's go!
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
“Do you have any special interests?” they ask…
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/06/2026
Ever leave a movie and think, “Damn. That is the best movie of the worst script I’ve seen in a while.” #DisclosureDay Emily Blunt deserves an Oscar nomination, though. She was transcendent.
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Gretchen Felker-Martin PRE ORDER CHIMERA 2.16.27 🍉 @scumbelievable.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
I reviewed MĀRAMA, a staggering horror film so versed in the language of colonial horror -- it evokes everything from Hitchcock's REBECCA to Carter's 'The Bloody Chamber' so deftly you'd think Taratoa Stappard wrote them himself -- it tears right through it. www.patreon.com/scumbelievab...
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 06/06/2026
Caught the film Mãrama today. Splendid New Zealand gothic horror film. Recommend.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 05/06/2026
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Hey, white aces. This moment is an opportunity.
The discourse over the new flag is an opportunity for us white ace folks to make a different choice and work toward something better.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 05/06/2026
You’re not in *Community* with everyone you’re in community with.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 02/06/2026
Me, finding my theoretical framework for my thesis:
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 02/06/2026
Woman in the park: “I’m a closeted straight man. That’s how I act.” … diva, what?
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 01/06/2026
It’s Pride! 🎉🎉🏳️‍🌈🚌 Please enjoy the bisexual lighting in my home office.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 28/05/2026
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IDGAF if allos understand me. You shouldn't either.
Being legible to allos shouldn't limit how we live being aspec.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 28/05/2026
Sometimes it’s like they hate kids, right? They really think kids are just mindless blanks.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/05/2026
It’s not unprecedented when all they’re doing is rolling us back to a shittier, more violent, more racist American precedent.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/05/2026
You might want to check out American history before saying this.
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Molly Jong-Fast @mollyjongfast.bsky.social · 18/05/2026
I’m so furious about how stupid everything is
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Phil Lewis @phillewis.bsky.social · 16/05/2026
There's a major civil rights protest taking place in Selma, Alabama, right now in response to the SCOTUS decision that weakened the Voting Rights Act and the ongoing attack on Black Americans’ political power (video: defiancedispatch/IG)
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
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To Live and Live and Live (for me and Matthew Shepard turning 50 this year)
My partners and I are on a road trip across some of the Western United States.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 10/05/2026
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Me and the Pink Opaque
When "agender" is about the trans person you can't be.
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jamelle @jamellebouie.net · 02/05/2026
this is a great piece and i'm also somewhat annoyed because it means i have to rework the piece i was writing for next week www.nytimes.com/2026/05/02/o...
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Opinion | Ruling by Ruling, the Supreme Court Is Undoing the Civil Rights Movement
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 01/05/2026
The tension between "I'm sex-positive, and I think people should do whatever they want with their bodies," and "Mama, our country is being run by Nazis, we really don't need to see your hole on Bluesky right now, Brandon."
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Roxane Gay @roxanegay.bsky.social · 30/04/2026
So many people urge us to vote if we are dissatisfied with our democracy. And yes voting matters. But as today’s Supreme Court ruling tells us, it’s not that simple. Not everyone who should have the right to vote can exercise that right.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
Popped over to NetGalley to see any new reviews for LOVE LOOKS LIKE LOLA, and someone gave a thumbs down to our absolutely adorable cover? Man, what miserable schmuck is giving a thumbs down to a cute kid hugging her aunt? lol
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
Black ace folks have been saying this for years. But based on the responses to the ace flag redesign project, it needs repeating, because White ace folks don't seem to know it. open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...
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The asexual community is anti-Black.
Fellow White aces, let's talk.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
Same energy:
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 26/04/2026
I’ll believe one of these attempts when it’s successful.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
The queer experience of hearing someone talk about an Aiden and assume for a minute they're a trans guy.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
For anyone on NetGalley -- LOVE LOOKS LIKE LOLA is available.
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Love Looks Like Lola
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
Happy #fcf — Feminist Contributions Friday
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 23/04/2026
A gay app pet peeve: guys who say they want "men who take care of themselves" when they really mean "men who aren't what I consider 'fat.'" It's a grossly fatphobic sentiment that someone who isn't muscular or fit doesn't take care of themselves.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 22/04/2026
Every now and then, I think “over 1 million people died from Covid and as a country we mainly think about that as an annoying time we had to stay in our houses.”
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/04/2026
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What do you do when queer elders disappoint you?
Respecting queer elders while expecting more.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
“I can’t wait for the Harry Potter series!” elicits the same response from me as red MAGA hats.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 08/04/2026
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Being a parent doesn't exclude you from asexuality.
And why "real asexual" discourse is really a form of queerphobia
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 02/04/2026
If you see this, post a picture of you in glasses 🤓
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 31/03/2026
Europe for almost two weeks and I only gained like 1 pound GOD IS GOOD
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Tressie McMillan Cottom @tressiemcphd.bsky.social · 29/03/2026
We all know this is fascism.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 26/03/2026
The more we see social and political pushback against queer folks, the more queer folks (mainly the cis white ones who are most approximate to privilege and power) are going to demand assimilation "for our own good." Fuck those people.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/03/2026
I read MISERY at 10. Hooked me on King and horror though.
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Maris Kreizman @maris.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
So proud to be a part of this project, and to have worked with so many excellent writers. I hope you love it. Thanks, @sandyernestallen.bsky.social for having me.
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Margot Finn @eicathomefinn.bsky.social · 12/03/2026
'She did not simply ask for African thinkers to be added to reading lists. She questioned the criteria used to define philosophy. In the process, she challenged a long-standing intellectual hierarchy.'
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Sophie Oluwole, the trailblazing Nigerian woman who redefined philosophy
Oluwole faced a double challenge: a woman in philosophy and an African, confronting both sexism and Eurocentric bias.
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Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 05/03/2026
Republicans didn’t care when millions of people died during Covid. You can’t expect them to start caring about dead Americans now.
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Stephen Graham Jones @stephengrahamjones.com · 04/03/2026
On the bookshelves October 13th. Hope y’all like it:
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Stephen Graham Jones’ New Horror Novel 'Off the Reservation' ‘Stole’ His Sleep — See the Cover (Exclusive)
PEOPLE can exclusively reveal the cover of Stephen Graham Jones' next horror novel, 'Off the Reservation.' The book, due out this fall from Saga Press, brings back a character from the author's 2020 b...
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