Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 31/07/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.com"Obsession" is a gnarly tale of aromantic horror.Amatonormativity is the monster in this latest entry in an aspec-coded run of relationship horror. 0102
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 31/07/2026“Gay, not queer” folks are gay MAGA. Paranoid, selfish tools of fascists. 0254
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 07/07/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.com"I discovered I'm aro. Have I deceived my partner?"GB writes: 093
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 29/06/2026open.substack.com"I'm aro, and I don't want romance. I want to be chosen."How do we deal with the feeling of not being chosen? 0151
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/06/2026This is the intersection of white queer bullshit and “just asking questions” that is better left in your drafts. 2346
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/06/2026Hi. The post was making a musical theatre joke. And honestly I’m not worried that my post was going to be in any way harmful to Jeff fucking Bezos. 100
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/06/2026URINETOWN goes from allegory to documentary. 150
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/06/2026On Sunday, I'm leading a collaborative arts-based workshop for Pride. We'll get together, make stuff, and share how we live and express our pride!crowdcast.ioEnvisioning Aspec Pride: A Collage WorkshopRegister now for Envisioning Aspec Pride: A Collage Workshop on crowdcast, scheduled to go live on June 21, 2026, 12:00 PM EDT. 092
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 16/06/2026Please respect my privacy in this time of loss lol 010
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 16/06/2026Bro someone on the apps just asked me how old I was and followed it with “I assume you’re retired.”static.klipy.comRaingump Kto: Smile Through The Pain HaroldALT: Raingump Kto: Smile Through The Pain Harold 2200
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 15/06/2026I finished the first draft of the book proposal for a new project that's (hopefully) going to be a big departure from my work so far. I'm so stoked to have finished it and now desperately want this book in the world. It combines two of my biggest joys and passions. let's go! 0210
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/06/2026“Do you have any special interests?” they ask… 0320
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/06/2026She grounds this whole thing. She’s terrific here. 020
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/06/2026Ever leave a movie and think, “Damn. That is the best movie of the worst script I’ve seen in a while.” #DisclosureDay Emily Blunt deserves an Oscar nomination, though. She was transcendent. 4311
Reposted by Cody Daigle-OriansGretchen Felker-Martin PRE ORDER CHIMERA 2.16.27 🍉 @scumbelievable.bsky.social · 10/06/2026I reviewed MĀRAMA, a staggering horror film so versed in the language of colonial horror -- it evokes everything from Hitchcock's REBECCA to Carter's 'The Bloody Chamber' so deftly you'd think Taratoa Stappard wrote them himself -- it tears right through it. www.patreon.com/scumbelievab... 1641648
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 06/06/2026Caught the film Mãrama today. Splendid New Zealand gothic horror film. Recommend. 090
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 05/06/2026open.substack.comHey, white aces. This moment is an opportunity.The discourse over the new flag is an opportunity for us white ace folks to make a different choice and work toward something better. 0204
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 05/06/2026You’re not in *Community* with everyone you’re in community with. 0130
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 02/06/2026Me, finding my theoretical framework for my thesis: 1130
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 02/06/2026Woman in the park: “I’m a closeted straight man. That’s how I act.” … diva, what? 1100
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 01/06/2026It’s Pride! 🎉🎉🏳️🌈🚌 Please enjoy the bisexual lighting in my home office. 0443
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 28/05/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.comIDGAF if allos understand me. You shouldn't either.Being legible to allos shouldn't limit how we live being aspec. 0203
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 28/05/2026Sometimes it’s like they hate kids, right? They really think kids are just mindless blanks. 0110
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/05/2026It’s not unprecedented when all they’re doing is rolling us back to a shittier, more violent, more racist American precedent. 0151
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 19/05/2026You might want to check out American history before saying this. 1263
Reposted by Cody Daigle-OriansMolly Jong-Fast @mollyjongfast.bsky.social · 18/05/2026I’m so furious about how stupid everything is 48695661097
Reposted by Cody Daigle-OriansPhil Lewis @phillewis.bsky.social · 16/05/2026There's a major civil rights protest taking place in Selma, Alabama, right now in response to the SCOTUS decision that weakened the Voting Rights Act and the ongoing attack on Black Americans’ political power (video: defiancedispatch/IG) 169125574710
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 13/05/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.comTo Live and Live and Live (for me and Matthew Shepard turning 50 this year)My partners and I are on a road trip across some of the Western United States. 0111
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 10/05/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.comMe and the Pink OpaqueWhen "agender" is about the trans person you can't be. 3100
Reposted by Cody Daigle-Oriansjamelle @jamellebouie.net · 02/05/2026this is a great piece and i'm also somewhat annoyed because it means i have to rework the piece i was writing for next week www.nytimes.com/2026/05/02/o...nytimes.comOpinion | Ruling by Ruling, the Supreme Court Is Undoing the Civil Rights Movement 351840425
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 01/05/2026The tension between "I'm sex-positive, and I think people should do whatever they want with their bodies," and "Mama, our country is being run by Nazis, we really don't need to see your hole on Bluesky right now, Brandon." 0172
Reposted by Cody Daigle-OriansRoxane Gay @roxanegay.bsky.social · 30/04/2026So many people urge us to vote if we are dissatisfied with our democracy. And yes voting matters. But as today’s Supreme Court ruling tells us, it’s not that simple. Not everyone who should have the right to vote can exercise that right. 22681011926
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 27/04/2026Popped over to NetGalley to see any new reviews for LOVE LOOKS LIKE LOLA, and someone gave a thumbs down to our absolutely adorable cover? Man, what miserable schmuck is giving a thumbs down to a cute kid hugging her aunt? lol 090
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 27/04/2026Black ace folks have been saying this for years. But based on the responses to the ace flag redesign project, it needs repeating, because White ace folks don't seem to know it. open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.comThe asexual community is anti-Black.Fellow White aces, let's talk. 03410
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 26/04/2026I’ll believe one of these attempts when it’s successful. 0131
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/04/2026The queer experience of hearing someone talk about an Aiden and assume for a minute they're a trans guy. 0100
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 25/04/2026For anyone on NetGalley -- LOVE LOOKS LIKE LOLA is available.netgalley.comLove Looks Like LolaNetGalley helps publishers and authors promote digital review copies to book advocates and industry professionals. Publishers make digital review copies and audiobooks available for the NetGalley comm... 0132
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 24/04/2026Happy #fcf — Feminist Contributions Friday 080
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 23/04/2026A gay app pet peeve: guys who say they want "men who take care of themselves" when they really mean "men who aren't what I consider 'fat.'" It's a grossly fatphobic sentiment that someone who isn't muscular or fit doesn't take care of themselves. 0280
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 22/04/2026Every now and then, I think “over 1 million people died from Covid and as a country we mainly think about that as an annoying time we had to stay in our houses.” 2376
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 21/04/2026open.substack.com/pub/acedadad...open.substack.comWhat do you do when queer elders disappoint you?Respecting queer elders while expecting more. 071
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 15/04/2026“I can’t wait for the Harry Potter series!” elicits the same response from me as red MAGA hats. 1284
Cody Daigle-Orians @dadstoyevsky.bsky.social · 08/04/2026acedadadvice.substack.com/p/being-a-pa...acedadadvice.substack.comBeing a parent doesn't exclude you from asexuality.And why "real asexual" discourse is really a form of queerphobia 0121