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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 01/08/2026
Evergreen. www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6yC...
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The Gambler - Fuck You (1080p)
YouTube video by WAusJackBauer
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 17/09/2025
Free speech absolutism as the first Nazi.
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 23/06/2025
...brunchlord chowderheads... is good language.
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Dan 🦇🌫️🧛 @danximenes.bsky.social · 06/05/2025
This and
A series of tumblrs post by user 'skaldish':
"Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.
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I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shitl need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me.
There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.
It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization-unless, of course, it's in very specific environments. And the fact I don't amnbiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling.
You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this?

It is 4:30am and I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn't even know I had.
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Anyway, I'm going to figure out how to navigate this. Don't know how yet, but I'm gonna."Quote Repost of user 'azaloset' by 'Skaldish':
"If you figure it out, can you share your insights? This is a fundamental as to why im in the closet"
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"Absolutely, because it's an extremely sticky issue.

Frankly, this is something I would've never understood without living the experience.
It's now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They're deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it's happening and what's causing it.
It's like they're starving, but don't know this because they've always been served 3 meals...except those meals have never been big enough.
This deprivation comes from all sides of aisle, by the way.
In the case of women: When I'm out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.
As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn't run the risk of actual assault. (Trust me when I say women aren't just being needlessly guarded.)

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"But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I've experienced female socialization. If I hadn't, I would've thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I'm failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn't social rejection.

And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand, but I think it boils down to a) the fact society teaches boys that it's not okay to be soft with each other, and b) garden-variety homophobia. Our media only shows men being intimate with one another when they're teamed up against a dire situation, and I'd bet real money it's a huge reason why men gravitate toward activities that simulate being teamed up against an opposing force.
But men are not machines of war. Yes, testosterone absolutely
gives you Dumb Bastard Brain, but that just makes you want to skateboard a wagon down a hill or duct-tape your friend to the wall, not kill someone.
The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.
I can see how men might convince themselves that their feelings of emotional desperation is personal weakness as opposed to a symptom they're all experiencing from White Imperialism. Because this human connection, this frith, is as essential for our wellbeing as water is.
So sick. How sick. I want to destroy this garbage.
#this is a certain perspective you gain from having crossed the gender barrier"
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 08/05/2025
"The [Left's] focus on lived experience by identity groups prioritizes the emotional world of the inner self over the rational examination of issues in the outside world and privileges sincerely held opinions over a process of reasoned deliberation that may force one to abandon prior opinions."
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Francis Fukuyama - Wikiquote
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 16/04/2025
theanarchistlibrary.org/library/davi...
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Are You An Anarchist? The Answer May Surprise You!
David Graeber Are You An Anarchist? The Answer May Surprise You! 2000
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Electric Chimp @electricchimp.bsky.social · 08/04/2025
wow. if you want to go on a real journey, here you go pbfcomics.com/comics/traum...
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 06/04/2025
Love this interview with Bill Murray. Introverts hearing about Bill meeting an order of magnitude more people than them are thinking, "Damn, Bill, I feel your pain." www.nytimes.com/2025/04/05/m...
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‘The Interview’: Bill Murray Says He’s Not the Man He Used to Be
The actor talks about his new film “The Friend,” his jerky past and what he doesn’t get about himself.
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Ryan Broderick @ryanhatesthis.bsky.social · 01/04/2025
I think COVID was the first time a lot of average Americans realized how quickly the modern surveillance state could come down on them and control what they saw and how they traveled and none of it was communicated effectively by our various institutions. (Because mass media was eaten by the web.)
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WuTangIsForTheChildren @wutangforchildren.bsky.social · 29/03/2025
Poster seen in Oaxaca, Mexico 🤣🎯
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 26/03/2025
Reality show concept: Bachelor/Bachelorette but for I.V.F. Doing my part to hasten the decline of Western Civilization.
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 19/03/2025
A modest proposal.
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 17/03/2025
The first rule of cookbook club is you don't talk about cookbook club. open.substack.com/pub/annehele...
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The Easy Connection of Cookbook Club
How to start one, how to join one, how to keep on going
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 15/03/2025
Watching basketball and saw a commercial trying to normalize using deodorant on your junk. Friends, if your nether regions require deodorant, it's time to wash, and if that doesn't fix your problem, see a doctor. Let's not normalize deodorizing people's groins. Thanks!
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 14/03/2025
Who would Jesus hire for his ad campaign? He gets us, indeed. /s
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Travis @coloradotravis.bsky.social · 13/03/2025
"These are the times that try men's souls. The summer soldier and the sunshine patriot will, in this crisis, shrink from the service of their country." — Thomas Paine, The American Crisis
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Daily Grail @dailygrail.com · 11/03/2025
Reading the news from the US each day I'm reminded of this @travisview.bsky.social rant from a few years ago. “It is a great time to be a fucking moron. If you had to be just an absolute, goddamn shit for brains dipshit moron, now is your time. This is your golden age.”
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 09/03/2025
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The Onion @theonion.com · 08/03/2025
Poll Finds Most Americans Would Swap Democracy For $100 Best Buy Gift Card theonion.com/poll-fi...
Poll Finds Most Americans Would Swap Democracy For $100 Best Buy Gift Card
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Popehat @kenwhite.bsky.social · 28/02/2025
As an offshoot of this thread, let’s talk about what happens if federal, state, or local officials text, email, call, or show up at your door wanting to talk to you about what you said about the President. I have a theme, a thesis, a throughline, a leitmotif, which is SHUT YOUR FUCKING MOUTH. /1
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Ashton Pittman @ashtonpittman.bsky.social · 15/02/2025
It's impossible to top Dolores O'Riordan, but this is a great rendition of "Zombie"—one of the greatest alt-rock songs of all time. And it's visually stunning. youtu.be/6VyMZ976u4s?...
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The Rock Orchestra - Zombie (The Cranberries) Feat. Erin Fox
YouTube video by The Rock Orchestra
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 08/02/2025
www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8H5...
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YouTube
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 06/02/2025
"More blood’s been spilled by the militant adherents of prophets of change than by any other group of people down through the history of man."—Gordon R. Dickson, Tactics of Mistake
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TheHermit @hopefulhermit.bsky.social · 05/02/2025
#StreetArt ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻✊️
Grafitti
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 04/02/2025
"None of you," said Paul, "should be wasting time fighting each other. You should be busy hunting up your own kind of people and working with them toward your own separate future."—Gordon R. Dickson in Necromancer
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 27/12/2024
"In short, we inhabit a world of woe. Doubt tears away at us like rats gnawing under the floorboards in the house of being. It is like an existential eczema that we scratch at under our clothes...[and] despite everything, all shall be well."—Simon Critchley, Mysticism Self-recommending.
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WuTangIsForTheChildren @wutangforchildren.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
You’re the US Marines band at the White House and Mavis Staples 👑 walks into the room so you start playing "I’ll Take You There" and this happens👇
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 27/11/2024
What is interesting about this is it is also true for men.
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 22/11/2024
Re: echochambers. On one hand, groupthink exists. On the other, conversation between disparate points of view, requires having a POV, a regard for the truth, etc. Many discussions simply aren't worth having. You don't get to decide on which discussions are worth having for someone else.
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 19/11/2024
Is "elder millennial" code for "I'm in my 40s?"
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Travis @coloradotravis.bsky.social · 16/11/2024
This is very well-structured presentation of the counter argument (meant genuinely), so here’s what I’d say in response to this well-struck objection to my objection about echo chambers: In the 1970s a group of shrinks documented something they dubbed the “Illusory Truth Effect.” 1/4
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 17/11/2024
Making an Ergocentric Starter Pack. Reply and I will add you. go.bsky.app/4wgfwzF
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cafebedouin @cafebedouin.org · 17/11/2024
Enjoying this version of Eternal September discourse.
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