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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 11/09/2026

Writing a good blurb is incredibly difficult.

Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 31/08/2026

Would anyone here be interested in being a beta-reader for a non-fiction book about asexuality? The target audience would be anyone that wants to learn everything possible about the orientation (e.g. educators, support workers, allies). (Approx. 200 pages.)

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 09/12/2024

Did you know? Individuals with a persistently low interest in sex have been observed many mammal species, including rats, gerbils, rabbits, sheep, goats, cows, and rhesus monkeys While we shouldn't ascribe orientation to animals, such findings do debunk the idea #asexuality is 'unnatural'.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 14/11/2024

Did you know? Asexuality was mentioned in 1907 by US activist Carl Schlegel who said – “Let the same laws for all the intermediate stages of sexual life: the homosexuals, heterosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, be legal as they are now in existence for the heterosexuals” #asexuality

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 02/12/2024

Studies almost always find that asexual men are much less common than asexual women (sometimes at a ratio of 10:1!). Do you think this is a real effect, or just men facing greater barriers to identifying as ace? To me it seems like probably both.

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AVEN @avenofficial.bsky.social · 26/11/2024

Taking place Friday 29th November and Saturday 30th November at Camden People’s Theatre in London, Too Hot Too Cold Just Right is a play exploring the spectrum of asexual and aromantic identities,

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 26/11/2024

I often hear from questioning people the most useful thing to see is a list of common ace experiences – so here is one such list. (Please use this with care. These experiences aren't universal and non-asexuals will relate to some of them.) 🧵(1/16) #asexuality

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 26/11/2024

"I do not want to be thought of as 'unhealthy' or 'abnormal.' I am living in the way that is right for me." – Quote from a self-described asexual in a Dear Abby letter from 1981.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 24/11/2024

Did you know? The colour green was originally chosen for the aromanticism flag since it's the opposite of red on a colour wheel. (And red is the colour most commonly associated with romantic love.)

A flag consisting of 5 horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: green, light green, white, grey, black.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 23/11/2024

Scan from an 1976 article in an gay magazine which discusses asexuality in some depth [1]. It's interesting to see how the Asexual Manifesto has echoed through time up to the present day. #asexualhistory [1]: Turner, Greg (1976). Sexual identity. Gay Liberator, issue 48, 1976, p. 6.

A scan of a paragraph on a newspaper or magazine page. A title reads "SENSUALITY" under which there is one paragraph reading "As in the Asexual Manifesto, I knew that I liked, that I needed, physical contact with other humans. Since I took all sexual conotations out of this, I picked up on the concept of sensuality; simply enjoying physical pleasure in one's body."

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 23/11/2024

What hangs on whether we count audio books as books or not?

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 23/11/2024

I've once been told that the word 'allosexual' it is problematic because it lumps LGBT people together with straight people. If you find yourself thinking this please remember that the word 'human' exists.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 22/11/2024

Had this – er, well-fed –squirrel eyeing up my spreadsheets today. Wonder if it thinks they’ll help it keep track of its acorns.

A fat squirrel sitting on some man-made planks with green foliage in the background. The squirrel is facing diagonally away from the viewer but has turned it head over its shoulder to see the camera

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 22/11/2024

Some people argue that asexuals should be excluded from LGBT+ spaces because they're straight-passing. They aren't. But even if they were, are you seriously suggesting it's fine for them to be forced into the closet their whole life?

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Dan Sweeney @dansweeney.bsky.social · 22/11/2024

Yes, Epictetus! This is why we block

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 21/11/2024

My number of followers on the other place has gone down by over 60% since the last time I checked

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 20/11/2024

Being a virgin is in the same category as never having eaten an avocado.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 20/11/2024

The word 'monosexual' (originally meaning someone who only masturbates) was coined in 1869. By the same man who coined the terms 'homosexual' and 'heterosexual'. In the same year that he coined those terms. Asexuality is not new.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 20/11/2024

In Contrary Sexuality (1895) Emma Trosse argued that since the existence of "those who posses no sexual desire whatsoever" is natural, it cannot be immoral [1]. In fact, Trosse counted herself among this category, which she called "third gender" or "asensual". #asexualhistory

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 19/11/2024

Since it’s #internationalmensday it’s a good a time as any to remind everyone that men can be asexual too!

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 19/11/2024

Typing paragraphs at a terminal (so no arrow keys or spell check etc.) is bizarrely reminiscent of using pen-and-paper.

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Tor Project @torproject.org · 18/11/2024

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 18/11/2024

A 2018 UK Government survey [1] found that asexuals are the only sexuality demographic whose healthcare gets worse more often than it gets better when they disclose their orientation to healthcare staff.

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Seattle Aces & Aros @seattleacesandaros.org · 17/11/2024

Are you asexual and/or aromantic and in the greater Seattle area? Join us! We host a number of monthly meetups! for more information: www.seattleacesandaros.org

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Seattle Aces & Aros @seattleacesandaros.org · 17/11/2024

Search for: "Seattle Asexual": One post about karaoke meetup. "Seattle Aromantic": Same thing. "Seattle Aros": Same again. Just that one post. "Seattle Aces": Tons of sportsball commentary whenever the Storm plays Vegas. Okay, Seattle Aces & Aros, I know you're out there. Do your thing!

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Ace Archive @asexualityarchive.com · 17/11/2024

Looks like you need a minimum of 5 users in a starter pack, so I'm going to need at least three more local aro/ace groups to create one. So, where are all the asexual and aromantic meetup groups at?

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 17/11/2024

Did you know? In Magnus Hirschfeld's famous 1896 pamphlet "Sappho and Socrates" he argued for using scales from 1 to 10 to measure a person's attraction to the opposite sex and to the same sex separately. A very similar model would later be proposed in early #asexuality communities 100 years later.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 17/11/2024

This picture is an excerpt of a letter [1] written to Heresies magazine which appeared in a 1981 issue. In response to an article focusing on marginalised sexualities the author remarked "I also felt a bit left out [but] it's hard for me to believe that there are no others who share my situation".

Scan of a magazine reading: It would be a lot easier to refute these messages, to say, "I am what I am and there's nothing wrong with it," if we asexuals had the help of a support group such as lesbians and gay men have. The problem is that asexuals don't organize to support each other; most of us are ashamed to admit our situation even to close friends, let alone march up Fifth Avenue shouting it to the world. And yet how much more we need this support, how good it would be if we could have it!

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 17/11/2024

Aces aren't trying to become a part of the LGBT community: we've been here from the beginning. #asexualfacts

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Dr. Canton Winer @cantonwiner.bsky.social · 15/11/2024

I’m not on the asexuality spectrum. But as a queer, feminist researcher, I think we should all care about asexuality. Why? Because asexual perspectives can help us better understand sexuality—and gender, race, disability, family, love, etc. Here’s why:

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Belle 🍩 @staticmax.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

Yeah, this seems accurate for me😅

Greysexual or Greyasexual, also spelled Graysexual (shortened to Grey Ace or Grace) is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum, referring to those who relate to asexuality, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren't fully described by the word asexual. Greysexual can be used as a specific identity, or as an umbrella term for any ace-spec identity that isn't purely asexual, including demisexual and others.

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Sarah Cosgriff 🏳️‍🌈🇵🇭 @acescicomm.bsky.social · 14/11/2024

There's an asexual spectrum starter pack! ♠️ If you would like your name added, reply below so Elise can keep track of who wants to be added. Repost so other people can find this! go.bsky.app/QaW4ED4

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 16/11/2024

Asexuals are significantly more likely not be right-handed compared to heterosexuals, with a prevalence of over 25% [1]. This same effect of being less likely to be right-handed is also found among homosexual individuals #asexualfacts

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 16/11/2024

There’s nothing better than putting on some jazz and chopping vegetables.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 16/11/2024

Hi I’m Luke. I’m writing a book about #asexuality and I’ve been in charge of the r/asexuality subreddit for over 5 years. (One of the nice corners of that site I promise!) Outside of that hobbies include: - reading (non-fiction mostly) - playing piano - programming and Linux - having a day job

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Jan Rosenow @janrosenow.bsky.social · 15/11/2024

No wind and solar do not result in more power outages. Here's the data for Germany: Wind + solar had a share of 33% of electricity in 2022. ➡️But there were 43% FEWER interruptions than in 2006 when wind + solar contributed only 5%.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 15/11/2024

I always get so startled on the rare occasion that I hear asexuality mentioned outside of explicitly queer spaces.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 15/11/2024

To fight aphobia is to fight the cultural attitudes that underlie all forms of queer-phobia.

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 15/11/2024

In 1971, the Village Voice newspaper published a satirical article titled “Asexuals Have Problems Too!”. Although the article was insincere, the paper received dozens of letters [1] from readers who embraced the idea and identified with its message. [1] The Village Voice, vol. XVI, no. 10, p. 4

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 15/11/2024

This picture is an excerpt from a 1980 research paper and depicts one of the earliest scientific models of asexuality. [1] [1]: Storms, Michael D. (1980). Theories of sexual orientation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 38 (5): 783–792. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.38.5.783.

A two-dimensional grid divided into four quadrants. The quadrants are labelled (clockwise from top-left): "HOMOSEXUALS", "BISEXUALS", "HETEROSEXUALS", "ASEXUALS". The y-axis is labelled "HOMO-EROTICISM" and the x-axis is labelled "HETERO-EROTICISM". The figure is captioned "Four orientation categories generated by a two-dimensional model."

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 14/11/2024

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Luke Gompertz @asexuality-handbook.com · 14/11/2024

Hello, I'm back after a long absence so trying out the new place. Anyone know the ace and aro people to follow here?

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