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topaz winters @topazwinters.bsky.social · 31/07/2026

my dearest @aribcofer.com asked me to write a love letter for their readers about what kept me alive in july—this strange achey glimmer of a month, cough drop sweet, possible as a piano. here it is, with part of a poem from ‘portrait of my body as a crime i’m still committing’ ☀️

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 26/03/2025

kendrick came on shuffle the second i touched down in LA. this feels like a positive omen for AWP

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 23/03/2025

meta is pushing me to chat with AI narcissist therapist or AI egg :/

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 16/03/2025

new poem out with anodyne mag — would love if people stopped the “when are you having babies” question so i can stop saying “i can’t” 🙂‍↕️

Are You Trying to Get Pregnant l ari b. cofer
once, at nineteen, before gerald and i could afford
Plan B, i took seven birth control pills and almost passed out
on the walk home. gerald carried me up the stairs and
tucked me into bed.
if i were ever to get pregnant, i would have wanted it to
have been
in that moment, in the texas pressure cooker heat, on my
twin-sized bed.
i would have asked him to fuck me again, this time, for
real, because
i would have loved being a parent if all it meant to be a
mother was to
love someone enough to carry them home.

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 05/03/2025

rly wanna watch the perks of being a wallflower tonight but that feels like self harm

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 01/03/2025

new piece out today with Everscribe Magazine 🫶🏽

a screenshot of the poem “if i see the priest now, maybe forgiveness can help me forget” by ari b. cofer, published in everscribe magazine

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 14/02/2025

ten years of being in love with my valentine

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 13/02/2025

In WHAT ABOUT FRANKIE?, Naomi finds a platonic soulmate in the boy next door until circumstance forces the two to grow up, grow without, and decide if history is enough to continue to grow together. ☀️ Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret x We Are All So Good at Smiling ☀️ Black/queer rep #questpit

a photo collage of quotes and other images of friends together from pinterest

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 06/02/2025

it’s wild to finally have the confidence to say that i am proud of the things i write. like, i am loving my work lately. turns out not making self deprecating jokes every hour does in fact help :/

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 05/02/2025

wrote about my relationship to sex over on substack + how complicated it can be when hypersexuality mixes with depression. sometimes it’s hard talking ab this stuff but i also know it is so so important to be honest ab it

Before I understood the gravity of someone else's touch, sex was something of a game to me. In undergrad, the boys in the dorm across the street had a list of places they hoped to fuck before the end of the year, and I was more than happy to help them meet their goals. In the bookstore parking garage?
Check. On a piano in the music hall practice rooms? I'll deny it. In the chapel? Couldn't ever get past the chaplain.

I've spent a lot of time unpacking why it felt like the first time I had autonomy over my body was when it was praised by a man who, if I'd met him just one year earlier, would have been considered a predator. Sex can be a way to reclaim your body in the same way that it can be a quick way to lose it. Looking back, it feels like I achieved both that day — I allowed myself to feel good, and I was consumed entirely by a man who wanted something young and vulnerable.

I think a lot about my 18-year-old self, who wanted nothing more than to be wanted and would patiently wait for anyone who asked them to. There was a fine line between liberation and self-harm, between pleasure and danger. For all the experiences that I consented to, I can't say I regret them. It was fun to feel something, to let someone feel my body, and to help others feel something because of what my body could do.
But today, sometimes I still feel sore from the work it took to walk that tightrope and not fall onto the wrong side of the bed. I kiss my husband and my friends and remind myself that it is okay to give myself to others as long as I remember to keep parts of myself for myself, too.

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 04/02/2025

when leonard cohen wrote “there’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in” do you think he knew that was a bar. like do you think he sat back and was like yeah this fucks

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Molly Templeton @mollytempleton.com · 24/01/2025

I have a little plea and it's this: please keep posting about things that aren't The Horrors. I am not saying to not look at or be informed about The Horrors. What I am saying—what I am genuinely kind of begging you to do—is keep posting about books and movies and sunsets and pets and joy. Please.

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 16/01/2025

i am capital B Begging Submittable to make an app like please give me an easier way to be strange and obsessive about my open submissions

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 15/01/2025

thought i was having normal gentle morning reading time but now Sally Rooney has me unreasonably h*rny and deeply emotional at 7:49am. i thought intermezzo was about chess and grief but this nerd is making me sweaty and also curious about the human condition (?)

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 12/01/2025

2017 (BA) // 2025 (MFA) 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

a photo of poet ari b. cofer on the baylor university campus in their graduation regalia

a photo of poet ari b. cofer on the randolph college campus in their graduation regalia

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 08/01/2025

i got my masters degree (ari b. cofer, mfa 🙂‍↕️)

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 03/01/2025

my favorite thing about poets is that someone can read an instruction manual and you’ll hear at least 3 poets in the back going “mmmmmm…”

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 30/12/2024

excerpts from todays substack that manifested after listening to Growing Up Is Hard by Chelsea Cutler on loop for 2 hours

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Enciclopedia Marrón @laconicicon.blacksky.app · 29/12/2024

I don’t like how folk are trying to read shame. If you read 100 books, awesome. If you read 10 books, awesome. Just read.

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 29/12/2024

ngl it feels so good not to be so incredibly devastatingly depressed at all times anymore. like. she’s still there Do Not Get Me Wrong but i’m feeling other things now too like joy, relief, etc etc. 15 y/o me would not believe

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 28/12/2024

it’s soooooo embarrassing to describe a WIP to someone who isn’t a writer like ya let me very passionately tell you about these people i made up who live in my head but they are also very real and i would die for them and everything reminds me of them but also sometimes i can’t stand them

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 28/12/2024

i love being a writer. like i just be writing stories and shit

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 27/12/2024

and with that hello again bluesky i am happy to be back from this little break i have played an obscene amount of animal crossing and learned how to make a mean green chili chicken taco

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 27/12/2024

took a few weeks off from querying & while the grind never stops ... friends i have to say, that break really did wonders for my noggin. this is your sign to take a break !! from drafting or querying !! your agent is out there and querymanager is not going anywhere and It Is Okay If Things Take Time

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 06/12/2024

if tiktok does end up getting banned in the states, do we already have an alternative in the works? i wanna go ahead and get set up if possible🙃

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Shō Poetry Journal @shopoetryjournal.bsky.social · 01/12/2024

Submissions for Shō No. 7 are now open • Payment is one contributor copy • We nominate for Best New Poets, Best Spiritual Lit, and the Pushcart Prize • We award $300 in prize money for best poem in issue and best poem by an emerging poet • Average response time is two weeks Reposts appreciated.

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 01/12/2024

i'm having some wild ghost cramps right now — if you've had a hysterectomy (and kept your ovaries) do u experience this too at the start of your would-be cycle? it's truly like phantom limb of the uterus idk what's going on there but i still haven't gotten used to it

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Sarah LuAnn Perkins @sarahluann.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

In case any of my fellow creatives also needed this reminder:

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Cathie Hedrick-Armstrong, Lit Agent @charmstrong.bsky.social · 20/11/2024

#MSWL I'm closed to queries at the moment, BUT...I will ALWAYS be open to INDIGENOUS VOICES. This is a special passion of mine, yet I don't have a single Native American author or story. If this describes you/your project, PLEASE REACH OUT! I will open a link for any Indigenous creator (fiction).

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a lucas & friends logo with the word please

ALT: a lucas & friends logo with the word please

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 27/11/2024

this week makes four years without self-harm and i talked about that (and how mental health has impacted my relationship) over on substack today 💗

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 26/11/2024

can someone tell me if the new lead for linkin park is really a problematic scientologist or not bc i really want to get into this new album but i don’t want to get too invested if she is A Bad Person ://// (i miss chester)

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 23/11/2024

having a moment where i’m like. being a writer is so hard. rejections are so hard. i don’t want to keep Getting My Hopes Up. i am very tired. unfortunately my frontal lobe has developed & i am in a lot of therapy & know not to give up. i am good & believe in my work, /and/ it is hard

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 22/11/2024

not even lying i was 2 minutes from leaving the gym earlier than usual and when i saw this i locked the fuck in suddenly it’s cardio and abs and leg day

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 22/11/2024

surprise kendrick album today ??? we have been blessed 🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 22/11/2024

new author photos just dropped like …….. hello. i am a bad bitch and i also write books

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 20/11/2024

this is the only correct take

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 20/11/2024

i don’t really feel like a human person today. if there was a word for the cup of water left out overnight that tastes kinda dusty the next day when you remember to drink it. that’s me

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 18/11/2024

if u become my friend expect me to almost exclusively write h*rny love poems about you (published earlier this year in @passionfruitlit.bsky.social 🫶🏽)

a screenshot of a poem title by ari b. cofer published on The Passionfruit Review

a screenshot of a poem by ari b. cofer published on The Passionfruit Review

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K.B. Spangler @kbspangler.com · 17/11/2024

*cracks knuckles* Time to bust out my epidemiolawpolihistory degree from the University of 2020

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 18/11/2024

my fridge exactly one minute after my edible hits

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 17/11/2024

i love writing but hate when i’m drafting and whatever im processing irl unexpectedly appears in the WIP and makes me cry. it feels like this

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 17/11/2024

just had a moment where i was like, damn, i really didn’t think i’d be alive this long. im in bed w my husband & our dog & cat. our upstairs neighbor is loudly & relentlessly trampling above us. my belly is full of snacks. my new tattoo itches. 18 y/o me would not believe that staying was worth it

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 17/11/2024

really in the mood to rewatch bo jack horseman again which probably means i need to email my therapist

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 16/11/2024

i finished my thesis last night so it turns out i will be getting a masters degree (??)

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 16/11/2024

not to sound like an old head but i’m watching the mike tyson/jake paul fight on netflix and im like. i can’t believe im watching this live when we used to get netflix in the mail

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ari b. cofer @aribcofer.com · 16/11/2024

i haven’t checked querytracker all day i deserve a treat

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