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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 19/12/2025

Do you have a Christmas you'll always remember as kind of #therapeutic, because you had an experience or gained an understanding that changed your thinking or life for the better? #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 13/12/2025

3/3: Here's truth: you do not ever need to accept where you are, be it a physical environment, an emotional state of being, or in some way on the outside looking in. Change your life. A counsellor can help you find your ways forward. #changeyourlife #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 13/12/2025

2/3: Yes, your choices create the conditions you later have to live with - but the proverb collapses so much into a single moment of blame. It implies inevitability; permanence; stagnation. It's almost a curse, definitely a dismissal. However... #changeyourlife #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 13/12/2025

1/3: "They've made their bed, they can lie in it." It's a very old saying - goes back to at least the 16th century, with its earliest clear appearance in English around 1546, in John Heywood’s A Dialogue of Proverbs. And it's wrong, in part. #changeyourlife #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 01/12/2025

Just a heads-up that, while I can be reached for booking an initial free 30-minute #counselling assessment Monday to Friday, 9.30am-5pm, I do offer evenings and Saturday mornings when I've got availability - so please ask if those are what you're looking for. UK clients only. #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 28/11/2025

Five reasons your ex is still checking your social media. #relationships

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 27/11/2025

I've updated my Counselling Directory profile. Needed a refresh. If you're thinking of finding a #UK #counsellor, please take a look and get in touch if you'd like a free initial assessment by voice or video call. #therapy #therapist #counselling www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/...

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Integrative counselling focused on what you need - drawing from CBT, psychotherapeutic and person-centred approaches to help you explore, cope and move toward your goals. We’ll shape support together,...

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/11/2025

Samaritans is a charity offering 24/7 confidential emotional support for anyone distressed, struggling to cope, or having thoughts of harming themselves. They listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice or tell you what to do. Their free UK helpline number is 116 123. #counselling #therapy #reflections

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/11/2025

#Humour can show up in #therapy - sometimes from clients, sometimes (carefully, respectfully) from me. It’s never about making light of someone’s pain, and it’s not something that fits every moment or person. But it can loosen tension and help to open up space for honesty. That can be #therapeutic.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/11/2025

A no filler guide to #attachmentstyles. Do any of them sound like you? There's no bad to gaining better understanding of ourselves and if there are any issues in life around your #attachment style, a #counsellor can help as these styles are not forever fixed. #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/11/2025

#Boundaries shouldn't be difficult to understand and actually, they aren't. It can be hard to keep yours maintained but it's important that you do if you're not comfortable. #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 05/11/2025

I wish people would stop calling Keir Starmer Keir Stoma. My #stoma is useful. It saved my life and freed me from pain and suffering. I'm better off physically, emotionally, and psychologically with a stoma. The joke doesn't land. You might even say it's crap.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 04/11/2025

If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective. #selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/10/2025

The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 20/10/2025

If you're on #Tiktok, please consider following me there for #therapy-related content, #cats, and personal content aimed at sharing things learned, insights, and happiness. Thank you. Have a kind day! #counselling #mentalhealth #ukcounselling www.tiktok.com/@xph_therapy...

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 20/10/2025

When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 18/10/2025

This callous woman is absolutely deaf to sense and justice, yet in charge of the nation's finances. Yesterday, she said the broadest shoulders must contribute the most. I had no idea in her mind people with disabilities are top of the money-to-spare tree. www.theguardian.com/politics/202...

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Chancellor says she ‘can’t leave welfare untouched’ this parliament as budget looms

Rachel Reeves understood to be eyeing cuts to Motability scheme as she tries to plug hole in country’s finances

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 17/09/2025

In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported. #therapy #BrokenButHealing

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 15/09/2025

Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health? #counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 13/09/2025

Goodnight my sweet Billy. 2007-2025. 18 years old. Devastated. #cats

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 06/09/2025

There are no #stoma-friendly #accessible toilets at public venues in my home region of #Craven, North Yorkshire. The nearest are at Xscape in Castleford, West Yorkshire, 29.6 miles away. There are 89 accessible toilets but they aren't fully accessible to stomamates. www.accessable.co.uk

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Access Guides with accessible information for disabled people, carers, wheelchair users. Includes restaurants, airports, hotels, hospitals, toilets and more

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 03/09/2025

When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 28/08/2025

#Relationship #breakups can feel like devastation, but they also create the space for something new to grow. In #counselling, we explore the #grief, the #loss & the #rebuilding - at your pace, in your way. Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 26/08/2025

Our #happiness is not found in the selfish pursuit of it. It comes when we build #gratitude and #appreciation for others, and feel #joy when they're happy. It comes when we see #beauty in moments, reflect on what we have that is good, and don't dwell on what we don't have. #therapy #counselling

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 21/08/2025

I ❤️ my #ADHD fizz. It's when I'm high energy, not hyperfocused; feeling alive & thrilled. It's often initiated by small things I've noticed. There are obstructive & frustrating #challenges each day. It can be hard to hold what & who we are. That fizz, though... 😀 #neurodivergent #counselling

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 20/08/2025

The destructive #behaviour of a #malicious #gossip is an inappropriate and ineffective response to unaddressed #trauma, where they experienced people and situations as #abusive or #painful in other ways. #Healing is possible. #therapy #counselling

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 13/08/2025

Adults, through a supported & safe #therapeutic journey of #self-discovery, may find their difficulties originate in the way their minds & bodies responded to #neglect experienced in #childhood. Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 12/08/2025

Observing without comment allows you to get the fullest picture. Should the time come when your opinion is asked for, you can be reasonably certain you're basing what you say on a carefully considered assessment, and your words might be useful to the person who asks for them. #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 12/08/2025

Adopting a position on something in ignorance, quickly, can cause harm to others and yourself. You can appear naive or even malicious, judgemental and unwise. It is very easy to do this. You don't need anyone else to tell you how it can make you feel foolish. #counselling #therapy

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 04/08/2025

We gain, grow, and ultimately become the person others turn to for #friendship and #love by holding strong to values that build and reinforce #confidence in our own selves and the decisions we make. #counselling #therapy #trust #love #safespace

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 02/08/2025

Children who get unconditional love from parents don't usually recognise it or know it's rare. They may come to appreciate how precious it is later in their lives when those who gave it to them are nearing or have reached the end of their journeys. #counselling #therapy #unconditionallove

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 01/08/2025

When we quit masking the unpleasant tastes and odours of other people's bad behaviours and overcooked lies, we wake up to an awareness that the end of the meal for two or more is approaching. #relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 31/07/2025

When you're focused on helping someone unwilling to help themself, it is emotionally and psychologically draining. It leads to burnout, frustration, and a sense of failure. #counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 31/07/2025

Many of us have done awful things at times that appear senseless & foolish with hindsight, burning bridges, damaging others. It isn't possible to go back in time but we can make amends, learn from what we did, become the people we want to be. #friendships #relationships #therapy #counselling

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 31/07/2025

Been doing so much reading lately on my #Kindle. Just started a new fantasy book series, #GrimoiresofLondon. It's like Harry Potter without the author's rampant #transphobia. Much better written, too.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 29/07/2025

I've just uploaded a new video to #Tiktok. In this one, I discuss #narcissists and people who have #narcissistictraits, along with their impact on others. #counselling #therapy #selfishness #relationships vm.tiktok.com/ZNdHma1vk/

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 29/07/2025

We become stronger when we acknowledge our #vulnerabilities because only then are we able to start the work of addressing them or find ways to work around them. #counselling #therapy #becoming #selfknowledge #awareness

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 29/07/2025

#Gratitude can sustain us mentally and emotionally through both good times and hard times. It is genuine #appreciation and #honesty that can make another person's day or help you get through yours.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 28/07/2025

People can find it hard to accept others do terrible things when they wouldn't. We see them as #friends we can trust to treat us well, but need awareness they may not be the first to go to for support in #badtimes that challenge their perceptions they might need to get through each day.

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 27/07/2025

There are no fixed outcomes to what we go through. Everyone is different. Behavioural traits exist, though, that can sometimes be tracked back to childhood. As adults, we may find they get in the way of our happiness and connections to others. #counselling #therapy #abandonment #neglect

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 26/07/2025

Self-care is not about individualism, it is about the individual being kind to themself. You remain accountable to others; self-care as terminology is not a licence to justify selfish behaviour, or to ignore the needs of others. #counselling #therapy #selfcare

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 26/07/2025

Resolution of many things comes through work that involves respectful listening as the foundation for change. #counselling #therapy #communication #difference

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χαƞδεʀ / xph therapy @xphtherapy.com · 25/07/2025

Introductory offer available right now for anyone looking to get competent, qualified #counselling support to help with whatever you're dealing with. UK residents only. The initial 30-minute phone assessment is free. #therapy

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