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Oh yeah mine had the blue lights too. My community college had the blue lights but I don’t think had a safe walk program. They didn’t have dorms on that campus though

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+incapable of decency. We know you aren’t all inherently violent. We know you can make choices and be responsible for your actions. Enough with the boys will be boys bullshit. Teach your sons to reject the patriarchy like the good men in this thread did.

+in earshot (though I didn’t see him when I returned). The man at the front desk thanked me for letting him know and watched the elevator to make sure I got on safely. He told me to let him know if I saw the man again. Men…be more like this. If you see something say something. We know you aren’t +

+also worth noting, the day before when this first happened, when my friend convinced me over the phone to go back to the hotel and report to the front desk that another guest had made me uncomfortable, I typed out the message and showed it to the man at the front desk in case the creepy man was+

+men who rode down with us stayed close and quickly distracted him when he tried to harass us again. Whether or not they were genuinely asking him for directions, I don’t know, but I really believe my friend and I were saved from something terrible. Because the big dude wouldn’t leave us alone+

+cart, I saw 2 men standing at the elevator that I had seen the day before who had been in the lobby when the man was harassing me. They helped my friend and I get our luggage cart in the elevator and rode down with us. When we got to the lobby, the man who had frightened me was there, but the two+

+morning, I was terrified to go back down by myself to get the luggage cart, but my friend is more disabled than I am, so I knew I needed to if we wanted to get out of there. I didn’t see the creepy man when I went to get the cart. As my friend and I were leaving our room with our luggage on the+

+in the lobby alone while she did what she needed to do. I was approached by a man who was much bigger than me, and began harassing me, asking me personal questions and following me anywhere I went. My gut was screaming at me and I managed to leave safely and go to a Dunkin up the street. The next+

+predator. And we both know how to respect boundaries. Simple. In June 2025, I took a trip by myself to meet a fandom friend. She and I stayed at a super 8. Sketchy af, but affordable compared to a lot of other places in the area. At one point, she had an appointment to attend, so I hung out +

+to our other friends (EO vibes apparently 🤣) but that was that. And when I got home and texted them to let them know I got home safe, he and another friend said “glad you made it home safe. Thanks for coming”. The end. We are still friends even though I got a different job. Because he’s not a+

+who is a predatory asshole, this is where you usually hear people say shit like “She came on to him” nope. He didn’t make any moves or comments that made me uncomfortable, he didn’t take that as an invitation to take advantage of me etc. we laughed about it, because apparently it had been obvious+

+my filter even more when I feel completely comfortable and safe, which doesn’t happen all the time. The topic of dating came up and at one point I admitted to having a crush on one of them “if we didn’t work together and were both interested in relationships I’d be willing to date____”. To someone+

+I decided I needed to go because I had stuff I needed to do the next day, you know what they did? They respected that. They even walked me out to wait for my uber and made sure I got in safely because they knew the idea of taking a rideshare after dark made me nervous. I have a tendency to lose+

+to feel unsafe in the time I worked with them. They didn’t that night either! Even though they very easily could have. We laughed and talked about whatever random shit popped into our head till after dark. They were tipsy by this point, and they did encourage me to stay a little longer, but when+

+4 of us. Just the people he considered his closest friends at work. I was the only woman. I’m unable to drink due to my disability (I have a feeding tube) but they did. If I hadn’t known these guys for very long I likely would’ve been more nervous, but thankfully they’d never given me a reason+

+was Mississippi. Bible Belt, boys will be boys territory. But in these situations, these boys proved that indoctrinated viewpoint wrong. “What did she expect being alone with a group of drunk men?” This past May I went to a grad party for a male former coworker I consider a friend. There were+

+discovered that it was just a loud party going on upstairs. He came to my dorm to let me know, knocked on my door and explained all this to reassure me. Again, single woman alone in a single dorm wearing pajamas. I thanked him, we told each other to have a good night, and that was that. Y’all this+

+the RA on call that night, I don’t know his name, but I remember he had red hair and glasses. I remember him because of how kind he was, and because of his willingness to take me seriously. He checked outside and told me he didn’t see anything, then he went upstairs (I was on the first floor) and+

+the noises I was hearing and couldn’t tell if someone was trying to break in my window or if it was coming from above me. It was after midnight but I didn’t feel like I could go to sleep until I knew what was going on, so I called the RA on call. Again, it’s after midnight, I’m in my pajamas, and+

+I liked her friends. They seemed nice and fun. Turns out they were! We had a great time and again…nothing happened because decent people don’t prey on other people. One more college story, then I’ll debunk some other shit. Halloween 2020, I had a single dorm, no roommate. I was unsettled by +

+that’s it. Seriously. The end. It’s that easy. Now, let’s talk about this “she shouldn’t have gone to a frat party” bullshit. In 2022 my family was visiting my sister at college. She and her friends were going to a party and she really wanted me to come. I was hesitant, but decided to go because+

+someone else I didn’t know who was at the event. Riskier, yes, but again, he was willing to walk me back to my residence hall. Easily could’ve taken advantage if he wanted to, but he didn’t. We had a conversation about why we both chose that university because we were both from different states. +

+on another occasion, I wanted to go to a take back the night presentation that was in the evening at the student union. So I messaged in the GroupMe for the college dems and asked if anyone could walk me there. A friend did so. However, he was unable to take me back when it was over so I asked+

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+while he ran back in the building to grab some papers he forgot. He locked the door so I’d be safe and quickly went inside. Nothing bad happened. I sat in the passenger seat reading fanfic on my phone. Then he came back and drove me back to my residence hall and we both went on with our nights. +

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+chat and I got to where I needed to be safely. After the meetings were over, if it was at a building far from my dorm, a fellow student would drive me home. There was one male classmate in particular who offered and drove me more than once. One time he needed to park his car and asked me to wait+

+the times I used it it was a young man. He came to my residence hall and walked me across campus. I’m disabled, so he easily could’ve taken advantage of me if he’d wanted to, but he didn’t. Cause men who aren’t predators don’t have those thoughts about women who are alone at night. We had a nice+

+walk alone at night”- my undergrad university had a safe walk program where you could call and a student volunteer with campus security would walk you across campus in the dark. I didn’t go out very often, just occasionally for psychology club or college democrats meetings, but I used the service+

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WriterKC 💙|P4L @writerkc.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

One of the things about how absurd and disgusting victim blaming statements to keep men from being held responsible for their actions is how easily they can be countered by stories of people just….being decent human beings. Because it’s literally not difficult. Here’s some examples: “She shouldn’t+

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But will they bring you joy? If so then consider me your enabler!

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WriterKC 💙|P4L @writerkc.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

That moment when you wake up and remember that you have a job that has spirit week and tomorrow is pajama day

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WriterKC 💙|P4L @writerkc.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Women are almost worse in a way. When men make comments like this it’s kinda expected because of the patriarchy and the way boys are indoctrinated. When women say stuff like this…it’s baffling because they’re literally against their own side.

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ChriskaAnon @chriskaanon.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

Hugs to my friends for whom this Cornell case is triggering for right now 🫂 take breaks from social media if you need to and remember to take care of yourselves

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I had an idea while watching a K-Drama yesterday lol. And this happened. archiveofourown.org/works/937605...

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Danni @width-circle.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

I’ve been sitting on this update for weeks but forcing myself to let it go-here’s another bit of the elliot is a great artist and was secretly drawing liv for years fic: archiveofourown.org/works/700144...

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+fellow survivors. If that bothers anyone, the mute/block/unfollow button is free 🔥

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The fact that I haven’t lost followers or been blocked shows I’ve curated my timeline well. Good. As a country, we’ve gotta stop thinking of empathy and having a bleeding heart is a bad thing. Whether we’ve experienced something or not, we can still care. This account is a safe space for+

Being a decent human being shouldn’t be considered “woke” “liberal” etc. Being a decent human being shouldn’t be a political debate like it’s turned into. It should be something we all value

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+direction. Empathy and compassion are not annoying, as I’ve been told before, they are core tenants of humanity. Let’s make sure we aren’t accidentally training them out of our kids.

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+but it’s also an all too common mindset. We owe the world basic empathy, compassion, respect, and acceptance and we deserve that too. That doesn’t mean don’t take care of ourselves too. We should and we have to set boundaries so we can do that, but maybe our country has gone too far the other+

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There’s too much individualism, every person for themselves mindset in this country. Someone I no longer associate with because of their behavior towards me and others told me one time that we don’t owe the world anything and the world doesn’t owe us anything either. That is so false and so sad+

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