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Ways With Weirds

@wayswithweirds.bsky.social
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Ru Callender. Undertaker, ritualist, raver and author of "What Remains? Life death and the human art of undertaking." Described as "Best undertakers of all time, by a country mile." by Charles Cowling of Good Funeral Guide.

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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 21/09/2026
Well get you! Named after you I hope?
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 07/09/2026
Thank you Tom! And how intriguing..
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
Absolutely this. People are often led to have expectations that are unrealistic. A better way might be to say, we can guarantee a pain free death, but they are going to be unconscious for it.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
I’d like to be able to frighten evangelist clergy! I shy away from that term, because in my experience, certainly back a way, a lot of the death positive were pretty young, and as far as I can see, as yet unmaimed by the grizzly old fella. We’re on the same side, I just can’t hurrah it, too scared.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
That is very kind of you to say Rev’d! I did actually want to call What Remains Between the Click and the Bang. Not sure if the original text is available, I changed it several times and of course Bill and Jimmy never recorded the original.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
Sending a LORRA LORRA LOVE to my wife, her Liverpool family and my Liverpool brothers and sisters on this, the occasion of Britain’s first Scouse Prime minister!!
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 10/07/2026
Paying my respects to a man who, through his death, changed my life.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 23/06/2026
Guerilla author marketing after initial fuss dies down. Enter @waterstones.bsky.social Find book filled questioningly but flatteringly with Kahlil Gibran, move to Great Reads. Repeat throughout country.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 21/06/2026
@sentry23.bsky.social no translate!
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Natasha Devon @natashadevon.bsky.social · 20/06/2026
Breaking - Michael Deacon of the telegraph issues ‘everyone stop saying ‘her penis’’ challenge …
MICHAEL DEACON
Can we please stop saying
'her penis?
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 20/06/2026
So sad to see this, such an endangered species, almost extinct now. A rare Tissue Toad, (Bufo Textus) carelessly squashed on the road. Let’s keep trying to help *ALL* of our fellow creatures thrive and survive in this challenging world.
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Robert Reich @rbreich.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
The 500 richest people on the globe added $336 billion to their fortunes on Monday, bringing their collective net worth to a record $13.3 trillion. Read that back. Our problem isn’t an issue of resources. Our problem is ever-expanding wealth inequality.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
Bill Drummond, waiting, with some bricks of Mu. Buxton, Peak District, UK. 23rd November 2021.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
So true. A startling thing, to meet these personally changed versions of the book you wrote.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 19/06/2026
Recycle birthday cards by turning them into practical messages to your spouse.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Too calm…
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Son eulogies father.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 12/06/2026
More musings from yours truly.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 21/05/2026
Please help if you can my friend and old work neighbour Dan, if you believe that we are facing a terrible calamity and the activism of people like Just Stop Oil is all that stands between us and disaster.
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Help two Just Stop Oil supporters with their court costs
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 16/05/2026
Catefacts on my altar. Cat skull, Cat’s Eye from the road, sliver encased cat claw from skeleton of rock cat found in a cave. Strong feline magic.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 07/05/2026
A pond side funeral, the coffin resting on bales of hay.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 05/05/2026
My Brick of Mu under the comforting protection of Papa Gede. The brick is for The People’s Pyramid, an ancient monument we are building today in Birkenhead, Liverpool. Papa Gede says you don’t need to be dede to have a brick of mu.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 01/05/2026
Jem Finer of The Pogues and Jimmy Cauty of the KLF raise the Hurdy Stone in Stroud.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 29/04/2026
Taking Sophie by horse and cart into the bosky woods.
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Graeme Swanson @swansonian.bsky.social · 28/04/2026
I hear Iran are just weeks away from developing a ballroom.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 22/04/2026
A photo taken by the war photographer Lindsey Addario of friends carrying the body of Rob Burbea out from his house at dawn. This was during the first wave of Covid when Lindsey shadowed us. We buried Rob at Sharpham Meadow following lockdown restrictions. First published National Geographic.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 20/04/2026
The People’s Pyramid.
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BBC Sounds - Last Word: Doing Death Differently - Available Episodes
Listen to the latest episodes of Last Word: Doing Death Differently on BBC Sounds.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
Midsummer dawn burial.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 15/04/2026
A glimpse of the dedication my local crematorium workers showed during Covid. This technician volunteered to stay at the crem in a hammock. We, the death professionals, understood that if the crematoriums stopped working, we were in serious trouble.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
My dad was good friends with John Le Mesurier. Old war buddies. He used to come and stay and they’d retreat to my dad’s study for the weekend and drink scotch.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 14/04/2026
A clay figurine of a shrouded corpse I made for ritual purpose. What elevates it to high necromantic potential, is the clay comes from a vein that threads through a grave. Clay to clay, bone to bone. Most likely to be used for moving on rituals, rather than dark cursing. But you never know..
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 13/04/2026
Omens on the asphalt. A fire horse; in horse dung.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 12/04/2026
Cat occupying the strategic Hormuz Straits of our house, blocking the free passage of dog into the kitchen.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
Each take a piece home.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
I think just the cultural norm. It’s a shame. When my elderly dog was cremated, his old bones looked like precious jewels, build ups of blues and chemical yellows.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 11/04/2026
What cremated human remains look like before they are ground down, which sadly makes them look like cement dust. Different cultures deal with these bone fragments in other ways. Kotsuage is the ritual the Japanese have, in which the cremated bones are picked out with chopsticks and oiled.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 10/04/2026
An extract from “What Remains” Thank you for your attention in this matter!
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 01/04/2026
Funeral for legendary Scouse photojournalist Paul Conroy, blown up in Homs, survived, thrived, going on to embed himself in Ukraine. Charismatic, eloquent, wild, handsome bastard and all round outlaw. Nice to hear anecdotes about acid, as much as artillery. Right side of history; wrong side of law.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 25/03/2026
Life er…finds a way.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 23/03/2026
rucallender.com
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What Remains? is a deeply moving book that will change the way readers think about life, death and the all-important end-of-life experience. As Ru memorably says: “Death has shown me unimaginable horror, the unbreakable core of love and courage that lies at the heart of what it means to be human.”
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 20/03/2026
Ancestral door jam.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 19/03/2026
It’s a steal!
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 18/03/2026
I am doing the funeral for my friend and genuine hero Paul Conroy. Paul was one of the finest photojournalists in the world, definitely the coolest. He was targeted in Homs, Syria with his colleague Marie Colvin. Marie was killed, Paul badly wounded. He died here in Devon of natural causes.
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Donate to Paul Conroy ❤️, organized by Tammy Perrens
Our beloved Paul Conroy died suddenly on 28th February 2026. For almost 30 years Paul worked tireless… Tammy Perrens needs your support for Paul Conroy ❤️
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 17/03/2026
Wow. So shut up then Marcus Aurelius with your stoicism, you are 1700 odd years too soon with self reflection.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 17/03/2026
Tell me about it..
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 17/03/2026
It’s not!
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 16/03/2026
Smoke from The Ancestor’s Fire at Sharpham Meadow blesses the coffin before the ceremony begins.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
A glass of water for the ancestors.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
Graves in the woods.
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Ways With Weirds @wayswithweirds.bsky.social · 15/03/2026
Graves in the woods.
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