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Vagabond Bones

@vagabondbones.bsky.social
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they/he ✨ neurodivergent, queer, disabled, immunocompromised, ethnic minority, converting to Judaism, spoonie 🥄 27yo mess 🧠 doing a Masters in Bioinformatics 💻⚕️

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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 02/01/2026
If it’s designed to only be used by ppl in wheelchairs and, say, a cane user can’t use it, it’s not accessible!! I hate those lifts bc they’re specifically NOT designed to be stood on, so I can’t use them despite my reduced mobility, so no, it’s not accessible 🙄
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 02/01/2026
I recently moved away from Canada and I honestly don’t understand why people don’t automatically apologize when they bump into each other. Why bring negative energy into it? Apologize - whether it’s your fault or not - and move on. It’s sooo tiny and insignificant!
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 03/11/2025
Honestly, getting crushed helps my autism/anxiety, sooooo win/win?? (Sorry for the random sexy interaction, internet stranger 😅)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 31/10/2025
I know we’ve all heard the “Germans are autistic joke”; with that in mind My (ADHD) mom spent yrs of her childhood in Germany. She also spent a few yrs there as an exchange student. Then she married an autistic man and had two very AuDHD children. She REFUSES to believe any of us are neurospicy 🫠
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/09/2025
Accommodating myself is so much of “yeah, well, doing it *this* way is fine and causes you less pain/distress, so do it this way, it’s okay” And that’s frustrating af
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
Anyway, ASD and ADHD running in families can Suck Balls, so find the humour where you can??
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
And btw, bc he is undiagnosed and Refuses to Admit It, it’s really frustrating to explain to him that, just bc something makes sense for HIS flavour of autism, doesn’t make it The Only Right Way (and that my flavour of autism thinks its Completely Illogical and Wrong)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
Like, guess who is Chaos Incorporated and who is all about Neat Boxes Neatly Placed who Lives and Dies by the Schedule and who has never known What Is Time in their entire life who believes there is a Right Way to do everything and who Just Wings It
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 09/09/2025
Ever since realizing that my father has undiagnosed ASD, it’s been increasingly funny to me to watch how much of the personality clash between my parents is really just ASD vs ADHD brain
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 04/09/2025
And I still struggle with it, bc then, what makes me a man?? Idk. Vibes, mostly.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 04/09/2025
People tie masculinity to cars and loudness and aggression and anger and sports. And none of those things have a gender. Just like we’ve been saying that you can be a woman who’s loud, assertive, angry, athletic, loves cars; so you can be a man and none of those things.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 04/09/2025
Like, my father has told me, essentially, that if “want” to be a man, then I should act + dress “like a man” And it’s like… dad. Some men think being a man is about “chasing tail”. Some think it’s about having the last word at home at the expense of beating your wife.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 04/09/2025
Such a big part of being #trans masc is building your own understanding of masculinity & dismantling toxic masculinity in the process Like, no, men CAN wear skirts and so I, a man, can wear a skirt Or, men DON’T have to like beer, and it’s fine if I don’t Etc ad nauseum
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 26/08/2025
One week without ADHD meds and I don’t have the attention span to do… most anything, really. I also have so many thoughts in my head that I felt I needed to return to Bluesky. Hiiii~ 🫠
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BrooklynDad_Defiant! @mmpadellan.bsky.social · 19/12/2024
Folks, this one is PERSONAL to me. Elon Musk said that "Homeless" is a lie. Since I was actually once homeless myself, I know it's not a lie. This Substack article is totally FREE. Please read, share, and subscribe. 🙏💪 brooklyndaddefiant.substack.com/p/homeless-i...
brooklyndaddefiant.substack.com
'Homeless' is NOT a Lie
Take it from a guy who has been there and back
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Dr. Damien P. Williams, dread portent down from a mountain cave @wolven.blacksky.app · 25/04/2024
"Poverty can produce the most deadly kind of violence in this society; violence against poor people and minority groups is routine. I remind you that starving a child is violence. Suppressing a culture is violence. Neglecting school children is violence. Punishing a mother and her child is violence…
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 16/04/2024
5. You know how they claim t makes you angry or irritable? Guess what makes that worse? No t. Yes, I feel angry more easily since I started t (& have a harder time crying), but also e gave me bad mood swings, and having none just made me a mess. T is a clear winner in my book ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 4/4 for now?
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 16/04/2024
3. There was some concern that t may be making my joint pain worse. Doesn’t seem to be - pain wasn’t better without it 😅 4. Horny. It’s uncanny how much t plays on my sexuality - from my libido to HOW I experience pleasure and how I orgasm… t made me a squirter. Seriously. 3/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 16/04/2024
1. I feel human again. Fuck. Since I don’t have ovaries anymore (yay!), going without t was a BAD idea. I had SO MANY cold sweats, I felt nauseous and out of it… 2. Speaking of cold sweats: t is SUCH a temperature regulator for me. I used to be constantly cold before. Now I run hot. 2/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 16/04/2024
Doing my t shot after missing it for weeks (oooops), here are some observations. Mainly to remind myself, but also one more story into the void for anyone wondering what being on t is like. 🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 15/04/2024
My biggest HRT problem is forgetting to take it 😭😭😭
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 12/04/2024
Dealing trauma be like: Am I holding onto this job out of fear of change? Or am I considering changing jobs just bc I’m in flight mode? Am I questioning myself too much? My body is so exhausted and in pain, how do I listen to it??
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
Mêmes nouvelles au Québec, où notre premier ministre provincial ne croit pas que le racisme systémique existe 🙃
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
HRT was SO liberating. I was, I am in control. Yes, aspects of this second adolescence *suck*, but every week, I get to CHOOSE to continue. First adolescence was so traumatizing, and part of it was the fact that it was happening to me with no way for me to stop it.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
And like, it should be 💯 doctor-supervised, but not doctor-restricted If you’re able to understand the consequences and drawbacks, and you want to continue nonetheless? You should be able to (Which btw is true for SO MANY meds)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
I am, and it wasn’t even him 😭 I’m… I’m okay, I’m at work, so I can’t quite process that - how scared I was by a ghost, a distorted picture… I also ended up watching a complete stranger for a whole bus ride, and even watched him greet his friend & followed him into a cafe to confirm it wasn’t him 😭
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
It wasn’t him, just someone who looks AWFULLY like him (enough I couldn’t tell from profile - their eyes are set very different, but,,, I’m trying to anchor myself and brace myself for work (I wrote this just as I was coming into work and it seems I didn’t send it - I’m better now…)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
I saw him face on for the first time - it’s not him Which may be worse There’s someone who looks VERY alike my ex - same hair, beard, build, general features - enough that I can’t tell them apart from profile - that lives or hangs around my house/workplace area 😨
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
Not at all - I’m already 10 minutes late to work 😭 AND I think he may be going to see his GP, who works at the clinic above my workplace…
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
Okay I’m 99% certain it’s him Calming my body through my breathing is barely working
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
It also does sound trauma-induced, as in, it could be from (complex) PTSD and be a negative core belief
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
I don’t think he’s noticed me I’m also very confused as to how this route is anywhere on his way to/from his usual places Unless he’s moved, or gotten a job (the second one is highly unlikely)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 11/04/2024
I THINK my manipulative, ruined-my-life ex is on the bus two seats away and,,, It just so happens I’m coming from a trauma therapy group This is NOT within my window of tolerance, help 😭
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 09/04/2024
Hi ❤️ disabled, trans/enby, and try to post about social justice (including racial, queer and disability rights!)
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 08/04/2024
I was in my first semester of uni during the last solar eclipse, in 2017 Today, I was sitting with a bunch of people from my minor to watch the eclipse And they were saying how they were 13-14 in 2017 What is time even
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Dawn Can't Feed Cats @daybreakstations.bsky.social · 02/04/2024
PLEASE READ LINKS IN BIO AND WILL BE LINKED BELOW #HelpSky #MutualAid #MutualAidRequest #cats #rent #RentHelp #StrikingWorker #KeepDawnHoused
Alright here's what's new and why I need YOUR help. 
For the past 7 months I've been living with a really shitty person. He's been lying, stealing, and being really petty about stupid things. 
Yesterday he emailed the property manager saying he was going to be breaking the lease and getting out by the end of the month. That's the good news.In addition to that I am trying to start a new job while on strike with my current job and returning to school. Because I am disabled I really need help financially for the upcoming month, I have an internet bill at 120 and rent is 2950 which I will have to cover on my own without new roommates lined up. The PM has offered a grace period because he understands the situation is unfair to me but I would prefer to start my new living situation on time.I also need to feed my cats and get them new litter by the end of the month, that usually runs me around 70 dollars.
If you can help by boosting this, sharing it, or if you know someone in the Bay Area willing to meet with me and potentially rent one of the two rooms available that would be amazing. 
My discord is dawnofdaybreak and my messages are open.But what I really need is to know I won't have to move out. Financial donations via cashapp are best ($daybreakstations) as there's no fees but there's also venmo and kofi @/ daybreakstations (they are business accounts so they take fees)
Please help how you can afford to, even if that's checking on this post and pinging me with good luck or like casting a spell, saying a prayer, anything.
That's all for now and I will keep you posted. Thanks again.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
Be compassionate with my living expenses and raise my salary ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
To end, I want to thank you, Anonsee. Before reading your story, and then HAL, I never knew this happened to others, especially not within a context of queerness. I thought I was alone in this profound shame and pain and isolation. Thank you. Thank you.
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
look better than he did in that situation… but I know for a fact he manipulated a lot of this into happening, and that at least partially it was meant as way to cut me out of his life in a way he couldn’t go back on. And he succeeded. This it the type of casting out with no return possible. 12/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
Maybe I should add that, the one thing I do know about the whole thing is that it was largely engineered by one of my exes. Mind you, he never claimed I did anything against him, maybe bc he knew I had proof of him admitting that he’d told someone I crossed his boundary only to make himself 11/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
I don’t know what did most damage: losing communities I built, people I’ve helped through everything at a moment’s notice; or doubting myself, my sanity, my reality; or being scared of joining any community bc what if someone knows someone and I get chased away?; or the shame and silence… 10/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
Anonsee says something about how being trans is essentially getting the worst of both worlds. This is not a worst I even thought really existed. Stories of false accusations sounded like boogeyman stories meant to silence victims. I don’t know how to live in a world where they are real. 9/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
I’m worried about the stories being told about me. I used to think that if you didn’t want people to claim you’re a r*pist, you simply needed to not r*pe. I still can’t quite comprehend how and why someone would falsely accuse someone. I don’t get it. 8/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
I lost communities I built, people I’ve cared for, all overnight. A cloud of smoke. I turned around and saw people I believed were my friends, had my backs, completely disappear from my life. All that’s left is hauntings. When I hear their names in my extended circles, I’m scared. 7/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
All that to say, both me and the people I confided that situation with in detail agree that there is no way I could have done a majority of my “crimes”. A minority may have happened - I’m socially awkward and not always aware of my social surroundings. Those are also the minor things on the list.6/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
Except, in the period of time in question, I didn’t consume anything nearly enough to black out. I may have had a drink or two, but I most def didn’t drink a ton. And I’ve never completely lost consciousness/control like that before or since. 5/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
What partially allowed me to let go was to see the most detailed list of accusations I’ve seen to date. I’ve read it several times. And here’s my honest truth with myself: most of the items on this list are so outside who I am, that I must have been “blacked out” for any of it to happen. 4/🧵
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Vagabond Bones @vagabondbones.bsky.social · 01/04/2024
When I first heard of it, I was… mortified. I spent months trying to understand what I was being accused of. Of trying to go over every interaction with the presumed victims and piece it together. I wanted to know so that, at the very least, I could make sure to never do such harm again. 3/🧵
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