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Todra Payne

@todrapayne.bsky.social
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I write about love/relationships, travel & embracing joy. I also make short films and amazing cornbread. San Francisco Bay area. www.womenbeingloved.com

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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 26/09/2025
When You Feel Alone, Try This Practice greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item...
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When You Feel Alone, Try This Practice
Loneliness can be hard to shake, as former U.S. surgeon general Vivek Murthy found. But there are little steps we can take each day to feel more connected.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 07/06/2025
Today, after 18 months, countless interviews, rewrites and setbacks, here we are. My book about women who found love "late" in life is finally for sale. 30 inspiring stories, 328 pages. Available on Amazon. 🎈🎉🎈 www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0FB...
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 15/03/2025
todrapayne.substack.com/p/what-they-...
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What They Told Me About Love
Interviewing women on finding their best relationships after 35
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/01/2025
I hate how everything is so politically charged and angry right now. I hate what's happening to America. Everyday I wake up to new sadness, and have to make hard choices about friends and networks and businesses I'll support (or not) and how I'll move in this new, awful reality.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/01/2025
I made a really hard decision a week ago. I cut someone's beautiful love story from the book I'm writing. We could not agree on one line-a political statement that also reflects my views, but I don't feel it belongs in a book about love. She is someone I like & admire and she's a major influencer. 💔
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
Okay. You have your opinion and I have mine. I've run out of steam for debating with a stranger. But enjoy your weekend and I hope the artists can be celebrated at the Oscars AND those who've lost their homes and possessions can be helped. Two things can hold space at the same time.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
Suggesting it be postponed is fine. I even agree. It was the delivery. It suggests more. Even saying it's a "look at me party" says volumes and dismisses the recognition creatives deserve.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
Oh, I definitely sense the disgust, despite the attempt at hiding it within a righteous cause.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
Ah, more condescending remarks and vitriol towards storytellers and creatives. It's not an "ad" for films. The films have already happened. It's an acknowledgement of talent, art and hard creative work. And yes, for some people who appreciate it, it's necessary.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
I think the idea of making it a fundraising event is wonderful.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
This says to me you don't understand how Hollywood works. A-lost actors don't pay for any of that. They are lent clothes and jewelry for the evening by the designers.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
That's not what the Oscars are, but okay. It's okay to celebrate art and talent. Why do people in 9-5 careers always make statements that sound like they're slightly jealous?
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
I feel so seen! 😆
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
I'm contacting the 30 women I interviewed for my book and reading the true love stories I wrote from their interviews. There are a lot of happy tears and excitement. I won't lie, It feels amazing. #writingcommunity
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
I love this.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 03/01/2025
Thanks! 😊
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/12/2024
When I'm bored, I make scenes out of tiny handmade animals I find in thrift stores. Don't judge me.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/12/2024
Sounds like a good goal.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 25/12/2024
Merry Christmas!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
Google showed me this memory today. My husband (then boyfriend) & I had just moved to LA & were celebrating our 1st Christmas in our new home city. A guy we'd recently met spent the day w/us & we all cooked together. He took this photo of me & my honey. We're still friends with him 11 yrs later.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 16/12/2024
This is my definition of a perfect morning.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 15/12/2024
Yes, a purse would work really well. Or maybe an oversized sweater.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 15/12/2024
I love consignment (and sometimes thrift) shopping for myself. I'd really have to know my friends would be open to receiving used items for Christmas. And since most thrift stores don't take things back after 7 days, there's the question of what happens if it doesn't fit.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 10/12/2024
Thank you. Your writing is lovely and impactful.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 10/12/2024
@saraeckel.bsky.social I'm in a coffee shop reading your substack and trying not to sob. "When I was younger, the future was a shiny castle I could never quite reach. Now the future is a distant tropical storm, gathering strength and heading to my village." I feel this in my soul. 😥
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 08/12/2024
I won't know what that is. But I hope you had fun.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 08/12/2024
What did you see?
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 08/12/2024
This ⬇️
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 06/12/2024
I went into a clothing store and this guy tried to sell me jogging pants.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 05/12/2024
If you figure it out, please tell me.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 04/12/2024
This was from our 3 month road trip. I think it was in Washington State.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 04/12/2024
A throwback photo of me in paradise. #books #bookstore
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 03/12/2024
This is sweet and heartbreaking.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 02/12/2024
Getting an impromptu video of hummingbirds chasing each other feels like a great accomplishment. Those suckers are fast!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 02/12/2024
This is gorgeous!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Yes! Abbott Kinney is wonderful.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Yes, I love Larchmont, too. My husband and I are luxury home sitters and get to "live" in some great areas. I've never been to Ocean Park. I don't know where that is.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
This amazing love found me at 42. Don't let anyone convince you to give up on love. #love #relationships #blueskyover40
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
😆
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Are you talking about in Santa Monica? If so, I love that street so much! I've shopped there often and gone out to eat a few times. Never met any producers to work with, unfortunately. 🫤
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Congratulations. That's a huge feat. Basil plants seem to hate life.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Subway car weddings! I love New Yorkers. www.nytimes.com/2024/10/19/f... #romance #wedding #love
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Through the Turnstile and Down the Aisle (Gift Article)
Forget the picture-perfect setting; some couples are embracing the gritty, chaotic appeal of the subway system for their wedding ceremonies and receptions.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
I agree!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
Are you open to finding love in the produce aisle? www.the-independent.com/voices/spain... #love #relationships
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Why the Spanish are right to look for love in the supermarket
As a Spanish supermarket introduces a ‘fruity’ shopping-trolley code for Gen Z singletons keen to hook up in the aisles, Ryan Coogan asks: could it ever work in Britain?
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
Thank you for saying it.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
Congratulations!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
PEOPLE in relationships report being more in love if they live in a country with high living standards, greater gender equality and a community-centred culture." www.discountmags.com/magazine/new.... #relationships #genderequality #love
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Couples are most in love in Hungary, according to science | Alice Klein - DiscountMags.com
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
Hey, love! So happy to see you here.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
Awww. Thank you. That makes sense.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
On their site they mention that an author can create their author profile before the book is ready for sale, but then they say the book has to "appear in our system", which I'm finding confusing.
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