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Todra Payne

@todrapayne.bsky.social
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I write about love/relationships, travel & embracing joy. I also make short films and amazing cornbread. San Francisco Bay area. www.womenbeingloved.com

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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 26/09/2025
When You Feel Alone, Try This Practice greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item...
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When You Feel Alone, Try This Practice
Loneliness can be hard to shake, as former U.S. surgeon general Vivek Murthy found. But there are little steps we can take each day to feel more connected.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 07/06/2025
Today, after 18 months, countless interviews, rewrites and setbacks, here we are. My book about women who found love "late" in life is finally for sale. 30 inspiring stories, 328 pages. Available on Amazon. 🎈🎉🎈 www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0FB...
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 15/03/2025
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What They Told Me About Love
Interviewing women on finding their best relationships after 35
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/01/2025
I made a really hard decision a week ago. I cut someone's beautiful love story from the book I'm writing. We could not agree on one line-a political statement that also reflects my views, but I don't feel it belongs in a book about love. She is someone I like & admire and she's a major influencer. 💔
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 18/01/2025
I'm contacting the 30 women I interviewed for my book and reading the true love stories I wrote from their interviews. There are a lot of happy tears and excitement. I won't lie, It feels amazing. #writingcommunity
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 31/12/2024
When I'm bored, I make scenes out of tiny handmade animals I find in thrift stores. Don't judge me.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 24/12/2024
Google showed me this memory today. My husband (then boyfriend) & I had just moved to LA & were celebrating our 1st Christmas in our new home city. A guy we'd recently met spent the day w/us & we all cooked together. He took this photo of me & my honey. We're still friends with him 11 yrs later.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 16/12/2024
This is my definition of a perfect morning.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 10/12/2024
@saraeckel.bsky.social I'm in a coffee shop reading your substack and trying not to sob. "When I was younger, the future was a shiny castle I could never quite reach. Now the future is a distant tropical storm, gathering strength and heading to my village." I feel this in my soul. 😥
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 08/12/2024
This ⬇️
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 06/12/2024
I went into a clothing store and this guy tried to sell me jogging pants.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 04/12/2024
A throwback photo of me in paradise. #books #bookstore
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 02/12/2024
Getting an impromptu video of hummingbirds chasing each other feels like a great accomplishment. Those suckers are fast!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
This amazing love found me at 42. Don't let anyone convince you to give up on love. #love #relationships #blueskyover40
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 01/12/2024
Subway car weddings! I love New Yorkers. www.nytimes.com/2024/10/19/f... #romance #wedding #love
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Through the Turnstile and Down the Aisle (Gift Article)
Forget the picture-perfect setting; some couples are embracing the gritty, chaotic appeal of the subway system for their wedding ceremonies and receptions.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
I agree!
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 30/11/2024
Are you open to finding love in the produce aisle? www.the-independent.com/voices/spain... #love #relationships
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Why the Spanish are right to look for love in the supermarket
As a Spanish supermarket introduces a ‘fruity’ shopping-trolley code for Gen Z singletons keen to hook up in the aisles, Ryan Coogan asks: could it ever work in Britain?
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 29/11/2024
PEOPLE in relationships report being more in love if they live in a country with high living standards, greater gender equality and a community-centred culture." www.discountmags.com/magazine/new.... #relationships #genderequality #love
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Couples are most in love in Hungary, according to science | Alice Klein - DiscountMags.com
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 28/11/2024
Help! How early before my book comes out should I open a Goodreads author account? #writing #writingcommunity #author
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 26/11/2024
The women I interviewed for my upcoming book met the love of their lives through all sorts of channels, including personal ads (yes, the kind in newspapers). Love can find you in so many ways. Be creative and open. ❤️ #love
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 26/11/2024
My favorite #writing partner. #writingcommunity
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 26/11/2024
I love that my "job" is to listen to women joyfully tell me about all the ways they are loved by their husbands/partners. I am lifted by their excitement. It's nice to have such positivity to look forward to every day. #love
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king's co-op boo store 👻 @kingsbookstore.bsky.social · 25/11/2024
did you know we work with Books Beyond Bars, a local books to prisoners initiative? books they want to read are updated on our website & you can order a book for them at a discount or just purchase a gift card to go to the program and we'll do the rest! check out the list : kingsbookstore.ca/bbbhfx
Books Beyond Bars logo. A bird breaking free from it's cage and flying towards a book.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 24/11/2024
Yes, he's sexy. But I married him cause he loves to read. 😊 @paulemberger.bsky.social ❤️ #booksky
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 24/11/2024
When I needed an emotional boost to keep going on my book of true love stories for midlife women, my husband took me to a book store, told me to pick up a book, then Photoshopped the cover design for my book overtop. This is love. #writingcommunity #manifesting
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 23/11/2024
I watched Swan Song last night. Mahershala Ali and Naomie Harris were magic together. Nothing brings joy to my soul like A beautiful sci-fi romance movie with some tragedy and huge ethical questions thrown in. #movietalk #sci-fi
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 23/11/2024
I've finally discovered what helps me write everyday: I write on my laptop as soon as I wake up; on my phone when I'm waiting at the car wash; while I'm getting a pedicure; etc. during any wait times, I'm writing, editing, ideating. It works for me. What's your writing process? #writingprocess
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 23/11/2024
For my upcoming book, I interviewed 50 midlife (& beyond) women about finding their most perfect love later in life. The stories they tell are inspiring. After divorce, domestic violence, mental breakdowns, drugs, etc they healed and believed in love again. Published early 2025.
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Todra Payne @todrapayne.bsky.social · 22/11/2024
Berkeley, CA is looking like Atlantis. I'm hoping the rain stops soon.
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a black and white drawing of a sad cat in the rain .
ALT: a black and white drawing of a sad cat in the rain .
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