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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

@themidnightthrum.bsky.social
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Ex-Londoner. Current Torontonian. Scientist. Drinker of coffee, lover of walks, mother of twin black cats. Only half British. I keep a journal: themidnightthrum.wordpress.com they/them/she/her

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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
One of the hardest things I've ever had to do is leave the country I called home for 16 years with my husband, who is trans, because the UK decided to remove his rights. All while finishing a PhD. I passed my viva remotely this week - 3.5 hours. And it was such a bittersweet moment.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
Yeah it is easy to other a specific group of people and think the are bad when you don't know any.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 02/09/2026
Yeah it makes me physically feel sick when I read this breederism shit in the BBC regarding trans people. Like, this is so related to what the US is doing with removing reproductive rights for women. Just let people choose what to do with their own bodies, ffs.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
It is supreme gaslighting. 'Oh see how inclusive I am, it says so on my sign, you are safe here.' But that is ONLY because the other toilets exclude people. Like, the level double think required is astonishing.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
This is the most cringe thing I have ever seen. Are they taking AI photoshop lessons from Trump now?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
Aw, what a snoozy little fella. 🦊
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 24/08/2026
I'm so confused by this headline and the British media more generally. And that is coming from someone who would classify themselves as gender fluid. Do I have the beginnings of dementia, or is the media just nonsensical now?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 24/08/2026
my body unweaves as if it were a tapestry, and all I am is the thread balled on the floor. New writing. 🖤 themidnightthrum.wordpress.com/2026/08/24/u... #LGBT #UK #Canada #Immigration #MentalHealth
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Unweaving.
There are some days I miss London so much that I cannot breathe. I walk through the open streets of Toronto, looking up at the skyscrapers stretching north to south in clean lines, and imagine a Lo…
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
Thanks! Mainly drafting out the outline and putting together a few chapters.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
I read a lot of sci-fi/romantasy/erotic fiction and have for years. The genre is very cis/heteronormative. As a queer person, I think sometimes it is nice to speak to my own reality - on the non-binary spectrum, married to a trans man. Not sure if anyone else is interested, but fun all the same.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
I've started half-writing a queer romantasy with fae and alternate worlds. Strong MC who is a genderfluid woman with a transman fae love interest. Somedays, you just need to get through life by imagining you are in a different one. Also, intimate scenes are so much fun to write! 😅🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈✨🖊️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
Glad everything went well - my husband had similar anxiety when we moved to Canada (from the UK), he wasn't quite sure how easy it would be to get the gel. It nearly made both of us weep seeing how easy/uncomplicated it was.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 18/08/2026
Books for the girls, gays, and theys please.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
Actual image of me taking notes. This is the way I sit doing anything.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 05/08/2026
*hugs* I'm so sorry. I know my husband and I have been left with an intense feeling of grief.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 05/08/2026
I've been trying to write about resilience for a long time. This morning I deleted what I had and started over. I'm learning it's okay to say out loud: I'm struggling. We're not okay. But we'll get through this. For ourselves. themidnightthrum.wordpress.com/2026/08/05/r... #LGBT #UK #transrights
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Resilience
I have been trying to write this entry about resilience for a very long time. This morning, I woke up and deleted it. The fact is, I am struggling. Ben is struggling. I’m starting to learn th…
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 21/07/2026
Thank you for clarifying, I hadn't heard about them specifically - though anything with 'women's rights' in the title unfortunately now makes me suspicious. It is sad that trans rights and women's rights are pit against one another when they are related. 🤦
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 21/07/2026
whoever made this is a fucking legend.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 21/07/2026
They are clearly trying to obfuscate who they are though if they were calling themselves the 'Women's Rights Network'. They didn't want to throw up an instant red flag. Agree that it SHOULD have thrown up a red flag with the insane state of the UK today. People have to start paying more attention.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
Christ on a banana. How is this different to recording race on birth certificates? Can you imagine if it was asked: 'What is your race? What was your race recorded at birth?' Why do we need to record sex/gender EVER on a form of ID? Why can't it just be self-declared, like everything else?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
JFC. How is this different to recording race on birth certificates (pre 1960s/70s in the US)? Can you imagine if that was asked? 'What is your race? What was your race recorded at birth?' Why can't we just not record sex? At all. Ever. On any ID. Name, date, parents - isn't that enough?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 17/07/2026
Oh my god, you hit the nail on the head here. I want to *scream* when Brits go on and on about America and why are Americans like this etc, when their own country is enacting laws that are WORSE than many US states (i.e. trans bathroom bans). The lack of self awareness is maddening!
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 16/07/2026
I left with my husband in March. We had the opportunity to go via temporary work permits - I'm cisgender, he is transgender. Our mental health was suffering and we didn't want to wait until the situation deteriorated further. Currently trying to make this more permanent, mainly to have more options.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 10/07/2026
I mean, what is more terrifying than a teenage girl? 🤷
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
Oh Count Binface, please save Clacton and then the rest of Britain! 🇬🇧
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
What was her point? 'Oh he was a war hero, so he can assault and use women all he likes' ? Come on, that needs to be the instant clapback.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 07/07/2026
Submitted my thesis. Marched down Yonge Street with my husband in Toronto. Felt seen for the first time in a long time. And yet, we are still adrift. New entry: Taking Up Space themidnightthrum.wordpress.com/2026/07/07/t...
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Taking up space
For the first time since arriving in Toronto, I felt I could breathe a sigh of relief. I submitted my thesis just before the festivities began for the three-day Pride weekend. Finally. It was bitte…
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 03/07/2026
"I'm mad because I not only want to have my homophobic and transphobic views, but I want to be loved for them too." This is just pure cakeism. You are allowed to believe what you want, have at it. But people are also allowed to believe you're an arsehole who they don't want to vote for.
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Tamoor Hussain @tamoorh.com · 03/07/2026
Incredible moment where Fox News puts up a graphic with all the reasons it opposes the DSA and why people should be afraid of them
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
Yeah, this is bizarre. Assuming there are 69.5 million people in the UK, 1.39-2.78 million people will be 'incorrectly' identified. If 1% of the population is trans, then there are only 695,000 trans people. Even if you identify ALL the trans people, you are still harassing millions of cis people.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
"If people are unhappy with what the law says, we are in a democracy, and they can argue to change the law." Mary-Ann Stephenson is being disingenuous and interpreting the law in the worst possible way. But even she is pointing out that Labour CAN do something about it.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 02/07/2026
So…there are about 35 million women in Britain, so we are going to incorrectly gender 700,000 to 1,400,000 of them? So…we are going to be wrong for a million of them? And that is perfectly acceptable to harass them to pursue an already persecuted minority? What? How is this equality?
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Gillian Branstetter @gbbranstetter.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
I'm so thankful to Becky and her mom for their trust, generosity, and strength in front of the Supreme Court. No matter what the Court says, Becky is a hero for standing up for herself and trans girls like her. Doing what's right, even when the odds are against you, is the definition of courage.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
'Refusing to fly the flag' --> didn't Labour refuse to fly the progress pride flag or intersex-inclusive pride flag?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
I don't think I understand what the strategy of these people are. They think if they change leaders but don't change wildly unpopular positions, then that will solve their problems. And then they are *surprised pikachu face* when people see through it. These people are supposed to be clever?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
It's always the children who are wrong. 🤦
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
Saw Mark Carney on Sunday in the Toronto Pride parade. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Canada feels like what Britain (or America) would have been if crazed GCs and TERFs hadn't taken over the media, politics, and equal rights organisations. I don't know if Canada will be taken over in future. I hope trans inclusivity lasts.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 30/06/2026
Isn't it weird that Trans Pride is held on a totally different weekend from LGBTQ+ Pride in the UK? It never made sense to me. In Toronto, Trans March was Friday, Dyke March Saturday, Pride Sunday - one cohesive weekend. Is there a reason that Trans Pride is often split weeks apart from Pride?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
Many moons ago (I’m an aging millennial), I came across IWTV and the full book series, which was how I realised I was queer. Lestat is the bisexual queen I always hoped I’d grow up to be. New TV series has been great.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
Ah, I didn’t see the mayor at the trans march! Amazing that she went! 🏳️‍⚧️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
Highly recommend, Toronto pride has been very fun! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
You have no idea how much this means, thank you! ❤️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
It has been great so far! Relieved it finally stopped snowing. 😂😅
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
Thank you so much! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 28/06/2026
Yes! I saw the mayor and the prime minister at the parade today!
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 27/06/2026
Seen at the Trans March in Toronto last night. It feels hard to be visible when we’ve just had to leave Britain, but Toronto Pride has been very uplifting so far. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Thanks for welcoming us with open arms, Toronto! ❤️
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
Don't threaten me with a good time.
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
Lol, is that Dr Phil in the background. What hilarious alternate reality is this? Like, how can anyone think this government is remotely serious?
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Tulia 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 @themidnightthrum.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
What in the hell does any of this even mean? It is word salad.
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