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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 29/09/2026

Yes, BUT making a pouty face at drivers, pretending to cry, and pointing at them IS therapeutic. And probably takes a month off their life based on the reaction.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 24/09/2026

Smaller scale. My personal $0.02 here is that nobody simply has the attention or bandwidth anymore for much of anything. Which I get. But without some effort then everything becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure. I don’t know what to do with that.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 24/09/2026

A collection of thoughts: Grindr continues to grow with 1.4M paying customers on 15 monthly actives. Recon is… doing whatever it is they’re doing. Market research (not just mine) shows a general lack of interest in online dating across the board. People are basically just meeting “less” and on a

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 24/09/2026

I’ll leave it up (like most of my stuff) for a long while and maybe it will find some fun use.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 24/09/2026

The last 8-12 weeks have been a fun experiment with subclub but it’s clear there’s basically zero appetite for a kink focused app/site anymore. Even among early adopters there’s a sharp drop-off. Most people (64%) never made a profile even if they signed up. I’m not pulling the plug on it though.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 22/09/2026

You need to flirt wearing a little flower crown and tell him you have a cute bear suit for him to try on.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

If a bunch of NYC men could go sign up for subjugated.club so I could flirt during the day I would greatly appreciate it. Or tell me where you’re all hanging out! Doesn’t have to be my spot 🤣

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 18/09/2026

+1. Noticeably deeper sleep and muscle relaxation.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 14/09/2026

If you have the opportunity to see Buddy in a theater, I strongly recommend it. Holy shit.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 11/09/2026

“Pick one: ‘I show up on time’ or ‘nobody dies.’”

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 09/09/2026

My usual approach is to laugh and let them wonder what just happened. But man it gets you labeled as a cunt immediately. This is why I don’t travel to the events.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 09/09/2026

I don’t dress up (or down, really) for kink events. Without fail, one or more person(s) will use an incredibly condescending tone to welcome me to the space and let me know “everyone starts somewhere.” Once a twink looked me up head to toe and said “are you sure you’re into this?”

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 08/09/2026

I become irrationally angry when people say “you can have fun without drinking” when I decline to go to a loud bar. Like, no shit… That’s why I’m choosing to do something *else*.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 06/09/2026

Even the NYT crossword agrees with me on this one.

A crossword clue that reads “uninspired opener on a dating app” and solves to “hey”

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 05/09/2026

For me it was a series of leaps of faith. Once you do it though it starts to feel like refuge. It gets harder and harder to imagine it being like it used to. It absolutely has a cost but it’s so worth it.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 04/09/2026

“So we were making post-hookup chit chat and I asked him what he did. He said he was an influencer. Honestly, I would have preferred he just be a Republican.” 🤣🤣🤣

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 27/08/2026

Or how about the newcomer is going to see how much effort is being spent to maintain the illusion for strangers and have to decide if they want to put up with the artifice of it all.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 23/08/2026

So that is to say I’m still at a loss where NYC men are going and meeting each other 😆. Especially in a BDSM context. There’s the chastity social at Rockbar? I’m just thinking out loud at this point.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 23/08/2026

SubClub numbers don’t show a high appetite for a focused space/app. 62% of all signups never configure a profile. Is that FOMO signups by people hedging bets? Thinking of IG as a dating/sex finding app makes my dick shrivel. Posting enough to game the algorithms does the same.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 23/08/2026

Talking to folks it sounds like the space between hookups and LTRs has basically collapsed/is collapsing. The apps are relegated to pic perusal and “Right Now” and everything beyond moved to social media. I def have no counter evidence…. Enjoy my current fave club outfit.

Salmon colored T-shirt, dark loose pants, and some peach shoes.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 23/08/2026

There is well and truly a place in hell for DJs that interrupt dancers 😆

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

Def not just you. It wouldn’t surprise me if the market split in two. Id accept it if all the guys that just want dick all went sniffies but then I want to know where everyone else went 😆 we’re all still here

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

I gotta admit, I kinda like that 🤯. I had no idea they did that. I know a few people that use partiful out here but I guess nobody has marked me as a crush.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

For clarification: I’m talking about the users. I’m aware of how shitty all the companies are but getting anything more than a dick pic or a “hi” has become Exceptional. Maybe that’s a direct result of the platform but if so there’s a massive group hiding *somewhere*.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

My sweet spot is a step above the intimacy of a hookup but below full-fledged dating. I don’t know where that happens anymore. Using snap or IG feels weird for that to me, but hey, I’m adaptable. I hate the performative chatter bullshit game though on social media 😆

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

Yeah but that transition was loooong ago. I’m trying to find an explanation within the last 24 months.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

Great question. I gotta be honest, I doubt it’s in the real world. Im out and about quite a bit and post-covid men have been particularly…. “shy.” But what’s this about partiful?? 🤣

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 20/08/2026

I should clarify I’m referring to the audience and the people. I think on the platform side this is true. It does plausibly explain the drop off in interaction quality but something uniquely hit a wall like 2 years ago. Like did they all become unusable at the same time?

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

Or so ago?? The alternative is it’s just me. Gonna be honest- I doubt it.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

Recon has always been… meh for me and fell off a cliff. Of course I can meet people in meat space (and I do!) but I liked being able to double dip my time. Getting hot pics while doing the laundry was nice! Flirting while gaming was a side treat. Am I hallucinating or did it all fall apart a year

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

Aside: if you advertise to your paid tier I will openly malign your product at every opportunity.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

For realsies though, wtf happened to “online dating” as a category? Grindr is now useless at all their tier levels. Paid, free, doesn’t matter. Scruff is tripping over itself to do the same and costs as much. Sniffies interactions are so low quality all interactions might be as well bot driven.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 19/08/2026

If a bunch of NYC men could go sign up for subjugated.club so I could flirt during the day I would greatly appreciate it. Or tell me where you’re all hanging out! Doesn’t have to be my spot 🤣

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 17/08/2026

Im curious to hear how it goes. I think the biggest issue is going to be figuring out how the chemistry of something like a 2K urethane interact with the acrylic. Might need to redo the whole process on the test plate and bake it for a few hours to speed up the off-gassing.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 17/08/2026

How many passes of the clear coat did you do? Aerosol? Polyurethane is great but you need at least 3 passes for long-term water resistance (as an example depending on what you’re trying to protect against).

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 17/08/2026

I remember KH3 coming out and my friends sharing a link to a video catching you up on the lore. It was 30 minutes of some the densest material I’ve ever been presented. It was beyond Dickensian.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 12/08/2026

Is it complaining about something specific? I'm guessing on Android?

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 12/08/2026

Back in NYC! Positive feedback continues on subjugated.club. 1) it’s basically open access now, 2) I have enjoyed more quality chats there in the last two weeks than the last 6 months on all other (dating?) platforms combined. So already calling this a win 😎

Airplane bathroom jockstrap selfie. Also atypically beard-y

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 11/08/2026

Just sayin', Bluesky launched publicly Feb. 6th of '24. That was 917 days ago. Accounts with north of 20K posts, assuming they were there day 1, would have AVERAGED 22+ posts/responses EVERY single day since.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 11/08/2026

Man, I feel this whole thread in my bones. Co-signed from NYC. Sometime in the last few years the quality of interaction really plummeted.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 11/08/2026

Several years ago I got an idea for “wouldn’t it be hot if I could lock my keys somewhere but not open it” and started looking for something and there were only not-great options like expensive BT locks you had to setup ahead of time or combo locks. So I started making my own prototypes.

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 10/08/2026

Also: this airport is filled with an atypical number of jacked men??? What’s going on?

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 10/08/2026

Working my way back home to NYC so it’s going to be a travel day. Crawl into my DMs or AMA to help me pass the time 😇😇 anyone playing anything good?

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Subspaced Boy @subspacedboy.subjugated.club · 08/08/2026

Happy Saturday projects! Taking a break from rewiring a (bullshit) half-rack.

Jockstrap selfie from the front with cable rack.

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