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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

5/ Regardless of whether you’re cis, nonbinary, trans, questioning or unlabelled - THE gender binaries can be EXHAUSTING which is why exploring beyond these boxes is beneficial for everyone! Happy gender-exploring! 🩷✨

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

4/ One line in particular from this interview hit me as a nonbinary person: “I believe everyone has all of it in them. I’ve always felt like that” & that’s something I’ve personally felt too, that every individual has elements of them that exist outside the binary they were forced into at birth.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

3/ Colman shares that she’s “never felt massively feminine in my being female”, & that she’s “always described myself to my husband as a gay man” - a feeling many gender conforming individuals feel in relationships, particularly when dating a cisgender straight individual!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

2/ Colman discussed her feelings about gender in an interview promoting her latest film, Jimpa. Saying that she has ‘always felt sort of nonbinary’ & that the binaries of gender are problematic to many folks, even cisgender individuals!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

🩷 Olivia Colman reminding folks that exploring your gender, & allowing yourself to not squeeze yourself into boxes that don’t fit you is okay! 1/

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/02/2026

Check out my substack for my cunnilingus tips as a late bloomer 👇 Dee-Myth 🩷✨ s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/i-learnt-h...

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I learnt how to give head to a vulva owner in my mid-twenties

I was a late bloomer, so here's some tips!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/02/2026

🩷 As a few of you may know, I am in my first T4T relationship, and even though I have been out as queer for many years, I was too anxious to ever be intimate with a fellow vulva owner. As a late bloomer, and neurodivergent individual, I was anxious when the time came….

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 01/02/2026

🎥 New YT video out now! Was Joan of Arc Nonbinary?… A perfect video to start LGBT History Month! Head over to my YT & why not subscribe! ✨ youtu.be/r7FYJWXsT-o?...

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Was Joan of Arc Nonbinary???

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/12/2025

🤭 Boyfriends are out… but my trans bf is in! Here’s a piece I wrote this week for Metro on why I will never date a cis man again as a nonbinary person. metro.co.uk/2025/12/07/s...

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Sex with a fellow trans person put me off cis men for life

My only regret was not meeting my trans boyfriend earlier; it would have saved me a lot of time soul-searching.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 05/12/2025

🔬 Every so often, a story hits the mainstream media of a parent unhappy with the S3x Education their young person has received in class.… Here’s the deets & my thoughts as a S3x educator 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/aussie-mum...

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Aussie mum wants to sue school after this sex ed lesson: lets investigate 🔎

Another article, another sex educator picking it apart! 👏

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 02/12/2025

🎙️ Oop… they did it again… I think it’s important to use these moments for educating others on how *not* to act when hiring a trans+ individual & how *to* support someone who has been misgendered or deadnamed in front of you! 🔗 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/deadnamed-...

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Deadnamed by someone who commissioned me... again

Oops they did it again...

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 26/11/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ This #16daysofactivism, I made an easy-every-day list of ways you can be a Trans ally! For the full piece, head over to my Substack & why not subscribe! ✨ I’m trying to post every week so if you have any blog ideas, let me know below! s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/every-day-...

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🏳️‍⚧️ Every-day ways to be a Trans+ ally

16 Days of Activism:

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/11/2025

🍆… ever heard of peen filler before? It’s a new trend amongst Gen Z peen owners Here’s what you need to know 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/penis-fill...

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Penis filler is on the rise in Gen Z... but why?

Yes, young penis owners are getting penis filler!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 30/10/2025

📺 Growing up, there was one horror film that was always talked about, purely for its topic: a vagina with teeth that bit off penises… s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/why-are-va...

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Why are vaginas and periods so scary?!

As a sex educator, and a horror fan, I want to know: why are vaginas and periods so scary?!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 29/10/2025

🚨 It’s finally happened!! Emergency contraction is now free of charge from local pharmacies! 👇

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 27/10/2025

🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 27/10/2025

🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

⏰ I ALSO provide discounts on multiple commissions and commissions for charities! Book me while you can! 🩵 Drop me a DM or email me @s3xtheorywithdemi@gmail.com

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

🩷I have worked with NHS England, Urban Outfitters, Brook, Dr Martens, Glisten Cosmetics, Cosmopolitan, Durex, The Guardian, Channel 4, Pride in London, BBC to name a few!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

… ✨ Webinars, workshops, podcast questing! ✨ Talks as an author & book signings! … and whatever wacky ideas you have!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

So how can we work together 🤔: ✨ Trans+ inclusive & specific content creation that will reach 2M+ folks when in collaboration with moi ✨ Talks on Trans sex ed, history and current affairs, my experience as a trans person in journalism, activism and allyship!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

⭐ The TD:LR: I’m a multi-award winning sex educator and content creator with a 2M reach on socials, years of speaking experience & founder of Trans youth campaign Trans Kids Deserve To Grow Up! (You can swipe for more deets like the fact I went viral on Fox News in 2024!)

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

🚨 I’m booking for speaking opportunities, content curation & collaboration, & author gigs for Trans Awareness Month (October!) 🧵

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 01/10/2025

🩷 Today is the start of Black History Month & I have a reminder: Black Trans & Nonbinary folks deserve to see their history too! #BHM

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Libby from Biscuit @thisisbiscuit.org.uk · 01/09/2025

@s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social @mybodyandyours.bsky.social Plus Ezra, John, Hafsa from @transactualuk.bsky.social Kate, Rachael, Emily, Avi, Tash, Claire, Grace, Ella, Timon, Dhiren and Jordan. You were all superstars. I am so tired in my mind and so weary in my body, but it was worth every ache.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ You’ve heard of the gender tax, but what about the trans tax? For many trans+ folks, there’s higher costs when it comes to just feeling good in yourself! So here’s five of my top *cheap & easy* ways to affirm your gender identity! s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/my-top-fiv...

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My top five *easy and cheap* ways to affirm your gender identity!

Here's how I affirm my gender on a budget! 🧼👕💅

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 25/08/2025

As young people across the globe return to school, these are the headlines trans youth are seeing 👇

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 18/08/2025

☀️ Last year I went viral for talking about genderseason… but this year I’m feeling it more than ever! New Substack piece available now 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/summer-is-...

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☀️ Summer is here, and so is my dysphoria

Personal essay on how my gender shifts depending on the season

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

3/ ✨ These options cover all identities, whilst also highlighting the importance of women’s health & rights. Language makes a huge difference & working with inclusive language takes practise - but there are ways to include everyone, respect everyone & still get the same message across!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

2/ ✨ Phrases you can use instead include: Women & those with a uterus! Women & those who have periods! Those who have periods! Individuals who menstruate!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

1/ Instead it places trans men, trans masc, nonbinary & Genderdiverse folks in a category that ultimately misgenders us.. it’s an uncomfortable category to be placed in because the term ‘woman’ is right there, which is a sensitive spot for many folks who are trans+

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

✨ Recently I’ve seen the uptake in using the term ‘women+’ when discussing period education & rights… But the reality is that this language is not the inclusive haven many brands using it claim it to be.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 15/08/2025

🩷 Want to know how I became a published author? Or do you want to win a signed copy of my book? 👀 Head over to my YouTube for more deets!! youtu.be/RG9EUVjEgYE?...

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How did I become a published author?? 🤔

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 14/08/2025

The pronoun pipeline is such an underrepresented part of the nonbinary experience 😭

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 13/08/2025

2/ 🏳️‍⚧️ The singular they has been around for a hot minute, & even though it may seem ‘new’ to us & the media, it’s always be there in literature! Where else have you found the singular they? 👇

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 13/08/2025

1/ One of my favourite comebacks when someone says ‘the singular they isn’t grammatically correct’ is to teach them that actually Shakespeare used the singular they… and so did Jane Austen! 📕

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 13/08/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ I love literature & I love the singular they so I thought this post was perfect!

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Philippa East (Author) @philippaeast.bsky.social · 12/08/2025

More fantastic work from @transsolidarity.bsky.social. Please forward a copy of this open letter to any businesses or orgs you know who are concerned about the new EHRC Code of Practice, and ask them to sign. #StrengthInNumbers @bibabee.bsky.social www.transsolidarityalliance.com/businesses-o...

Letter to Secretary of State for Business and Trade (Jonathan Reynolds) and the Minister for Women and Equalities (Bridget Phillipson)

Dear Secretary of State for Business and Trade and Minister for Women and Equalities,

We, the undersigned businesses and organisations, are writing to express our deep concern at proposals seeking to enforce blanket, mandatory exclusion of trans people from gendered spaces and services.

The proposals made in the EHRC's draft Code of Practice to the Equality Act would have serious and far-reaching consequences for UK businesses, our employees, and our customers. Any final code similar to this draft would tell organisations that we must adopt practices that are incompatible with modern business values, create unworkable operational challenges, and cause significant economic harm.

Conflict with business values
Many of us have spent years building inclusive environments where all customers and staff feel safe and welcome. These proposals would tell us to act in ways that directly contradict those commitments; undermining trust, damaging reputations, and risking the loss of valued staff and customers. They are rooted in an assumption that trans people are a threat and that exclusion is the only acceptable outcome. This framing is both harmful and disconnected from the lived reality of the communities in which we operate. Exclusion of anybody should be a last resort, done only where it is proportionate for legitimate reasons which will be different for each individual organisation, not made blanket and mandatory.

Legal and operational risks

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