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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/02/2026

🩷 Olivia Colman reminding folks that exploring your gender, & allowing yourself to not squeeze yourself into boxes that don’t fit you is okay! 1/

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/02/2026

🩷 As a few of you may know, I am in my first T4T relationship, and even though I have been out as queer for many years, I was too anxious to ever be intimate with a fellow vulva owner. As a late bloomer, and neurodivergent individual, I was anxious when the time came….

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 01/02/2026

🎥 New YT video out now! Was Joan of Arc Nonbinary?… A perfect video to start LGBT History Month! Head over to my YT & why not subscribe! ✨ youtu.be/r7FYJWXsT-o?...

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Was Joan of Arc Nonbinary???

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/12/2025

🤭 Boyfriends are out… but my trans bf is in! Here’s a piece I wrote this week for Metro on why I will never date a cis man again as a nonbinary person. metro.co.uk/2025/12/07/s...

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Sex with a fellow trans person put me off cis men for life

My only regret was not meeting my trans boyfriend earlier; it would have saved me a lot of time soul-searching.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 05/12/2025

🔬 Every so often, a story hits the mainstream media of a parent unhappy with the S3x Education their young person has received in class.… Here’s the deets & my thoughts as a S3x educator 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/aussie-mum...

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Aussie mum wants to sue school after this sex ed lesson: lets investigate 🔎

Another article, another sex educator picking it apart! 👏

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 02/12/2025

🎙️ Oop… they did it again… I think it’s important to use these moments for educating others on how *not* to act when hiring a trans+ individual & how *to* support someone who has been misgendered or deadnamed in front of you! 🔗 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/deadnamed-...

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Deadnamed by someone who commissioned me... again

Oops they did it again...

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 26/11/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ This #16daysofactivism, I made an easy-every-day list of ways you can be a Trans ally! For the full piece, head over to my Substack & why not subscribe! ✨ I’m trying to post every week so if you have any blog ideas, let me know below! s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/every-day-...

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🏳️‍⚧️ Every-day ways to be a Trans+ ally

16 Days of Activism:

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/11/2025

🍆… ever heard of peen filler before? It’s a new trend amongst Gen Z peen owners Here’s what you need to know 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/penis-fill...

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Penis filler is on the rise in Gen Z... but why?

Yes, young penis owners are getting penis filler!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 30/10/2025

📺 Growing up, there was one horror film that was always talked about, purely for its topic: a vagina with teeth that bit off penises… s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/why-are-va...

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Why are vaginas and periods so scary?!

As a sex educator, and a horror fan, I want to know: why are vaginas and periods so scary?!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 29/10/2025

🚨 It’s finally happened!! Emergency contraction is now free of charge from local pharmacies! 👇

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 27/10/2025

🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 27/10/2025

🎃 Checking your chest isn’t scary.. so let’s check ours this Halloween, with help from some pumpkins!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 16/10/2025

🚨 I’m booking for speaking opportunities, content curation & collaboration, & author gigs for Trans Awareness Month (October!) 🧵

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 01/10/2025

🩷 Today is the start of Black History Month & I have a reminder: Black Trans & Nonbinary folks deserve to see their history too! #BHM

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Libby from Biscuit @thisisbiscuit.org.uk · 01/09/2025

@s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social @mybodyandyours.bsky.social Plus Ezra, John, Hafsa from @transactualuk.bsky.social Kate, Rachael, Emily, Avi, Tash, Claire, Grace, Ella, Timon, Dhiren and Jordan. You were all superstars. I am so tired in my mind and so weary in my body, but it was worth every ache.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ You’ve heard of the gender tax, but what about the trans tax? For many trans+ folks, there’s higher costs when it comes to just feeling good in yourself! So here’s five of my top *cheap & easy* ways to affirm your gender identity! s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/my-top-fiv...

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My top five *easy and cheap* ways to affirm your gender identity!

Here's how I affirm my gender on a budget! 🧼👕💅

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 25/08/2025

As young people across the globe return to school, these are the headlines trans youth are seeing 👇

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 18/08/2025

☀️ Last year I went viral for talking about genderseason… but this year I’m feeling it more than ever! New Substack piece available now 👇 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/summer-is-...

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☀️ Summer is here, and so is my dysphoria

Personal essay on how my gender shifts depending on the season

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 17/08/2025

✨ Recently I’ve seen the uptake in using the term ‘women+’ when discussing period education & rights… But the reality is that this language is not the inclusive haven many brands using it claim it to be.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 15/08/2025

🩷 Want to know how I became a published author? Or do you want to win a signed copy of my book? 👀 Head over to my YouTube for more deets!! youtu.be/RG9EUVjEgYE?...

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How did I become a published author?? 🤔

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 14/08/2025

The pronoun pipeline is such an underrepresented part of the nonbinary experience 😭

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 13/08/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ I love literature & I love the singular they so I thought this post was perfect!

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Philippa East (Author) @philippaeast.bsky.social · 12/08/2025

More fantastic work from @transsolidarity.bsky.social. Please forward a copy of this open letter to any businesses or orgs you know who are concerned about the new EHRC Code of Practice, and ask them to sign. #StrengthInNumbers @bibabee.bsky.social www.transsolidarityalliance.com/businesses-o...

Letter to Secretary of State for Business and Trade (Jonathan Reynolds) and the Minister for Women and Equalities (Bridget Phillipson)

Dear Secretary of State for Business and Trade and Minister for Women and Equalities,

We, the undersigned businesses and organisations, are writing to express our deep concern at proposals seeking to enforce blanket, mandatory exclusion of trans people from gendered spaces and services.

The proposals made in the EHRC's draft Code of Practice to the Equality Act would have serious and far-reaching consequences for UK businesses, our employees, and our customers. Any final code similar to this draft would tell organisations that we must adopt practices that are incompatible with modern business values, create unworkable operational challenges, and cause significant economic harm.

Conflict with business values
Many of us have spent years building inclusive environments where all customers and staff feel safe and welcome. These proposals would tell us to act in ways that directly contradict those commitments; undermining trust, damaging reputations, and risking the loss of valued staff and customers. They are rooted in an assumption that trans people are a threat and that exclusion is the only acceptable outcome. This framing is both harmful and disconnected from the lived reality of the communities in which we operate. Exclusion of anybody should be a last resort, done only where it is proportionate for legitimate reasons which will be different for each individual organisation, not made blanket and mandatory.

Legal and operational risks

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 12/08/2025

🩷 Navigating platforms as a s 🥚 educator or content creator is rougghhhh So I’ve shared some of my top tips for my paid members!! If you’d like to hear more, why not subscribe to learn more & help this enby out! 🩷✨ s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/want-to-cr...

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Want to create content but worried about being censored? Here's a sex educator five top tips ✨

Want to know more? Become a paid member 😉

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 12/08/2025

🏥 So JK Rowling has said that only women are born with the ability to ‘produce large gametes’ - aka eggs… But what about women & those who have ovulation disorders, or infertility? PCOS? Hypothalamic dysfunction? Endometriosis? Damaged fallopian tubes?

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Lee Hurley @hleehurley.com · 12/08/2025

John Coulter was a trans man who lived and worked in Belfast in the 1800s. When he died, his wife of 29 years seems to have ended up in the workhouse. This is that workhouse www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/news/norther...?

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Former ‘fever hospital’ proposed for listed status alongside house in south Belfast

A former ‘fever hospital’ in Belfast has been proposed for listing, in a bid to protect its historical and architectural significance.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 09/08/2025

🩷 Let’s talk about being a full-time journo as a trans person… & why I’ve taken a step back! Also PLEASE ignore the spelling mistake - my laptop seems to like to throw an X into the mix whenever I write nonbinary 🙈 s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/why-ive-ta...

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Why I've taken a step back from full-time news and media coverage 💖

A personal check-in as a noxnbinary journalist who is tired...

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Not In Our Name (NION) Women @nionwomen.bsky.social · 08/08/2025

Today is International Allyship Day 🩷 🤝 🏳️‍⚧️ The flag in this post is the Trans Ally Flag It’s a symbol of active, vocal support for trans rights and acceptance — not just quietly agreeing, but standing up and showing up. At NION Women, we are staunch allies to the trans+ community. #TransAlly

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

😪 Another actor bites the dusk… Michelle Gomez has issued a statement after facing backlash following her casting in the latest Harry Potter audiobook series.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

🩷 In light of the new RSE guidance, I decided to write a piece on the importance of inclusive & comprehensive s3gg education! Check it out now & why not subscribe to my substack for more articles like this: s3xtheorywithdee.substack.com/p/sex-educat...

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🖊 Sex Education works: but only when its inclusive

With the new RSE guidance giving both good and horrid vibes, lets talk about why Sex Education that is inclusive and comprehensive works!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

No surprise here. She will jump on anything relating to trans people to continue to stir the trans panic spoon that she has helped fund…

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Caroline Litman @alicemydaughter.bsky.social · 07/08/2025

Another open letter. This time to M&S. I don’t have any nostalgic desire to protect this brand. Other undies are available. And back in the 70s my local store had fuzzy, mustard yellow pillars that gave me static shocks every time I went near them. Anyone else?

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An Appeal to M&S over Transphobia

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

If you think things have gotten better in relation to how people view sexual health.. today a man told me that only the gays get HIV and that’s their choice and consequence …

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

As a sex educator, I use my AGAB when discussing topics about my own personal experiences but when talking about others, I refer to them how they wish to be referred to or use phrases like ‘people with a penis’ - of course this only works in certain sectors like sexual health!

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

Company hires a trans person. The trans person does their job. The company apologises for said employee doing their job. And you wonder why so many trans people are out of work or working from home…. 🤔

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Hierophant Shelley B Woke - Living Saint of Purity🏳️‍⚧️🖤💜🤍 💛 @shelleybwoke.bsky.social · 05/08/2025

‪It is commonly claimed that Sex Matters are a "human rights" or "women's rights" charity. You should avoid making this claim, as there is no evidence to support it.

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 05/08/2025

Can AI-brands stop reaching out to me for commissions?? As a trans queer content creator, I will NEVER collaborate with an AI-brand, particularly if they are promoting ‘intimacy’ agents 🙄

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 04/08/2025

I have always done this, even pre releasing I was nonbinary! I’ve always disliked my chest & whenever it’s windy, I pinch my shirt to avoid being exposed… does this sound familiar? #trans #enby #nonbinary #queer #transgender #wind #binder #chest

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Dee Whitnell (they/them) @s3xtheorywithdee.bsky.social · 01/08/2025

🏳️‍⚧️ Nonbinary teachers deserve to be addressed by their correct title & pronouns!

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Caroline Litman @alicemydaughter.bsky.social · 01/08/2025

Please read and sign. Labour's section 28 V.2, buried within this RSHE guidance, mustn't make it onto the statute books. Countless LGBT+ people, who grew up in the 80s and 90s know the terrible impact Thatcher's section 28 had on their lives. It's happening again to trans youth. We must oppose it.

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