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R. Haven

@rhaven.bsky.social
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I write about trauma. Parent. Sensitivity reader. Rep'd by Kaitlyn Katsoupis of Belcastro Agency. Anti-oppression, anti-fascist, anti-AI. BLM. Dismantle colonization and capitalism. He/him. Website at www.theirritablequeer.com

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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 4h
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/9/30/giveaway-reminder Chapbook giveaway! Message me if you're interested!
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Giveaway Reminder; September 30 2026 — The Irritable Queer
One month until the release of my poetry chapbook! You Will Be Happy One Day is a memoir told with poems, about my tumultuous mental health when I was young and how that paved the way for some to...
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Marley Rose-Teter @marleyroseteter.bsky.social · 29/09/2026
In honor of pub day and my not-so-secretly favorite character, Jeffrey the skeleton rabbit, some writer-friends (and one of their moms! and my lovely partner!) have blessed us all with these fabulous skelebuns! Art credit in alt-text + next post 🐇🦴❤️
Sketch of a rabbit hopping delightedly that says, “Oh, hurry! hurry! come quick!  The Bone Brides is here!” along with 5 skeleton rabbit illustrations in different styles.  Art by Paul Rose-Teter, TJ, Shannon English, Meg Gauck, CJ Subko, and Sasha Kielman.4 skeleton rabbit illustrations in different styles.  Art by Christina Ferko, Artemis Whelan, Jess Aragon, and Aowna.5 skeleton rabbit illustrations in different styles.  Art by Carmeline Melchior, Via Luino, M. Stevenson, Annika Barranti Klein, and Paul Rose-Teter.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 24/09/2026
: ) The gentlemen taking up the accessible spot for my wheelchair did not get up for several stops. Then they did get up! USING MY CHAIR TO SUPPORT THEMSELVES : ) @ttcriders.bsky.social
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Marley Rose-Teter @marleyroseteter.bsky.social · 24/09/2026
THE BONE BRIDES comes out NEXT TUESDAY (eep!), September 29th! Hayao Miyazaki meets Guillermo del Toro in this Sapphic YA portal fantasy in which a girl must save her changeling girlfriend from a terrifying faery realm. Pre-order links here: linktr.ee/marleyroseteter
Graphic that shows the dedication page of THE BONE BRIDES.  The dedication reads, "For the sad girls."  The graphic says, "This is the dedication for THE BONE BRIDES.  I see you.  You can be sad and still be loveable and loved."
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 23/09/2026
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Lucky to Love Them; September 23 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Reminder to all: I’m giving away copies of my memoir-in-poetry chapbook, You Will Be Happy One Day . I’m so excited to report that I’ve shipped off the advance copies to the LAMBDA awards, and we’r...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Poetry fans! Are you interested in receiving a free chapbook, in exchange for a review? The book is up for a LAMBDA award, and I'd love to get eyes on it before its release on October 30th! Check out my blog post for details: www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/9/16/chapbook-giveaway
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Chapbook Giveaway; September 16 2026 — The Irritable Queer
What if I told you I was up for a LAMBDA award ? What if I also told you it’s for a book of poetry that will be published October 30th?
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 17/09/2026
Thrilled to report that one of my short stories, 'Voices Carry', has been accepted by @flarelitmag.bsky.social and will be coming out during Invisible Disabilities Week (Oct 18th)!
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Poetry fans! Are you interested in receiving a free chapbook, in exchange for a review? The book is up for a LAMBDA award, and I'd love to get eyes on it before its release on October 30th! Check out my blog post for details: www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/9/16/chapbook-giveaway
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Chapbook Giveaway; September 16 2026 — The Irritable Queer
What if I told you I was up for a LAMBDA award ? What if I also told you it’s for a book of poetry that will be published October 30th?
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
A poem. 'Inked', by R. Haven.
Start with a feeling.
The one stamped into your heart.
The one that pulses,
Pumps,
Spreads through your veins.
The one you couldn’t bleed out
Even if you tried.
The one you’d bring to the surface
If only you could.
Let it bloom into color
It’s now an idea.
You take that concept,
Hold it in the palm of your hands,
Breathe droplets of ink
And now it’s a picture.
Stencil,
And shade,
Transfer it to a clean expanse
And press the rainbow into your skin.
Now it’s forever.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/9/9/chapbook-announcement Take a look at this week's blog post for a sneak peek at my poetry chapbook and info on its upcoming publication!
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Chapbook Announcement; September 9 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Yesterday was the first day of school! That goes for both me and my kid. We both had positive first days, though mine was less interesting, since it was mostly going over a class syllabus. I’ve been ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 07/09/2026
A poem. 'Throw it Down', by R. Haven.
I’m at the base of a mountain.
The Gods have roped my ankles together,
my palms cracked and dusty.
I carry useless weight hooked around my elbows.
There’s one jutting stone
generously provided by the deities at the top,
allowing me the chance to climb.
I’ll never join them, of course –
Godhood isn’t for people like me,
individuals with weak arms
and useless legs.
Fighting the poundage that’s slid to my wrists,
I strain for that first outcropping.
My fingernails scrape dirt from the stone
but cannot find purchase
before it’s crumbling away.
My own fault, of course,
the Gods say,
for grabbing at that rock in the first place.
Gravity’s grip on me wins out.
I have no further to fall,
yet I’m still dragged flat.
The Gods consider their ropes –
long enough to save me –
and use them to tie another’s ankles
the same way they bound mine.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 06/09/2026
A poem. 'Invasion of the Body Snatcher', by R. Haven.
Peel off your skin at the end of the day
Fold it up tidy and put it away
The rules of nature are ones to obey
Or else be the first one to die.
Wake with the dawn as it cracks through the grey
Spring from your bed excited to play
Choose which victim you’re going to flay
Like a perfume you plan to apply.
Now that you’re ready, clean off the blood spray
Find a spot on the bus to stand and sway
Pick up your morning coffee and pay
Blending as though you’re a regular guy.
When you get home, line up your array
Tell tomorrow’s face to prepare and pray
Mold a new body as though out of clay
Then climb into bed
and bid them goodbye.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 06/09/2026
I'm trying to sleep, in spite of my heart's screaming.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 06/09/2026
My books are about people, in all their diversity and complexity. They’re about the predatory nature of rich white cis men. They’re about the systems working exactly as intended, and that being why we need to take them down. They’re about the trauma of injustice.
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The Verge @theverge.com · 02/09/2026
As a new Harry Potter trailer makes the rounds, it bears repeating that there’s no way to watch this show without supporting J.K. Rowling’s bigotry and the structural violence she’s inflicting on the trans community.
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There is no ethical consumption of HBO’s Harry Potter series
You can’t without supporting Rowling’s transphobic bigotry.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 02/09/2026
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Wheelchair; September 2 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Hitting new stages of disability always comes with grief. I thought I was prepared for it – I’ve known for a long time now that people with my form of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome generally start needing wh...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 27/08/2026
I don't think I'm asking for much, here, but consider this my formal plea to the publishing industry: Don't dole out 8-figure deals until you start properly, fairly paying everyone else who's struggling in this business.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 26/08/2026
I'm just. Shocked, right now. First Dolly Parton, then Tim Curry. Both icons.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 25/08/2026
We should all aspire to be as good as Dolly was.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 19/08/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/8/19/buy-canadian
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Buy Canadian; August 19 2026 — The Irritable Queer
A big thanks to the Toronto Dark Arts Market for having me at the Beach Party Market this past Saturday! My next confirmed market is the Buy Canadian Book Market on November 1st; there are going t...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
Remember folks, the justice system is not broken; there is no system for justice ✨
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 12/08/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/8/12/quiet Check out my blog post about quiet storytelling, as well as where to find my books this weekend!
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Quiet; August 12 2026 — The Irritable Queer
I have thoughts about quiet storytelling, today. Oddly enough, this was sparked by a superhero movie. I went to see the latest Spiderman movie, Brand New Day, in spite of not having seen the previous...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
To those living in the GTA, Ontario: I'm going to be selling this novelette (and limited supply of my novel, The Other Face of Sympathy) at @torontodarkarts.bsky.social 's Beach Party Market on Aug 15th! If you can't make it, check out how to buy my works at www.theirritablequeer.com/reds-works!
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Red's Works — The Irritable Queer
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 10/08/2026
My novelette, AS THICK AS WATER, is available as of TODAY! Fae deals, vigilantism, sisterhood, and twisted elemental magic come together in this story about a girl who finds a new family at the cost of the one she came from. a.co/d/00s6gMVR
The cover for novelette 'As Thick as Water' by R. Haven (which features a girl sinking into rainbow water, with a faerie reaching towards her) on a backdrop of a waterfall. There are faerie silhouettes by text that reads 'Deals with Fae', 'Found Family', 'Sisterhood', 'Escaping abuse', 'Vigilantes', and 'Elemental magic (with a twist)'.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 05/08/2026
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Positive Place; August 5 2026 — The Irritable Queer
5 days until my novelette comes out! ‘As Thick as Water’ comes out on August 10th, and I couldn’t be more thrilled to finally share it with everyone! If it performs well enough, I’m considering rele...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 29/07/2026
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On Track and Behind; July 29 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Thanks so much to Forge Forward for hosting the Trans Survivor Zine Showcase yesterday – I had a great time listening and seeing some truly moving poetry/art. There’s also less than two weeks until ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 28/07/2026
Hey all - I'm going to be a presenter in tonight's Trans Survivor's Zine Showcase! It starts in about 3 hours (!) - 6:30 EST. I hope you'll come listen to some spectacular writers! forge-forward.org/event/zine-s...
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Zine Showcase: Celebrating trans and nonbinary artists and writers - FORGE
Art helps us to imagine the future. The Trans Survivors Zine uplifts art, poetry, and writing by trans and nonbinary community members, covering a range of topics – often with […]
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 22/07/2026
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Routine; July 22 2026 — The Irritable Queer
The Trans Survivors: Zine Showcase is next Tuesday – that’s July 28th! I hope you’ll come listen to some spectacular writers talk about their work! I will also be there. I’ve tentatively launched a...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 15/07/2026
Come join me at the Trans Survivors: Zine Showcase on July 28th! More info below: www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/7/15/little-books-and-zines
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Little Books and Zines; July 15 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Nothing has made me angrier today than being in the city with air quality ranked ‘worst in the world’, while people insist on using AI to save themselves the burden of independent thought. AI is dest...
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C.J. Subko @cjsubko.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
Get THE GHOST OF HIGHTOWER POND! A Gothic #horror #novella out October 13. Netgalley reviews so far: 3 x ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 1 x ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Goodreads: www.goodreads.com/book/show/25... Netgalley: www.netgalley.com/catalog/book... Amazon preorder: www.amazon.com/dp/B0H6PC6JJJ
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The Ghost of Hightower Pond: A novella
THE GHOST OF HIGHTOWER POND is a 40,000-word Gothic hor…
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 08/07/2026
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67 Pages; July 8 2026 — The Irritable Queer
You might have missed it, a couple days ago! I posted an early blog post about my novelette, As Thick As Water , which I’m self-publishing on August 10th! It’s about a girl making a deal with a fae...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
IF YOU LIKE… Deals struck with fae, friends finding their family in each other, and girls taking their agency back by force, you might like 'As Thick As Water: A Novelette'! www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-rambli...
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A Self-Pub Announcement; July 6 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Coming soon – As Thick As Water: A Novelette. Between my first book going down with the ship (or, publisher) and a significant date coming up one month from now, I’ve decided to venture into self-pub...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/7/1/alas-no-fireworks Happy Canada Day!
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Alas, No Fireworks; July 1 2026 — The Irritable Queer
It’s Canada Day! It’s also 35 degrees Celsius outside! I will not be going to any fireworks shows tonight! (Just as well, because the sound of fireworks freaks me out far more than it ever used to.) ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 24/06/2026
Wish me luck, y'all - the NYC Midnight 100 results for the second round come out TONIGHT! www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/6/24/one-hundred
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One Hundred; June 24 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Ended one class, began another! I finished off my class on Sexuality and Gender with a grade of 93% (it would’ve been higher, too, if not for that pesky assignment in which I had to troubleshoot my th...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 17/06/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/6/17/i-still-care
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I Still Care; June 17 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Working when you have ‘nothing to show for it’ is one of the worst types of employment under capitalism. At the end of a day, I may have a handful of words added to my total count, a scene written, a ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
Join me at Glad Day's book fair this Sunday! www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/6/10/high-hopes
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High Hopes; June 10 2026 — The Irritable Queer
So, good news? I thought I’d received the final shipment of The Other Face of Sympathy , but it turned out I still had 13 more books on the way. I now have 37 left in stock, which I’ll be selling at ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 09/06/2026
The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time remake is officially the only media I'm going to care about for the rest of my life okay thank you bye
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 03/06/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-rambli... Talking about the journey I went on with my book, The Other Face of Sympathy.
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The Life of a Book; June 3 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Glad Day’s next book fair takes place June 14th, and I’m going to be there selling my remaining stock! I only have 24(!) books left, in total. Once those are sold… That’s it. That’s all the books th...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 28/05/2026
PSA just because a guy is attractive does NOT give him the right to conspire with the government to cannibalize your legs, just because you happen to use a wheelchair?
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Rena @renathewriter.bsky.social · 28/05/2026
Check it out, my next book is in this campaign on Backerkit! www.backerkit.com/c/projects/s...
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Space Wizard Science Fantasy: Year 5, part 1!
It's Space Wizard's fifth anniversary, and we have some great titles for you! From reincarnated wizards to post-apocalyptic Florida, rocket racing, martial arts, space rabbits, and giant crabs, we've ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 27/05/2026
Come check out the Storycrafting Sessions: Disability in Writing panels this Saturday, hosted by @weeknightwriters.bsky.social! You can also learn more about where I'll be selling books here: www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/5/27/busy-busy-busy
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Busy, Busy, Busy; May 27 2026 — The Irritable Queer
A huge shout-out to everyone who came out to the Toronto Dark Arts Market on May 23rd, in spite of the all-day downpour! It literally rained all day but we still saw a pretty good turn-out, and I ...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
Played with Djarn's picrew maker to create some character images! picrew.me/en/image_mak... First up is Quinn Ambrose: make-up vlogger, university student, and new bride. She's losing time, feeling changes in her behaviour, and seeing ghosts...
A picrew of a conventionally attractive young white woman, with long blonde hair and blue-grey eyes. She's wearing a black and red plaid shirt and holding a phone. The background is that of the bisexual flag.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
Hey book world - here are some adult horror books I have on submission. Would you want to read 'em?
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 25/05/2026
Your kids don’t owe you anything. Not their love, not their respect. Earn those. You do owe your kids. You owe them your patience, your understanding, your attention, your effort. They deserve those.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 20/05/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/5/20/cosmic-punishment
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Cosmic Punishment; May 20 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Okay. We’re steering this ship towards a better, healthier outlook. My marks are high in classes so far – 91% and 93%! – and I’ve submitted all my work on time. Plus, I went on to the next round of th...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 13/05/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/5/13/could-use-good-news
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Could Use Good News; May 13 2026 — The Irritable Queer
School’s off to a strong start, I think. I’ve got a table at The Toronto Dark Arts Market this May 23rd, and it’s #WriterPit over on Instagram tomorrow, where I’ll be putting up fun (if poorly mad...
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 12/05/2026
I just assume that any pity marketing videos are AI nowadays.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 06/05/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/5/6/momo
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Momo; May 6 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Our household lost a precious member, and I’m still not really okay. My housemates’ cat, Momo (whose formal name was Moira) passed over the weekend.
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R. Haven @rhaven.bsky.social · 29/04/2026
www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-rambli... Check out this week's blog post for news about my May events!
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Links Galore; April 29 2026 — The Irritable Queer
Rent is due, and my GoFundMe has lost all steam, it seems. If you haven’t already, I implore you to spread the campaign around. I’ve been in touch repeatedly with the Ontario Disability Support Prog...
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Sophia Babai @swingingstorm.bsky.social · 27/04/2026
PSA: Hachette workers are currently leading the largest unionization campaign in publishing history and they're inviting all of us (readers, publishing professionals, anyone with a full name and an email address) to sign in support 💜 hachetteworkers.com/open-letter/
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Open Letter - Hachette Workers Coalition
To the management at Hachette Book Group, We are authors, publishing professionals, readers, and union supporters, and we are proud to express our full support for the Hachette Workers Coalition (HWC)...
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