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One thing I'll add- this is something cis people need to speak up about, including to other cis people. (Which is to say, Bouie is doing good work)

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 13h

Sometimes I feel embarrassed to admit to the toll I feel from having a government that uses slurs for me, as the cis folk around me don't even register it. I want to choke back that embarrassment. This shit matters, and is indeed an impeachable offense.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Portrait of a girl who should be allowed to not go back to work because I don't wanna ...

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Maya Deane (Wrath Goddess Sing) @mayadeane.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

many people are saying this

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

A rather typical dysphoria Bingo board. While filling it out, i kept thinking "well sure, but no more than everyone else...." Oh honey. Old habits die hard.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

Amen. I like my basic first name- I'm a basic girl. And I changed my last name to match my wife and daughter, which feels entirely right. But I tried to use my middle name to appease my mom, which didn't work, and I regret not taking the chance to get a little weird.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

As far as I can tell, he made videos left-ish people like and participated in left-ish fundraising. And after getting caught, he released an OK statement Treating that as remorse and repentance only makes sense if one has a very naive view of left-ish men and rape.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

Reading Cameron's Memory Alpha page just makes me grin like an idiot at random details. A trans girl standing in for Jeri Ryan! Playing Kira on a promotional tour! APPEARING as a Trill on posters for the Vegas ride!!!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

I'm not sure there was a particular episode where it clicked for me- perhaps Steven's Lion (s1e11) or Giant Woman (s1e13). It steadily improved in my estimation through the end of the first Season (s1e53). Dear god do I love that finale.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I feel somehow defensive of the size of my dick at my "begging doctors to banish my dick" appointment.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

It is not surprising that a number of super cool looking trans girls have passed through the Kaiser LA plastic surgery waiting room as I wait for my consult, but damn...

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Bottom surgery consult day! Or as I will likely come to call it "Drive for hours to have doctors tell me I can't get bottom surgery because BMI rules all" day!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

IT HAPPENED TO ME! *Actual shift caused by cat-obsessed daughter BUT THE TIMELINE IS UNDENIABLE!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

I'd be so into that. My voice ITSELF doesn't cause dysphoria but being lumped in with the men sure does.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

My wife's grandmother had the same response ten years ago to her visiting family. The ladies demand a certain level of expertise to take your money.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I more or less agree- but would note that in discussing trans bathroom bans the wrong is often an undercurrent of "your pure cis daughters and wives will be treated like....the trans!" that just really sucks to listen to. Sometimes useful tactics in a shitty world suck.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

My Nine Games that made me who I am chart says many things about me, but none louder than "I had a computer but not a video game system growing up." (M:TG is Shandalar, and Neverwinter Nights is specifically the A Dance With Rogues module)

Collage of: Microprose Magic, Baldur's Gate, Portal, Mass Effect 3, Neverwinter Nights, Dream Quest, SimLife, DC DualForce (SIIIIIGH), and Warcraft II: Tides of Darkness.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Similarly, traditional accounts of the AIDS epidemic that focus on the genocide against "gay and bi men" gnaw at my soul. Especially coming from genuinely decent people. Erasure within erasure within atrocity.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

This was my experience as well (though from a trans girl perspective). In a sense, I *did* get 'horny for gender. But what was missing was the pathway from those feelings to "Does that mean I'm not a cis man?" Instead it led to worries about being a CREEPY cis man.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

This is very good advice, with the caveat that not doing an emotional thing because you understand that it *does you absolutely no good* can be hard as fuck.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

The pairing of floppy haired Gambit and floppy haired Nightcrawler is pure delight.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I was feeling really smug about how well I had endured a morning of lip electrolysis....and then as I parked I realized my electrologist had gotten turned around and only done half my scheduled time. Oops.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

As a married late-transitioning trans lesbian, I did my part for bi visibility by making my wife's bisexuality VERY visible. Bisexuality is awesome.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Pioneering new horizons of fuck this guy.

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Stellbound: Stellraiser II @antlervel.vet · 22/09/2026

I always call it “gender-affirming misogyny”

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Heh, 'Mel Brooks thinks Yoda is Yiddish' is both genuinely charming, and lays such a clear path towards the racist weirdness of Jar-Jar and the Nemoidians (good god, the Nemoidians) in The Phantom Menace.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I'm in a kind of ambiguous semi-passing place where I can't tell if the understated reaction I get to telling basically-ok cis people I'm trans is "yeah, obviously" or "Wait, what? Be cool....be cool....treat this as not a big deal....".

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

Option C, so fucking confused. But also impressed? In a lot of ways, I have the life that 'he' didn't let himself even dream of. And not just the queer parts (though yeah, the queer parts- being a mom especially)- my being a TCG designer would blow his mind.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 16/09/2026

My wife received her new book in the mail yesterday (yay!), and the acknowledgements is the first time I'm being named and gendered as myself in a real-ass publication thing-y. It's pretty cool.

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Starfire’s Deranged Neocon Foreign Policy Podcast @irhottakes.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

1.) I strongly believe Dems should hold the line on trans rights 2.) I believe we should call out any of them who actually sell us out 3.) The fact Actual Literal Trans Woman Sarah McBride gets accused of plotting trans genocide daily makes the accusations people make on here lack credibility

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

For decades, folks response to this has been "maybe just make more of The Muppet Show?" And then last year they *did that* and it was good and it was popular, and we are still in the same damn place....

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 10/09/2026

Powerfully said. Yes, I still desperately want that man to win, and would vote for him if I lived in Texas. And that want- that logic that makes me yearn for a Senator who wishes harm on me and my people- is an ugly and awful thing.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 09/09/2026

That Angel somehow made this human being unappealing and dull is a crime against something or other.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

We've been reading the kid the Warrior Cats books at bedtime (for us olds, Redwallish but cats?), and she ripped the book out of my hand when she realized there was introductory reference material to pore over. Adult fandom can suck, but kid fandom is magic.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

I had an absolutely lovely weekend at the beach with my two favorite people in the world, and it really sucks that looking back on it I fixate on hating how I look. Fucking brain worms.

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caroline cash @cashbrowns.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

Nancy 9/7/26 … Happy Labor Day 🛠️

8 Hours for Work, 8 Hours for Rest, 8 Hours for What We Will. Based on a screenprint by Ricardo Levins Morales after the organizing work done by Robert Owen.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

Post a picture of you from another era. (Playing Cladwell in a college production of Urinetown- in retrospect the most fun I ever had embodying masculinity because if was draggy and camp as fuck)

A bunch of smiling college students celebrating a smug asshole in a suit with a cane.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 05/09/2026

After a very frustrating week, heading to the beach for the weekend to forget about the nonsense.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

I'd hurt a lot of good things about Adults as a hangout sitcom (absolutely my thing), and then episode 2 has straight up rape apologia as a B plot. Fuck off culture.

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DEAD TEENAGERS out now in paperback @judedoyle.bsky.social · 31/08/2026

If you are ever watching a movie and a male character looks sad, you can lean over to your viewing partner and quietly whisper "he's experiencing the male loneliness crisis." You can do this an infinite number of times, and also have it done to you, and it is always equally funny. Just so you know.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 31/08/2026

It's frustrating that two years into transition (and 40 years into living) I still have a lot of days where I feel like I *want* to be a woman rather than days of just being me. It is admittedly a comfort that there is never a day where I want to be a man. I mean, ew.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 31/08/2026

I started playing Zero Company, somehow my first big RPG-ish video game since transition, and it's a pretty delightful rush styling my avatar like me? Don't get me wrong, it's the same styling I've used for RPG protagonists for over a decade, but now IT MEEEEE!!!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 31/08/2026

I am not a good driver. My reflexes are garbage, and the kind of concentration driving requires lines up poorly with my skills. BUT I USE MY FUCKING TURN SIGNALS! I DON'T DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT THIS SPECIFIC TURN MERITS USING THEM, I JUST PRESS THE FUCKING BUTTON!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 30/08/2026

Congratulations! May your future months have many more tears, in the good way.

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

No, no, no, I'm just getting a variety of experience - so many games force you to be male. Ok, so I don't actually play those games ...

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

Good thread. RHPS I'm largely ambivalent on- Tim Curry is such a great and fully committed screen presence that it kind of cancels out the script in my brain? For me this work is Hedwig- a beloved text for so many queer people that twigs all my "Is this how the cis see us?" ick. I hate it!

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Reda 🏳️‍⚧️ @redakin.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

Jesus body, the decision to make today a combined migraine AND weirdly-intense-penis-dysphoria day was fucking rude.

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