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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

My grandmother passed away this morning at age 98(ish). Here’s a few initial thoughts I posted on Facebook because my uncle forced my hand, but it’s hard to describe the mix of grief, relief, and sadness I’m currently feeling as all I’ve ever known is being her carer/translator/home help.

Rammi, a person with bright pink wavy hair and a yellow jumper smiles towards the camera. On the right, her grandmother, Sirilarp Pourtham, an elderly woman with long, wispy white hair and a pink patterned top sits on a bed, smiling gently.

My grandmother, Sirilarp Pourtham, passed peacefully in her bed this morning at 98-100 years old (more on that later). Although she was never was able to learn English aside from a few short phrases, she still managed to raise me as a small child in London while my mother was working away.

As my uncle has decided to post on social media the second he found out from us to seem like an attentive son even though he hasn't actually been an active part of her life in decades, here are some jumbled messy thoughts that I hoped I would have more time to process, but it is what it is - putting them down here so I don't forget.

My grandmother was, as is everyone, a very complicated person. She was one of 12 siblings, and the final remaining one. Her official birthday was 18th November 1927, but she said her actual birthday was 13th November 1926. Her father in rural Lampang, Thailand was very late in registering her birth, and she procrastinated as an adult and never got it corrected because she didn't realise everything would become digital in the future. So, like the royal family, she maintained two birthdays throughout her life. This did make things slightly difficult in her old age when medical professionals would ask her to confirm her birthday and she would just give her real birthday to the confusion of everyone in the room.

Up until the last few months, she fed herself, dressed herself, and bathed every day with the help of her two dedicated carers. She kept the majority of her teeth and needed no medication. She was born with one kidney, survived TB in her 20s, and cervical cancer in her 80s.

My grandmother was mostly housebound save for a few trips out, but found joy in watching her Thai lakorns (soap operas), and was more up to date on Thai slang than I was!

She liked to watch the same episodes of the same lakorns over and over again, ate the same foods every day, and wore the same clothes over and over again because she was a bit funny with textures. In retrospect, I have several neurodivergent conditions and so does my mother, and it had to come from somewhere, so I suspect she probably was autistic too...

It's probably no surprise, given all of this, to learn that she hated anything remotely medical (one time I had to trick her into going to the dentist by telling her she was going to go to the hairdresser), was extremely stubborn, and held grudges a mile wide.

She remained lucid and kept her memories until the end. If she liked you, she would call you over to tell you about something she held against someone from 1970, for example, and when she learned her her ex-husband died in 2020 - they divorced in literally 1960 - she told me that he had died first because of all the bad karma he had done to her during their marriage. She didn't appreciate me telling her that it had nothing to do with karma because they were both in their 90s.

I half think spite was keeping her alive for so long, and I know how lucky I am to have had her for as long as I did. Well, grandma, you did it. All your enemies are dead now so it's time for you to go in peace. I promise I'll look after mum and everything will be okay for us.

[Imagine I'm saying all this in Thai as of course, she never spoke English and my Thai writing skills suck]

My uncle Pan, her favourite son, died earlier this year which we weren't able to tell her given her frailty, but a couple of days ago she was saying she was dreaming of him, so I like to think he was welcoming her home.

I don't have many photos of her in recent years as she hated getting her picture taken but here's a selfie we took together last year.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Sleepy kitten video for the horrors

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

The mother cat is done with co-sleeping with her kittens outside of milk time

Two cat baskets, one filled with five mostly void kittens, the other with a white and tabby fluffy mama cat

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

The ginger kitten has found a permanent home and he’ll be going there in a few weeks but he’s currently trying to lick any new kitten smell off me

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

Guess who’s now fostering this mama cat and her five kittens? Once again, name suggestions gratefully accepted

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 12/09/2026

Important life update: went to the goose honking competition today

Rammi with lace safety vest and pink megaphone holding up sign saying HONK

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/08/2026

Finally… But it’s not over just yet, I’ve still got the citizenship ceremony itself to have to attend 🫠

an official letter from Hackney Council congratulating me on my successful British citizenship application, stating that they have received my naturalisation certificate from the Home Office and reminding me to book my citizenship ceremony before the certificate expires on 24 November 2026.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 24/08/2026

Is it just me or is he getting ROUNDER

An orange tabby cat lying on a wooden floor, playing with a small blue and white toy fish

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

Speaking of TikTok, I found this song on there I really like but the song lyrics being listed like this and in the captions really makes my eye twitch

“and when the parties done and you’ve all had your fun you’ll hate that I stayed all night, lets not lie…”

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

I have solid proof I was one of these people… Here’s a 2011 Bournemouth front row potato phone video that has surprisingly held up pretty well over the years - think I won a contest or some shit at this show too so got to meet him and his support act who I also loved, CocknBullKid, before the show

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

A hard day’s work at the bakery (he had his first vet visit yesterday)

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 15/08/2026

Work had a hoarding/out of control cat colony situation so I’ve now agreed to foster this smol boi for a bit (at least until he’s neutered)… Name suggestions? My friends are saying Charlie Bucket because he has the same face but he doesn’t have a vet visit until Monday so nothing is fixed yet

a small orange kitten resting on a vibrant, multi-coloured rainbow geometric pattern dress.

Charlie Bucket from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory in a red turtleneck looking intently through a shop window filled with various glass jars of candy.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 03/08/2026

Thank you again to @gimpy.bsky.social and @dopaminedeficit.bsky.social for helping me make a payment towards the vet bills so I could concentrate on saying goodbye to him 🥺 I couldn’t bring myself to send his toys but he was sent off with his favourite blanket in the end

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 03/08/2026

Oswin’s home 💔 The urn is a photo frame and has space for a photo and his collar… He was a chonk to the end as this weighs significantly more than the Katharine cat’s ashes did

Photo frame pet urn for my cat Oswin, still wrapped in bubble wrap, accompanied by a sympathy card, a card with a single rose illustration reading "With Deepest Sympathy", and a small packet of forget-me-not seeds with a note about remembering a dear friend and companion.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 30/07/2026

10/10 building works notification from this dentist, no notes

a dental clinic sign for "Montrose Smile Studio" and a black banner underneath reading "PLEASE BEAR WITH US AS WE HAVE OUR CAVITIES FILLED" alongside a cartoon tooth with a bandage.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 28/07/2026

This was one of the items the lovely @neilesque.com brought over from the US for me a few months back that I never got around to posting for some reason (I figured we all need a break from me being sad on main)

Rammi with pink and purple hair, light-coloured cat-eye glasses, and bright pink lipstick, wearing a blue sleeveless top with gathered fabric and smocking detail around the neckline

Eleanor Shellstrop from The Good Place, played by Kristen Bell, wearing an identical blue sleeveless top with smocked neckline detail

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 26/07/2026

Please take more videos of your pets when you get the chance because sometimes it’ll be the only thing you have left

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/07/2026

Oswin was also the only one of my cats who ever knew how to play fetch 🥺

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/07/2026

I can’t express how much time he spent just making biscuits on me and purring and just generally being a nuisance in my online meetings (already dreading the “where is your cat?” questions on Monday because every time I’d be working from home I’d likely be fighting his tail for camera space)

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/07/2026

Unfortunately, I have nothing valuable to sell apart from my Eleanor Shellstrop clothing collection so I don’t think I’d be comfortable posting links outright but pet death is so expensive 😢 (these are taxis to and from the hospital, initial vet deposit plus the attended cremation cost)

A transaction history list for Thursday 23rd July showing four pending payments: £20.00 to CRVZETTLEALL TIME TA in London, £290.00 to CRVTHE RALPH VETERINA in London, £15.00 to CRVSUMUP U WANT TAXI in London, and an earlier transaction from Wednesday 22nd July of £18.00 to CRVZETTLE*UPHORIA EXE in London.

A pending bank transaction detail card dated Thursday, 23 Jul 2026, showing a payment of £460.00 to CURVE (VETSPEED LTD THRIP) accompanied by a pending clock icon.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/07/2026

All of this from the first vet and we still weren’t able to save Oswin the cat 🥺 (removed my address for obvious reasons but that’s it)… Also still have about £2k outstanding from the emergency vet 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

He was the perfect cat 😭 Purred pretty much in seconds of petting him, played fetch, left me his favourite toys as business cards whenever I went out, and was fine up until yesterday 😢 Why must my cats leave me in such dramatic ways?

Tabby cat with white socks and a rainbow bow

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

Ultrasound is inconclusive - I don’t know how much it’s cost me in vet bills so far but I suspect sadly the kindest thing for him right now is to let him go although it breaks my heart

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 14/07/2026

Update: checked with my manager, she said no to me Binfacing 😭

Rammi, 9.23am: random question... we're politically restricted, right? I have a random urge to go canvassing for Count Binface but I suspect I'm not allowed to 😂
Manager, 9.24am: yes we are politically restricted haha
Rammi, 9.24am: booooooooooooo

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 28/06/2026

Anyway, finally I have new glasses (that look a lot like my old ones)! The frames are free this time because the makers got a new fancy machine but the lenses cost £600 because they’re 1.74 transition lenses so I won’t have to switch glasses but also, ouch 😭

Rammi with pink-dyed hair. She is wearing large, cat-eye-shaped glasses with a translucent, multicoloured dyed frame.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/06/2026

Why, yes, Oswin, at 2am when the room is 29°C is exactly the moment I want a 7.3kg furry scarf

Oswin, a brown tabby cat in sharp focus in the foreground, with a partial view of Rammi, a woman with pink hair and glasses, looking very unamused

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 18/06/2026

From the archives (as in, already documented on the original Twitter thread at the time I got it but not here yet) - sadly not 100% identical due to mine being cut at a different point in the fabric but I guess it means every one of these is unique?

Rammi wearing a fitted, short-sleeved top with a multicoloured geometric and bohemian-inspired print featuring navy, deep red, and cream panels. The top has a unique neckline with a horizontal strap across the chest and cut-out details near the shoulders.

Eleanor Shellstrop, played by Kristen Bell, wearing an identical fitted, short-sleeved top featuring the same multicoloured geometric and bohemian-inspired print in navy, deep red, and cream panels, complete with the distinctive horizontal strap neckline and shoulder cut-outs.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 18/06/2026

Postscript: the final ever Lizzie Bennet item from the bonus episodes (soz for the sweaty face, it’s been hot out)

Rammi, a woman with pink and dark purple hair, smiling broadly at the camera. She is wearing a sleeveless white blouse with a high ruffled neckline and buttons. The blouse features an all-over black pattern that resembles ink blots, with thick central lines and shorter side fronds. She is wearing light tortoiseshell cat-eye glasses, vibrant pink-purple lipstick, and pink blush.

Lizzie Bennet played by Ashley Clements, a woman with reddish-brown, shoulder-length hair and light-coloured eyes, smiling warmly. She wears the exact same sleeveless white blouse as Rammi, with a high ruffled neckline and buttons, featuring the identical black ink blot pattern with central lines and fronds.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 13/05/2026

After finding /the/ key necklace, I’m finally happy with where I got to with the Lizzie Bennet clothes sidequest, even if one of my items didn’t end up shipping. (@ashleyclements.bsky.social, thanks for the unintentional 14 year old clothing hunt)

Rammi, a person with vibrant pink and purple ombre hair and cat-eye glasses, smiling at the camera. She is wearing a green button-up blouse featuring a white pattern of people riding penny-farthing bicycles. The blouse has a black trim along the button line and a silver key necklace hanging over it.

A still from The Lizzie Bennet Diaries featuring Lizzie Bennet (played by Ashley Clements). She has long auburn hair and is looking off to the side. She is wearing an identical green button-up blouse, featuring the same white penny-farthing bicycle pattern, black trim, and silver key necklace.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 09/05/2026

And home at last! Look at that swing…

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 08/05/2026

It’s been a very long day.

Rammi, a person with vibrant wavy hair that transitions from bright pink at the roots to deep purple at the ends in image.png. She has a neutral expression and is wearing a charcoal grey T-shirt with the word "Hackney" printed in white on the chest.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 04/05/2026

Accidentally ended up in this dress for 20-something hours responding to an emergency at work so can confirm it’s a surprisingly comfortable Eleanor item to be stuck in

Rammi, a South East Asian woman with vibrant pink hair, wearing a bright red sleeveless dress featuring a distinct, structured V-neckline and a flared skirt.

Eleanor Shellstrop (played by Kristen Bell) from The Good Place, standing in a dimly lit bar while looking at her mobile phone. She is wearing the identical sleeveless red fit-and-flare dress

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 01/05/2026

I learned today my dog Honey is very clever but also a massive dick - she escaped the dog walker (who’s been walking her for MONTHS without incident) at the park 20 mins away today, crossed multiple main roads on her own and walked/ran herself home while everyone was freaking the fuck out 😤

A small, brown scruffy dog wearing a pink and white coat, looking up expectantly towards the camera while sitting on a light wooden floor.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 30/04/2026

I GOT THE FIGHT SCENE JUMPER AT LAST (I’ve been looking for it for YEARS)

Rammi with bright pink hair that fades into a lighter peach tone at the ends wearing cat-eye glasses, purple lipstick and a white long-sleeved jumper featuring horizontal stripes across the chest and arms in purple, red, pink, yellow, blue, red and dark blue.

Eleanor Shellstrop (played by Kristen Bell) from The Good Place. She is wearing the exact same cream jumper with horizontal purple, orange, pink, yellow, and blue stripes as seen in the previous image of Rammi.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 29/04/2026

Rent tribunal application submitted (two days before my terrible landlord’s proposed rent increase) 🎉 Screw “market value” when the property hasn’t been updated in approx 15 years

Apply for a market rent determination: Thank you for your submission to ‘Apply for a market rent determination’. The information you provided is shown below.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 27/04/2026

I’ll watch it at some point, but Nicola Coughlan’s trousers seem to be £700+ and by Stella McCartney in case no one was asking www.harveynichols.com/stella-mccar...

Nicola Coughlan wearing an off-the-shoulder, reddish brown corset-style top with a ruffled neckline with high-waisted, wide-leg trousers in a taupe grey colour featuring a pinstripe pattern and deep pleats at the waist

A studio product shot of the same high-waisted, wide-leg trousers seen in the first image. The trousers are a taupe grey fabric with pinstripes

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 27/04/2026

You don’t want to know just how many almost identical white tops I scrolled through while trying to find this one

Rammi wearing a cream-coloured sleeveless top with a round neckline and ladder-stitch detail around the collar. It also has scalloped, eyelet lace trim for cap sleeves.

Eleanor Shellstrop from The Good Place, wearing the identical cream-coloured top seen in the previous image. The top shows the same ladder-stitch neckline and scalloped lace trim at the shoulders.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 27/04/2026

Remember me spending weeks trying to find one specific denim shirt a couple of months ago? I obvs have different lighting but how confident should I be that I found /the/ shirt? bsky.app/profile/ramm...

Rammi with cat-eye glasses, a gold floral pendant necklace, and shoulder-length hair with vibrant pink-to-orange ombré tones wearing a denim shirt with a collar, white buttons down the front, and a single breast pocket on the left side. The sleeves are rolled up to the elbows.

Eleanor Shellstrop from The Good Place, wearing the same light-wash blue denim button-up shirt as Rammi. The shirt has a soft, faded texture with white buttons and a visible pocket on the left breast.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 25/04/2026

While I will wear all the Eleanor items I possibly can, I draw the line at wearing outside shoes indoors

Rammi with pink hair and cat-eye glasses wearing a white short-sleeved t-shirt with horizontal navy blue stripes. The top features a wide, rounded scoop neckline and matching navy blue ribbing around the neck and sleeve cuffs.

Eleanor Shellstrop (played by Kristen Bell) from the TV show The Good Place. She is sitting cross-legged on a cream-coloured sofa, looking at a stack of white papers in her hands. She wears the same white and navy blue striped scoop-neck t-shirt as seen in the first image, paired with dark blue jeans and white lace-up trainers.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 24/04/2026

This is technically a half Lizzie item (same fabric pattern, different style) but I’m still calling it a win as even Ashley Clements, the actor/usual clothes owner, didn’t know where this was from… It’s gonna bug me forever they’re not identical, though

Rammi with pink wavy hair and a gold necklace wearing a navy blue sleeveless top. The fabric features a small white polka-dot pattern overlaid with large, stylised floral motifs in yellow, pink, and grey. The top has a row of small, round brass-coloured buttons running down the centre of the chest.

Lizzie Bennet from The Lizzie Bennet Diaries, played by Ashley Clements. She is wearing a sleeveless dress made from the same identical fabric as the top in the previous image: a navy blue base with white polka dots and large yellow and pink floral patterns.

A view from the back of the dress worn by Lizzie Bennet in the previous image, highlighting that the fabric is identical to Rammi's top. The dress features a wide, horizontal-striped waistband in beige and black that cinches at the waist, showing the continuation of the polka-dot and floral pattern across the skirt.

A snippet of black text on a white background that reads: "It was provided by stylist Kristy Benjamin, who loaned us several things for that round of shooting. My outfits in eps 36, 37, 39 and 42 all came from her." The name Kristy Benjamin is underlined.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 23/04/2026

In the mood to try all my new Lizzie items before I even touch the Eleanor Shellstrop collection again so here’s another tunic, predictably originally from Anthropologie (I’m surprised they never sponsored her during the show’s run)

Rammi wearing a dark navy blue, long-sleeved tunic shirt. The shirt features vertical pleating down the front of the chest and a contrasting light blue lining lined with dark buttons. Below the bust, the fabric is gathered, giving it a flared, smock-like fit. She has wavy hair that transitions from bright pink at the roots to a strawberry blonde at the ends.

Lizzie Bennet from the Lizzie Bennet Diaries, played by Ashley Clements. She wearing the exact same dark navy blue tunic shirt with vertical pleating and a contrasting light-coloured inner lining.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 22/04/2026

won’t ever regret spring loaded glitterbombing the shit out of him when we were on slightly better terms but no one has deserved it more from me (this was his reaction)

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

☠️ The bar in political music is already very low

We’ll Be the Change That Works for You - Single, The LD Community Choir, 12 March 2010

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

So the lovely @neilesque.com picked up my items for me from New York which I’m gonna hyperfixate on for days now, so first up is this outfit from my Lizzie Bennet sidequest! (Got impatient and bought the dress ages ago but this shrug was only available on Poshmark)

Rammi wearing a cream-coloured dress with a bold, abstract floral print in black and navy blue. Over the dress, she wears a dark navy blue cropped cardigan featuring a thick ribbed shawl collar and a chunky cable-knit pattern on the sleeves. Rammi has vibrant pink hair, translucent cat-eye glasses, and purple lipstick.

Lizzie Bennet from The Lizzie Bennet Diaries. She is wearing the identical outfit seen in the previous image: a cream dress with a black and navy blue graphic floral pattern, layered under a dark navy cable-knit cardigan with a ribbed shawl collar.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

I will admit that these bags seem pretty sturdy and like they will hold loads but I am Part of the Problem™ now so pls share with me your favourite patches from indie artists etc so I can cover up the logo on at least one side

Rammi with bright pink hair and cat-eye glasses wearing a colourful patterned shirt and carrying a Trader Joe's tote bag. She is standing in a sunlit room next to a window.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

£1735 citizenship fee paid 🫣 Having to declare every single trip I’ve taken in the last few years according to the Subject Access Request was super embarrassing though (I got a Schengen visa and used it for A LOT of European mini breaks)

A table listing various travel entries ranging from late 2022 to late 2024. The columns, though show the destination country, reason for tracel, start date, end date, and the number of days.
The entries include:
• Ireland: Sept 2024 (1 day)
• Thailand: Aug–Sept 2024 (18 days, also noting Qatar and Philippines)
• Germany: June 2024 (1 day)
• Switzerland: May 2024 (1 day)
• Netherlands: April–May 2024 (10 days, also noting Italy)
• France: March–April 2024 (3 days)
• Finland: March 2024 (1 day)
• Germany: Feb 2024 (1 day)
• France: Feb 2024 (1 day)
• Albania: Jan 2024 (6 days)
• Qatar: Oct 2023 (13 days)
• Thailand: Nov–Dec 2022 (32 days)

A continuation of a travel log table containing three entries for 2024 and 2025. All trips are listed for the purpose of tourism.
The entries are:
• Germany: 12 April 2025 to 15 April 2025 (2 days)
• France: 29 March 2025 to 2 April 2025 (3 days)
• France: 29 November 2024 to 2 December 2024 (2 days)

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

Oh my god I just found an even more beautiful screenshot about my landlord not protecting my deposit

A screenshot of a WhatsApp conversation from 10 March 2021 regarding a tenancy deposit.
The first message, sent by Rammi, the tenant, asks: "Is there deposit protection scheme paperwork we still need to sign?"
The landlord replies: "I am sorry, haven’t looked into that :(" followed by "I first would like to send the gas & electricity certificate to you".
Rammi, the tenant, responds with a link preview to mydeposits.co.uk and says: "I think the main two are [links to mydeposits and depositprotection.com]. I had to sign a form with my last tenancy confirming it was in one of these schemes so that's why I asked".

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 27/03/2026

The hole has been temporarily filled at last! Why she couldn’t have gotten someone to do this six months ago without threat of council action beats me, but apparently she’s told them someone is due to come next MONTH to do it properly 🙄

A bathroom floor with a temporary fix. A section of missing tiling has been filled in with a patch of dark grey cement, which sits slightly lower than the level of the white ceramic tiles around it.

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Rammi @rammi.bsky.social · 27/03/2026

shit, this is starting to do minor numbers on insta, most of them non-followers/people who don’t already know how weird I am 🫣

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