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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

spot.fund/kpwldg7sb It's that time of year. My VPN keeps me sane, safe, and my brain stimulated while I travel the globe via my Chromebook in my nursing home room. My phone service keeps me connected. And having a Dashpass helps keep me fed healthily since nursing home food is pretty terrible.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 21/08/2025

The MAGA trolls on Threads are getting very aggressive and following Felon47's example of incorporating personal attacks. I was called "a wrinkled old prune with dementia" by an alleged female MAGAt whose profile pic was indicative of someone who's a hard drinker and heavy smoker. Bish, please.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 15/08/2025

I lost my dad when I was twenty. I can't begin to imagine losing my mom that young. Also, you're very kind.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 13/08/2025

Mama died fourteen years ago today. All shades of green were her favorites. She was my best friend, my best teacher, and probably the best human I will ever know. She believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. The eleven years I cared for her were the hardest and most fulfilling of my life.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 10/08/2025

Proof of Life, August 10, 2025. Makeup matching the scarf on a day when I feel meh.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 09/08/2025

Full moon night shimmer for Proof of Life.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 08/08/2025

I had a Chessie who never let me get a photo. This was before smartphones or digital cameras. I wish I had a photo of her as she was beautiful.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

It is part of life with PCNs. It's pretty terrifying to think that every eight weeks I have a surgical procedure done on both kidneys. But as long as I'm not on dialysis, I'm a happy camper.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 05/08/2025

Proof of Life, August 5, 2025. I found my owl hat!

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 05/08/2025

Hydrating as fast as I can to help my kidneys recover from the bilateral PCN exchange yesterday. Woke up 2:15 AM in pain. Pain meds finally kicking in at nearly 4 AM. They had to dig a new channel in my left kidney because the tube was halfway out which explains the pain I had before the exchange.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 03/08/2025

Proof of Life, August 3, 2025. The eyebrows should be black and much thinner. Ah well. At least I am trainable.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 02/08/2025

Okay. My silly Proof of Life photo for today.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 01/08/2025

Well, by some algorithmic miracle, Threads has allowed me to return with full privileges. I'm still pissed off, but my followers seem to be happy and I am happy to be able to keep in touch with my people more easily. I will check in here for news and commentary, of course.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

The linktree link works on my laptop, just not on my phone. Hmm...

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

Congratulations! That is an amazing achievement. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

My parents grew up with radio. My mom's dad could whistle operas. Mama knew the lyrics to all the songs the big bands played and Daddy knew all the trombone parts. They met when he conducted the opera orchestra at their college. All four of their kids are musical. It's in our DNA.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

Catching up on BBC Proms today because my heart needs healing. I'm so grateful I had a dad who loved all kinds of music and who didn't mind if I hung out in his study while he worked and listened to Classical and Jazz and '50s/'60s Folk. Little did I know back then that he had conducted in college.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

Yeah. It's on my profile page on IG and on FB. It's an issue. That and I have just over 1/10th followers that I had on Threads. I also miss editing.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

Sharing my Linktree again because my drinks are low. Doordash eCards are always appreciated via Gmail. I've just over $2 in Doordash credits and the same in my bank account. Nothing in other accounts. Anyhow linktree.ee/valeebo Doordash can get groceries not just meals. Share at will. Thanks.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

I tried. Didn't work. I only have one phone number.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

I hate Meta. I miss my Threads friends so much.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

hours of peace tomorrow as my roommate is going out for a procedure. I found out yesterday that she's DNR. I am not as yet, but I will be in a year or so. I really don't want to end up like some people who have no idea what's going on and no one who cares about them. I miss my people.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

#nursinghomelife Today could be worse. I had enough Doordash $ to get coffee and an English muffin this morning and hot food last night. My sluggish PCN drainage is no longer sluggish. I'm down to two or three pain meds a day which is great since I can get six on bad days. I will have a couple of

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

Proof of Life. If that horrid woman gets a Federal pardon, I sure hope NY, at the very least, immediately arrests her before she escapes the country and charges her. No bail.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

So glad I got bagels when I got water. They will sustain me today. Thanks to Angels I was able to get a real meal yesterday. If I can find my bowl, I'll have soup today. I prefer having one hot meal a day if I can. It's nurturing. Meals are rarely hot in LTC facilities.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

Right side flushed and there was a smidge of pain near the end of the second saline syringe which means there was potential blockage trying to happen. Today I must try to drink two liters of water and added cranberry juice and a couple of carbonated drinks.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

Same. I find both shows very healing and anytime I can observe people creating I try to. What I miss most about working in theatre and with musicians is the collaboration. Creative people are my kind of folks.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

because my output has increased already on that side. Now for the right side...

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

I awoke early as usual to deal with my PCN pouches and even though I hydrated well before I went to sleep and throughout the night, my output was much lower than I expected. This is not good. I flushed my left tube twice and the second time there was pain from a blockage. It seems to have helped

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 30/07/2025

Who watches The Great British Sewing Bee? It's my favorite gentle yet creative competition series tied with The Great Pottery Throwdown. Last night the episode paid homage to Vivienne Westwood and Versace. The winning garment needs to be copied endlessly for Pride and by drag artists.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

I didn't have a VPN when Babylon Berlin first came out in 2017, so having discovered a source for it, it will be occupying my time the next several days. I don't speak or understand German, so the large captions are very helpful.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

long-term care environment. People who cope the most successfully have loved ones. Here, and in every facility I've been in, I can't even get reliable meals that won't make me sick. And with my sight deteriorating too? I'd prefer to just stop.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

eejits in the current administration pulling funds for medical research, I will enter into hospice until my body stops. I have faced all my medical challenges alone, even while Mama was alive during the cancer horrors, but I know myself well enough to accept I can't cope with dialysis in a

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

option. The best nurse I ever had and I had a couple of serious conversations about how I would cope with dialysis and after thinking about that eventuality for more than a year I've concluded that unless something miraculous has happened that can fix me which is less possible now thanks to the

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

The worst thing about the last week before my bilateral PCN exchange is that I feel unwell much of the time. It's a general feeling of malaise with a bit of nausea thrown in for added ick. Most people with PCNs have them temporarily. Mine are part of me until my kidneys quit and dialysis is my only

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

A Thriend challenged people to post their first Facebook profile photo and their most recent one. The first was taken by a former colleague by the Mississippi River in downtown Memphis when Mama was still alive in 2008/9ish. The red lippy one is from my recent birthday posts.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

I hate whinging. I tolerate it better from other people than I do from myself.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

The supper I was just offered was ham and cheese wrap (Yay! A cured meat!) and orange juice. I've had OJ once in the last year and not only did it screw with my potassium levels, it made me very sick to my stomach. It's not that hard, y'all. It really is not. Lunch was beans, breakfast eggs. Gah.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

No edible meals today. The dependence on fish and red sauce and cured meats and potatoes and canned veg-all in for-profit LTC facilities make surviving as a CKD patient with fish and other food allergies very tricky.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

Ew. Daddy issues galore, eh?

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

I had a fierce lady pediatrician as a child. She had many conversations with my mom as they tried to figure out my obesity issues. We were so connected that when she died when I was in my 30s living in Mississippi that I went to the obits in our local NC paper and found hers. You are like her.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 28/07/2025

I just discovered a show about Belgian firefighters called Under Fire. As one obsessed with shows featuring firefighters, this is the perfect show to watch in the wee hours while I am in vampire mode.

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Virginia Lee @qgoobv.bsky.social · 27/07/2025

I was an extra on his direct to video movie, Collision Course in the late '80s. I worked many days and he was rude the entire time. And a grandstander. I felt bad for Pat Morita who was such a great actor having to work with a buffoon like Leno.

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