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Phil Stark

@pbstarkok.bsky.social
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Therapist, Author, Screenwriter, Dad www.starktalktherapy.com linktr.ee/philstark

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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 25/09/2026
Are you a fan of #thesopranos ? Maybe you should take a look at this therapy session I had with Vito Spatafore -- turns out Tony wasn't the only gangster seeing a therapist! thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/vito-spata...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
Check out my latest article at @psychtoday.bsky.social - it's about relationships, and how to support an upset partner #talktherapy #relationships #tacos Playing Catch: How to Support an Upset Partner | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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Playing Catch: How to Support an Upset Partner
When our partner is upset, we often take it personally, which makes sense in the moment but can often make things worse.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
I had a #therapy session recently with a client who turned out to not be such a monster after all #frankenstein #mentalhealth #parenting thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/adam-frank...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 23/08/2026
TANGIER 2027 www.wsj.com/lifestyle/tr...
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How I Got Hooked on Chasing Solar Eclipses
Traveling the globe for celestial events may seem downright loony—until you get a taste of the addictive world of ‘eclipse chasing’
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 19/08/2026
Our latest is up at @psychologytoday.com How to Break Out of Old Patterns | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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How to Break Out of Old Patterns
In therapy we first learn to identify the areas of our lives we'd like to change, but then comes the hard part: making that change happen.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 16/08/2026
I see this often in my therapy practice. We start out wanting our parents to change, but eventually realize it is up to us to change. Friends Wanted Me to Cut Off My Father. They Were Wrong. www.nytimes.com/2026/08/16/o...
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Opinion | Friends Wanted Me to Cut Off My Father. They Were Wrong.
Many queer people are going no contact — cutting off their families for myriad reasons. It’s not always the right answer.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 07/08/2026
a very interesting #therapy session I had with Travis Bickle where I was indeed talking to him #taxidriver #SSRIs thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/travis-bic...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
If you're a fan of The Godfather, you'll want to check out this couples therapy session with Michael and Kay Corleone -- #couplestherapy #godfather #cannoli thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/michael-an...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 20/07/2026
Are you a fan of #TheWire? Check out this #couplestherapy session I had with #StringerBelland #AvonBarksdale -- that's right, couples therapy is not just for romantic couples - it's also for work couples! thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/avon-barks...
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Avon Barksdale and Stringer Bell
Intake Information: Clients are 33 year old men who are business partners, and have reached out for couples therapy to help resolve issues regarding their work, identifying a difference of opinion abo...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
Happy to share my latest @psychologytoday.com article — it’s about relationships, and how we measure the pain of being in or not in them #relationships #scales #tacos www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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The Scale of Relationship Pain
Couples who seek therapy for help dealing with conflict in their relationships often measure the pain of being in the relationship versus the pain of not.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 10/07/2026
The good news keeps coming! Just found out @barnesandnoble.com will be carrying copies of Dude, Where’s My Car-tharsis? and The Characters On My Couch. 700 locations in all 50 states, so available at a mall near you! #bookstores #books #tacos www.barnesandnoble.com/search?q=Phi...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 09/07/2026
BIG NEWS! Two of my books are now carried by two legendary indie bookstores here in LA - @skylightbooks.bsky.social and @booksoupofficial.bsky.social - so you can now see a copy of Dude, Where’s My Car-tharsis? or The Characters On My Couch on the shelf that I didn’t put there!
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 26/06/2026
This new @netflix project reuniting @milliebbrown and @DavidKHarbour made me want to revisit the therapy session I had with #jimhopper back in the @Stranger_Things days thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/jim-hopper
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 18/06/2026
Happy Anniversary to me rooting for the USA at my neighborhood pub during the World Cup and being misattributed by @npr.org - with a wonderful correction, thought they handled it well www.npr.org/2014/06/27/3...
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A Comedian Walks Into A Bar ... And Gets Misattributed
In a recent piece on the World Cup, Phil Stark was incorrectly identified as a "wannabe comedian." It turns out that he is actually a professional comedian — and he has a joke to prove it.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 15/06/2026
With the new season of #thebear starting on June 25, I wanted to share this therapy session I had with the main character, Carmen "Carmy" Berzatto #therapy #thebear #TCOMC thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/carmen-ber...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 01/06/2026
Here's our latest @psychologytoday.com article, about how the #therapist also functions as a #mirror in the #therapy experience The Therapist as Mirror | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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The Therapist as Mirror
Personal Perspective: Part of a therapist's job is not to interpret what the client says, but to simply reflect it back, so the client can do the interpreting.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 30/05/2026
Check out this excerpt from my latest book - a therapy session I had with Cersei Lannister from #gameofthrones - at Script Magazine @scriptmagazine.bsky.social scriptmag.com/the-characte...
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The Characters On My Couch
The Characters On My Couch takes you behind the closed door of a therapist’s office for a collection of therapy sessions with pop culture’s most famously troubled figures.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 26/05/2026
Just had a therapy session with a client who's a high school chemistry teacher going through a tough time... #therapy #breakingbad #walterwhite thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/walter-white
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 19/05/2026
I recently had an interesting couples therapy session with a lady and this fellow... #thebradybunch #bradybunch #couplestherapy thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/mike-and-c...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 14/05/2026
I can safely say I've never had a therapy session end like this one did. #kendallroy #succession #therapy #tacos thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/kendall-roy
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 11/05/2026
I recently had a therapy session with a couple of dudes who I hadn't spoken with in a long time... #Dudewheresmycar #DWMC #therapy #shibby #tacos thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/jesse-mont...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 08/05/2026
This was my first therapy session with a queen, but hopefully it won't be the last. #gameofthrones #cerseilannister #therapy #Tacos thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/cersei-lan...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 06/05/2026
I had a group therapy session yesterday with a super group of heroes #avengers #therapy #tacos thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/the-avenge...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 04/05/2026
Just had a therapy session with a new client, who turned out to not be such a bad guy after all. thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/darth-vader
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 02/05/2026
If you're curious about what Don Draper would be like in therapy, you're in luck, he's actually a new client of mine! thecharactersonmycouch.substack.com/p/don-draper
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 31/03/2026
just seeing now that an article I wrote for #THR last year was picked up by @people.com magazine -- consider that life goal box checked! people.com/dude-wheres-...
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'Dude, Where's My Car?' Screenwriter Calls His Vision for the Film 'Marx Brothers, Through the Filter of Cheech and Chong'
Dude, Where's My Car? was a comedic hit in 2000 and has become classic in the years since. Just ahead of the film's 25th anniversary, screenwriter Phil Stark looks back at it as a comedy and as a mome...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 29/03/2026
Our latest @psychologytoday.com article is up: it's about the similarities between parenting and gardening #parenting #gardening #pesto #tacos It's Spring: Don’t Over-Water Your Children | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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It's Spring: Don’t Over-Water Your Children
Parents and gardening are similar in how people learn to balance between providing support and instilling self-reliance.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 20/03/2026
Great chat with Pilar Alessandra at the On the Page podcast -- check it out if you're interesting in #screenwriting / #psychology / #PhilStark related content! onthepage.libsyn.com/982-how-to-b...
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On The Page: 982. How to Be a Screenwriter
Phil Stark,  screenwriter and licensed therapist, talks about his latest book, How to Be a Screenwriter, covering how to network, get an agent, develop with producers and take notes.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 17/03/2026
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When Is a Close Relationship Unhealthy?
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 02/03/2026
I think a Part of you would be interested in reading this article #mentalhealth #talktherapy #tacos The Parts of Our Selves | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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The Parts of Our Selves
Examining the various parts of ourselves can lead to a better understanding of how our inner child can often be in conflict with the needs and goals of our adult selves.
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Roadmap Writers @roadmapwriters.com · 24/02/2026
The latest episode of our podcast is LIVE! 🎙️ Our hosts @gabrieltheis.com , @journeymangt.bsky.social and Nicole Betz interview @pbstarkok.bsky.social! Youtube: youtu.be/ifcjnx3gx2Q #scriptsky
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Dude, Where's My Catharsis? | Phil Stark (Dude, Where's My Car? That '70s Show, South Park)
YouTube video by Roadmap Writers
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 23/02/2026
Great conversation with on the @roadmapwriters.com podcast, talking about #screenwriting #comedy and #talktherapy www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifcj...
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Dude, Where's My Catharsis? | Phil Stark (Dude, Where's My Car? That '70s Show, South Park)
YouTube video by Roadmap Writers
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 22/02/2026
Wow! Connecting in #lasvegas and see #HTBAS is the #9 bestseller, right between #heatedrivalry and #wutheringheights - not bad!
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Reckless Creatives Podcast @recklesscr8tive.bsky.social · 12/02/2026
Sadie + @jeannevb.bsky.social have a blast w/ @pbstarkok.bsky.social (screenwriter of Dude Where's My Car?—now therapist) They talk therapy for writing partners, morality of A.I., and what it's really like to be a screenwriter #scriptchat #ScriptSky www.recklesscreativespodcast.com/1753117/epis...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 11/02/2026
Had a great chat on the #recklesscreatives podcast with @jeannevb.bsky.social and #sadiedean -- everything you always wanted to know about #screenwriting #therapy #breakingin and more! #HTBAS www.recklesscreativespodcast.com/1753117/epis...
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He's Back! Phil Stark, Writer of 'Dude, Where's My Car?" on How to Be a Screenwriter - Reckless Creatives
Sadie and Jeanne chat (yet again) with the fabulous screenwriter-turned-therapist Phil Stark (Dude, Where's My Car, "That 70s Show," "South Park") about his new book How to Be a Screenwriter.There's t...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
Check out our latest @psychologytoday.com post -- it's about decision making in life, seen through the prism of #poker Playing the Cards You're Dealt | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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Playing the Cards You're Dealt
There's a saying that, in life, we must play the cards we're dealt. We often say this when we're in a bad situation and feel like we just have to deal with it. But do we?
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 28/01/2026
www.nytimes.com/2026/01/27/w...
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The Friendship Advice Experts Swear By
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 17/01/2026
www.nytimes.com/2025/12/30/w...
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9 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health in 2026
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 06/01/2026
Check out our latest @psychologytoday.com column -- it's about Sex and Intimacy -- the Peanut Butter and Chocolate of romantic relationships! #couplestherapy #talktherapy #tacos Sex and Intimacy | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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Sex and Intimacy
We often think that sex leads to intimacy, and while this can be true, it's more often the case that it's the other way around.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 22/12/2025
Are you one of the many people who have bought a copy of How to Be a Screenwriter? If so, please consider leaving an Amazon review -- 5 stars goes a long way towards reaching the next million readers! #HTBAS www.amazon.com/review/creat...
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 21/12/2025
Interesting article about #antidepressants - a topic that comes up often in #therapy www.nytimes.com/2025/12/11/w...
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How Long Can You Stay on Antidepressants?
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 08/12/2025
Our latest @psychologytoday.com article is about conflict in #relationships and learning to communicate the feelings behind the conflict and the reasons for the feelings in our own #script Write Your Own (Relationship) Script | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dude...
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Write Your Own (Relationship) Script
Conflict in relationships can be mitigated by developing a greater awareness of what we really feel and why, and then communicating this information clearly and effectively.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 04/12/2025
This month is the 25th anniversary of the release of #DWMC -- thanks to #THR for letting me write a column about it -- please enjoy! www.hollywoodreporter.com/movies/movie...
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I Wrote ‘Dude, Where’s My Car’ 25 Years Ago. It Would Never Be Made Today.
In 2000, the author was a young screenwriter writing broad, crude humor to sell into a marketplace that valued it. Then offers dried up. Today, he's quit Hollywood to become a therapist.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 03/12/2025
Fun chat with @scottmarkus.bsky.social and @networkisa.bsky.social about my new book #HTBAS - topics include #breakingin , using #AI , and #DWMC -- it's interesting! #screenwriting #tacos www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2nE...
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"How to be a Screenwriter" with Phil Stark (South Park, That '70s Show, Dude, Where's My Car?)
YouTube video by International Screenwriters' Association
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 29/11/2025
Wow! Just saw #HTBAS at @thebookpeople.ca at @austinairport - it’s a bestseller! -#hookem #screenwriting #tacos
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 25/11/2025
Flying out of #burbankairport and excited to see #HTBAS at #2 on the #hudsonbooks charts, right between #matthewmcconaughey and @melrobbins.bsky.social - it’s a great airplane read! #screenwriting #tacos
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 19/11/2025
Image my surprise to find How to Be a Screenwriter at my local @lapubliclibrary.bsky.social #losfeliz branch -- and next to the Duplass Brothers no less! #HTBAS #screenwriting #mentalhealth #tacos
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 19/11/2025
More Money, More Fights www.nytimes.com/2025/11/19/p...
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There’s a Better Way for Couples to Talk About Money
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 15/11/2025
Happy to share my latest article, up now at @pipelineartists.bsky.social -- it's about the challenge of Breaking In to the screenwriting biz (or any biz!) #screenwriting #breakingin #tacos pipelineartists.com/how-to-break...
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What It Takes to Break In
... first, write that script. But it takes more than the script.
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Phil Stark @pbstarkok.bsky.social · 12/11/2025
Wonderful interview with Yours Truly at @finaldraftinc.bsky.social - They make the best screenwriting software, and have the best interviews! #screenwriting #mentalhealth #tacos www.finaldraft.com/blog/the-the...
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The Therapist Who Wrote ‘Dude, Where’s My Car?’ Helps Screenwriters Find Joy In Their Work Again
Screenwriter/therapist Phil Stark offers essential mental health advice for writers: beat the inner critic, overcome imposter syndrome, and fight burnout.
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