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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

Absolutely not! Hahahaha. But I'm almost out of burnout (finally 😭)

Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

Haven't been on here for a while. I have a question! Does anyone have good resources on a philosophy of leading in the context of disability in the workplace? Or perhaps a more pragmatic approach? Specifically, how to set meaningful standards and ensure sufficient support?

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 09/02/2026

I think it's quite sensible! It's quite a new paper so I'm not sure it's translated to practice but it sounds like a step in the right direction to me

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 09/02/2026

Just read about the concept of kind extinction under ABA. It horrifies me a little that ABA generally prescribes following through with every instruction but the introduction of kind extinction signifies very important progress imo

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/01/2026

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people argue that "support needs don't vary because those with high support needs always have high support needs" - those with high support needs remain at high support needs but their support needs can vary at that level!

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 26/01/2026

Too autistic to be mean to anyone (except when I unintentionally hurt people's feelings by misreading a situation)

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 16/01/2026

What do you wanna know? Although I can't speak for the context of where you're at

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 16/01/2026

As an autistic teacher who has taught both mainstream and SPED, one of the most challenging things for me is how euphemistic SPED teacher are (to speak kindly of autistic students)

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 13/01/2026

Realising that when folks get to know me a bit better and I unmask then they get confused bc my unmasked self is so much less friendly lol

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 12/01/2026

Autistic person: I want to help! *proceeds to correct everyone on how things should be done* Dear reader, not a single person thought they were helping

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 12/01/2026

More the second! And recently I've found it helpful to remind myself to do the small human things for other people that I'm liable to forget are part of human connection lmao

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 12/01/2026

It's very funny to me that as an autistic person I am somewhat triggered when people are too pedantic. Like, if you're incorrect I will correct you and I'll be like, I'm not being pedantic but if someone else is 0.00001% more pedantic than I am I get so mad

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 12/01/2026

A real AuDHD need: making people a part of your to do list

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 11/01/2026

One way I've learnt to navigate workplace politics is unfortunately hypothesis testing. I can't tell what someone's motivations or inclinations are, so I have to test things like whether they are willing to take credit for my work. Once I know, then I know.

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 11/01/2026

Because most people navigate the world through the social dimension and they get ahead in various ways by playing the social game

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 10/01/2026

Starting to think that you're autistic and struggle with social cues etc then you're just doomed to suffer an endless string of injustices

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 08/01/2026

Wheelchair accessibility might be my latest hyperfixation. Please send me all your wheelchair related info

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 06/01/2026

Looking at the world through softer eyes is kind of important when you're autistic

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 04/01/2026

It's too many things to list which is why it's hard for autistic people cos we want to break it down and take it step by step. It's more like an energy/attitude where you are curious, patient and gentle even when you are right/factual. For example, managing tone and asking questions are helpful

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 02/01/2026

One of the major issues I face is that whenever I try to push for something that I think is good of the organisation/its people/my students, folks tend to think it's a personal agenda of chasing visibility or power

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 02/01/2026

I have the same problem in my head! But I've been studying how people speak etc and there are people really good at this Most (good) leadership is trained or capable of speaking this way

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 02/01/2026

Look I actually want to learn how to speak professionally and with empathy but I obviously cannot but the allistics won't explicitly teach me how so

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 31/12/2025

If you're autistic, it's kind of impossible to care less. The only way I can think about it is to manage the intensity of caring

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 31/12/2025

In Singapore for sure. I kind of feel that I don't want to do any advocacy unless my reputation is a bit more umblemished though bc I don't want autism to be an excuse for any of my flaws haha

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

I need help from other autistic folk to figure out how I can actually make advocacy happen

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

Autistic leadership and advocacy: Speak loudly. Cause ripples. Get overwhelmed. Hide. Feel inspired or strongly about something. Rinse and repeat.

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

Realising that I'm not a bad person, just an inexperienced autistic manager, is incredibly liberating

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

In personal relationships I'm direct and fix the relationship by problem solving together but the older I've gotten the less possible this is, especially in a professional context

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

I would like to do less things wrong socially but it's also worth saying that getting too stuck in analysis and problem solving is counter productive to actually repairing relationships. Turns out the way to repair relationships is to try to "fake" being nice until it feels safe again for everyone

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 30/12/2025

There's a special kind of hell in being autistic, knowing I'm doing something wrong socially because I perfectly understand people's reactions, analsying every single thing I did or said for clues and still not knowing what I did wrong

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 26/12/2025

A lesson I have learnt many times but can't seem to remember: I *literally* cannot get things done without my meds Instead of spiraling when I'm stuck, I just have to take my meds!!!

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 24/12/2025

I'm not too sure actually, since I don't have that much experience with autistic people who speak predominantly in Chinese

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 23/12/2025

My biggest wish would be as an autistic person would probably be to never have meltdowns, but a close second might be having the bandwidth to reply people as much as I wanted to

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Socialising and empathy feel a bit like mind reading to me and I am unable to understand what allistics can mind read and what they can't. I often overestimate what they can figure out! I have no clue how to match my behaviour to their expectations which I experience as being very rigid

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Idk if anyone else has observed or described this relationship but a key factor in autistic burnout for me is getting fascia muscles to relax. I have a lot of fascia muscles that have been locked up and as they relax I can feel my anxiety/depression decrease and my thought become less rigid

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Still struggling with it but working on it bc: a. it affects my wife b. I've come to understand 90% of my workplace conflicts and misunderstandings are due to tone 😭

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Not sure if this is really attributable to ABA therapists but I have noticed some autistic students who had early intervention speak with a musical/fixed intonation almost as if the social script has a melody that is the same every time

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Anecdotally, quite a lot of autistic people lean towards monotone when speaking and may have trouble hearing tone. For myself, I vary between monotone and being too excitable and I've observed that nervous system dysregulation affects tone a lot for myself and autistic students

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 22/12/2025

Trying to regulate your tone as an autistic person involves regulating your nervous systems and consciously thinking about tone in a way that (I think!) is comparable to removing a stutter

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 20/12/2025

I feel like there needs to be discussion about emotional permanence for autistic folk especially when you consider familial factors: Emotions/situations can be feel more permanent to autistic folk, which is reinforced by autistic parents and this deeply affects how we navigate/interpret the world

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 19/12/2025

Ambulatory wheelchair users exist 🤨 A personal example is that my wife was in a wheelchair most of the time last year due to an incompetent cervix (hate this term). Also, an upwards trend in this could also be due to more accessibility, not gaming the system

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 19/12/2025

Been chasing everything and nothing because of the lack of internal peace, trying to fill this internal spiritual hole with anything that I think would help

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 19/12/2025

For me there's been a deep disquiet in my sense of self for the last two years because of workplace trauma and I've only just realised how much easier it is to relax and be at peace when I've worked through some of the trauma/anxiety and feel less restless.

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 19/12/2025

Starting to understand that it's difficult to tell apart the reasons for my restlessness: is it ADHD or a deep dissatisfaction with my life and self? Lately, I am thinking quite a lot of it is caused by the latter and perhaps ADHD only affects the manifestation of this restlessness

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 18/12/2025

100% accepting the weird version of "chopped" and "unc" that I am

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 18/12/2025

My latest hyperfixation is leadership skills, strategic comms and workplace politics and it is wild to me learning all the things that are unspoken rules. The biggest one that I really can't swallow is the notion that protecting the egos of the right people is important in the workplace 😩

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Sam (formerly Barisan Hantu) 🇸🇬🍉 @neuroliminality.bsky.social · 18/12/2025

At some point there needs to be some meta-research about autistic people who work in roles heavy on social skills and communicaton: influencers, advocates, leadership positions, researchers, PR, marketing etc

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