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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 02/07/2026

I couldn't find many direct comparisons of trans guys bodies before, during and after pregnancy like this when I was trying, so here. First picture is 3 years on T. Second picture is at 41 weeks pregnant. Third picture is at 8.5 months post-partum, 7.5 months back on T.

First picture is of a white brown-haired shirtless trans man wearing jeans, sitting on a stool with his legs spread. He has top surgery scars and tattoos. Second picture is of him at 41 weeks pregnant, shirtless with a large belly. Third picture is at 8.5 months post-partum, with a mosaic censored baby resting on his hip, showing him shirtless in shorts.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

Thankful every day that I was able to get top surgery. They were great boobs, just not great for me. Glad they made me some money on their way out!

A white person in a white sports bra with G-cup breasts that take up most of the image.

A white guy in a white t-shirt that is pulled up to show his top surgery scars and hair in the centre of his chest, with skin blemishes from psoriasis, and a T4T tattoo on his arm of two interlinking gender symbols with hearts instead of circles.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 02/05/2026

What are funds being used for, and who is putting this together? Here's some info for you:

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 02/05/2026

WARPED is live on Kickstarter, fundraising until June 1st. Pledge for a copy before then to get yours earlier than anyone else, for a lower price, with a "thank you" page inclusion if you want, then shiver and shudder and get starry-eyed at the stories within. www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

Warped will be a trans+ anthology of horror and sci-fi short stories, spanning the breadth of the genres, from the action-packed to the subtly disturbing. Expect the unexpected. As sci-fi and horror super-fans, we're curating a collection of subversive, genre-bending, wildly original stories, with juicy queer undertones (or indeed overtones) all written by trans+ authors.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 28/04/2026

If you want to read books about sex work, including anthologies of writing by trans and intersex sex workers, you can find copies of the following books (ebooks and paperbacks) on my recently revamped website: www.jackviolet.store

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

Iconic cover by Christopher Lieberman!

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

Send your pitches to CHLieberman@proton.me

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

Pitch submissions open for Warped, an upcoming trans+ anthology of sci-fi and horror:

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 10/03/2026

Read a few segments from the book here, or find out more at transactionalintercourse.carrd.co

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 10/03/2026

Free copies of Transactional Intercourse, thanks to some generous donors while crowdfunding! Sign up for one here: forms.gle/AH5CNfDi43Xe...

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 27/02/2026

Transactional Intercourse copies are ready! Official publication is April 27th for those who want to pre-order: mxjackparker.bigcartel.com/product/pre-... I can't believe I have a copy in my hands and am hyped to send out books to all those who crowdfunded for it!

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 24/02/2026

Transactional Intercourse is now complete and people who supported the project early are getting their copies! If you'd like one for yourself, you can pre-order here to get your book on April 27th (publication day): mxjackparker.bigcartel.com/product/pre-...

"Trans and Intersex Sex Worker Anthology" a picture of a copy of the Transactional Intercourse book over a dark red curtain, surrounded by neon writing. "30 writers included." "Essays and personal stories." "Thoughts on Fetishization" "Diverse contributors" "Intersectional Analysis" and "Learn about the lives of trans and intersex sex workers"

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 01/01/2026

If you've ever thought about getting an e-book copy of Working Guys: A Transmasculine Sex Worker Anthology, you can get it for the same price as elsewhere by subscribing to www.patreon.com/peoplesletters lowest tier! We're a worker co-op bookshop with a radical leftist ethos who could use support.

A poster about The People's Letters Patreon, showing: The Bookseller's Letters tier which includes reviews and a free copy of Working Guys, The Eventful Letters tier offering 2 event passes plus the lower tier benefits, The Posted Letters which includes art prints and zines, and The Whole Alphabet tier which gets you everything!

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 15/12/2025

Almost all of the contributors to Transactional Intercourse, a trans and intersex sex worker anthology, have sent in their pieces and the editing is well underway! It will soon be complete and anyone who backed via Kickstarter will get it in February (broader publication to happen in April).

"In these relationships, stigma doesn’t announce itself with slurs. It whispers. It hides in well-meaning words - in “I don’t even think of you as trans,” as if that were a kindness, as if my womanhood needed purification from its history."

"To be intersex, autistic, and a sex worker in a society that worships normalcy is to live with overlapping hauntings."

"Our family wasn’t destroyed by sex work. It was destroyed by hatred of sex workers."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 01/11/2025

We're fully funded and I am so so grateful to get to make this anthology, only going bigger and better and paying more sex workers than with projects before. If you'd like to add extra support before the end of the Kickstarter, you've got 4 hours left! www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 28/10/2025

We're making the final push to get funded over the next few days and you can be part of that by backing the Kickstarter (and bullying those in your network to do the same, especially if they claim to be allies!) www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

Help us to document trans/intersex sex workers experiences and educate those who want to learn by supporting the anthology! Funding is all or nothing!

E-book £5, Paperback £15, Omnibus £35, Bundle £25

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 28/10/2025

Want to know what you can expect from Transactional Intercourse? A book packed with info about marginalized sex workers, from our own mouths rather than people who seek to speak over us and use our trauma or joy to promote their rhetoric. www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

Transactional Intercourse: A Trans & Intersex SW Anthology, over 300 pages, Essays about intersecting oppression, personal stories, rants and interviews, Writing from 31 sex workers, all trans and/or intersex, Input from hundreds of sex workers, All contributors paid, First of its kind.

What topics will be covered? Advertising sexual services as an intersex person on platforms with binary categories.
Differences in treatment of trans and intersex sex workers by country, with a focus on immigrant e*x workers.
Using sex work to pay for gender-affirming care.
Perspectives on media depictions of Black trans sex workers compared to the reality, with a focus on street sex work.
Clients exploring their own sexuality and gender identity during bookings with trans and intersex workers.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 28/10/2025

With 4 days left, we're in the final stretch to get this funded! We've raised £11,676 so far of the £15,700 we need and it's all or nothing. Help this project get the rest of the way there so it can be made - by pre-ordering a copy or sharing the campaign! www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

A picture of the Kickstarter page for Transactional Intercourse, showing that the project has raised £11,676 of the £15,700 total goal with 325 backers and 4 days left to go.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 26/10/2025

Yes! You can share the project with others, and also share the call for submissions of pitches if you know any trans and/or intersex sex workers who might want to write about their experiences and contribute: forms.gle/kDwRPcHq4faJ...

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 21/10/2025

What can you expect to read about in Transactional Intercourse, an anthology of trans and intersex sex workers' experiences? Here's a thread of some of the topics to be covered, and you can pre-order a copy here to help it get made: www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

transactional intercourse, a trans and intersex sex worker anthology.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 20/10/2025

After a pretty traumatic delivery, I'm finally home from the hospital! Baby is here! Carrying and delivering her as a trans guy who is very dysphoric was incredibly tough, but she is so worth every bit of pain and struggle. Here as a reminder that being trans doesn't mean you can't become a parent.

A shirtless white trans guy with brown hair, Jack Parker, covered up by sheets on a hospital bed with a baby laying on his chest whose face is censored by a rose.

A white trans guy with brown hair, Jack Parker, in a hospital bed with a baby laying on his chest whose face is censored by a rose.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 07/10/2025

Officially now a "project we love", and we're slowly but surely getting closer to the goal! There's 25 days to make it, so please shared Transactional Intercourse with your friends and acquaintances and anyone who cares about sex workers!

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 05/10/2025

I'm tired of looking for stories from trans and intersex sex workers and finding far more instances of people speaking over us than instances where we get to speak for ourselves. We're 20% of the way to an anthology seeking to combat that! www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

A picture of the Kickstarter page showing the project is £3251 funded out of £15700 with 77 backers and 27 days to go.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 04/10/2025

Everyone who pre-orders a copy helps Transactional Intercourse get made, whether you get an e-book or go for a higher tier with more content and extras! If you have any interest in the lives of trans and/or intersex sex workers, this book will give you insight. www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

A graphic showing the options for different tiers when pre-ordering a book, including the ebook for £5/$7, Paperback for £15/$21, Paperback and Quote book for £25/$34 and the Omnibus for £35/$48.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 03/10/2025

Just over 24 hours in and we're off to a good start (15% funded with 29 days left)! Getting the rest of the way there is going to be a battle and having people get excited about the anthology and hype it up makes it more likely we'll make it to fully funded. www.kickstarter.com/projects/mxj...

A screenshot of the Kickstarter page for Transactional Intercourse showing that it has raised £2,451 out of the £15,700 goal.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 02/10/2025

People who do not conform to society's expectations with regards to our sex and gender are either overlooked or made into hypervisible subjects of mockery and hatred, and this is compounded further when we engage in stigmatized labour like sex work. That's why projects like this matter!

A pastel trans flag with a heart shaped version of the intersex flag inside it.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 30/09/2025

There's a diversity of experience that often goes unappreciated - intersex sex workers have their own struggles as well as those which overlap with trans workers', women and men and non-binary people each have their own perspectives, all on top of race and class and disability. Let's hear!

“There’s a lot of complicated dynamics that come with navigating things like having clients who are urologists who are actually the ones doing intersex genital mutilation surgery, but then also wanting to pay intersex people for sex when we’re adults... that’s absolutely one of the things that fucks with my mind the most.”

“I have really special memories of being at a national intersex conference and having a few of us sneak out of the sessions to talk about being intersex sex workers outside sitting on the floor, and it was the most seen I’ve ever felt in my life to talk with people who really intimately understood.”

“It’s hard to see all the fetishizing of transness behind the scenes contrasted by public hate - on a large scale, or the domestic mistreatment trans women experience from the kinds of cis men who would book with me. But doing SW has given me a lot of confidence in, insight into, and control over my transness.”

“I’ve been on low dose T for 4 years but am still cis for pay, shaving off all my body hair and feminizing my voice. I would probably be on higher dose of T if not for still needing to girl mode for work.”

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 29/08/2025

PAID WRITING OPPORTUNITY for trans and/or intersex sex workers! Looking for pitches of essays and personal narratives about your experience in sex work to be included in Transactional Intercourse, a trans and intersex sex worker anthology. Send in your pitches here: forms.gle/UV8TLD8xKGxZ...

Call for submissions of pitches for Transactional Intercourse. £250/£340 per 1000 words.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 23/08/2025

A highlight of the survey - so few people said they wouldn't be friends with a sex worker that the segment saying so was almost too small to see on the pie chart!

A pie chart asking "would you be friends with a sex worker" with 4958 responses. In blue, 78.9% of people are shown to be saying yes, 18.7% in orange confirmed they already are, and a small green slither shows "I'm not sure". The red "no" segment is so tiny it's barely visible.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 08/08/2025

There are a number of jobs out there with the explicit aim of helping sex workers to find stable employment outside of selling sex. Sometimes they fail in this goal and actually compound our existing struggles, ultimately exploiting us for their own gain. jackviolet.com/2025/08/08/h...

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 06/08/2025

This survey is for people who have not done sex work themselves, to gauge both your opinions on sex work and how much you know about it! Information collected will be used to inform the themes of published work about sex work, as well as educational materials. forms.gle/rxPbBdEWC7wj...

A black background with text on it in the style of a neon sign, saying "What are your thoughts about sex work? Survey."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 04/08/2025

Transactional Intercourse: A Trans and Intersex Sex Worker Survey! This survey is for people who are trans and/or intersex and have either sold sex or made porn. Current and former sex workers are equally welcome! Click here to fill it out, and please share: forms.gle/Lcvswp3kZcor...

A black background with text over it saying "Transactional Intercourse Survey" in all caps. The word "transactional" is in the trans flag colours and the word "intercourse" is all in yellow with the "o" being purple to mimic the intersex flag.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 27/07/2025

The People's Letters is a radical co-operative bookshop rising from the ashes of The Scarlett Letters. We have a mission to uplift marginalized authors, especially sex workers. You can now support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/peoplesletters

A poster on a blue background sharing information about The People's Letters Patreon.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 06/07/2025

I don't know how many of you have ever been through a break-in at home or forced entry into a squat/occupied space like this, but it's traumatic. It stays with you. They gutted a place that was supposed to be for the community that we put love and time into.

An almost empty bookshop with rubbish scattered on the floor and holes in the walls.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 06/07/2025

We frantically tried to call for help but no-one was awake besides one other employee who ran to us from their home. I felt too sick and shocked to speak at first, and my co-worker livestreamed - it took time for me to begin challenging Marin's paid help beyond documenting it.

Shelves full of books with people removing them.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 06/07/2025

After we unionized to fight for the fixed-hour contracts we were promised, sick pay and fair pay for additional tasks, she announced she'd close the shop rather than meet out demands (which could easily be afforded). That's the background for why we took this action.

All booksellers at The Scarlett Letters are demanding guaranteed-hours contracts as promised.

An explanation of why 0 hours contracts are exploitative.

TSL employees were promised fixed hour contracts.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 06/07/2025

At 4am on July 1st, my boss broke into the bookshop that myself and my co-workers were peacefully occupying while I was asleep downstairs. Our sole demand was that the stock be donated to us so that it could continue serving the sex worker community, as the Scarlett Letters CIC assets legally must.

A bookshop full of people packing boxes.

Boxes full of books with people dismantling shelves.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 27/06/2025

Hooker Mentality is finally out! That means you can now get the e-book for £3.99/$5 at Itch: mxjackparker.itch.io/hooker-menta... Gumroad: jackparker.gumroad.com/l/hm

Two pink brains on a glittery background with two paperback copies of Hooker Mentality at the sides. Over the brains are the words "Hooker Mentality" and "Read about how selling sex gives hookers an insight into the systems which control us all."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 18/06/2025

Look what arrived today! I finally have copies in my hands and I'm blown away by the number of pre-orders so far. Official release date is June 27th!

A white hand holding a copy of Hooker Mentality.

A white brunette person with short hair wearing a black shirt, the author Jack Parker, holding a copy of Hooker Mentality.

A white hand holding a copy of Hooker Mentality, in front of 50 more copies stacked on a wooden chest.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 15/06/2025

Be prepared for something more interactive than your usual book launch! There will be sign-making, defacing whorephobes and their quotes, plus drinks and a panel with speakers. July 9th, Bethnal Green - get tickets early to guarantee you don't miss out! www.outsavvy.com/event/27958/...

"Defact pictures of anti-SW people and their quotes" and a cardboard sign saying "sex work is not work" where the "not" has been scratched and spraypainted over. There is a blurred image of someone with darts and paint splatters on it.

"Hear from sex workers about our hooker mentality" with microphones underneath.

"Tired of leftist theory that degrades sex workers, misunderstands the nature of our work or ignores us? Hooker Mentality Book Launch, July 9th 6:30pm. Tickets: £2 SW and/or low income. £5 solidarity rate."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 11/06/2025

If you're in London on July 9th and want to hear about the ways selling sex can give hookers insight, come along to Hooker Mentality's book launch! Make signs, deface pictures of anti-SW figures and their quotes, pick up a book, and get cheap drinks! www.outsavvy.com/event/27958/...

A red background with two pink brains, one inverted, with words over them. "Hooker Mentality Book Launch, July 9th, 6:30PM, Pelican House, 144 Cambridge Heath Road, London, E1 5QJ." There is also a picture of the book "Hooker Mentality".

A red background with an upside-down pink brain with words over it. "With speakers from THORN, get tickets now! Thoughts on society from a sex worker perspective. Discussion, sign-making, signed books, drinks and dismantling whorephobia." plus two images of the book Hooker Mentality.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 04/06/2025

If you're interested in the history of the modern European sex worker rights movement, I really recommend watching The Prostitutes of Lyon Speak (Original: Les prostituées de Lyon parlent) which is a documentary about over 100 sex workers who occupied St. Nizier church to protest mistreatment.

A projected screen with an image of two women next to a sign written in French about society's hypocrisy regarding sex work, surrounded by chairs and on a stage. On the screen the text says "International Whores' Day 2025 - 50th Anniversary of the Saint-Nizier Occupation."

A poster for "The Prostitutes of Lyon Speak" with a black background and a circular design in pink with a pink lipstick kiss mark on its side in the centre.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 16/05/2025

Reading these member reflections and the thoughts of those at Project X genuinely made me tear up. I know I yearned for stories of transmasc sex workers when I started, to feel less alone, and this is a reminder that I did the damn thing and pulled them into a book myself!

A pink background with a light blue crumbled paper over it and an image of a person cast partially in shadow carrying a trans flag obscuring their head. It says "Working Guys challenges traditional views and pushes for different forms of empowerment, shaping a holistic view of what transmasculine sex workers experience. The anthology itself is a form of empowerment. Jack Parker provided a platform for transmasc sex workers to share their unique lived experiences, and an emotional space for other transmascs, sex workers and transmasc sex workers, to feel validated, comforted and loved."

A light blue background with pink graph paper at the top. It says:
"Community Member Reflections. Joey, our ex-intern, penned down some thoughts while reading the book as a sex worker herself: 'I felt a lot for many stories that touched on similar themes, even though I'm not transmasc. I'm sure as much as I feel for complicated feelings about 'female' bodies and work personas, there are as many feelings about gender and transition that I don't experience.'"

A light blue background with ripped pink graph paper at the bottom. It says:
"Cyrus (he/him) from TransgenderSG adds on about being a transmasc sex worker in Singapore: 'The 'female personas' section really resonated with me. I went into sex work while on HRT, but presenting as a woman. As Jack describes, because I've never been textbook 'feminine', it felt like every client saw right through me. Regardless, being seen as just another 'slut' to use and discard by clients (more often the married vanilla men) worsened my dysphoria in the 6 months I provided these services. I didn't have a good idea of boundaries at that time either. But I can't say I regret it because otherwise, I'd be shore of $8k today."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 16/05/2025

Among the passages shared, we have @mxdagger.bsky.social 's contribution included here alongside my own, Mister Saul's and the 14th submission by Anonymous!

A medium pink background with a white hand holding scissors in the top right and a white person in a lab coat in the bottom right, with speech bubbles next to each saying:
"Being a trans person already means I get worse medical care, but since I started doing sex work it's gotten so much worse." - Submission 14 by Anonymous.
"... the doctor asked 'If you're selling your body, isn't it prudent to keep everything intact? Surely you'd lose customers if you had this surgery.'" - An appointment at Charing Cross by Mx Dagger.

A light blue background with words on pink graph paper. "These experiences highlight a higher barrier for trans people when it comes to obtaining medical support for transition, which can be harmful since they might choose to omit important information when dealing with medical professions to avoid stigmatisation. This stigma around sex work undermines the call for inclusive healthcare practices which respects and addresses the needs of all patients." At the bottom there are two Asian people laying with their heads touching upside-down to each other.

A light blue background with a strip of ripped pink graph paper across it and a darker pink ripped paper across the top. There is also a banana with a red condom over the tip in the top right corner. It says "Paying for Top Surgery, One Dick At a Time by Jack Parker, 'I cannot discuss my medical transition without mentioning being a hooker. At every stage, selling sex has been integral to my ability to access transition care.' In Parker's perfectly titled essay, they show us a vital perspective of why transmascs may choose to do sex work, in spite of all the risks and discrimination. Parker also emphasises the necessity of free and accessible transition care."

A dark blue piece of ripped paper at the top against a pink background. It says, "While many transmasc sex workers are working to fund their transition care, it is important not to generalise, and acknowledge other lived experiences... Chapter 5: Role Models for Transmasculine People, an anonymous interviewee told Jack Parker; 'I've always had a dominant personality and I like to top. Had no idea people might pay a trans guy for that...' A Practice of Power and Care by Mister Saul 'I don't really do this for the money... I do this because I believe in the power of BDSM.'"

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 16/05/2025

For International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia, Project X (a sex worker rights organisation in Singapore) recommends Working Guys: A Transmasculine Sex Worker Anthology! Read it in full here: theprojectx.org/overview-of-...

A patchwork background in trans flag colours with the ProjectX and transsg logos. Across the top are the words "International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia" followed by "Reading Red Beyond Borders:" and the quote "I cannot discuss my medical transition without mentioning being a hooker."

A light blue background with a picture of the cover of Working Guys in the top left corner, which is black with the title on it and a red mars/male symbol in the centre where the arrow turns into an umbrella, with two muscular arms photoshopped as coming out of the sides of it. In the bottom right corner is a picture of a stack of books. It says, "In honour of International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia & Transphobia (IDAHOBIT), we invite you to delve into Working Guys, a collection of stories by transmasculine sex workers. The stories range from perceptions, media representation, as well as intimate recounts of violence inflicted on trans sex workers."

A pink background with red lipstick marks, over which there are two torn out notebook pages with the submissions written on them. They say:
"Only Women Sell Sex by Liam - He told me that he struggled to see me as a man because I sell sex … and I found it hard to see the version of myself that I hid behind for work as anything other than a woman too. What he said to me had spread the sickness and I felt unsure in my identity.
I pretended to be a woman for work, so people saw me as one outside of it too"
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"Submission 4 by Arc D - When I first started working, I had already come out as non-binary; however, I was still working under the guise of a cis woman... As a woman, you have more options within sex work, even though being pursued as a woman is suffocating."

A light blue background with two gold-accented face masks in blue and teal in the top left and a broken mirror in the bottom right. On light pink graph paper it says: "In the anthology, several contributors recount the bittersweet irony of adopting female persons to cater to the demands of the market. This performance, often described as “cis for pay”, often binds trans sex workers to conform to different gendered expectations. When failing to fulfil such expectations, they often experience painful condemnation, some even facing violence. Transmasculine sex workers also struggle with invisibility, made worse by having to appeal to clients who don't understand transmasculinity."

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 14/05/2025

A snippet of Chapter 2 of Hooker Mentality: Fucking the Enemy Diving into where the political meets the personal and radical feminist rhetoric that treats sex with the enemy as complicity in the harm they do. (Find out more and pre-order a copy: hookermentality.carrd.co)

A photo of a barbie with black rope tied around it, sitting on the crotch of a teddy bear of a similar size facing away from it. The background is light pink. Photo by Deon Black.

"Are there situations where letting someone pay us for sex might actually encourage their harmful behaviours? When I was 18 and working as a cis woman, did my clients feel emboldened in their misogynistic entitlement towards women as a group after I let them throw me around like a ragdoll and bruise my cervix? It’s an idea that radical feminists like to throw at us, but it’s also a question I’ve organically had for myself that I think a lot of sex workers struggle with.

A portion of clients see sex workers as being akin to very advanced sex toys. They dehumanize us in their minds, treating us as akin to blow up dolls or fleshlights, and get a sense of satisfaction from our objectification. The word no is irritating to these clients, and more often than not they brush it off and cross boundaries into sexual assault if we begin to deny them or refuse certain acts. This kind of abusive client often targets women and thinks of them as being inferior, though there are also those who have sex with men who are effeminate and visibly queer and hate them for that flamboyancy. Violence is enacted against sex workers by these clients in a way many of them would argue was incidental if they could be pushed to admit to the harm at all, because they don’t think of us as people whose feelings matter. When this inconsiderateness doesn’t cross the line into assault, it is due largely to luck that the sex worker isn’t opposed to the acts the client is interested in or the roughness he exhibits.

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Jack Parker @mxjackparker.bsky.social · 13/05/2025

Stomach is still in that zone of plausible deniability between beer gut and baby bump, but I've made it to 20 weeks and started to feel kicks! Trans people who can get pregnant should know this is an option. The dysphoria is hard and so is the medical system, but it'll be worth it to meet the baby.

A white person with short brown hair and a long side bang with a flat chest and protruding stomach wearing a navy t-shirt which says "SWARM, sex worker advocacy and resistance movement" in pink lettering.

A white person with short brown hair and a long side bang with a flat chest and protruding stomach peeking out from under a cropped navy t-shirt which says "SWARM, sex worker advocacy and resistance movement" in pink lettering.

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