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Honesty wasn't always safe. Self-preservation in the form of lying is a related consequence, and it's something to dismantle in learning not to fawn.

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Fawning arises from a past where we needed self-preservation.

Stop doing someone else's work and start doing my own: self-rescuing! Caretaking! I'm somewhere in this process, myself.

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Looking at past relationships, past people were unavailable in their own ways, making it not possible to grow together.

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We tolerate things no one should and become desensitized to bad behavior.

Fawners struggle with having boundaries, for themselves and for others.

We're afraid to be ourselves because we've been punished for it.

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Friday Afternoon Tea @fridaytea.com · 15/09/2026

Shame is such an enemy. It's one of the main fuels of fawning.

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Happy Latin Heritage Month! 🪅🎉 From our Mexican-American-owned tea house to your tea-loving hands, enjoy these brews. Some are from Latin American farms, some are our own house blends inspired by the wide culinary world of Latin America. Buen Bebiendo! www.fridaytea.com/co...

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Friday Afternoon Tea @fridaytea.com · 15/09/2026

Happy #LatineHeritageMonth from your friendly neighborhood Chicana-owned tea shop! 🇲🇽☕️❤️ #latinxheritagemonth #hispanicheritagemonth #latinsky #teasky

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Today's teas are the first two Dungeon Crawler Carl teas from @fridaytea.com ! www.fridaytea.com/collections/... Today's #BPAL is Roasted Tea Leaf and Night-blooming Jasmine! It's a good day to love tea!

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Dungeon Crawler Carl

NEW ACHIEVEMENT! You have entered the world dungeon. Welcome, crawler! Make sure you're fueled for the fight ahead by adding these potions to your inventory:

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Fair! I go with high protein bagels to help balance out the carbs, personally, but your needs and mileage may vary!

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 15/09/2026

Today I toasted a protein bagel for breakfast put some neufchatel cheese on it, then sprinkled garlic salt, an "Asian" red pepper flakes blend, and partially crystallized honey on top. Highly recommend. Very tasty.

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Friday Afternoon Tea @fridaytea.com · 14/09/2026

🐦‍⬛☕️❤️

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Tea really made my day so much nicer. I need to remember this periodically.

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Chise @sailorrooscout.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

May I remind everyone that there is currently NO cure for rabies. May I also remind everyone there is absolutely NO scientific proof connecting ANY vaccine that we produce today with autism. This is true regarding vaccination in both humans AND in dogs. Vaccinate your pets please.

Worries about vaccination rates in dogs
As rabies seems to be spreading more in wildlife, veterinarians are especially worried about vaccine hesitancy spreading among pet owners, a dangerous trend that could lead to more dogs - and their owners
- becoming infected. A 2023 study published in the journal Vaccine found in nationally representative
sample of Americans that nearly 40% believed canine vaccines were unsafe and 37% believed that vaccines could lead their dogs to develop cognitive issues, such as autism.

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Children can't learn to regulate emotions they aren't allowed to have.

"In cases of childhood trauma, we often can't tolerate the fact that our caregivers are deficient. We instinctively place the blame on ourselves to avoid feeling the terror of being that alone."

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Not knowing where our trauma reactions end and our personality begins...

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Fawning activates both the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems. Whee complex trauma.

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Turns out the blueberry and salted caramel were my favorite two flavors, but they were all marvelous.

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

Listening to FAWNING by Dr. Ingrid Clayton. A thread: Fffff being conscious of problems doesn't automatically solve them. Sucks! (point made by the book) OUCH "helping people heal their wounds as if that would heal my own" More to come.

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I have the best sister. She brought me these to try!

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 13/08/2026

Goddamnit, a fraudulent version of The Ordinary's website fooled me just long enough for me to enter my payment information into it. *sigh* I've already deactivated the card and reported it stolen, but it goes to show that even someone who knows to check can forget or not notice something. Be safe!

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

A doctor responds to yet another instance of lying from the government about the pandemic. youtube.com/shorts/-VR9-...

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RFK Jr is Lying (again)

YouTube video by Doc Schmidt

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Shawna @moonprism.bsky.social · 05/08/2026

It's a "we gotta replace some stuff" problem.