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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 01/05/2025

Being audhd means living in this world isn't going to be simple much of the time, but there are ways to make it easier. How hard does it have to be before you're willing to ask for help? Do you feel like it's this hard for everyone?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 24/04/2025

Some of what we do in Arcane Energy System ™️: -Track how much we're actually doing each day, not just in the way you might think.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 23/04/2025

Arcane Energy System ™️ is like when you mash Spoon Theory, DnD and autistic/adhd grounding strategies into a delicious sandwich of setting boundaries with yourself and your environment

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 23/04/2025

I go thrift shopping sometjmes for something small but useful to make my space more adorable and beautiful. It can be a sugar bowl that cost a dollar because the china set wasn't complete. It will make me smile every time I use it. What are the ways you cultivate glimmers in your life?

A Spock coffee mug on a countertop with a white porcelain sugar bowl in a delicate pink and purple floral design in front of it

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 22/04/2025

If you have a disability, soltop wondering why it's so hard to exist in late-stage capitalism. This shit is hard enough for abled people. I can help with some of it in the Arcane Energy System ™️ Beta Group. Learn how much capacity you *realistically* have bit.ly/4iaZryi

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 22/04/2025

If you are self-diagnosed, you're still valid. Non-autistic people don't go around wondering if they're autistic for years

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 21/04/2025

At times, we think we want to know *why* something is happening , when what we actually need to know is how to accept and move forwardWe think we want to know why because then it will give us something to fight against. 1 /4

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Ali Nahdee @alinahdee.bsky.social · 17/04/2025

Can Marvel a Harley Quinn Animated Series-esqe series where it's just Matt Murdock and She-Hulk defending various Marvel superheroes and antiheroes and villains and several R-rated highjinks ensue? I feel like this would have the potential to be very funny.

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a man and a woman sitting next to each other with the woman making a funny face

ALT: a man and a woman sitting next to each other with the woman making a funny face

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 17/04/2025

I think the reason so many autistic, adhd, and lots of other neurotypes end up in addiction of some kind or another is that we are simply trying to numb the pain of existence when the world is overwhelming and we have no ability to say no entirely to the sensory hell that is outside our doors.

A pint glass with a Dalek etched onto it, containing a chocolate protein shake is on a counter. The text reads: Still Partying. And by partying, I mean drinking a protein shake out of pint glasses j used to numb the pain of existence with as a neurodivergent person in a neurotypical world.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 16/04/2025

How can you be in your body today?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 05/04/2025

The reason alcoholism and addiction are so prevalent in neurodivergent people/families is because the only way we were accepted was by masking so hard it broke us and the only way we kept going is by using

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 01/04/2025

How's y'all's first day of April so far?

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Dr. Ryan French @ryanjfrench.bsky.social · 31/03/2025

The Sun has produced 9 moderate (M-class) solar flares over the past 48 hours, mostly originating from active region 14048. This region will rotate to face Earth later this week. #spaceweather

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 31/03/2025

I'm running another Beta of The Arcane Energy System (my personal take on Spoon Theory, DnD and Energy work). 6 weeks of support, looking for 4-6 participants to understand your personal energetic capacity. You'll walk away understanding where to prioritize your energy each day to feel better⬇️

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 26/03/2025

On the most recent episode of The Neurodivergent Parenting Podcast, I got to talk to Nicola Grewatsch Torres about her own experiences parenting neurodivergent kids who are now teens.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 19/03/2025

When you think back on all of the things you could do before burnout, make sure you have the right perspective. You may ask yourself "I should be able to do x because I always did before". Babe, the only reason you did it before is by ignoring all your needs and running on empty 24/7

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

#Aziraphale #GoodOmens #fanfic Y'all, I meant to do a couple Azi videos and ended up doing 10. So...get ready

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Lord Juiblex @lordjuiblex.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

you poets god damn it say what you mean i don't have time to crack your fucking code of flowery bullshit if you're mad just fucking tell me don't go on about the woods and a fire and a howling dog jesus christ i don't have time for this shit

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

By gob, I can't stand Morissey(obviously, who can?) but Please Please Please Let Me may be one of the most heartrending songs I'll never let go of

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 17/03/2025

If you want to show up and be part of the solution, you have to be in touch with your own capacity in order to pour from an overflowing cup

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 16/03/2025

If you are a writer, you may be familiar with the term "pantsing". Are you pantsing at life? Or do you want to do things and feel aimless and powerless? Let's figure that out March 20th, 12pm Est Free workshop with spellsheet and Quick Start Guide

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Gleafer @gleafer.bsky.social · 12/03/2025

ASK. It’s polite. #goodomens

It’s THE KISS but Aziraphale gives him the ol’ Doris Day to teach him some manners.
ASK FIRST.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 12/03/2025

"Alright Pookie, let's burn this mother down!" "Oh, most definitely" "What could a banana cost Michael" Randomly singing related song lyrics

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 11/03/2025

Seriously, where are my neurodivergent people on here? Where are my autistic, adhd, audhd, burnout kids who grew up into millennials who have been hanging on my a thread all throughout adulthood?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 11/03/2025

Just another day in neurodivergent family life #autistic #audhd

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 06/03/2025

I'm getting louder and gayer with every passing day and I love that for me

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 06/03/2025

What do I do for a living? This

Odo and Kira from Deep Space 9 face each other in a hallway of the ship. In yellow text, Odo asks "What turns you on?". In red text, Kira replies "You're holding space for me so I can form a more compassionate relationship with the unmet parts of myself."

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 04/03/2025

When you feel like you're always running on empty, constantly overextended, you're on a one-way track to burnout. Inspired by Spoon Theory, DnD and energy work the Arcane Energy System gamifies being mindful and finding ways to be intentional with your actual capacity each day.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 28/02/2025

Sending out self-compassion to ourselves, to our loves, to our children is never wasted energy. There is enough pain and blame. Be kind to yourself and do better. Let the rest go.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

Where are you goals, abilities and capacity disconnected?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 25/02/2025

we need all of your magic, your heart and your soul. we need every single ounce of optimism that held you through the darkest times so you can sit with the next person through theirs, lifting each one up until we form a web of interconnection and communal rebellion that no one act can demolish

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My expertise as a neurodivergent parent and the ramblings therein. Click to read Melissa’s Substack, by Melissa Cox, a Substack publication. Launched 4 months ago.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 19/02/2025

If you can't love me at my "oh god I made a mistake now I will never be loved again", you don't deserve me at my "let's get weird together and bask in the beauty of the universe "

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 19/02/2025

Your derision for astrology is founded in ◻️colonizer programming and you haven't unpacked that any more than a militant teenage atheist. But are you ready to talk about that?

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southpaw @nycsouthpaw.bsky.social · 12/02/2025

We only know this man is in Gitmo because Noem tweeted a propaganda photo that included him and his sister saw it. He has no criminal record. He entered the US in January and immediately made an appointment with CBP to claim asylum. They sent him to a concentration camp bc of his basketball tattoo.

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Venezuelan Migrant Sent to Guantánamo Bay Is ‘Not a Criminal,’ Family Pleads (Gift Article)

Luis Alberto Castillo arrived in the United States so that he could “give everything to his son,” said his sister. Then, while scrolling on TikTok, she found out he was headed to Guantánamo.

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Mark Hamill @markhamillofficial.bsky.social · 12/02/2025

For those of you desperately in need of distraction from today's headlines, here's a photo of a bunny & a chick who are friends.

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The Onion @theonion.com · 12/02/2025

‘You Can’t Let This Happen,’ Says Fundraising Email From Sitting U.S. Congressperson

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 12/02/2025

He #magician and #witch bluesky, do we think Neurographic Art is sigil magic? Sigils were the first magic that felt the most accessible to me. Neurographic art is one of the meditative exercises I use when I feel stuck on something. It shakes loose some of the stuck Ness

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 12/02/2025

Being a human is a constant learning process. We find the people who understand pieces of themselves so similar to the "difficult " parts of our own experiences and we learn how to accept those parts within us

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

Do you ever have to turn the volume up on a show with subtitles because the subtitles aren't loud enough?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 07/02/2025

"Go touch grass" - the poet Saraha basically

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 06/02/2025

I just realized who Yebba reminds me and why she is a balm to my soul- she's like a modern femme voiced Seal. Same essence and feeling for me

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 04/02/2025

STOP:This is a self-care check-in. What are you doing today to care for present you, future you *and* past you?

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 02/02/2025

Hey honey. I know things are a lot right now. The world is a little bit on fire all the time so it's hard to separate yourself from the compassion you have for those around you without feeling like you're not a responsible person. They will continue the fuckery. But what is your lane?

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Katie Mack @astrokatie.com · 28/01/2025

I spoke to a talented junior scientist who just got a good faculty job offer in the US and they told me “well I wouldn’t move to 1930s Germany either” so that’s how that’s going

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Laura Lopez @ohdearz.bsky.social · 28/01/2025

Following Katie's suggestion, I looked up Franklin County, OH (where I live) & Indian River County, FL (where I have family) to see what kinds of projects are funded. It is such a wide range of activities and services; having this funding frozen indefinitely has such a wide and devastating impact.

Histogram of federal funding in Franklin County, OH. Largest funding source is Department of Health and Human Services for 323 billion dollars.

Histogram of federal spending in Indian River County, FL. The most funding comes from the Department of Homeland Security in the amount of 21 billion dollars.

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Melissa @melissa-cox.bsky.social · 28/01/2025

You don't need to have your shit together to work with me. That's like, the opposite of what I do. If you don't feel ready for full-time coaching yet, a 90 minute Energy Audit session is just $200. We make your spellsheet together and find the most impactful changes you can make immediately

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