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Hey @duolingoverde.bsky.social German learner here. How come you distinguish between a “doctor” and a “female doctor” when asking me for the correct word? Yes, I know they’re different words (Arzt vs Ärztin). Why not distinguish between a “male doctor” and a “female doctor”? Be better please.

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And so help me god if I hear “Not all men” one more time this week, I will need fucking bail money.

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Worse than the men who say “none of my guy friends” are the ones who say “I don’t know a single woman…” If you don’t know a single woman with a story, it’s because you’re not a safe person to tell. Full stop.

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You may believe that but it’s not credible. 1 in 2, 3, 4 women you know, but not one man? We don’t live in a country of 175M good guys and one Genghis Khan-level monster running around giving the rest a bad rap. 57 men in that group chat. How many Cornell men could truly say they knew none of them?

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1 in fucking 2. 1 in 3 women have experienced unwanted sexual contact. 1 in 4 sexual assault. Stop before you say “I would never be friends with someone who did that.”

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1 in 2 women are victims of sexual violence. Men: Think back. Every other woman you encountered today has a story. Is it your barista or your uber driver? Which two of your flight attendants? Your admin assistant or the receptionist? The waitress who served your dinner or the sous who cooked it?

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So although I’ve been up since 3 am, it’s 20 hours later and I’m still awake screaming into the void.

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Today we were negotiating with opposing counsel. I sent an email: “we don’t consent to your proposal,” and he tried to force his plan on us anyway. My colleague was surprised by my (unapologetically) extreme reaction. Men show women, every day and in so many ways, that consent doesn’t matter.

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All the while there is a concerted and destined-to-be-successful effort to out her identity. Why? To put her in danger. To punish her for speaking out. To retaliate against the accountability she will bring on the men who drugged, trafficked, and assaulted her

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All the while we’re seeing person (ahem, man) after person (ahem, man) ask why Jane Doe let herself get drunk, why she would go to a frat house, why her story details don’t match perfectly. It’s fucking exhausting.

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All the while, we’re holding space for Jane Doe. Grappling with our own traumas that it resurfaces. With the rage smoldering barely beneath the surface.

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We are expected to go through our days. Sitting on a plane next to a manspreader. Focusing on work. Smiling through meetings and coffees. Making small talk. Staying hydrated.

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You know what is exhausting? Being a woman this fucking week. TW: obviously.

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You’re a librarian! You have super powers! Speak out anyway, if you can. Get two more people at your institution to speak out, and ask each of them to get two more to speak out. It has to start somewhere!

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This is the week to show women (and the parents of the women who may become your students, and whose tuition funds your existence) that their safety on campus matters, and that they can get accountability if, god forbid, they need it.

I hope the Cornell news prompts educators like you at colleges across the country to interrogate the Title IX processes at your schools. Really scrutinize them. Look for failure points, loopholes, weaknesses, biases. Demand they be fixed.

At Swarthmore, the system started with a malicious Title IX coordinator and ended in a hearing that does justice only if the accused admitted the charges. At Cornell, the system yields farcical levels of accountability. At LSU, football stats are more important than preventing sexual violence.

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There are many professionals like you at colleges that care about student safety. I met several. The very kind, very uncomfortable, public safety officers. The Dean, who hugged at graduation and told me he was proud of me. But the system in place, the one you must follow, may be the problem.

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Because our stories were "irreconcilable"--because I said he did it and he said he didn't--the board would not hold him responsible. He was on campus for the rest of my college years. At a small school, avoidance was impossible.

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I have one very clear memory of the hearing: at the end of the hearing, the Dean asked if I was pre-law (I was not), and saying I should be a lawyer (I am now). But in the end, it didn't matter.

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A copy of my police report, a statement, questions to ask him (which I never got to ask), a statement from my friend who was my outcry witness and my friend's RA who had kindly let me into my sound-asleep-friend's room that night so I could find safety. Him, on the other hand? He just denied it.

I found another survivor; someone else who had been through the system, who was happy to support me. She was great. We were packed into a small conference room for hours. For hours I had to sit less than 8 feet from him. I came prepared.

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When she informed me she'd be my advocate, I pushed back: she hadn't acted for one second like she believed me, why should I trust she would support me? She told me I could bring someone else, but the board wouldn't believe me; if she wasn't there next to me, they'd assume there was a good reason.

Then she outlined the process: there was an adjudicatory board--the same one that investigated plagiarism--of 3 students and 3 professors, chaired by the dean. She informed me I was permitted an "advocate"... sort of. "Advocate" did not mean a lawyer; I could have someone for emotional support.

Public safety took my report & passed me off to the Title IX Office. From jump, the Title IX coordinator was... abominable. She asked whether I led him on. Whether I flirted. Whether I had too much to drink and forgot that I had consented. Whether this was just a misunderstanding or regret.

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MdDoogie3 @mddoogie3.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

The Title IX office is where so many problems start. When I was at Swarthmore College, I did what I was supposed to. I went to public safety AND the cops. The cops took me seriously and investigated. The DA ultimately chose not to pursue charges (In part, I suspect, because of the school).

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That’s the ONLY reason I left The West Wing off.

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MdDoogie3 @mddoogie3.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

The city was out with a mobile wood chipper, trying to clear my road, at 2 am. These were not small branches.

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MdDoogie3 @mddoogie3.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

The fact that this list does not include “The Newsroom” means it’s not credible.

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MdDoogie3 @mddoogie3.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Narrator: It will absolutely tip over.

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MdDoogie3 @mddoogie3.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Time to hold the WH Comms Director in contempt and jail him till he learns.

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I had an interview at a coffee shop (for a non-coffee-shop-related job). Ordered an iced coffee. Spilled it EVERYWHERE. Got a job offer the next day. Isn’t there anything—literally anything— better we could be focused on right now?

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Talked to my dad today. It's "huge news" in Maine, that's what matters. Learned Collins has been running ads accusing her opponent of corruption in federal contracting. Explained to Dad: 1) she's Republican; an accusation is a confession. 2) she's hoping to numb voters to the issue/both-sides it.

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If you asked me to draw a picture of a serial killer... ... it would look nothing like that picture. But only because I have zero artistic ability.

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Criticize the NYT's lack of coverage of the War of 1812. Their silence on the matter makes you wonder what else they're not covering.

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Take your shoes off, then your socks. Put your shoes back on. Put your socks on your hands, and insist the moderator address only Mr. and Mrs. Argyle.

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Repeatedly ask to see the wine list. Eventually, once you realize it's not forthcoming, ask to speak with the manager.

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