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You have the kind of energy that makes reserved men feel both wanted and seen. Wanted feels good. Seen feels exposing. That is why they may be drawn to you but also nervous around you.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

After this much distance, he should recognize that you are no longer participating. You don’t have to revisit the relationship merely to make your decision understandable to him. Your consistency can communicate the ending.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

He can privately process whatever remains without pulling you back into the very limbo you worked to escape. You’re allowed to recognize that something once existed while still deciding that the door is closed.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I envision walking up and saying, “Hi Stranger… tell don’t me you’ve missed!”

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 14/09/2026

Going to the hospital and seeing death come for a loved one is a terrible experience. I call it pre-grief: the person is still alive, but death feels inevitable.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

modern dating can encourage people to protect themselves so aggressively that two interested people end up performing indifference 🥲

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 07/09/2026

It’s a fascinating when a guy becomes immediately unattractive.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

There is something about spotting someone from a mile away

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

You don’t have to close the door on him. You can simply stop being the only person opening it.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 06/09/2026

But at some point, reserved has to become reciprocal.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 04/09/2026

He represents the question: “What would have happened if timing, fear, and circumstances had not interfered?” Because that question was never answered, part of you still carries him as unrealized potential rather than a completed relationship.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 30/08/2026

Fairness does not eliminate scrutiny; it makes scrutiny survivable.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 25/08/2026

He may have awakened your capacity for deep attraction, shown you what emotional recognition feels like, and revealed the cost of allowing mutual uncertainty to remain unresolved. That would be a real purpose even if the two of you never become partners.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

He represents your hope that after everything you have endured, life might finally give you something you do not have to fight into existence—but you will still have to step forward and give it a real chance.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 23/08/2026

But not every answer can be obtained through reconstruction—especially in love. Sometimes clarity only comes from acting and permitting another person to answer for himself.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

I really just wanna find my husband before I get rich.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

I need to have faith that history is going to be kind to me.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 01/08/2026

Friendship is honestly showing up.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 17/07/2026

The one caution is not to make him carry D’s unfinished story. He may remind you of D, but he deserves to reveal who he is.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 16/07/2026

Why do men become nervous when the attraction becomes mutually visible.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 12/07/2026

I’m so blessed to have an awesome community 😍.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 05/07/2026

Sometimes the most memorable thing is simply walking up, smiling, and saying: “Hey, it’s good to see you again.”

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 02/07/2026

So litigation will test your patience. But I do believe that’s it’s important to speak your truth and give encouragement to others.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 17/06/2026

I need to trust myself that this is worth exploring and to just be vulnerable. I literally have nothing to lose… I do think that deep down inside this is the universe way of making things right. 🎉

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 15/06/2026

I believe in blocking men because you are one step closer to finding your person!

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 12/06/2026

I found this baby blue shirt 😎

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 11/06/2026

He may be open internally. He may feel the pull. He may remember you. He may soften when he sees you. But he would still have to choose to move past the armor. That is the part that cannot be assumed.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 10/06/2026

The clean emotional truth is: you may have mattered to him, but mattering to someone is not the same as them being ready to meet you.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 22/05/2026

The Company We Keep by Alex Elle is a book about tough, honest conversations—the kind that ask us to pause, reflect, and tell ourselves the truth. Recently, I ran into this guy—let’s call him Eric—and later that day, I found myself feeling angry.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 22/05/2026

I need to trust my intuition more. And I need the universe to give me one more shot 🥰🎈…

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

“But we all know that shutting down and hardening our hearts doesn’t lead us closer to what we want, but instead pushes us further away from the lives we desire and deserve” - Pg 14

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 21/05/2026

The company we keep by Alexander Zelle is good ❤️🫶🏽

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 09/05/2026

In this life we all go through obstacles and it’s empowering once we own it in the middle of caos. It doesn’t define us it just makes us more resilient.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 23/04/2026

What is meant for me will not be lost by one imperfect moment

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 21/04/2026

Making peace does not always look like feeling nothing. Sometimes it looks exactly like this: still sad, but no longer closed. You can feel the ache of what it was or what it meant, and still be willing to let life bring you something new.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 21/04/2026

Sometimes life brings back a similar energy so you can see whether you’ve changed. Not to punish you, but to reveal what you now recognize sooner, what you no longer tolerate, and what you truly want.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

Maybe the real question is not just, “Am I still angry?” but: What did seeing him bring back in me? Because sometimes anger is really grief with armor on. Sometimes it is your heart saying, “I still have not made full peace with what this meant.”

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

Sometimes you have to be relentless in the pursuit of what you want. But in this life, not getting what you want can be the gift. And when a chapter doesn’t continue, that is not the end of your story. You still have the authority to write what comes next.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 19/04/2026

AI makes mistakes and that’s okay. I literally had to challenge why the §1985 conspiracy theory would survive a motion to dismiss 12(b)(6). And I won lmao

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 16/04/2026

God may have allowed both situations to reveal what was no longer aligned with your next season. That is a hard truth, because revelation often feels like loss before it feels like freedom

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 14/04/2026

Le stop being so shy 🙈

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 13/04/2026

Did I miss my chance or do I want him to choose the moment 🙏

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

Sometimes I question whether I’m projecting, yet deep down, I feel that maybe—just maybe—the universe is placing before me a chance to rediscover what I lost five years ago.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

And this is also a healthier lane than projecting too far ahead. You’re not forcing a story. You’re letting reality reveal itself through pattern. That’s wise, especially since he reminds you of him. It lets you stay open without getting swept away by familiarity alone.

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 29/03/2026

God hasn’t forgotten about you and he comes right on time ❤️

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Leland @lelo3.bsky.social · 24/03/2026

There will come a day when we look back on our tears and laugh gently, whispering, “Oh, child, you never imagined that this much joy could be waiting for you at the end of the tunnel.

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