kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 07/09/2026I so hope that's intending to be ironic. 011
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 01/04/2026This is an uncomfortable thing to say, but I think the worst are the undiagnosed and oblivious NDs, who are masking because their current identity depends on it, and see open NDs as a grave threat to that identity. Being surrounded with this in my family gives me some degree of insight... 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 19/03/2026This is where being both gay and autistic is so wild - the two experiences (at least for my generation - X) seem to run on parallel lines. My mother probably died thinking my sexuality was a phase, and my autism a total hallucination. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 22/10/20252/2 or that the filthy English imposed this dreadful stuff on them. But of course, we don't have words for it - we just use what they have imposed. I'm not saying that this is logical, or what you have done, but it always has that ring to me. Even more so in very conservative cultures like Russian. 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 22/10/2025I'm a native English speaker, but read fairly fluently in French and German. There is a part of me that finds it really demeaning that no other languages ever seem to bother to develop a vocabulary for sex - especially kink. It always feels to me like they are trying to assert their purity 1/2 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 28/09/2025There is that. Who knows what is happening under the cassock? Rubber would be a little warm, but not impossible now..... 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 28/09/2025Do you go to church in that young man????? 100
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 24/09/2025Then I need your gear. Right now. Thank you in advance. 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 20/09/2025not just adolescents, and yes, mine is very uneven. 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 31/08/2025They are different things, but the difference is not objective - it's down to how I feel about my alone-ness at the time. Being AuDHD that can change from moment to moment, in either direction. 110
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 28/08/2025He was recently diagnosed as ADHD. I think us late-diagnosed ND types struggle with many things, including internalised ableism from the many years of total ironclad masking. That has effects which are well beyond the scope of a Skeet to explain. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 27/08/2025The moon would be so overpopulated its orbit would change. 100
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 24/08/2025These days I'm more platinum (!) than anything else. Still trying to decide whether crushing mortal dread lessens. I think so - or at least it becomes a familiar presence. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 12/05/2025It's the glare of the sun I can't cope with. A really good sun hat with a wide brim is excellent for this, heated cranium notwithstanding. 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 08/05/2025The Vatican closet contains many skeletons, including those of popes. 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 21/04/2025Unfortunately, his failure to rein in the utter fascists in the US College of Bishops/Cardinals with the severity the task required is one of the main stains on his papacy. From that stems many of the other problems. 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 19/04/2025I can't describe this to the people around me, at least not in a version they will hear. They look at me like I have three heads. Surely doing it once was the charm? Er, no. Very much not. 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 16/04/2025gatekeeping between which two things? I think this is me, and am sure of being "dysregulated AF" 100
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 15/04/2025either, cyclically, to infinity and beyond. 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 15/04/2025That's not the reality. It takes you from fawning to abusers to distancing yourself from them. 0160
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 13/04/2025I wouldn't have a clue where to start. In ADHD terms I can articulate my need for support with organisation and prioritisation, but in autism terms, I think I'm still at the stage of retreating into a dark cave if anyone so much as asks if I need anything. Help is dangerous, my brain says. 040
Reposted by @kinkbugger.bsky.socialJocelyn Anderson Photography @jocelynanderson.bsky.social · 13/04/2025Wood Ducks are aptly named; they are one of the few waterfowl species that perch and nest in trees. 221129111
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 08/04/2025In which braindead world is that his fucking sister? 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 07/04/2025I am currently sitting in what you might call a fallout storm from precisely this. Feeling the need for care, but not having time or resources to organise, accept or receive it, because there is so much to cope with coming. 0110
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 07/04/2025This raises what you might call the spectre of IBS. It's an elimination diagnosis, meaning that no pathological root is discovered. This really is one point where I feel that someone could have asked questions when I was diagnosed with IBS - 27 years ago. 140
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 30/03/2025And indeed capitalist family life, which is just as output-oriented as the world capitalist bullshit 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 29/03/2025I'm still often shocked by the fact that I am getting angry, because it's something I always mask very deeply. If I catch myself allowing it to surface it freaks me out completely. 010
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 20/03/2025My particular issue in this area is with doing things I think are worthless - and conversely, dealing with people who don't think that things I value are important. In both cases, it feels like an attack on my essential being. That experience of external things as essential seems essential autistic. 020
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 11/03/2025I'm having my late teens and early 20s in my 50s. It's extremely confusing. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 10/03/2025Being a complete control freak, I find the fact that I share these things that I thought were unique to me with others quite challenging. I'm learning to enjoy the cameraderie rather than fearing the claustrophobia but it's a struggle. 110
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 07/03/2025I have no way of knowing whether what I would describe as dissociation is trivialising or not. I am doing it at the moment, but I can't invite you into my head so you can see. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 06/02/2025Even many falling into that category were missed when I was at school because I predate Asperger's syndrome. 030
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 05/02/2025mine isn't exactly sleep paralysis, but my bed has a vice-like embrace. I'm just groggy rather than actually asleep. Is that still counted as sleep paralysis? 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 31/01/2025Or sometimes on both sides of this at the same time with different people. The refusal to reply is otherwise known as demand avoidance. Potentially persistent demand avoidance. Just as real as RSD, which I also suffer greatly. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 31/01/2025I must admit to being mostly on the other end of this. I have to really restrain the urge "STFU, sit down and wait. I'll reply when I'm fucking well ready.". Well there go you, perhaps I just did. 100
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 18/01/2025This. Constantly. Relentlessly. Every minute of every day. And my flat looks like the chaos created by randomly picking up and putting down objects every day. I wonder why... 030
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 22/12/2024If new tracksuit is ordered, pix must be posted. 000
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 20/12/2024This is almost certainly an AuDHD thing - I get to nearly everything three minutes late. The ASD needs the routine but the ADHD has an absolute fit about wasting time by being early, because then it's not my time it's theirs, and that cannot happen under any circumstances known to humankind. 100
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 15/12/2024I was with mine last weekend in lieu of Christmas. I am still recovering. Feels like I turn myself inside out and upside down when I'm there, and that takes a lot of energy and a lot of sorting out. Both parts of the process are exhausting. 110
kinkbugger.bsky.social @kinkbugger.bsky.social · 14/12/2024antihistamines, specifically old-style Piriton, are key. Stop the itching far more successfully than anything I ever had as a kid. 010
