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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

Major #AI execs, including those proven incapable of self regulation, sign "morally binding" voluntary controls. “It’s almost like a constitution” says Trump, who currently faces hundreds of lawsuits related to constitutional violations. In other news, foxes pinky swear to guard henhouse.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

Matt Robb’s Muse AI agent shared his home address and arranged a pickup without his permission or even awareness. When the buyer arrived, they messaged Matt repeatedly but Muse did not pass any messages on.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Me, discovering interstitial journaling and thinking I’d found an ADHD secret weapon; committed maniacally, convicted to proselytize this miracle method. Me, 4 days later, forgetting about it entirely. Others afflicted: how are you managing your ADHD and managing to keep [whatever that is] going?

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 05/09/2026

A Meta official told reporters last week, “I think legislation would have been the best answer to this issue.” But Meta and its lobby have been (and continue to) push back on broad mandates on constitutional grounds, but never with solutions. Now we have them.

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Meta’s Agreed Child Safety Rules and How Congress Makes Them Law

The settlement proves the requirements are feasible. What it cannot do is survive constitutional review if mandated broadly. How might legislators translate these protections into durable law?

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

DJT just making sure those who were on the fence about data centers know to certainly fear them now.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

Don’t let Meta’s actions fool you, I explained to @thetimes.com this morning. This is not a company we can trust with our kids or our democracies.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

“For years, the industry argument has largely been that companies should be trusted to develop safety measures themselves,” Stonelake said. “Now Meta is effectively saying that voluntary action by one company is insufficient and that an industry-wide standard is necessary.“

techpolicy.press

What's in Meta's Teen Social Media Settlement—and What Hinges on Its Rivals

Meta reached a landmark settlement with state attorneys general over teen safety on Instagram and Facebook, write Varsha Bansal and Justin Hendrix.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

I joined Julianna Arnold on Elizabeth Vargas Reports to discuss Meta’s $17 billion settlement and what it means for children and families. Thank you @newsnation.bsky.social for the opportunity and to Julianna for continuing to fight for meaningful change while carrying an unimaginable loss.

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Elizabeth Vargas speaks with survivor parent Julianna Arnold and Meta Whistleblower Kelly Stonelake

YouTube video by Kelly Stonelake | Overturned

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/08/2026

One of my Substack subscribers sent me a screenshot of Meta already advertising an open letter to TikTok and YouTube to join them in “supporting teens.” I shouldn’t be surprised, but it is surreal after they’ve spent years categorically denying the role of their products in youth harms.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

I'm paying attention to: - Whether Meta extends these same protections to kids around the world - How limiting predatory and exploitative product design features impacts long term revenue - Whether this settlement changes how politicians, investors, and the public assess Meta’s credibility

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

Meta settles with the US government today, and after denying allegations for years suddenly calls for every other platform to make the same product changes they’ve agreed to.

overturned.substack.com

Statement on Meta’s Landmark Settlement with the US Government

From former Meta Director, federal whistleblower, and mom to three

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ParentsResist.Tech @parentsresist.bsky.social · 24/08/2026

Questions? Need more context? Writer and former Director of Product Marketing at Meta, @kellystonelake.bsky.social wrote a nice explainer: overturned.substack.com/p/metas-bigg...

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Meta’s Biggest Child-Safety Trial Yet, Explained

And why 29 states’ allegations against Meta line up with my own experience inside the company

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 24/08/2026

I learned what COPPA’s “actual knowledge” standard meant because, inside Meta, I was told not to document evidence that children were using Horizon. Now Meta is fighting 29 states over whether it knowingly collected data from kids under 13. I wrote about this plus other context bc I ❤️ context:

overturned.substack.com

Meta’s Biggest Child-Safety Trial Yet, Explained

And why 29 states’ allegations against Meta line up with my own experience inside the company

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 12/08/2026

How did Meta transform from a customer-obsessed company out to change the world and into a company that only cares about itself and is threatening the world? Because they had to, because they can. Like I told @newsnation.bsky.social, @doctorow.pluralistic.net's Enshittification is req'd reading.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

Whether Meta chooses to withdraw or pay and change, the more jurisdictions that follow New Mexico’s lead, the harder it will be for Meta to continue harming our kids.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 08/08/2026

But didn’t Meta say they’d leave New Mexico if forced to change?

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

New Mexico says: - Meta’s platforms are the factory. - The psychological harm and sexual exploitation of children are the pollution. - The “pollution” spreads beyond Meta’s platforms and burdens children, families, schools, hospitals, and law enforcement. I break down the entire court order:

overturned.substack.com

Meta to Make Platform Changes and Pay Nearly $1 Billion in Child Safety Case

I break down the court order, the "pollution" metaphor, and why New Mexico called Meta a public nuisance

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

BREAKING Meta was just ordered to pay an additional $567 million to New Mexico so that the state can address the harm caused to kids by their products. Between this judgment and the $375 million of damages awarded in the trial, Meta owes New Mexico nearly a billion dollars!

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 07/08/2026

👇🏻Meta says “we can meddle in political issues, but you can’t… especially not the bipartisan issue of addressing the harms we cause!”

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 05/08/2026

Different stories but the same authoritarian & patriarchal habits of exploitation & impunity. Domination is protection, intentions & ambitions are a substitute for accountability, people who expose harm are punished & vilified, & consequences are imposed on less powerful people as costs of progress.

open.substack.com

August 2026: The Latest in Tech Authoritarianism

The Senate advances KOSA, Big Tech CEOs escape the witness chair, Meta’s secret $10 million political check, Boz’s threat against leakers, a disturbing employee arrest, and the cost of the AI boom

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 28/07/2026

Ross Don’t Douthat is joining Bari Weiss’ CBS.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

"Safety by design instead of age restrictions: It is not platform access but the platforms themselves that need to be restricted, argues @kellystonelake.bsky.social—a former Meta executive turned whistleblower and online safety activist"

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 23/07/2026

While minimum social media age requirements are important first steps, they depend on partnership from tech companies and don't address the harmful product design directly. This is what I’ve explained in my Project Syndicate article that came out this week. overturned.substack.com/i/207849403/...

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 21/07/2026

Read @doctorow.pluralistic.net's comparison of Zuckerberg to dictator Alexander Lukashenka, including the phrase “history’s most guillotineable billionaire."

pluralistic.net

Pluralistic: Zuckerberg’s increasingly bizarre war on whistleblowers (27 Jun 2026) – Pluralistic: Daily links from Cory Doctorow

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 21/07/2026

"Josh Felker, 44, an engineering manager who’s now on leave from the Facebook parent company, admitted he had been grooming and sexting someone he thought was a teen girl during a sting by Predator Poachers Long Island, a vigilante group that seeks to catch would-be pervs."

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Exclusive | Meta worker who developed ‘digital experiences for kids’ admits to trying to sext child in undercover NYC sting

He admitted he had been grooming and sexting someone he thought was a 13-year-old girl during a sting by vigilante group Predator Poachers Long Island.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 21/07/2026

The latest on Sarah Wynn-Williams, Instagram’s CSAM ads, and why Meta has spent $70,000 per day lobbying the federal government since the beginning of 2026. Here is a roundup of the latest ways Mark Zuckerberg is trying to make the problems he refuses to solve everyone else’s:

open.substack.com

July 2026: The Latest in Tech Authoritarianism

The US' new "child-safety bill" that would protect Big Tech, Meta's escalating war on Sarah Wynn-Williams, AI-assisted layoffs, CSAM ads in India, and my op-ed about why Europe’s next moves matter

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 02/07/2026

My 12-year-old went to his friends house to watch the World Cup today. He didn’t have a jersey so made his own shirt (printed on paper, taped on, speech bubbles glued). Swipe to read ➡️

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/06/2026

Meta won’t engage with the merits of her accusations. They instead want to benefit from principles (stifling speech) and practices (forced arbitration) they’ve publicly denounced (when it benefitted them).

open.substack.com

Sarah Wynn-Williams Sues Meta

The author and whistleblower filed suit yesterday, asking a judge to put an end to Meta's gag

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Mike Baker @mikebaker.bsky.social · 10/06/2026

JUST IN: Brand new research on adolescent screen time finds a correlation between screen hours and sleep deficiency. Data collection, analysis and chart via my middle schooler. n= 50

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 04/06/2026

I cited DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) in yesterday’s analysis of Meta’s tactics to silence and shift blame to truth tellers like Sarah Wynn-Williams. Today, Dr. Jennifer Freyd who originally coined the term shared my piece! Yes, DARVO 👏🏼 use 👏🏼 by 👏🏼 Meta! 👏🏼

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 04/06/2026

Sarah Wynn-Williams sat on stage in silence for an hour last week—the modern muzzle: open.substack.com/pub/overturn...

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 04/06/2026

Seattle has boats blocking the cars and cars blocking the trains.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 03/06/2026

In the 16th century, women who threatened power were punished with the branks, an iron cage locked over the head with a flat bit that pressed down the tongue. Last week, Sarah Wynn-Williams sat silent for an hour on stage. Modern branks are made of paper: NDAs, forced arbitration, and lawsuits.

open.substack.com

The Modern Muzzle: Meta's Paper Branks

A company that sold the world on giving everyone a voice made Sarah Wynn-Williams sit silent on a stage

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

Executives must be incentivized to prevent child-safety failures, not just manage Meta’s exposure to them. Executives must be measured against whether child-safety systems actually work, not whether Meta can manage the optics.

open.substack.com

What I Told Mark Zuckerberg This Morning: Child Safety Must Be Tied to Executive Pay

At Meta’s annual meeting, I urged executives and shareholders to support a proposal asking whether child-safety performance should be tied to senior executive pay.

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 26/05/2026

I'm honored to present the proposal, which asks for a report assessing the feasibility of integrating child safety improvements into Meta's senior executive compensation program, tomorrow at Meta's Annual General Shareholder Meeting.

prnewswire.com

Proxy Impact: Shareholders Move to Link Meta Executive Pay to Child Safety as Landmark Lawsuit Losses Mount

/PRNewswire/ -- On Wednesday May 27, Meta shareholders will vote on a shareholder resolution asking the Board to assess the feasibility of tying senior...

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 05/05/2026

If your kids use i-Ready, or you are interested in the proliferation of predatory tech at the expense of tax-payers, you might appreciate my latest reporting:

open.substack.com

A Learning Tool Used by Millions Faces Questions About Evidence—and a Lawsuit

Is i-Ready running consumer tech's predatory playbook in public schools?

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 01/05/2026

@timnitgebru.blacksky.app: If you’re building a bridge, you think about what vehicles will cross it, what loads it needs to bear, and you choose your materials accordingly. “The current approach to #AI is building a bridge out of pig iron and never asking who’s going to drive over it,” Bergman said.

open.substack.com

"They Prey on Gazelles, But Only the Weakest Ones"

A room of lawyers, legislators, and litigators mapping the fight to protect kids from predatory tech

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 30/04/2026

My girl @kathleenicanrah.bsky.social’s Tiny Love Story in the NYT (again!!) today!

Coming Late, Leaving Early
I got to the party late; everyone was a few drinks in. The music was too loud. The married man hugged me for too long. Three years into not drinking, I felt as sober as could be. A woman asked loudly how my dying mother was doing. I yelled back: “Bad!” I grabbed my husband’s hand, made a face. We left the party early. At home, I picked up a novel and crawled into bed. Three hours later, I stood up, astonished at how words on a page could make me fall in love with the world again. — Kathleen Donahoe

Photo: The author reading in her yard with her children

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 18/04/2026

I have to renew my license before my birthday and they’re finally saying I’m ineligible for online renewal. INJUSTICE. I took this pic 13 years ago before I had kids IT LOOKS EXACTLY LIKE ME TODAY. How DARE they! I’m just as vibrant, happy, and free!! I SWEAR!!!!!!!!!

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Kelly Stonelake (she/her) @kellystonelake.bsky.social · 14/04/2026

Today, I wrote about #autisticburnout and my variable capacity, #wellnessculture, and the radical act of self-compassion. Perhaps you’re also navigating this burnout, or maybe because you’ve reckoned with your limits some other way, due to chronic illness, disability, caregiving, job-loss, or grief.

open.substack.com

Peanut Butter on Crackers Can Be a Complete Meal

On capacity limitations, wellness culture, and the radical act of self-compassion

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