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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 30/09/2026

lyrics of my haunting ode to kiss carnage (semi-inspired by a convo we had on this week's Dildorks about whether I am obligated, as a kinky & sexually active adult woman, to cover my bruises/hickeys/etc. when I go out) bsky.app/profile/kate...

you bruised my lip up with your kisses
I begged you please to use your teeth
it's fun pretending you're so vicious
when you're actually so sweet

you bruised my lip up with your kisses
today, it's purple as a plum
& when it's gone, I know I'll miss it
'cause I know who that bruise came from

I cover it all up with lipstick
every time that I go out
'cause I'd rather not arouse suspicion
rather not cast any doubt

you bruised my lip up with your kisses
it was consensual as hell
I feel obscene; I feel delicious
'cause you've been kissing me so well

my lip bruise
my lip bruise
reminds me of you
my lip bruise

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 24/09/2026

sorry 2 the guy who tried to cold-approach me on the street while I looked like this; I know you couldn’t see that I have AirPods in but I kinda thought the rest of the look would convey “I am not open to socializing with strangers today” just as well

Kate frowning in an unimpressed manner while walking on a street in Toronto on a sunny day; she is wearing black sunglasses, a black hoodie with the hood pulled up, and a red leather jacket

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 24/09/2026

rly enjoying the color story of my current notebook/pen loop/pencil combo

A Field Notes notebook featuring a gorgeous pink/purple/yellow illustration of a stone arch at Olympic National Park. Two yellow pen loops have been added to the side of the notebook, and are holding a pink Blackwing volume 54 pencil with a silver ferrule, a royal blue eraser, and some pale pink polka-dotted washi tape wrapped around the spot just below the ferrule.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 23/09/2026

lyrics of my love language blues

I gave you what you wanted –
made you gasp, made you moan –
so why, though you will bone me,
won't you throw me a bone?

CHORUS:
you're gettin' some from me
but I'm not getting what I need

I learned your whole love language
to touch you & your heart
so why won't you slip me
some praise when we part?

(repeat chorus)

I'm perpetually cravin' those words of affirmation
it's just the way I am – don't have a choice
my fantasies are fadin' when I'm mid-masturbation
'cause you want me but won't say it with your voice!

I try to be a partner
who's generous & kind
but it's harder when you never
tell me what is on your mind

(repeat chorus)

it's not conceit or greed, my love
don't make me beg & plead, my love
I know that on this point, we disagree

but you're gettin' some from me
& I'm not getting what I need
what I need

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 23/09/2026

In honor of Bi Visibility Day, here’s me with two of my favorite fellow bi’s photos by @paxwords.bsky.social & @mbbischoff.com respectively

A cute outdoor portrait of Kate and her wife mb, taken by pax. Both are smiling and wearing red lipstick which matches Kate’s red glasses.

An outdoor portrait (taken by mb) of pax and Kate in summery sunshine. Kate is wearing a leopard-print dress and dark sunglasses; pax is opening his green button-down to show the tank top underneath which says “poetry is gay and so am I”

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 22/09/2026

was reading up on that John Waters quote where he famously said you shouldn’t fuck people who don’t own books, and learned he apparently has ANOTHER banger quote about books:

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 18/09/2026

captioned version for TikTok 😘 naturally, someone on there has already vastly misunderstood the purpose of the song by failing to actually listen to it 🤪

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 17/09/2026

this piece is where my sex toy nerdery & songwriting nerdery collide 🥰

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 16/09/2026

lyrics of my song in defense of men (rare for me...) aimed for economy of language in this one (also rare for me...)

men just want one thing – that's what they say
yeah, men just want one thing, every damn day
it's not a complex narrative, with not a lot of grace to give,
that men just want one thing: to get laid

men just want one thing – that rumor stuck
that men just want one thing; doesn't that suck?
I wish it wasn't fair to say this lie's repeated every day
that men just want one thing: to get to fuck

'cause men have feelings too!
they cry sometimes & pine & whine & love – I swear it's true
men can crave a deep connection
more than they care about their erection

men just want one thing – don't misconstrue,
but "men just want one thing"? maybe it's true
we all want love & trust & home, regardless of our chromosomes
so men just want one thing, & it's the same as you
yeah, men just wanna be loved – they really do

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 11/09/2026

current journal cover reflects both of my cities & both of my partners 🥰

The front and back covers of a black large hardcover Moleskine notebook. The front cover says “I heart NY” and has a sticker from CB Pro comedy school in Toronto. The back cover features two photobooth strips (one of Kate with her boyfriend pax, one of her with her wife mb), a leafy green sticker, and another sticker that says “one big polycule”

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 09/09/2026

lyrics of my catchy up-tempo ode to romantic (im)patience + yearning

I'm not a patient girl
I want the whole damn world
& I want it now

but with you, I'll have to pine
sit back & bide my time
(not that I know how!)

looking for some willpower
bad at being a wallflower
losing all my cool hour by hour, but...

CHORUS:
I think you're worth the wait
better late than never
so delay the pleasure & wait
there's no way on earth
that you won't be worth the wait

I've never been the type
to let the fruit get ripe
before I take a taste

but maybe, as a treat,
I'll let the fruit get sweet
'cause life is not a race

really got my heart aching
pulse is pounding, hands shaking
but I'll stay the course, waiting & waiting, 'cause...

(repeat chorus)

maybe I'm a masochist
hoping for a catalyst
to push the future closer to my door

but waiting for you like I should
actually feels kinda good
I'll moan if we postpone a little more! &...

(repeat chorus)

you're the slowest burn
& I live to yearn & wait
there's no way on earth
that you won't be worth the wait

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 05/09/2026

kissing each of my sweet gorgeous partners while the other one photographed!! out here living my best life!

A beautiful black & white photo of Kate and pax kissing against a graffiti backdrop; pax’s camera is hanging from around his neck

Kate and mb kissing against the same graffiti backdrop

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 04/09/2026

can't believe it's been more than 10 years since I got my 'good girl' thigh tattoos 😭 they utterly transformed my body image for the better & I still love 'em every time I look at 'em girlyjuice.net/behold-my-ne...

mirror selfies of Kate wearing shorts that show off the tattoos on the backs of her thighs, which are cute pink ribbon bows with the words "good girl" above them

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 03/09/2026

I was basically dressed like a walking heart-eyes emoji

Mirror selfies of Kate wearing red lipstick, a black and red heart-print camisole, black jeans, red and pink Nikes, and a red leather jacket

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 02/09/2026

lyrics of my capricious ode to cowardice, lol bsky.app/profile/kate...

of course you don’t like me; of course I’m misreading
you’re clearly just following ‘cause I won’t stop leading
of course you don’t want me – I must be insane
no, you don’t need to explain

of course you’re not staring when you’re out of my sight
you’re kind & you’re caring; you’re sweet & polite
so, of course I see fire where there’s not even smoke
I’m guessing my sensor might be broke

but… what if I’m actually right?
what if I’ve read you correctly?
what if the way that you’re wanting me
looks like you just like & respect me?

what if you act like my friend
‘cause that’s all you think you can be?
what if you’re waiting on signals & signs from me?

no… of course you don’t like me – don’t know why it seemed so
‘cause if you really liked me, wouldn’t you let me know?
if you don’t take a shot, then you never can miss
& I’m struggling to summon up the guts to take a risk

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 02/09/2026

you gottttttta live whimsically bro. it’s all we have

Mirror selfies of Kate wearing a bright pink tank top, pink sweatpants, pink Nikes and black sunglasses

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 02/09/2026

watched & rewatched in august – a v good movie month

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 30/08/2026

a little taste, so to speak 😉 subscribe to read what happened next!

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 28/08/2026

look how cute & in love we are, wtf!! photos by @mbbischoff.com of me & @paxwords.bsky.social ✨

Kate & pax kissing outdoors on a Brooklyn street corner at magic hour

pax kissing Kate’s cheek at a bar; Kate is smiling and wearing a key on a necklace

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 27/08/2026

was having a gloomy day & then received a giant box of dildos from @uberrimedildos.bsky.social which really turned my whole mood around 🍆

Four gorgeously colorful regular-size dildos, two of which are sporting little bowties at their base, and five miniature dildos.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 27/08/2026

lyrics of a piano song about a long lovely walk

my ankles ache from the long long walk
where we shot the shit, just talked & talked
under Bed-Stuy traintracks, Bushwick lights
it wasn't amazing; it was just nice

you asked me lots of questions about my past
& I wished the time would last & last
or that I could hit rewind once or twice
relive the laughs that felt just nice

but seconds slide like sun below the skyline
ephemeral & final, just like life
we make no proclamations, just get lost in conversation
it's not a revelation; it's just nice

& maybe this could be the start of something more
when you walked me home, I didn't lock the door
but if this ends here, that'll sure suffice
it was what I wanted – it was just nice
you were what I wanted – you were just nice

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 24/08/2026

excuse me how dare my wife @mbbischoff.com be this good at taking photos of me

A beautiful portrait of Kate outside at magic hour in Brooklyn. She is wearing a black high-necked cocktail dress, a purplish-pink purse, red lipstick and a coy smile.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 20/08/2026

lyrics of my ode to ~lovemaking~ or whatever or whatever

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 17/08/2026

black pencil skirt truly the MVP for outfits that look decently presentable but will not make me miserable in a heat wave

Mirror selfies of Kate in two different outfits, both featuring the same black pencil skirt. The first look involves a navy lacy tank top + black Doc Martens; the second look features a pink tank top and black leather Frye boots.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 16/08/2026

why is he so cute tho (image taken when a fog machine at the tiki bar obscured our whole-ass vision)

pax kissing Kate’s temple while dressed in tiki prints at a tiki bar, they both look amused at the quantity of fog around them

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 15/08/2026

outfit for bf’s bday drinks 2nite🍹

Mirror selfies of Kate wearing a button-up tiki-print shirt in jewel tones over a turquoise cropped tank top, with a black velvet miniskirt, pink metallic cowboy boots, a turquoise velvet headscarf, and a pinky-purple bag that matches her lipstick

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 15/08/2026

happy happy birthday to cute boy @paxwords.bsky.social!! thank u for being such a sweet funny boyfriend who brings so much brightness & joy into my life ☀️ (all photos by gorg talented wife @mbbischoff.com)

Kate & pax cuddling on a Brooklyn subway platform, smiling

Kate asleep on pax’s shoulder while they ride the subway together; pax is smiling impishly

Kate kissing pax’s cheek at the Dyke March

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 12/08/2026

lyrics of my love song for vibrators soon (watch this space) I'll be writing a piece that goes into detail on the songwriting & production process for this one, which was really fun!

if you meet a lovely lady & decide you wanna date her
you wanna get to know her sooner rather than much later
looking for an in? well, here's a fabulous icebreaker:
ask her all about her favorite vibrator

then listen very carefully to what she has to say, sir
show her you're supportive & you'd never try to shame her
sure, you might prefer to be the one to stimulate her
but you are friends, not enemies, with her vibrator

maybe it's a Magic Wand kept plugged in by the bed
maybe it's a rabbit, runs on batteries instead
maybe it can twist or lick or thrust or suck
either way, if it's in play, you're both in luck

so, if your goal's to make your whole connection greater,
why would you deprive her & just frustrate her?
it's a simple, helpful pleasure generator
a lifesaver – fuck the haters! – it's a vibrator
a rotator, a pulsator, it's a vibrator

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 11/08/2026

screeching at the hotness of this answer from Matt Johnson in a Reddit AMA

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 06/08/2026

I have a piano!!! (haven’t owned one since I’ve been living in New York which is over a year now) thank you to @mbbischoff.com, generous wife extraordinaire, for making my dreams come true 💖

A digital piano, in a midcentury style, made of medium-brown wood, with a matching piano bench. Both look right at home in Kate and mb’s apartment, next to a colorful rug and big TV. On the music stand is a small Field Notes notebook and a larger notebook labeled “Songs: 2022-2026.”

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 05/08/2026

lyrics of my (arguably) gay pride song

half of me, couldn't she marry a man,
buy a nice house, & stick to the plan?
2.5 kids & a good degree
proud to be living "respectably"

yeah, half of me, couldn't she play it so straight?
white picket fence with locks on the gate
at dinner, she's ever the diplomat
loves her best friend, but no, not like that!

yes, she could do it
I know she could do it – but why?

half of me, couldn't she shut it all down,
fear every smile & chase every frown?
would she aim higher than apathy,
or would she embrace mediocrity?

yeah, half of me, couldn't she cut herself off
from everything joyful & anything soft?
shrinking her thinking until there's none left
it's not a crime if no one sees the theft

yes, she could do it
I know she could do it – but why?
yes, she could fake it
I know she could take it, but wouldn't she cry
while shyly desiring a life like mine?

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 03/08/2026

outfit for a 3-hour improv class + the final Raaaatscraps show + delish dinner + some sexy stuff

Mirror selfies of Kate wearing a blue and red striped crop top, red pencil skirt, red/pink Nikes and red lipstick

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 31/07/2026

love having built a life where I only wear heels when I extremely feel like it

Mirror selfies of an outfit Kate wore to a jazz club on a cute date with her boyfriend. She’s wearing a sparkly little navy dress with black Mary Jane-style heels, red lipstick, and navy earrings shaped like an internal clitoris.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 30/07/2026

lyrics of my semi-horny ode to dimly lit booths in the shadows of jazz bars

kiss me – kiss me at the jazz club
I want you to kiss me – kiss me at the jazz club
I love to feel our pulses pound,
surrounded by the sweetest sound
so, kiss me – kiss me at the jazz club

touch me – touch me at the jazz club
I need you to touch me – touch me at the jazz club
I love to feel your wandering hands
explore while scored by gorgeous bands
so, touch me – touch me at the jazz club

love has a rhythm just like music
there's an easy way to prove it:
listen close & love me through it

love is when our heartbeats start to sync
& the stage lights paint me pink
& you order us another round of drinks – whoa!

love me – love me at the jazz club
I love it when you love me – love me at the jazz club
'cause nothing makes me feel so close
as showing you what I love most
so, love me – love me at the jazz club
at the jazz club
this is real love

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 24/07/2026

also, so sorry to do this to you, but um

a sex toy that is essentially just two perky breasts with a vulva in between them, like some kind of horrific lovecraftian creature that a manosphere cretin would dream up

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 24/07/2026

I say this exact thing in like a dozen emails a week, sigh

• All of my sponsored content is tagged “spon” and has a note at the end explaining that the post is sponsored. This is non-negotiable as it’s legally required by the Federal Trade Commission.

• Important: As I already explained, all of the content I publish on my website is written by me. I do not publish writing that was written by anyone who is not me. No exceptions are made for any reason, so there’s no need for you to ask me about submitting guest posts again, since I don’t publish them.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 23/07/2026

captioned version of my song about a subway romance 😘

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 22/07/2026

lyrics of my personal ad/song (based on a not-real example of a very real phenomenon) bsky.app/profile/kate...

missed connection: saw you on the train
you wore a white shirt with a coffee stain
jeans with double cuffs & a backpack stuffed with stuff
you gave your seat to a lady with a cane

missed connection with the handsome face,
I felt a sparkle simply sharing space
then you pulled out a book & I couldn't help but look:
my favorite Shakespeare – hey, you've got great taste!

the thing about a train ride is it always has to end
& the strangers keep on changing, so you never make a friend
I saw you & I wanted you & wanted so much more
but I let my eyes say my goodbyes through grimy sliding doors

missed connection: saw you on the train
& I'll never know your story or your name
unless you see this plea – I beseech you to email me
'cause not knowing what could be drives me insane
not knowing what could be drives me insane

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 16/07/2026

a lovecore look for fancy sushi dinner

Mirror selfies of Kate and her wife mb. mb is wearing a long red glamorous dress and black flats. Kate is wearing a tiny pink ribbed tank top, a red pencil skirt, and pink Doc Martens.

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 14/07/2026

happy happy coming-out-iversary to my gorgeous wife @mbbischoff.com! 7 beautiful bright years of being more & more yourself ❤️🏳️‍⚧️

Mirror selfie of Kate and mb, both in cute dresses and jackets, ready to go out

Mirror selfie of Kate and mb in gay-ass outfits, en route to the Dyke March

Selfie of Kate and mb looking glamorous and hot

Selfie of Kate and mb in the front row at an improv show, both wearing red lipstick and smiling

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 14/07/2026

feel like a songwriting mad scientist – my assigned theme this week was to use “found lyrics” i.e. to take an existing piece of text, however mundane or profound, & use it as lyrics I took notes during an improv set I saw on Friday & have written a song using only lines of dialogue from that show🤓

A piece of pink lined paper has been cut up into several smaller strips, each bearing a line of dialogue from an improv show. A random sampling: “you’re not gonna convince me that this isn’t happening.” “I’m just a guy. I don’t even go to church.” “If we’re fuckin’, we’re fuckin’. If we’re talkin’, we’re talkin’”

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Kate Sloan (she/her) @katesloan.com · 13/07/2026

Lelo sent me their new libido supplement to try (it’s a powder that you stir into water), and it both looks and tastes like some kind of demonic forest witch’s brew

Two images of a metal Lelo-branded tumbler filled with a viscous greenish fluid with some brownish powder floating on the surface

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