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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 07/10/2026

I lived in LA for a long time. Got to know a lots of Hollywood industry types and how it works. Our industry is growing into something like it—so few gigs, high competition, and everything’s temporary. Plus a ladder that gets pulled up so newcomers don’t advance as easily. Don’t love that.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 07/10/2026

I loved Birdman, wonder how this’ll be. Let me know!

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 06/10/2026

Made a few updates to the site, including a nicer reading experience. And put up some projects I’ve been working on. I plan to do more writing about design, craft, and keep digging on helping people have better conversations, too. Also: lots more to come, especially with art. joshuagraves.me

joshuagraves.me

Joshua Graves | Designer, Author, Curious Person

Multidisciplinary product designer, author of We Need to Talk, and visual artist.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 06/10/2026

I was JUST talking about this a few days ago! I’m glad we did that. …round 2 sometime?

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 04/10/2026

Oh dang, Midnight Mass was good for me. Thought it did well with religious/family trauma themes. The use of a vampire as a metaphor for losing one’s autonomy in settings like that was effective. That said, Bly Manor wasn‘t my thing but House of Usher was huge fun. Wake Up was forgettable IMO.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 04/10/2026

This reminds me off the Monet story of how he had cataract surgery, recovered, and could see IR. Harrowing circumstances, yet quite an outcome. www.sciencehistory.org/stories/maga...

sciencehistory.org

Could Claude Monet See Like a Bee?

A harrowing eye surgery may have given the impressionist painter the ability to see UV light.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 03/10/2026

I miss old Twitter. I deleted my account and won’t go back. But damn this is good brain rot

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

Look, it’s going to be awkward. For everyone. You’re going to feel like you just got seared on a grill. That’s ok. Let it be that way. And we need to get to work on making this place safer by looking after each other. Everyone else has been doing this work for years. We haven’t. It’s time to start.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

This doesn’t take a lot of work, or a big speech. Just a few lines like these: - bro wtf that’s not ok - that’s not funny - knock it off dude - i don’t get the joke, why’s that funny?

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

Yes, your brother may just stop doing that around you. But it’s one less place he can get away with it, and that’s a win. It may hurt you, you may lose a friend, or other harm may come to you. That’s the price of being a good man.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

If you want to prevent big, bad things, you must do the menial, unpleasant job of telling your brother his behavior isn’t ok. Because the more we practice that behavior, the more of us who do this, the less places it will occur.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

Instead, we excuse him because we know him, because he’s a good dude. Or because it’ll cost us something. Or worse, because we’re sad and desperate men who wish it were us.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

We aren’t calling out our brother when he makes an out of pocket comment. We aren’t stopping him when he puts his hands on someone at a bar or concert. We aren’t making him look at the impact his words have.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

And why? A bunch of small, annoying work that needs doing isn’t getting done. That’s precisely what prevents the big bad things.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

How do I know we’re failing? It’s still happening. What’s this “it?” Look around. Pick something. This week it’s Cornell where a woman alleges seven men raped her and dozens more knew and did nothing to stop it. Next week, it’ll be somewhere else. And it's been happening endlessly.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 02/10/2026

Men, we’re blowing it. And we need to face it. We’re saying all the right things: I’m ashamed of men, I’d never let that happen, I’d have said something. Maybe you would've, but those statements come after the fact. There’s significant work that comes before that we aren’t doing It's failing us all.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 01/10/2026

Every day we stray further from god’s light

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Dr Hannah M. Rowland @hannahmrowland.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

Hope your day was better than Darwin’s, on this day 165 years ago

I am very poorly today & very stupid & hate everybody &everything.

Charles Darwin
Letter to Charles Lyell
1st October 1861

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 30/09/2026

My favorite time of year approacheth

“Mentally I’m here” with loads of jack-o’-lanterns in a cozy kitchen

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 30/09/2026

I asked it to clarify what it meant, and was gaslit.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 29/09/2026

I made this goofy ass post for an app walkthrough video and forgot to delete it 😂

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 29/09/2026

I’m sorry, I don’t know why I’m like this.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 28/09/2026

Here’s a silly hot take. Who called them poultry farmers and not chicken tenders?

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 28/09/2026

Whoa! I had no idea my book was being translated into Mandarin AND that you’d spot it! What a fascinating occurrence. Thanks for sending it. What are the chances I could send you some cash for picking one up if you happen to swing back by? I’d love to have one.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 28/09/2026

I have noticed similar over the last 3 or so years where people are so far in their takes they can’t hear any nuance anymore. I can only guess at the correlations, but there are a few big ones.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

But…why???? Why would anyone do this 😂

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

Less ChatGPT More humanity

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

You reminded me that I always asked candidates if they needed any water or coffee! Totally forgot about that.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

The wildest things happen in interviews, and maybe the weirdest is when an interviewee told me how stupid my questions were, and then proceeded to try and run the interview. He was certain he nailed it and asked about when we’d tell him next steps.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

Those are better signals than anything o on Glassdoor imo.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

- The were late because they were playing guitar - They had no substantive answers to any questions, just bluster - They didn’t prepare a portfolio and just asked if I had any questions - They presented a project for a big tech company, as though they’d worked for them but it was a student project

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

I’ve never disqualified candidates for something as arbitrary as having an iced coffee in an interview. But here are other reasons why I did pass on designers: - They told me my interview questions were stupid and told me what I should ask instead - That kept talking down to another interviewer

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

yeah they moved to the factory a few years back because that place was hainted

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 26/09/2026

I’m very go with the flow as long as I know where it’s going and who’s gonna be there and if there are snacks

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 23/09/2026

Need some new thoughts in my feeds, so who’re you enjoying reading? Topics I like: interpersonal relationships, tough convos, design practice. Always down for something funny.

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 23/09/2026

Microdosing insanity by staying informed

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 20/09/2026

Cain and Abel were the original Super Smash Bros

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Joshua Graves @joshuagraves.me · 20/09/2026

I wasn’t aware of this Calvin and Hobbes comic. And living near such (nearly) unspoiled beauty really does drive home how priceless it is.

Calvin and Hobbes comic.

C: PEOPLE KEEP TALKING ABOUT OPENING MORE WILDERNESS FOR DEVELOPMENT. WE SEEM TO UNDERSTAND THE VALVE OF OIL, TIMBER, MINERALS, AND HOUSING, BUT NOT THE VALUE OF UNSPOILED BEAUTY, WILDLIFE, SOLITUDE, AND SPIRITUAL RENEWAL.
H: WE NEED TO START PUTTING PRICES ON THE PRICELESS.
C: YEAH, IF OUR WOODS ARE WORTH A ZILLION JILLION BAGILLION, THINK WHAT ALASKA IS WORTH.

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