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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

let's get nonbinarepast together next time I'm in town! 💜

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

girl dinner this, girl dinner that. when will it be time for my nonbinarepast

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I think we have a tendency to assume most people share roughly the same moral positions and values as us, but that's just not true. I don't think cultures are more or less moral, but they're definitely *differently* moral.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

in my own experience, different cultures also have wildly different attitudes towards cheating/dishonesty. it's perceived as very serious in some cultures and not a big deal in others. for example, I come from a culture with a very laissez-faire attitude towards bribery that is alien to westerners.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

possibly! one explanation I've seen is that the ownership are operating under very different cultural expectations about how the law binds them (ie, not at all) and what they're permitted to do (ie, whatever they like). I think that's quite likely.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

not only was I not present when the name was chosen, I wasn't consulted *at all*

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

in a way, it's nice because clearly they're not gendering me as a woman, but I also have no idea what they expect me to say?

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

I'm happy to give them directions to his grave if they'd like to take it up with him!

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

it's not my fault my dad thought I was a girl when he named me!

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

wish I had a dollar for every time a well-meaning middle-aged south asian man has asked me if I realise that aaminah is a girl's name

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

I don't necessarily think the other clubs are more ethical than city, but I do think the potential consequences have been a more effective deterrent, at least. the most remarkable element of this whole thing isn't that city broke the rules - it's that they didn't seem to care about the consequences.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

and then there's the difference in attitude. chelsea self-reported their breaches. everton and forest cooperated fully with investigators. city have dragged this out for years and fought at every turn well beyond what could be considered reasonable (refusing to turn over docs when ordered, etc).

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

I think most clubs have been somewhere on that spectrum. chelsea, everton and nottingham forest have all been done for financial breaches in the last few years, for example. the difference here is partly the scale - almost a billion pounds is orders of magnitude beyond what other clubs have done.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

there's a spectrum of behaviour here, from finding loopholes that are legally sound but ethically dodgy (super common) to breaking the law intentionally but fessing up when caught (pretty common) to intentionally cooking the books and lying about it (much less common).

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

the corporation in question has been posting through it on a truly industrial scale, so I can see why some people might be confused! but it's frustrating seeing sports journos who should know better repeating the fiction that because there's been an appeal, this decision isn't final

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

sure, but even in the US, final decisions remain in effect for the duration of the appeal unless stayed (or unless there's some statutory provision that the decision doesn't take effect until the end of the appeal window, I suppose)

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

why pay for school photos when, for the low, low price of feeding your own child's sensitive personal information to a machine that churns out child sexual exploitation imagery, you could get a bunch of photos of a creepy waxwork simulacrum of your child instead?

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

given that this happened in the UK, I'm not sure how that would apply

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

all of which is to say, it's totally fine to call this what it is - a finding of guilt - and to act accordingly. the legal effect of the decision as things stand right now is that city have been found guilty. they may overturn that on appeal (doubtful), but right now, they're guilty.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

generally, a final decision remains in effect while an appeal process runs. sometimes, depending on the type of decision, it might be stayed for the duration of the appeal, or parties can apply for a stay, but those are the exception rather than the rule (where I live, anyway).

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

if final decisions weren't able to be considered final until every avenue of appeal had been exhausted, a) everyone would appeal to the highest possible extent all the time, and b) every legal proceeding would take years and years to resolve.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

lots of people acting like the man city decision isn't final because it can be appealed, but that's not how the law works. the decision is final - if it's overturned or amended on appeal, that would take effect retroactively, but it's not schrodinger's guilty verdict in the meantime.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

all I need to be happy is a little corner table in a quiet cafe that does a good chai latte and an unlimited supply of reading material about the man city verdict

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

tell you what, this has been a great week in football news for lawyers who love tribunal/admin review/regulatory matters (it's me, I'm lawyers)

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

over the border in SWLA, but only about 40 minutes from beaumont! my ex-FIL worked in one of the plants there, actually.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 01/10/2026

I lived around that area for a couple of years, which is coincidentally also how I learnt about sundown towns!

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I didn't really run into this until later in life because I grew up with/was educated by (fairly liberal) catholics. my first real exposure to evangelical protestants (or tradcaths) was at uni. not all muslims are raised in a more scholarly/questioning tradition, but I feel lucky that I was.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

I wonder if it's because muslims do consider him a prophet and plenty of christians don't really understand the differences between islam and judaism? I've seen similar confusion around halal vs kosher.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

anyway he looks warm and comfy so I'm gonna cuddle him for a minute

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

first I heard of it was seeing the article on my tl. I don't listen to the radio and I'm usually wearing noise-cancelling earbuds when I'm at the mall or any other public place that might be playing music. unless my youtube music algorithm suggests it, I'm unlikely to hear it.

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

was gone for a bit over two hours and when I got home, he was still passed tf out, I love that for him

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

there's something so reassuring about when I need to be up early to run an errand but ryan doesn't and he's still asleep when I get home. like I'm just glad that even if one of us had to be up before noon, at least the other gets to enjoy a nice lil sleep-in for both of us 💜

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

all of the LJ drama of that era is permanently imprinted in my brain. aja romano trying and failing to burn a livejournal t-shirt on video during a protest is one of my roman empires

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I was very active on livejournal (but too young at the time to be involved in the con scene, thank goodness), and sadly, the cursed knowledge has never left my brain

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

the arc of history is such that at least once a decade, someone independently reinvents the open source boobs project

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Iron Chef Bot @ironchefbot.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Frame #47800 from S05 -E13 - Strawberry Dessert Holiday Battle-629271

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

for all that decades of copaganda has gotten a lot of mileage out of depicting lawyers as scummy (because anyone who routinely goes up against the police must be evil), law is an almost boringly ethical profession for the most part

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

call me crazy but I personally think being really into hitler makes you not a fit and proper person to practise law

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

this is the kind of thing fitness and character assessments should stop but somehow never do 🙃

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I'm sure if I had more partners I'd be rolling in nickels rn

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I've rewatched it multiple times in the course of introducing it to new people, and it still holds up so well. trans mrs hudson is one of my roman empires

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

if I had a nickel for every one of my partners who saw a photo of stella on my phone screen and went, "damn, she's gorgeous," I'd have two nickels,

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

did you ever watch elementary? it came out around the same time and is one of the most perfect procedural murder mystery shows ever made. I didn't realise how much I needed lucy liu to play watson until she did. it's also one of the best TV depictions of autism despite not mentioning it once

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

my version of this is the rum-based take on an old fashioned that I had at a bar in melbourne which was a) one of the richest and smoothest things I've ever drunk in my life and b) so potently alcoholic that I felt myself getting lightheaded as a single drop absorbed under my tongue

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

man, if only survival weren't linked to our ability to generate value for capital

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

I'm so grateful to have a job I love and am good at that pays well enough to support me even though I work part-time, with sick leave coverage and flexible work arrangements to accommodate management of my various Agonies™, all of which should be standard but definitely isn't

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jay, god's most perfect princex @jaythenerdkid.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

as I lie in bed coughing up a lung on company time, I am reflecting once again on how being disabled is only affordable if you have the kind of job it's very difficult to get when you're disabled

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