Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 3hI can’t remember how long Dad’s probate took to come through but due to a mix of grief, anxiety and unrecognised early dementia, Mum put doing the paperwork off for a year before we flew up and dragged her to the lawyer. Did my head in. 120
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 3hCoz wellness freaks have decided that sweeteners that actually taste nice are evil so everyone must suffer. 220
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 4hOnce the paperwork is done I’m happy to wait. The will is very straightforward. Apart from a few mementoes, I’m the only heir and J and I are the executors. 030
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 4hBooked in to meet with Mum’s lawyer in Nelson to sort out probate etc while we’re up for her farewell. It adds stress to the trip, but getting all the loose ends tied up as soon as possible will make things easier in the long run. 1170
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 7hJ is back at work today which feels a bit odd. I’m likely to be off for a while yet coz I’m still juggling more mental/emotional balls than I can manage. 2110
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8hThey were lovely about it, but surely there’s a design solution 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8hI’ve had to have the technician manhandle my belly so I can get my boobs close enough to the machine. 210
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8hI woke up just as dream-me was sinking to her knees crying about having ruined Christmas. 000
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h… I realise the carols are coming from the stereo and the lounge is full of people - Mum and Dad, cousins, friends - all celebrating Christmas Day without me. I start getting mad and Dad says “I’m just worried you’ll be like this for my birthday lunch tomorrow too”…. 100
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8hUpsetting dream that needs basically no interpretation: I’m in my old bedroom at my parent’s house, writing an idea for a story in a notebook full of unfinished stories when I hear Christmas carols. Thinking it’s carollers on the street I run to the lounge to look out the window… 100
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 21hBugger! I would have been there if I’d seen any advertising at all. 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 21hJ found it in Fresh Choice Merivale and came home with a couple of bottles for me 000
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026My 21 year old pays actual money of his own to watch people play rugby. 030
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026Street blossoms round two. Photo doesn’t quite show how gloriously vibrant they are. 080
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026The film looked and sounded fantastic and it did us a lot of good to do something nice. I was too overstimulated to sleep well last night though so am taking things very gently today. 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026We’ve had several different brands/models and they’ve all been fine. They don’t clean as well as a person with a good regular vacuum, but because they run every day the cumulative effect is pretty good. Our current one is self-emptying and I wouldn’t go back, though it does take up more space. 030
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026This sort of thing needs incredibly careful and nuanced implementation. 040
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026I trust the Greens to do this in a non-sucky way. However my kneejerk reaction to jobs-for-youth schemes is concern about young people, particularly disabled and neurodivergent young people, being pushed into jobs that they aren’t suited to or that don’t utilise their skills/qualifications. 2163
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026Chose not to watch it, have no regrets whatsoever. 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026I would much rather do a) but often am only physically capable of b). Which is why I am almost always slightly pissy. 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/20261998 blew chunks for me. Well I think it blew chunks, I don’t actually remember it coz I had glandular fever and spent most of it asleep. 120
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026That’s rough. I cope with the ADHD version of timeliness with near constant hyper-vigilance. Which means I am the annoying yappy dog of our family, and am still quite often part of the problem. 040
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026Thanks. I figured this was a fairly easy win and it’s good to get something ticked off the list. 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026Right sofa time and then we’re going out tonight to see the film of Queen in Budapest. Going out feels like effort but I think putting some nice amongst the shit will do us good. 180
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026And done. Most of what I’ve kept are scarves which make nice mementoes without taking up too much space. 1140
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026It might not be an instant unfriending, but if he came round for a cuppa, I wouldn’t be breaking out the good bikkies. 030
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026Today’s job is sorting through Mum’s clothes. So far managing to be fairly dispassionate. Most of it is for the tip - institutional laundering is not exactly gentle on your delicates. 0150
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026A new book would be a very good way to test out your new glasses. Just sayin’ 010
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026I am exhausted and overwhelmed and I just had a go at J which probably isn’t fair, but there is so much to do and so many decisions to make and I’m the only one who can do most of it. 3180
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026I’m sorry to hear that. The amount of admin you need to do when you’re grieving is truly cruel, so anything that eases the load a little is very welcome. 030
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026Green for party. Labour for MP - though as she’s very new and quite young I really want a chance to hear her speak before I vote for her (though as likely the only realistic non-national option in the electorate, she’d have to do something pretty awful to lose my vote) 330
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026The funeral director put me on to mytrove.co.nz which very handily lets you notify a bunch of places about a death all at once (like IRD, MSD, banks, phone companies etc). So grateful to be able to hand a bit of the mental load off.mytrove.co.nzNotify Organisations After a Death | myTrove NZFree NZ service to notify banks, insurers, IRD and more of a death, with one secure notification. Supported by the Department of Internal Affairs. 2295
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026Funeral director has emailed me Mum’s death certificate. It’s good in that it means I can get on with some stuff and have fewer things bouncing about my brain. But also it makes everything very real. 1111
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026It seems to me that the best thing you could do for an addict would be to keep them in the System. And then make sure the System can offer real support. Drug testing beneficiaries just pushes vulnerable people even further towards the margins. 1121
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026If you really don’t want to pick a side, you have to work incredibly hard to maintain that neutrality, or else a side gets assigned to you anyhow. 1101
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026How disappointing! It is apt that the last book I bought from them was “Dirty Work”. 050
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026Have talked to the Nelson funeral director. Mum’s send-off will be on October 29. (If you knew her DM me for details) we have the same person we used with Dad so we can just say things like “yes that caterer was good” which makes it all about easier. 0130
Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 07/10/2026Sorting photos for Mum’s memorial and found these rather chilling mementoes from Dad’s time in the RAF. 0130