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Hungrymama

@hungrymama.bsky.social
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Leftie, feminist, pākehā, fat. She/her. A bunch of chronic conditions in a trenchcoat. Toitū te Tiriti. Mostly cat pics and whining. Ōtautahi. Profile pic by Fran Henricksen

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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 3h
I can’t remember how long Dad’s probate took to come through but due to a mix of grief, anxiety and unrecognised early dementia, Mum put doing the paperwork off for a year before we flew up and dragged her to the lawyer. Did my head in.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 3h
Coz wellness freaks have decided that sweeteners that actually taste nice are evil so everyone must suffer.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 4h
Once the paperwork is done I’m happy to wait. The will is very straightforward. Apart from a few mementoes, I’m the only heir and J and I are the executors.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 4h
Booked in to meet with Mum’s lawyer in Nelson to sort out probate etc while we’re up for her farewell. It adds stress to the trip, but getting all the loose ends tied up as soon as possible will make things easier in the long run.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 6h
This is about my hair isn’t it?
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 7h
J is back at work today which feels a bit odd. I’m likely to be off for a while yet coz I’m still juggling more mental/emotional balls than I can manage.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
They were lovely about it, but surely there’s a design solution
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
I’ve had to have the technician manhandle my belly so I can get my boobs close enough to the machine.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
That’s so adorable it almost tempts me to learn to drive.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
I woke up just as dream-me was sinking to her knees crying about having ruined Christmas.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
… I realise the carols are coming from the stereo and the lounge is full of people - Mum and Dad, cousins, friends - all celebrating Christmas Day without me. I start getting mad and Dad says “I’m just worried you’ll be like this for my birthday lunch tomorrow too”….
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 8h
Upsetting dream that needs basically no interpretation: I’m in my old bedroom at my parent’s house, writing an idea for a story in a notebook full of unfinished stories when I hear Christmas carols. Thinking it’s carollers on the street I run to the lounge to look out the window…
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 21h
Bugger! I would have been there if I’d seen any advertising at all.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 21h
J found it in Fresh Choice Merivale and came home with a couple of bottles for me
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
Thanks. We’re exhausted but holding up ok.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
My 21 year old pays actual money of his own to watch people play rugby.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
Woohoo!
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
Street blossoms round two. Photo doesn’t quite show how gloriously vibrant they are.
A tree covered in bright pink blossom against a brilliant blue sky
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
The film looked and sounded fantastic and it did us a lot of good to do something nice. I was too overstimulated to sleep well last night though so am taking things very gently today.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
We’ve had several different brands/models and they’ve all been fine. They don’t clean as well as a person with a good regular vacuum, but because they run every day the cumulative effect is pretty good. Our current one is self-emptying and I wouldn’t go back, though it does take up more space.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
This sort of thing needs incredibly careful and nuanced implementation.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
I trust the Greens to do this in a non-sucky way. However my kneejerk reaction to jobs-for-youth schemes is concern about young people, particularly disabled and neurodivergent young people, being pushed into jobs that they aren’t suited to or that don’t utilise their skills/qualifications.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
I guess it depends where the dust settles.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 11/10/2026
Chose not to watch it, have no regrets whatsoever.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
I would much rather do a) but often am only physically capable of b). Which is why I am almost always slightly pissy.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
1998 blew chunks for me. Well I think it blew chunks, I don’t actually remember it coz I had glandular fever and spent most of it asleep.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
That’s rough. I cope with the ADHD version of timeliness with near constant hyper-vigilance. Which means I am the annoying yappy dog of our family, and am still quite often part of the problem.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
Thanks. I figured this was a fairly easy win and it’s good to get something ticked off the list.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
Right sofa time and then we’re going out tonight to see the film of Queen in Budapest. Going out feels like effort but I think putting some nice amongst the shit will do us good.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
And done. Most of what I’ve kept are scarves which make nice mementoes without taking up too much space.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
It might not be an instant unfriending, but if he came round for a cuppa, I wouldn’t be breaking out the good bikkies.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
Today’s job is sorting through Mum’s clothes. So far managing to be fairly dispassionate. Most of it is for the tip - institutional laundering is not exactly gentle on your delicates.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 10/10/2026
A new book would be a very good way to test out your new glasses. Just sayin’
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
I am exhausted and overwhelmed and I just had a go at J which probably isn’t fair, but there is so much to do and so many decisions to make and I’m the only one who can do most of it.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
Good to know
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
I’m all in favour of more young women in general.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
I’m sorry to hear that. The amount of admin you need to do when you’re grieving is truly cruel, so anything that eases the load a little is very welcome.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
Those cushions 🧡🧡🧡🧡
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
Green for party. Labour for MP - though as she’s very new and quite young I really want a chance to hear her speak before I vote for her (though as likely the only realistic non-national option in the electorate, she’d have to do something pretty awful to lose my vote)
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
I’ll bet they appreciate having a giggle.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 09/10/2026
The funeral director put me on to mytrove.co.nz which very handily lets you notify a bunch of places about a death all at once (like IRD, MSD, banks, phone companies etc). So grateful to be able to hand a bit of the mental load off.
mytrove.co.nz
Notify Organisations After a Death | myTrove NZ
Free NZ service to notify banks, insurers, IRD and more of a death, with one secure notification. Supported by the Department of Internal Affairs.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
Funeral director has emailed me Mum’s death certificate. It’s good in that it means I can get on with some stuff and have fewer things bouncing about my brain. But also it makes everything very real.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
It seems to me that the best thing you could do for an addict would be to keep them in the System. And then make sure the System can offer real support. Drug testing beneficiaries just pushes vulnerable people even further towards the margins.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
Airports should totally have a screaming booth
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
Thinking all the good thoughts.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
She’s beautiful! Congrats
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
If you really don’t want to pick a side, you have to work incredibly hard to maintain that neutrality, or else a side gets assigned to you anyhow.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
How disappointing! It is apt that the last book I bought from them was “Dirty Work”.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 08/10/2026
Have talked to the Nelson funeral director. Mum’s send-off will be on October 29. (If you knew her DM me for details) we have the same person we used with Dad so we can just say things like “yes that caterer was good” which makes it all about easier.
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Hungrymama @hungrymama.bsky.social · 07/10/2026
Sorting photos for Mum’s memorial and found these rather chilling mementoes from Dad’s time in the RAF.
A card with a map showing the location of Christmas Island under the heading “Taskforce Grapple”The inside of a card with a black and white photograph of Christmas Island and a Christmas message signed “from Gavin with all my love”An envelope printed with a line drawing of a mushroom cloud over a tropical island and the words “First British Megaton Trial 1957”
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