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rideshare help needed #mutualaid We just got off work and need help raising $13.78 via cashapp for a Lyft to the hotel, if anyone could help us out we greatly appreciate it!! short on funds after paying hotel fees Cashapp/$Vettawest

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Death @insatiableone.bsky.social · 13h

Abood's epilepsy medication has run out, leaving him vulnerable to severe seizures. His family is homeless in Gaza & cannot afford the treatment he needs💔 Please don't let Abood face this battle without the medicine that could protect his life. Donate to save Abood's life chuffed.org/project/1844...

Abood is a boy holding a sign that reads I'm Abood from Gaza

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 10h

This infection has had me debilitated for over a week 😭

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 11h

Ahmad and his mother need our help, please share and consider donating

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 12h

“Imitate” was definitely not a good word choice here lol

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Bea Eli 🏳️‍⚧️ @msbeaeli.bsky.social · 08/10/2026

This is an emergency. ‼️ Bex’s surgery wound is gaping and they need $263 to pay the upfront costs of getting medical help. They have stage 4 cancer and I don’t think they should go home like this. Black lives matter. Bex’s life matters. Please don’t make them wait. Their link: bit.ly/HelpBex

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MashedBex | trying to kick cancer's ass @bexmashaba.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

i tried to sleep there is more bleeding now i’m at $30 / 263 but will probably need to spend $37 on a ride to the hospital again

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

I very strongly believe that gender expression is, or at least can be, instinctive and innate because there are people for whom that’s the only way to interpret their behavior. Similarly with sexuality.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Say no more friend, I am right there with you re: male femininity as the context of transition into a woman

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Sandy Stone’s essay “The Empire Strikes Back: A Post-Transsexual Manifesto”

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Masculine lesbian girls and women can no more stop being masculine than they can stop being lesbian. I believe we have to see these two dimensions of identity as continuous with each other, so that you can’t separate them.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

Homosexual gender non-conformity is an entirely natural, cross-cultural phenomenon, and it does markedly reproduce the presence of a masculine-feminine contrast in many homosexual relationships. There’s an apparent anxiety around this that IMO falls on the shoulders of the GNC person most of all.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

This is a good argument overall but I’m uncomfortable with the seeming need to sociologically justify butchness (lbr that’s the “problematic” category here). Why can’t masculinity simply be the natural impulse of the butch? So what if butchfemme does imitate features of heterosexuality?

reconstructive force. Let me suggest a more familiar example. Judith Butler points out that the lesbian categories of "butch" and "femme" are not simple assimilations of lesbianism back into the terms of heterosexuality. Rather, Butler introduces the concept of cultural intelligibility, and suggests that the contextualized and resignified
"masculinity" of the butch, seen against a culturally intelligible "female" body, invokes a dissonance that both generates a sexual tension and constitutes the object of desire.
She points out that this way of thinking about gendered objects of desire admits of much greater complexity than the example suggests. The lesbian butch or femme both recall the heterosexual scene but simultaneously displace it. The idea that butch and femme are "replicas" or "copies" of heterosexual exchange underestimates the erotic power of their internal dissonance.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 07/10/2026

I’m very sorry to not have been available lately. I’ve been sick with a pretty bad viral infection and mostly sleeping a lot. I’ll try to catch up with correspondence as soon as I can. 🩷

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Yeah I see what you mean, it’s kind of the same principle isn’t it

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

I guess I’m not sure I agree that anti-effeminacy is a subtype of transmisogyny so much as they’re adjacent phenomena, though in this instance I’m also not sure how big a difference that makes

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

I tend to really like “anti-effeminacy” for this. Alternately “effemiphobia”

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Honestly I’m not sure how comfortable I am anymore classifying this stuff as “misogyny”?

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

But homophobia and transphobia also use a lot of the same tropes. “You’re a fag” blurs into “you want to become a girl” pretty quickly.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I’ve shared a couple examples before, like dudes catcalling me with stuff like “haha we know you’re actually a dude” tacked on, as if I’d been trying to fool them. This probably makes sense to call clear cut transphobia.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

But if we use a process-based model, which I prefer, it makes more sense to call most of that homophobia or anti-effeminacy. Some of it has been explicit transphobia, but that’s kind of the issue here—the line seems really blurry?

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

For years I’ve been accustomed to using the framework of transphobia/transmisogyny to talk about this, which is more or less an identity-based model for defining the type of violence you’re going through.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

I’m curious what others think about this? 🧵 I’ve been thinking for a while now that I’m not sure exactly what counts as transphobia, because roughly all of the “X-phobic” violence and discrimination I’ve experienced has been while presenting a boy or a man, rather than as a woman.

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Cåråbine à Citron 🍋 @carabinacitron.eurosky.social · 04/10/2026

Every seizure brings fear for Abood’s life. His epilepsy is getting worse, & without his essential medication, the seizures can come at any moment💔 Abood is only 15 & lives with an intellectual disability. His homeless family can’t afford his treatment. Donate for Abood👇 chuffed.org/project/1844...

Picture of Abood with a text : I'm Abood from Gaza

another Picture of Abood in a grey t-shirt
In this photograph, Abood is holding a rosary;
Abood has a permanent disability affecting his hands; he needs to hold an object — such as a key, a rope, a bag or something else — to keep his hands occupied, due to excessive electrical discharge in his body.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

But they do fundamentally represent *different needs,* NOT different levels of legitimacy.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Some people have more urgent needs for top surgery or genital surgery. Some have more need for HRT. All these things inform treatment decisions and transition plans, so it does help to understand these different presentations.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Trans people don’t all have the same kinds and intensities of dysphoria. Some get more satisfaction from surgical changes than social ones. For others it’s the reverse. For still others it’s a complex overlap.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

To address the elephant in the room: yes, this applies to the concept of transsexual types. Trans people DO vary in their concerns or emphasis for their transition goals but there’s no broad category of typical motivation that truly “disqualifies” you from being trans.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

But the truth remains that there are a number of reasons someone may choose to transition and the various presentations of transition motivation all come from genuine places of psychological or social need.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

This is why there’s so much anxiety about whether your choice to transition is legitimate, whether your lived gender is authentic, so on—not only do these concerns reflects our cultural conditions, they reflect natural considerations transsexuals have to take into account.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

These all represent cultural norms surrounding gender transition, but older models both still have force in many clinical settings, and continue to influence how trans people think and feel about themselves.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

These days there’s been a somewhat greater shift in parts of the world toward a greater freedom of choice model, which is where we get “gender affirming care.”

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

We can actually see how mindsets favoring bottlenecks of trans care have shifted with this, such as from “are you really trans?” to “do you really have gender dysphoria?” which essentially represent the same impetus

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Eventually the clinical emphasis began to shift toward how much suffering the patient had; this is essentially where we get the paradigm of “gender dysphoria.”

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

“True transsexuality” is a relic from when gender clinical care was organized around clinical necessity on the basis of how well a gender patient would integrate into society by transitioning. This goes back to the oldest Hirschfeld/Benjamin standards.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

Maybe one of the most important messages that trans people can internalize is that there is no “true trans.” Transition is a *practical choice* we make based on what will best serve our lives. Transness is a social identity that emerges out of that context.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

This *has* worked on me. I used to have a male friend who would sometimes put one leg up on a chair next to me and look down at me while asking me something and I spent the the interaction trying to scrape my brain up off the fucking floor

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

The thing that's always been a little difficult to explain is how little ability I had, and have, to hide it? It's not like I didn't realize I was going to keep getting targeted, but somehow it never felt like a choice—especially the micro-behaviors, which are so easy to not even be aware of.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

This was not easy especially in the '80s in a very homophobic and anti-effeminate environment.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Or for that matter, denied the eggshell. I spent my life from 3-8 expressing identified girlhood pretty freely, especially in the beginning. I had to be told to stop doing it. Those inclinations never went away, either.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

The other day I was watching a gay content video and the speaker said "shout out to all the feminine little gay boys, you are the bravest among us because you never got to hide." And it brought tears to my eyes? It's not often I see it acknowledged that some of us were denied even the closet.

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄 @goddessblade.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

When I worked at Taco Bell I was friends with a delightful 60-year old woman who shared dirty jokes with me whenever we were on shift together and she also gave me quite a snazzy zebra print handbag

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