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mrs grandpa

@flapspat.bsky.social
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Plain old rust belt resident

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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
Anyone want to talk about when a heap becomes a pile? I think I know just how many grains of sand it is
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
I eventually found myself in my ideal spot but I do know that I could have done "more." I actually really wish I was someone who would have toughed out the discrimination because the grass is greener, but unfortunately I have the personality that had me calling my teachers sexist by 9th grade
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
I have deep empathy for what you must have gone through. The identity of "woman" is in conflict with much of what we really are (like smart, funny, handy, nerdy, etc) and even being all that at once causes so much angst. It's not fair and the world is obviously poorer for this oppression.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
*Her potential
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
I was a precocious girl and no one missed an opportunity to tell me I was dumb or arrogant, which does impact the choices one makes with her career even if she never "lives up to your potential."
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
I will say it until I'm blue in the face, it is not a coincidence that they have an idea of intelligence that is build on conventions of male intellect (men are better at math/more rational which is the best way to be smart) at the same time as women began to outperform men in academics
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
If I were an academic in a related field I would perhaps spend all my time discussing the pervasive anti-feminism across ideologies right now and how critical it is to understanding the current moment but I do not have the time to do so. Thankfully others are!
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
(Obligatory "agreeing with the post I quoted" since chill is actually the same as not being like other girls I think)
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 27/09/2026
"Not like other girls" is fun to mock but look closer and you see a bunch of young women and girls who are aware that society thinks women and girls are just a step above worthless and make a bad choice when trying to cope with that
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 26/09/2026
Mexican brunch ma gosh
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 26/09/2026
I've brought coffee to an interview, but not iced (I wouldn't want to have condensation everywhere while nervous) and I think I got the job one time I did. I really don't think I ever thought I shouldn't especially because at least half of my in person interviews involved offering water/soda/coffee
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
At various times I've kicked myself - was I traumatized due to getting aggressively harassed on the street and too sensitive? Was it my own hubris about the nature of rationality? Doing a victory lap like I astutely avoided Scientology now. Also telling all my educated normie friends.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
I'm a normie and I'm so glad you posted all this, not least of which because I studied logic to a beyond-normal degree in my undergrad and was getting pushed towards AI but decided not to because I 1) disagreed with the fundamental ideas about intelligence 2) could smell misogyny
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
It is the 21 year olds posting on Reddit who have just heard of her... they're still roommates with another version of the same woman
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
I can't take any more.... times are too difficult and we just need to take a deep breath and accept that if she were a normal woman she would have a demonic Dunkin donuts order and would steal ur clothes and say things like "I think it's ugly to be tall" as grown womrn we all know how to deal w her
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Well, there is no force to defeat worried paternal forces quite like "I have my own money and good credit" I have found
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
I am just a young(ish) woman so when I mentioned my intent to switch to electric I was subject to answering for scenarios that feel extremely hypothetical, like solo cross country road trips!
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
Thanks! I had some people sharing it as a best of both worlds option but I was doubtful. My thoughts are basically just practical - I currently drive so little I'm emissions exempt with my current car and will just be adding 50 miles a week with my commute now.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
We have a way to look around the wall from the couch to someone on the stairs and he was backing away from me up the stairs in the darkness. "Have you heard of the Zizians?" I call after him. He's gone, back to playing Balatro. I learn what $1 buys you in China.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 16/09/2026
A snapshot from a normal house: I read your info on this and dismayed, put on videos of people vlogging from China. My partner came down to see a Chinese pizza buffet and said something about AI death warnings. I said "wait have you ever heard about Aella before?" and explain.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
I am not worried about range so far... we drive out to the sticks once in a while but are pleasant and cheerful enough people to make the most of stopping to charge if we end up in that scenario anyway. I was looking at the Ioniq along with the Bolt and the Leaf!
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
Thanks!! We have a well placed outlet and I have naysayers in my life who think it's not time for full electric yet so this is ammo for my argument. My belief is that in a year it will feel foolish to buy anything but electric.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 15/09/2026
We are one such household! 13 y/o car needs to be replaced soon and I commute 15 minutes in a city to work, the other car is gas but newer. I'm getting a new job so I just have to wait a few months 🤞🏻 I am still debating a plug in hybrid vs. full plug in if you have any advice to that end.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
My loyalty is to my neighbors, people who are like me, not people who would seek to lord over me, so I guess I don't relate to that pathetic behavior
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 13/09/2026
Lots of ppl on here in their smug self satisfied loser pits saying trans people don't even have the rights of basic human dignity of choosing their vote have highlighted themselves with a big old "disregard entirely on all topics" bc they'll do the same to me over birth control and stuff
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
Coming back down to earth recently in a way I will talk about in more detail but was just thinking what a delight to be in the world, to ride misrule humanely and control one piece of it. I am so excited for my outfit later, to see my friends get married.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
Also I don't know who needs to hear this but if you manufacture cough drops which are not GF you are insane in my opinion
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
I asked him to make me a mocha and I came in to see him sprinkling cocoa powder on my mocha and I was like oh I love you... I feel so loved. It is delicious
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 12/09/2026
I'm going to a wedding today with the aim of wearing an outfit that looks like the stepmom from The Parent Trap with different shoes and my partner is not ready for it
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
I was 8 so I came to a similar conclusion because I was trying to learn about government at all in the years after. Meaningfully to me, Katrina followed pretty quickly and it was not hard to feel the contradiction between the two events as someone not near either.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
My partner says about these people that they think everything was made just for them. This came up after I had talked to some 50something white ladies at my job about Barbenheimer and was talking about the directors and they said they never considered that movies had directors.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
I was talking about it for days. I couldn't believe how horrible it was. And this is as someone who has always loved getting to know people much older than me to hear their opinions. Pre ACA healthcare NEVER comes up if you don't ask. No one wants to relive it.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
Really bad take. NGL while I never would have said something like this being relatively young I took the ACA for granted, and I didn't realize that people never talk about what it Used To Be Like because it was such a nightmare until I watched Sicko
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
I absolutely believe from the depths of my soul that there would be a backlash against any woman president who may oversee a draft of only men. If you search the draft on any mens rights forum you will see posts about it going back a long time.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
I would kind of push back on that. I know this is far from universal but a good portion of men do seem to take it personally that only men register, that feminists would never want to change this, and treat this fact as a fatal contradiction to feminist arguments about inequality
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
One can see a line from all of this to tech companies themselves. That people are arguing slop came from nowhere apparently is shocking to me!!
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
anti labor and cheap and as shitty as possible and it became and continued to do this until we had the blue print got slop and new technology to boot. It's tangerines and grapefruits comparing the two bc of scale but people have always been defensively permissive of this shit bc they like it
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
I stand by this. I agree with the points that slop doesn't mean inaccurate, but people acting like it has no connection to previous cultural moments like reality TV are intentionally choosing that blind spot because it has always been exploitative, built for endless consumption, intentionally
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
Still, it was viewed as trash and referred to as "trash TV" hence the equivalency. No one had those feelings about blogs and podcasts and Wikipedia.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
I graduated HS in 2011 so the aughts is the soup I was cooked in, and the only thing which comes close is reality TV and tabloids. It is interesting how the gender dynamics of this and AI are reversed. It was genuinely shameful to watch something like the Kardashians I recall.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
I have always admired your tattoos but wow they are SO GOOD! You have incredible taste and a great artist
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 09/09/2026
Started off my break in between jobs with the stupid fall cold I always get... Bubble bath time
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 04/09/2026
I felt the same way. I expected it would grow on me but it hasn't and I've been a fan for a long time. Kind of a classic case of "artist I love does something interesting to them but not at all to me"
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 03/09/2026
I find myself doubting the value of minds that excelled only in a manipulative and addicting attention economy. I question whether the deep thinker is represented anywhere with regularity. Many, many writers have been stupid despite the stereotype after all
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 03/09/2026
I think there are just so many people who hate women. Women hate women. Men hate women. Men and women and people of all stripes love to sit around and hate everyone they can think of.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 03/09/2026
This site has a way of laying bare how convenience has even crawled its way into the way people think and consider the world, which is filled with infinite complexity
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 03/09/2026
On this day I would like to urge everyone to ponder an impossible thought and not speak again until you learned something
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
I was gonna say lol I do this because I'm gluten free (at home though) and make a hot dog sandwich. Critical to add that it's a full sandwich and has toppings included
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
I'm in my early 30s and gave up on the high stress "cool" career I used to have, which also paid like shit, in favor of a boring stable well paid job I can do in any part of the USA. It feels good. I also have decided my house can be uncool and I don't care. No regrets, and I sleep soundly now.
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mrs grandpa @flapspat.bsky.social · 31/08/2026
widdle baby tywant can't weed
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