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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 20/05/2026

TFW you realize Maude was a manic pixie dream girl

Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

It produced similar tables for the chapters on rules & agreements and hierarchy and primary/secondary polyamory, but the summaries were most useful.

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Verified Continuities and
Divergences
• Structural: same chapter title and placement within the "frameworks" section.
• Textual: less than 1 % identical wording.
• Conceptual: maintains the distinction between rules and agreements but profoundly redefines what makes each ethical.
• Ethical trajectory: 2014 champions independence; 2024 integrates autonomy into a matrix of relational and systemic ethics.

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Verified Continuities and Divergences
• Both editions share the same chapter title and placement within the "frameworks" section.
• Less than 1% identical wording, confirming a full rewrite.
• Conceptual continuity: both analyze hierarchy as an ethical challenge; divergence: the 2024 edition redefines it through power analysis and rhetorical critique.
In short, Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory evolves from a guide for individual autonomy into a critique of power and consent structures.
The later edition integrates social theory and ethical transparency into the core of nonmonogamy discourse, transforming hierarchy from a personal choice into a question of justice and disclosure.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

Anyway, once we course corrected (I scolded it a bit and it promised not to make up any more stuff), it produced some interesting tables comparing concepts for a few key chapters. Here's the one for the two chapters on communication.

Screencap of table:

2014 Edition
Accuracy, clarity, and personal honesty
View of emotion: Feelings are personal responsibility
Treatment of conflict: Problem-solving through
logic and transparency

2024 Edition
Connection, mutual safety, and consent
Expands from self-expression to relational attunement
Feelings are co-regulated; Moves from individual to repair is shared work
collective accountability
Repairing trust through empathy and pacing
Adds trauma-informed and restorative frameworks

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2014 edition:
logic and transparency
Power analysis: Largely absent
Tone: Instructional, "toolkit"

2024 edition:
empathy and pacing
Explicit recognition of systemic and interpersonal power
Reflective, "practice of care"
and restorative frameworks
Adds sociocultural awareness
Stylistic and philosophic evolution

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

It created tables of "quotes" from the two works that looked just a little off. After I looked for and didn't find a couple of them in the PDFs, I asked ChatGPT what was up, and it admitted it had been paraphrasing. Oh those quotation marks? That just meant it was copying the *style*. Oops!

Screencap says:

Me:
I have checked some of these quotes against the PDFs and cannot find them. Are you paraphrasing?
ChatGPT:

Yes — that's an important clarification.
Those tables are paraphrased comparative summaries, not literal quotations. Here's what that means concretely:
• I did not copy or quote exact sentences from either PDF.
• Instead, I read and interpreted each chapter's language, tone, and argument, then re-expressed their meaning in simplified, side-by-side form so we can compare ideas without reproducing copyrighted text.
• Where you see quotation marks, they indicate representative phrasing in the style of the respective edition, not verbatim sentences.
(That's on me; I should have labeled them more clearly as paraphrases.)

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

The conclusion too is pretty much what we've been saying all along: The echo of the old book is there, but the new book is...new.

Screencap says:
6. Summary
In essence:
• Exact overlap: minimal — the 2024 edition is not a revision of phrasing but a complete rewrite.
• Conceptual continuity: moderate — it retains the skeleton of topics explored, but the intellectual and ethical framing has evolved dramatically.
• Ethical shift: from "how to do poly right" to
"how to love justly in a complex, power-laden world."

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

But since this is ChatGPT, it didn't stop there, but went deeper into the specific thematic differences in the two works.

Screencap says:
4. Key Differences in Thematic
Emphasis
Autonomy vs. Interdependence
• 2014: Emphasized radical personal responsibility ("your feelings are yours to manage").
• 2024: Rebalances this with an ethic of care, mutual accountability, and empathy-explicitly rejecting "hyper-autonomy" as a distortion of earlier poly discourse.
Power and Harm
• 2014: Addressed boundaries and consent abstractly.
• 2024: Introduces an explicit chapter on Abuse, situates ethics within systemic power analysis (gender, colonialism, race), and acknowledges harm linked to earlier formulations of "ethical polyamory."

Screencap says:
Language Evolution
• Terms like primary/secondary poly and veto power remain but are reframed.
• "Ethical polyamory" gives way to
"nonmonogamy," "relational integrity," and
"kindness."
Contextual Voices
• 2014 Foreword (Janet Hardy): Roots the book in sex-positive subculture lineage (The
Ethical Slut).
• 2024 Foreword (Kim TallBear): Grounds nonmonogamy in Indigenous relational worldviews and critiques settler-colonial monogamy as a system of ownership and control.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

The summary was super validating of what we've been saying for the last year: "while the conceptual backbone of the 2014 edition remains recognizable, the language and ethical orientation of the 2024 edition represent a near-complete rearticulation."

Screencap from ChatGPT that repeats the text of the post.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

Then it did a semantic analysis of overlapping ideas, finding a similarly of around 50%. Which isn't too surprising given that they're both big manuals on nonmonogamy and will have to cover a lot of the same topics. I kinda love the specific mention of "post-#metoo awareness."

Screencap says:
Semantic similarity = 45-55%
Many ideas and topics overlap (e.g., ethics, communication, jealousy, agreements, boundaries), but the framing, examples, and tone have been substantially rewritten to reflect 2020s thinking and post-#MeToo awareness.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

A purely mathematical analysis found text similarity below 1%.

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The exact text similarity between the two
PDFs is roughly 0.9% — meaning fewer than 1 in 100 characters are identical in sequence.
That's consistent with the 2024 More Than Two, Second Edition being a full rewrite rather than an edit. The structure and subject matter overlap (ethics, jealousy, communication, boundaries), but the wording and tone are almost entirely new.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/10/2025

I was looking for just a straight percentage, but the answer I got was way more interesting and in-depth. It did do a straight across analysis of reused text. The match of 10–15% was pretty close to our guess of 5%, especially considering most was in ancillary bits like headings and the glossary.

Screencap from ChatGPT says:
Exact text match = 10-15%
Direct reuse of wording from the first edition is limited—mostly retained section headings (e.g., Boundaries, Rules and Agreements, Communication Pitfalls), glossary terms, and a few phrases reused for continuity.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 29/04/2025

Been hanging onto this bottle since 2004 but tonight seems like a good night to open it #cdnpoli

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 29/04/2025

Four albums that completely defined my 20s

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 24/01/2025

Argh, meant to attach this in my first post. From an email sent out to US DHHS employees this week. Published at open.substack.com/pub/yourloca...

Email text reads: “The Department of Health and Human Services is taking steps to close all agency DEIA offices and end all DEIA-related contracts in accordance with President Trump's executive orders titled Ending Radical and Wasteful Government DEI Programs and Preferencing and Initial Rescissions of Harmful Executive Orders and Actions. These programs divided Americans by race, wasted taxpayer dollars, and resulted in shameful discrimination.
We are aware of efforts by some in government to disguise these programs by using coded or imprecise language. If you are aware of a change in any contract description or personnel position description since November 5, 2024, to obscure the connection between the contract and DEIA or similar ideologies, please report all facts and circumstances to DEIAtruth@opm.gov within 10 days. There will be no adverse consequences for timely reporting this information. However, failure to report this information within 10 days may result in adverse consequences. Thank you for your attention to this important matter.”

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/01/2025

This new three-star Amazon review of More Than Two, Second Edition is a pretty darn good summary TBH. @andreazanin.bsky.social should we make “Informative but leftist” the new book tagline? a.co/d/iipzmik

Three-star Amazon review that reads:
“Informative But Leftist. This book is informative regarding ethically non-monogamous relationships, but--like many books on the topic--is unfortunately too leftist. The authors consistently attack capitalism and patriarchy and promote LGBTQ throughout. That's unfortunate.”

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 23/12/2024

A non-LOTR character who could resist the One Ring

Elle Woods from Legally Blondie and her dog, Bruiser.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 12/12/2024

Jiji says y’all are some fuckin’ amateurs

A very black cat is absolutely judging you, loser

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 16/11/2024

That cancelled TG show that you’ll never stop thinking about.

All eight members of the cluster from the TV show Sense8 share a collective embrace in a cemetery.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 05/11/2024

I have a new foster. Jiji isn’t happy about it.

Two black cats look at each other through a pair of glass French doors.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 18/10/2024

One of my favourite pizzas has dates. And I've had figs and honey on pizza (with prosciutto, I think); it's yummy.

A picture of a pizza with a caption that says: "12-inch Regular Cavoletti Pizza.
Contain nuts. Topped with extra virgin olive oil, garlic, Italian seasoning. Fior-di-latte, oven-roasted brussel sprouts, prosciutto crisps, gorgonzola, dates, walnuts, honey."

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 06/10/2024

FYI I am getting this error when I try to access the feed.

Error message from the SciArt feed that says:
"Hmm, some kind of issue occurred when contacting the feed server. Please let the feed owner know about this issue.
Message from server: pipethrough network error"

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 18/09/2024

Bluesky now has over 10 million users, and I was #106,662!

Bluesky graphic celebrating 10 million users
Eve is number 106,662
Joined Jun 5, 2023

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 13/09/2024

Quote skeet with one of your fave films that isn't a huge hit. Let's get to know eachother a bit more!

Movie poster of The Tango Lesson by Sally Potter.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 17/08/2024

Hey everyone! @andreazanin.bsky.social and I are going on a book tour in September to promote More Than Two, Second Edition, and Post-nonmonogamy and Beyond! We're hitting nine cities in eastern Canada/US and the Pacific Northwest! Visit morethantwo.ca for details!

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 11/08/2024

Can someone please explain the "non-boycotted" part of this headline to me? It's not explained in the article.

A CBC headline says, "Summer Sports: Canada's 27th medal, 9th gold makes Paris its most successful non-boycotted Summer Games ever"

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 26/06/2024

Friends, I need your help with Goodreads. More Than Two, Second Edition, won't show up in a search unless you include "second." I've tried querying the librarians, but they have a ~1yr backlog. Could you add my book as "To read" and shelve it under "polyamory"? www.goodreads.com/book/show/20...

Screenshot of a Goodreads search for "more than two" that shows only the first edition of the book

Screenshot of a Goodreads search for "more than two second" that shows the second edition of the book

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 08/06/2024

I started some from seed this year too, but I thought I had to wait until year 2 (this is year 1) to plant them out. I'm not sure what to do in the interim because I don't want to keep them in this tray. Are yours in their final location, or is that a nursery bed?

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 24/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 15

The 1980 cover of the book East of the Sun, West of the Moon by Mercer Mayer. A gret-bearded giant flies over a mountainous landscape; his right hand holds a dark-haired young woman dressed in rags, and his right points into the distance.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 21/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 14

The 2002 cover of the book Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 20/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 13

The 2010 paperback cover of the book Gifts of Imperfection, The: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Bréne Brown.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 19/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 12

The cover of the book Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning by Carrie Jenkins, showing a painting of an anatomical heart covered in gold lines as though broken and repaired.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 18/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 11

The cover of the 1993 pamphlet Beyond Consensus: Salvaging Sense of the Meeting by Barry Morley. It is solid dark green with a white knotwork design and text.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 16/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 10

The cover of I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl's Notes from the End of the World by Kai Cheng Thom, depicting a doubled red daisy.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 15/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 9

The original 1985 cover of the book Contact by Carl Sagan. The planet Earth floats in space with the centre of the Milky Way Galaxy in the background.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 15/05/2024

NO CHEATING your last saved celebrity picture is your therapist, who is it? Oh. No additional comment necessary.

Ke Huy Kwan as Waymond in Everything Everywhere All at Once. Overlay text says "This is how I fight."

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 14/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 8

The cover of the 1987 book The Songlines by Bruce Chatwin

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 13/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 7

The cover of the 1992 book T.A.Z: The Temporary Autonomous Zone by Hakim Bey.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 12/05/2024

The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 6

The cover of the book Redefining Our Relationships by Wendy-O Matik

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 08/05/2024

Stealing this from @alisonborealis.bsky.social The challenge is to choose 20 books that greatly influenced you. One book per day, for 20 days. No explanations. No reviews. Just covers. Day 1

The 1980s cover of the book Homecoming by Cynthia Voight. Four children ranging in age from 4 to 13 sit together looking pensive.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 18/04/2024

👏🏼It's👏🏼not👏🏼feminist👏🏼if👏🏼the👏🏼women👏🏼perform👏🏼all👏🏼the👏🏼labour👏🏼

Screencap of the front page of an article from the New York Times titled "Lessons from a 20-person polycule"

Screencap of a quote from the article saying " Our polycule is female-run. It’s the female-identified people who spearhead. We convene, we plan, we call the shots. It’s a bunch of queer women who say we’re not going to follow the rules."

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 10/04/2024

Today I learned: it's a super bad idea to get your upper lip waxed right before 8 hours of travel in a mask 😭

Selfie of Eve with her hair tied back and wearing a black KN95 mask.

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Eve Rickert (she/her) @everickert.bsky.social · 31/03/2024

Someone on Facebook said that the Dolly Jolene is "weak" and that the Beyoncé version is "the strongest possible response." I disagree. Vulnerability isn't weak. Empathy—and hoping for empathy in return—isn't weak. Bridge building isn't weak. It's very #ThisIsHowIFight

A photo of Ke Huy Quan as Waymond Wang in Everything Everywhere All at Once, with the quote: "When I choose to see the good side of things, I'm not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. It's how I've learned to survive through everything. I know you see yourself as a fighter. Well, I see myself as one too. This is how I fight...The only thing I do know is that we have to be kind. Please, be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on."

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