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Abdo Elnakouri @abdoe.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

I think most of us recognize that our culture can shape how we see the world. But might culture also shape *who* we look to in order to form our perceptions of the world/reality? We find evidence for this in a 🔥new paper🔥 in SPPS with @elijfinkel.bsky.social and Abigail Scholer. 🧵:

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 26/08/2026

"Love Factually" made @nytimes.com's roundup of 8 wellness podcasts worth adding to your queue. Co-hosts @elijfinkel.bsky.social and @pauleastwick.bsky.social dig into what romantic films get right—and wrong—about real relationships. Read more: spr.ly/63320B1xu0a

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8 Wellness Podcasts to Add to Your Queue

In case you’re looking for a new deep dive.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 27/05/2026

I'm not sure I'll ever collaborate on a project cooler than this one -- huge props to Billy (@williambrady.bsky.social) for his fearless leadership from start to finish! And how cool is this!?: This paper is Nature's first-ever published Stage 2 Registered Report. 🔥

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 26/03/2026

✨ Relationships as Microcultures Theory ✨ Please read Maya's post👇. This paper introduces a novel perspective on what a relationship *is* and how it can thrive (or fail to do so). It can launch a thousand dissertations! I salute Maya for her inspired leadership of this ambitious project.🫡

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 24/02/2026

After decades of progress, bias against gay people in the U.S. is rising—and fastest among young adults. In a @nytimes.com op-ed, IPR's @elijfinkel.bsky.social and Tessa Charlesworth share new research on this alarming reversal and what might be driving it. spr.ly/63328ho5Dq

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Opinion | Americans Are Turning Against Gay People

We seem to be in a new era of anti-gay prejudice.

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Society for Personality and Social Psychology @spspnews.bsky.social · 15/01/2026

New research suggests that virtual first dates could be a useful (and underappreciated) tool in screening potential romantic partners. Authors: Elina Moreno, Eli Finkel, Kellie Ammerman, and Paul Eastwick Read more in #SPPS: ow.ly/yhu950XWXgk

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 02/12/2025

Thanks for having us on the show, Andy -- such a fun conversation!

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 26/11/2025

Gathering with friends and family this week? Disagreements are normal. IPR’s @elijfinkel.bsky.social says they can even be healthy when handled with care. Click here to learn more about Finkel's work helping us lean into our disagreements: spr.ly/633257UqnU

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Jonathan Adler @jadler.bsky.social · 15/10/2025

(In a delightful twist, my new segment got stitched together with a rebroadcast of an older episode featuring the incomparable @elijfinkel.bsky.social, one of my grad school professors, whose work on marriage is captivating. I couldn’t ask for a better Hidden Brain buddy!)

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 28/10/2025

Please apply to postdoc with us at Northwestern/Kellogg. This position in the Dispute Resolution Research Center is a terrific opportunity.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 12/10/2025

If you're interested in pedagogy surrounding the teaching of negotiation, I hope you'll join us for "Teaching Negotiations the Kellogg Way." See the repost for details.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 05/10/2025

📢POSTDOC POSITION ANNOUNCEMENT📢 @nourkteily.bsky.social & I are recruiting a postdoc in the #LitowitzCenter for Enlightened Disagreement. We seek research excellence regarding navigating conflict. Application deadline: Nov. 17. Salary: ~$80k. facultyrecruiting.northwestern.edu/apply/MjQzNw==

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Maya Rossignac-Milon @mrossignacmilon.bsky.social · 04/09/2025

What kinds of conversations spark instant connection? Excited to share my first NYT Guest Essay, with @ericaboothby.bsky.social. We argue that playful riffing — creating a little world together — forges and deepens relationships through shared reality. www.nytimes.com/2025/09/04/o...

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Opinion | You’re Probably Doing Small Talk Wrong

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 03/09/2025

📢 MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT 📢 @nourkteily.bsky.social and I are delighted to introduce the Litowitz Center for Enlightened Disagreement, supercharged by a $20M gift from Jennifer and Alec Litowitz. The #LitowitzCenter helps people harness the power of difference. www.chicagotribune.com/2025/09/03/n...

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Northwestern trustee and husband gift $20 million to Center for Enlightened Disagreement

A Northwestern University trustee and her husband have donated $20 million to support the school’s Center for Enlightened Disagreement.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 25/08/2025

📢JOB POSTING: Senior Director for the Center for Enlightened Disagreement (CED).📢 @nourkteily.bsky.social and I seek a strategic leader to help us build the Center (see ensuing post for information about CED). Target salary range: $125,000-$155,000. 1/2 careers.northwestern.edu/psc/hrnu_er/...

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 29/07/2025

Dive into the science behind your favorite rom-coms with @elijfinkel.bsky.social and Paul Eastwick’s "Love Factually" podcast. Discover what Hollywood gets right—and wrong—about love. ❤️ 🎥 Listen now: www.lovefactuallypod.com

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Kerem Oktar @keremoktar.bsky.social · 03/06/2025

🎉Life update🎉 After 6 wonderful years at Princeton, I am officially *Dr.* Oktar! Next: Postdoc at Meta FAIR w/ @asli-celikyilmaz.bsky.social; then, postdoc at Kellogg studying disagreement w/ @elijfinkel.bsky.social & @nourkteily.bsky.social! Thanks @tanialombrozo.bsky.social for the hood :)

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 21/05/2025

Agree to disagree? That's the goal of Kellogg's Center for Enlightened Disagreement, led by @elijfinkel.bsky.social and Nour Kteily. Read more about how two leading scholars of conflict and polarization want to help us have more productive conversations. magazine.northwestern.edu/features/cen...

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 21/05/2025

🎇NEW PUBLICATION ANNOUNCEMENT🎇 “Love may be a many-splendored thing, but it’s also a battlefield.” So begins my "Romantic Relationships" chapter in the new, OPEN-ACCESS, Handbook of Social Psychology (6e). The chapter synthesizes what I've learned in my 28 years in the field. 🧵

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Paul Eastwick @pauleastwick.bsky.social · 20/05/2025

Great chatting with @dkthomp.bsky.social about relationship science and what it can tell us about online dating, soul mates, and Julia Roberts movies! More on the science behind your favorite rom coms on the Love Factually Podcast with me and Eli at: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/l...

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The Rules of Attraction and the Psychology of Romance

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Daniel Gilbert @danielgilbert.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

Since 1954, "The Handbook of Social Psychology" has been the field’s most authoritative reference work, and today is the launch of the 6th edition with 50 new chapters by 100 leading scholars. Best news? The HSP is now an open-access public resource—free to read, download, and share. the-hsp.com

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Paul Eastwick @pauleastwick.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

When I was in grad school, this was THE resource...and it cost a ton. Now it's free. Amazing. #PsychSciSky

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Wilhelm Hofmann @wilhelmhofmann.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

📣very thrilled to see the new, open access (!) edition of the Handbook of Social Psychology is now online! With 50 chapters, this is an amazing collective effort brought to everyone by @danielgilbert.bsky.social, Susan Fiske, @elijfinkel.bsky.social, and Wendy Mendes and Situational Press. 👏🎉🙏

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 19/05/2025

🎇It's #PubDay for THE HANDBOOK OF SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY (6e)!🎇 This is the latest edition of the most venerated institution in social psychology, dating back to 1954. Fifty definitive chapters, over 8,000 manuscript pages. (The TOC appears below.) And: IT'S 100% OPEN-ACCESS: www.the-HSP.com.🧵

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Institute for Policy Research at Northwestern University @ipratnu.bsky.social · 01/05/2025

What does the latest Bridget Jones film say about romantic attraction? In @spspnews.bsky.social, @elijfinkel.bsky.social & Paul Eastwick write that Jones' interest in younger men aligns with their recent study showing that on blind dates, women are attracted to youth. spsp.org/news/charact...

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Bridget Jones is an Avatar for the Science of Attraction | SPSP

Both men and women are—perhaps surprisingly—more attracted to younger partners.

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Paul Eastwick @pauleastwick.bsky.social · 25/04/2025

In the most recent Bridget Jones film, we find our heroine drawn to younger men. According to our recent PNAS article, this aspect of the movie is spot on: On average, women say they want an older partner, but they are initially attracted to younger ones. #PsychSciSky

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Bridget Jones is an Avatar for the Science of Attraction | SPSP

Both men and women are—perhaps surprisingly—more attracted to younger partners.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 21/04/2025

I've been waiting years for this book! My friend and collaborator Greg Walton (professor at Stanford) has pioneered a new paradigm for achieving big change. As he explains in ORDINARY MAGIC, it starts with small acts. The book is powerful and a pleasure to read. Check it out!

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Leor Zmigrod @leorzmigrod.bsky.social · 05/03/2025

🎞️ New short film just released about my research on what makes a mind susceptible to rigid and extreme ideologies by @uniofcam.bsky.social! 🧠 www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOBI...

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Uncovered: Psychological 'signature' of the extreme mind

YouTube video by Cambridge University

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 01/02/2025

Check out this profound visual essay from the brilliant @lianafinck.bsky.social. It's equally wise about equality and relationships, and especially about tensions therein. I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage www.nytimes.com/2025/02/01/o...

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · 27/01/2025

Study: men who feel like they have lower desirability as a romantic/sexual partner compared to the their partner feel more motivated to sexually satisfy their female partners, and this motivation translates into increased cunnilingus frequency. link.springer.com/article/10.1...

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Oral Sex May Serve as Low Mate Value Compensation Among Men: Evidence from a Pre-registered Study - Archives of Sexual Behavior

From the evolutionary perspective, maintaining a committed relationship is beneficial for reproductive success but involves risks such as losing a partner or infidelity. People typically prefer partne...

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 26/01/2025

If you're interested in political ideology -- and especially in similarities and differences between leftists and rightists -- I highly recommend this terrific open-access paper from Nour Kteily and Mark Brandt.

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Leor Zmigrod @leorzmigrod.bsky.social · 15/01/2025

First time on Bluesky 👋☁️ 🟠 Delighted to share that my book The Ideological Brain will be out in March (and in >10 languages later this year)! 🔵 📘 It’s about what makes some brains susceptible to rigid worldviews, how ideologies infiltrate our minds and bodies, and what it means to break free 📙

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Katy Milkman @katymilkman.bsky.social · 20/01/2025

In the mood for a bit of distraction? This fabulous new “Love Factually” podcast episode analyzes what the 90s classic movie Pretty Woman gets right and wrong about human nature. I joined the convo w/ @elijfinkel.bsky.social & @pauleastwick.bsky.social ❤️🎧 podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/l...

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Pretty Woman (1990) with Katy Milkman

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Peter Sagal @petersagal.bsky.social · 19/01/2025

I can’t recommend @jonathaneig.bsky.social’ bio of MLK highly enough. Here’s an essay by Eig on the mixed legacy of the holiday honoring him. And yes, about that quote. wapo.st/4h1KvTy

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Opinion | The content of King’s character? It was ferocious.

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Taffy Brodesser-Akner @taffyakner.bsky.social · 17/01/2025

ok but what if your dad took you to WILD AT HEART when you were 12 because it was a sneak preview at the Commack Multiplex and you two haven't looked each other in the eye since? The theater is long gone, replaced by a Lowes, from what I understand, but the shame endures.

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · 17/01/2025

I spoke with my friends over at the Love Factually Podcast about the classic 2010 film Easy A starring Emma Stone. We talked about sexual double standards, virginity, sexual reputation, and more. Check it out! @elijfinkel.bsky.social @pauleastwick.bsky.social www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast...

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Episode 363: Sex In The Movies - Sex and Psychology

When it comes to how sex and sexuality are portrayed on screen, what does Hollywood get right and wrong? Let's talk about it.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 07/01/2025

🎉New Episode of the #LoveFactuallyPod: "EASY A" 🎉 Sex Guru Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social) joins Paul and me for a deep dive into this Emma Stone classic. This film is not as sex-positive as you remember.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 30/12/2024

Is this the most romantic #NewYearsEve scene ever depicted? "I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." Check it out on the #LoveFactuallyPod open.spotify.com/episode/2RYJ...

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 27/12/2024

Terrific article from the brilliant @kurtgraycon.bsky.social: We’ve Misunderstood Human Nature for 100 Years "The assumption that humans are predators by nature [is] wrong. ... humans evolved with a prey mind-set, living in fear and constantly seeking protection." Gift: nytimes.com/2024/12/22/opi

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 26/12/2024

📢Now on the #LoveFactuallyPod📢 @pauleastwick.bsky.social & I talk with @npr.org's @petersagal.bsky.social about EYES WIDE SHUT, Kubrick's haunting masterpiece on sex and marriage What does jealousy do to us? What are the many forms of sex and desire? Check it out! open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...

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Eyes Wide Shut (1999) with Peter Sagal

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Justin Lehmiller @justinlehmiller.bsky.social · 24/12/2024

Holiday films suggest that Christmas is the most romantic time of year. Why are we so attracted to stories of love and romance around the holidays? Let's talk about it! @elijfinkel.bsky.social @pauleastwick.bsky.social www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast...

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Episode 356: Why Holiday Romance Movies Are So Popular - Sex and Psychology

Holiday movies are increasingly centering around love and romance. So what's behind the rise on romantic holiday media? Let's talk about it.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 23/12/2024

Kudos to you, Everglades. I had no idea your gators posed for photos. #SayCheese

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 23/12/2024

CHRISTMAS DAY is the 3-month anniversary of the #LoveFactuallyPod. As Paul Eastwick (@pauleastwick.bsky.social) and I debated which film represents the ideal holiday movie for the podcast, we realized that the clear winner is ... 🍿Stanley Kubrick's EYES WIDE SHUT🍿 🎵Baby did a bad bad thing🎵

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Peter Sagal @petersagal.bsky.social · 23/12/2024

Screenwriter of what, you may ask? Don’t. But listen to the pod.

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Eli Finkel @elijfinkel.bsky.social · 23/12/2024

🎉New on the #LoveFactuallyPod: EYES WIDE SHUT🎥 Our guest is the great PETER SAGAL (@petersagal.bsky.social), host of @npr.org's WAIT WAIT DON'T TELL ME. His expertise as a screenwriter is crucial in helping us unpack & assess the relationship messages in the film. open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...

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