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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/10/2026

I also learned that two of those small, plastic parts inside of a retractable pen are called “thrust tube” and “thrust device.” From here on out, I will be using those terms for other activities, especially ones that are office themed.

An illustrated-diagram of a ball point pen, as part of the inventor, J.F. O’Sullivan’s 1952 patent. The illustration also includes close-ups and cross-sections.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 08/09/2026

Anniversary alert! It’s been five years since I started building this world of mine––big changes are afoot. Now please me by procuring an item off my Throne wishlist. Here’s a snapshot of me getting touched up by the fabulous Patrick Santa Ana during one of my photoshoots. More BTS coming soon.

An Asian femme with long black hair dressed in a black latex gown and matching opera length gloves. They are seated at a round table in a Chinese banquet hall with an array of dishes set in front of them. A makeup artist in a black t-shirt is re-applying the femme's lipstick with a brush.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 27/08/2026

"I am a puddle on the floor. Domina does not dismiss you until she is satisfied and you are entirely broken into pieces..and yet somehow more whole than before." What can I say, I have a way with words. See what all the commotion is about on #NiteFlirt

A full-length mirror selfie of an Asian femme standing in a dungeon. They are wearing a black latex, high slit gown.

A written review underneath five golden stars. The review reads, "I am a puddle on the floor. Domina does not dismiss you until she is satisfied and you are entirely broken into pieces..and yet somehow more whole than before."

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 25/08/2026

Whip-smart or single tail. Which ones more lethal? I have both 🖤

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 22/08/2026

Spent a perfect afternoon seeing Tom of Finland and other classic kink imagery with Leather Daddy, @thevillainelle.bsky.social during their visit to LA.

Tom of Finland, 'Tom's Men,' 1970. A framed graphite drawing of a row of men bulging underneath their pants––expect for the central figure who stands naked on a rock. The men have gathered in what appears to be a park.

Namio Harukawa, 'Untitled 09,' 1990. A framed charcoal drawing of a voluptuous woman smothering a shirtless, tied-up man with her crotch against a vertical wood beam. Accents of red speckle the otherwise black-and-white drawing.

Tom of Finland, Untitled (Preparatory Drawing, from Kake vol. 13 - "Sightseeing"), 1973. A framed graphite drawing of three men pleasuring one another. Their bodies contorted on top of each other, as if in a game of Twister.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 17/08/2026

Here’s the TTS version for a side-by-side comparison.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 17/08/2026

An audio version of my recent Substack—read by yours truly—is now available, replacing the automatic text-to-speech. While I appreciate the accessibility and the voice talent behind the TTS, the two versions are markedly different!

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 02/08/2026

Isn’t this so satisfying?

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 02/08/2026

9 months of chastity training. 4,213 total standards to date. I look forward to volume 2 📝

A table of contents listing all the standards completed between March 2025 and July 2026. It is organized into three columns: date, assigned lines, and quantity. The table of contents is inside a plastic sleeve at the front of an open three-ring binder. The submissive who is responsible for all these lines is presenting the binder in their hands. The room they are in is flooded with red light.

A pair of two silver keys in the palm of a slender, elegant hand in front of a submissive kneeling in the middle of round Persian rug. They are wearing a shiny, black form-fitting dress. The room they are in is flooded with red light.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/08/2026

Some people want a pair of Louboutin’s Kate or Hot Chick heels. I want their collab with Matières Fécales.

A pair of custom white Louboutin heels, backstage at the Matières Fécales Fall Ready-to-Wear 2025 fashion show.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 25/07/2026

Thank you for the Bordelle, p

A mirror selfie of an Asian femme with long black hair, standing in a dressing room while wearing a red Bordelle set and round, gold metal pasties. The lightbulbs of the vanity mirror frame two sides of the picture.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 14/07/2026

Serving rubber and restraint 🖤

Two Asian Femmes clad in all black latex. One is wearing a gown with opera length gloves while the other sports a catsuit. They are in a Chinese banquet hall, poised around a round table draped in red. There is an array of food on display, including dimsum, steamed vegetables, and char siu. On top of the table's Lazy Susan is the centerpiece of the feast––a femme submissive hogtied with jute. The submissive is also wearing latex as well as a pair of shiny black, red-bottomed heels.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 12/07/2026

My latest Substack about my travels to TP. HCM and Singapore is now out!

An array of dishes displayed on a round table in a Chinese banquet hall. There is an Asian femme wearing black, opera-length latex gloves peeking from the corner of the image. Superimposed is a text that reads: "S.E.A. Travelogue, Reflections on my time in Saigon and Singapore, plus upcoming plans for Paris, Silver-Tongued Journal, dominaxuan.substack.com".

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/07/2026

The concert was then followed by a visit to a late-night taco truck. While shoveling down my al pastors, I thought to myself, "Ahhh, I finally feel back home in LA."

Standing in an open wood crate beneath a spotlight, Rosalía is posed and fashioned like one of Edgar Degas's ballet dancers. From above, the crate takes on the shape of a religious cross.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/07/2026

Got to see Rosalía live last night!! Obsessed with her voice, the staging, Yudania Gómez's conducting, the choreography by (LA)HORDE, the waves of bass blasting from the speakers and through my chest...

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 13/06/2026

Spent my first night out in LA at an artist lecture by Panteha Abareshi, as part of the One Archives’ current show, NEED ME. A fascinating talk about the un-s*xing and f*tishization of the disabled body for the pleasure/use of the abled bodied onlooker and the ways their work subverts that.

A retractable projector screen sandwiched between a set of gray stairs and a black platform inside a library archive. Projected on the screen is a slide that reads, "Panteha Abareshi: On F*tishization and the Politics of Care; Need Me at the One Archive." The text is superimposed on a rainbow of colors radiating from the center of the slide. Between the artist's first and last name is an illustration of a wheelchair.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 07/06/2026

My time in SEA is now coming to a close. I'll see you soon LA! More glimpses and insights from my travels are in the works––until then, vicariously enjoy Sài Gòn's cafe scene.

Oshima's in Ho Chi Minh City. It is a tranquil cafe with a stone path in front and lots of surrounding greenery. The building itself features a veranda with a glass covering.

A drink called Amber Meadow––consisting of earl grey tea, orange juice, cinnamon, and honey––on a small round table. The drink is garnished with a small yellow flower.

A mirror selfie of an Asian femme with long black hair, wearing a black tank top and shorts. They are standing in a minimally designed restroom.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 03/06/2026

Hearing my peers' glowing reviews of The Maids at St. Ann's Warehouse makes my desire to see it even stronger. Hmmm, if only I were whisked off to NYC before its last performance in mid-June. Attentive playthings who've read this story of mine understand how significant this play is to me:

A photograph from the 2014 stage production of The Maids, starring Cate Blanchett and Isabelle Huppert, overlaid by text. The image depicts both actresses in front of a set consisting of a vanity and chair, floral bouquets in glass vases, and a long rack of clothing arranged by color. There is also a video projection upstage. Blanchett, a tall white woman with platinum blonde hair, snarls at her scene partner as she drags her around stage on the train of a red floor length dress. Huppert, a smaller woman with red hair, wears a maid's uniform. The text reads, "A Night at the Theater: A piece of flash fiction on the eve of my birthday in June!"

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/06/2026

Guess who's birthday it is 🎂

An Asian femme with long black hair, dressed in a latex gown and matching opera length gloves. They are seated at a round table in a Chinese banquet hall with their chin gently resting on their gloved hand as they look straight towards the camera. Set in front of them is an array of dishes--sliced fruit, barbecue pork, dim sum. Splashes of red, from the tablecloth to the upholstered seat of the femme's chair, accent the room.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/05/2026

Some of my favorite dates are museum dates! Recently spent an afternoon at the National Gallery Singapore with the incomparable @lucythemistress.bsky.social

Wall decal outside the exhibition, Passion is Volcanic: Desire in Southeast Asian Art.

A selfie of an Asian femme wearing a black woven top and a green satin skirt, taken in a restroom mirror. It appears as if they are in an endless hallway, a visual illusion caused by two mirrors on opposite sides of the room.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/05/2026

Also had the pleasure of visiting Project X. Vanessa Ho, the executive director, shared insights about the challenges s-x and massage workers face in Singapore, as well as the advocacy and outreach that they're doing. Got my hands on a copy of their recently published anthology too.

A thin paperback copy of The Missing Anthology: Stories from Singapore's S*x Workers on a white bed sheet. The cover is an abstract painting composed of primary colors.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/05/2026

A belated recap of my time in Singapore 🇸🇬 Thank you to the fellow Dommes –– @goddessashley.bsky.social, @lucythemistress.bsky.social, Mistress Wei, Queen Cynthia, Mistress Suzuran, Ms Lilith, Domina Delilah –– and subs who made my visit so special. I'll be back soon!

The Jewel Changi Airport's indoor waterfall, photographed at a distance. There is a wide walking path leading to the waterfall, with lush tropical greenery flanked on both sides.

A group selfie of five Asian femmes, taken in a mirror in front of a photobooth kiosk. Clockwise, from the top-left is: Domina Xuan, Mistress Suzuran, Mistress Lucy Khan, Miss Wei, and Queen Cynthia. The photo is satisfyingly symmetrical. Two of the five femmes flex their arm muscles while two others carry open umbrellas.

A group photo of four Asian femmes in a playspace. From left to right is: Ms. Lilith, Domina Xuan, Goddess Ashley, and Domina Delilah. All four femmes are decked in leather.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 17/05/2026

I’m currently planning a trip to Europe this October. Should I also make pit stops in Boston and NYC?

A selfie of an Asian Femme seated on an upholstered Mid-Century Modern chair in a minimalist dressing room. The femme is wearing a black lace mini-cocktail dress with their long legs and bare feet exposed.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 03/05/2026

The Domme, the space, the food

A selfie of an Asian femme, taken in front of a washroom mirror. An adorable neon sign of a cat reading the papers on the toilet hangs on the wall behind them.

An interior of a restaurant, it's kitchen visible in the back corner. A large display of natural wine line one of its walls.

A plate of smoked mussels with pan con tomate and salsa peanut, garnished with dill.

A plate of grilled squid with peanut shatta and watercress next to a serving of charred zucchini and snap peas with caesar dressing.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 20/04/2026

Learning about ancient petrified wood from the Chư Đăng Ya volcano

A collection of bowls, vases, and other household goods, all pleasantly arranged on a large, pedestal-like white table at Ohi Ohi Shop. At the center is the display are two medium-sized slabs of petrified wood. Due to high concentrations of calcium, these trunks of wood have turned ash white, with black splotches on their cross sections.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 20/04/2026

My time in TP. HCM is off to a wonderful start

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 11/04/2026

See leather, post leather

An Asian femme with lightly tanned skin and black hair clipped neatly in a bun wearing a black leather knee-length jacket, stockings, and heels. In their hand is a black six-foot bullwhip with its end draped on the floor by their feet. They are pictured standing in the distance amidst the brutalist architecture of the Westin Bonaventure Hotel. The femme is surrounded by tall concrete pillars that vault towards a glass ceiling. In front of them is one of several seating pods that line the floor’s circular walkway, each with red leather couches.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 07/04/2026

Always a treat to spend time with the ever captivating @cleoouyang.bsky.social and share what we've each been desiring. Now which dutiful s-b is up to the task of supporting our creative ambitions?

A classic dirty martini and a star anise-infused scotch whiskey on a small white table. In the background is a full bar with light emanating behind a wall of glass blocks.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 31/03/2026

Dinner is served w/ @cococeleste.bsky.social 🍽️ Photographer: Lanee Bird Hair and beauty: Patrick Santa Ana Producer: Lenne Chai Production Assistant: Nathan Figueroa

Two Asian Femme Dommes clad in all black latex. One is wearing a catsuit while the other sports a gown with opera length gloves. They are in a Chinese banquet hall, poised around a round table draped in red. There is an array of food on display, including dimsum, steamed vegetables, and char siu. On top of the table's Lazy Susan is the centerpiece of the feast––a femme submissive hogtied with jute. The submissive is also wearing latex as well as a pair of shiny black, red-bottomed heels.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/03/2026

Major announcement: I'll be living in Vietnam for 1.5 months, starting this April! Read all about it on my Substack 💌

A cropped black-and-white photo of three young, female guerilla fighters in Cà Mau, Vietnam. Each gracefully balancing on one leg with their arms outstretched in front and beside them. Superimposed on the image is a text that reads: "Returning to the Motherland, How an upcoming trip to Vietnam became intertwined with the world of BDSM, Silver-Tongued Journal, dominaxuan.substack.com".

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 13/03/2026

Enjoying a day out with a screening of Pillion and some fragrant hojicha tea~~

The front interior of a minimally designed teahouse. There are shelves of various tea cups behind an elegantly pruned tree.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 17/02/2026

Happy Lunar New Year!!! To my fellow babes: Xuân chúc các bạn một năm dồi dào sức khoẻ, vạn sự như ý, tiền vô như nước nha! Literal translation: Wishing you all a year filled w/ good health; may your wishes come true and may money flow in like water! Translation for the devotees: Make it pour! 🧧💦

An Asian femme with long black hair wearing a sheer strapless basque with garters and seamed stockings. Their left knee is perched on a bondage, CBT chair in the corner of a room beside a fireplace. Two mirrors hang on the surrounding red walls behind them.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 04/02/2026

Just an off-duty Dominant getting a custom latex gown. Thank you to the good girl who made this happen ✨

A selfie of an Asian femme in a bathroom sink mirror. The wallpaper around the mirror is covered with botanical illustrations of carnivorous plants, flowers and reptiles. There is a gallery of mostly photographs featuring latex behind the femme.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 01/02/2026

Just wrapped up an incredible photoshoot with fellow babe @cococeleste.bsky.social and photographer extraordinaire, Lanee Bird! You'll be cordially invited soon...

A place setting on top of a red tablecloth at a Chinese restaurant. In front of the dinnerware are bundles of jute rope.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/01/2026

A divine evening with one of my good boys–– Still thinking about this yuzu custard and matcha tart. And with his help, I have officially joined the cattle prod club. Thank you, g! you and I are about to have lots of fun...hehe 2026 is the year of more social dates 🤍

A dimly lit and cozy restaurant in the style of a french bistro.

A slice of yuzu custard tart with a layer of matcha on its surface, plated next to a dollop of vanilla chantilly.

A red cattle prod held in a slender and elegant hand above a wooden table.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 22/12/2025

Emerging from my break, just to say: something special is coming in 2026...

Plates and metal steamers filled with egg custard tarts, siu mai and marinated chicken feet at the center of a table, amidst chopsticks and cups of tea.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 11/12/2025

Announcement: I will be taking a social media break in order to focus on some exciting updates & projects! you may still ring me on NF, please me with a holiday gift, and entice me to come out & play––I have room for 1-2 more dates this December. I'll see everyone else in the new year!!!

A selfie of an Asian femme in front of a restroom mirror. A bold and graphic mural, painted primarily in shades of red, cover the surrounding walls.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 07/12/2025

Nearly 440 hours. An average of 14 hrs 11 mins a day. And a total of 1,000 handwritten standards. So proud of my chastity sub's accomplishments this past month, as she works towards staying locked 24/7 for me! Now what did she get to eat in celebration? 🤍

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 29/11/2025

How you yearn to see yourself reflected back from the ripple of my sleeve.

A selfie of an Asian femme wearing a latex bolero and mesh strapless top. They are standing in front of a red upholstered bondage chair with multiple hard points.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 24/11/2025

...to this excerpt from Isaac Julien's Looking for Langston at the Met exhibit, Superfine: Tailoring Black Style.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 24/11/2025

Finally getting the chance to look over the visual research I've recently done. From Madonna's S*x book... Also, RIP Udo Kier!

A black-and-white portrait of the singer, Madonna, with her hand pressed against her face and rope marks visible on her forearm, as two other individuals hunch behind her.

A collaged photograph of Madonna and the actor, Udo Kier, both in fancy evening wear, surrounded by young men dancing in nothing but leather boots on some sort of stage.

A black-and-white photograph of the actor, Udo Kier and a male model, both dressed in black tuxedos, as they ride and maneuver a pack of seven muscular men on a stage.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 21/11/2025

Thank you to the good boi who brought a copy of Box Hill to our date. I look fondly at those who know how to indulge me both in and out of the play space 🤍 Excited to read this before watching Pillion, it's film adaptation!

A copy of the book, Box Hill. It has an azure blue cover, white serif font, and the embossed emblem of the publisher. Beside the book is a wooden cane and white envelope with the name 'M. Xuan' written in red ink. All three items rest on a tan leather surface reminiscent of snake skin.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 13/11/2025

Wait out this weekend's atmospheric river by cozying up in a small cage for me.

An Asian femme lounging on a king-size bed in a black mesh bodysuit and a two piece set.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 09/11/2025

Morning tea always taste better when shared with other babes! So wonderful hanging with @servetrinity.bsky.social and @roxannewaters.bsky.social during their visit to LA.

A tea set comprised of a clay tea pot, two porcelain cups, a dish of loose leaf tea, a small glass pitcher of hot water, and a walnut, apricot, butter snack on a plate--all arranged nearly on a black wooden tray.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 07/11/2025

My goodness! I've nearly reached a rating score of 2,000!! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Come find out why I've earned all these stars in just a short span of one year.

An Asian femme with long black hair, wearing a black Anoeses bodysuit. They are standing next to a vertical cage with their left hand grasping the top of one of its metal bars.

A sceenshot of a NiteFlirt listing that includes portrait on a leather-clad, Asian femme with black, tied up hair resting on a red leather upholstered couch. The surrounding text reads: "Silver-Tongued Dominatrix. M. Xuan. Call me directly, 1-800-863-5478, ext. 13467602." There is also a purple "Call Now" button directly underneath five gold stars and the number "1972," the rating score, in parentheses.

A collection of five screenshots, each with a different 5-star review, on top of a black background. The reviews say: "It is difficult for me to resist Your desires. Please feel free to communicate Your desires to me." "Once again, I am taken on an amazing experience under the skilled guidance of Domina Xuan!! Thank you again for your deft hand and voice in making me feel exhilarating levels of pleasure." "I am completely mesmerized by Domina Xuan! So deep my memory is lacking in specifics. She is beautiful. My mind is totally dominated to absorb and obey her commands. Definitely one of the very best on NF." "Another wonderful call. Goddess knows me so well that after a brief hello she's already off to the races, exercising my kinks and allowing me to serve her. Already looking forward to our next call." "Domina is beyond exceptional! my words are insufficient. If i could speak with no Other but Her i would consider myself extremely fortunate! She is truly without parallel."

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 28/10/2025

Deserving of all the praise & accolades it's been getting!! Thank you to the good boy who acquired orchestra seat tix to "Oh, Mary!" and to @serveizumi.bsky.social for accompanying me to this campy joy of a show!

A slender hand with red nail polish holding up a Broadway playbill in front of a stage with purple curtains. The rows of seats stretched out before the hand are also purple. The playbill's cover has a solid yellow background with the words, "Oh, Mary!" splayed at its center. There is a sculpture of Pallas Athene at the center of the stage's proscenium arch.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 24/10/2025

Do you know who he is?? Kicking off my time in New York City with a reading from the one-and-only John Waters and an amazing line-up of writers at Eros Unbound!

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 22/10/2025

STL, it feels so good to be inside of you 🖤

An Asian femme wearing a latex bolero, mesh, and stockings. They are standing in a gallery-like space with a marble relief of a male torso, leather boots, and a leather sleepsack hung along its white walls.

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M. Xuan @dominaxuan.com · 19/10/2025

Just saw San Cha's Inebria me –– an opera with inflections of telenovelas, Bay Area drag and queerness. Stellar performances, great staging, and compelling music! It could have easily been longer, and I would have happily watched.

A slightly tilted stage in the shape of a religious cross in a black box theater. Everything is bathed in a purple light, aside from the orange glow of the projection screen upstage. The orange is reminiscent of a sunset.

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