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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 11/08/2026

The desire for power is a pathological death drive, ultimately oriented toward the cancerous destruction of all life.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 09/08/2026

Every country has the government it deserves. - Joseph de Maistre

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 03/08/2026

When I was 12 years old a middle aged, Muslim man in Kenya tried to marry me. I look Somali so he thought I was also Muslim. If you want to be the sort of PC leftist that avoid critiquing religion, you go do that. I think you're a coward who can't hold nuances.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 24/07/2026

Hours later and I'm still recovering from the devastating jealousy of doing a live with Juan Carlos Pérez Cortés, who wrote the first book on Relationship Anarchy. Turns out that in Spain, a lot of his Relationship Anarchy talks are hosted by anarchist unions.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 14/07/2026

The new anarcho-capitalists is a type of relationship anarchist that thinks it means non-committal polyamory or a praxis that doesn't involve a commitment to ending hierarchies outside your relationship.

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little ms foot-long scar @7ydy.bsky.social · 26/06/2026

relationship anarchy only works for devoted anarchists, everyone else is just obscuring hierarchy

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 13/07/2026

The mood of the world cup has certainly shifted now it these teams left: Spain, France, England and Argentina. Three OG colonizers and the Nazis.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 12/07/2026

Settlers and colonized minds fyi: you cannot perform your way into an open relationship. You cannot force compersion or out-think jealousy with perfect terminology. The body moves at its own pace and rejects inauthentic scripts.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 12/07/2026

If you affirm others hierarchical polyamory as an RA, you're a fraud. That's like calling yourself an environmentalist while defending fossil fuels. Anarchism is a radical challenge to all top-down hierarchies.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 16/06/2026

The world is coming once again together to celebrate the world cup. But let us at the same time not forget Gaza. Israel is still bombing and killing palestinians. Colonialism doesn't pause for humanity.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 14/06/2026

Monogamy runs on autopilot, the script has been written for you by culture. Polyamory runs on manual mode. If you don’t know your manual, you default to being neglected.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 14/06/2026

Monogamy often assumes your partner will meet all your needs. Polyamory is framed as the opposite: expect neglect and stop asking for more. Neither is healthy. Your attachment needs don't disappear in polyamory. The difference is that you actually have to know what they are and communicate them.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 12/06/2026

So the world officially has its first trillionaire. 🤮 I will forever maintain that if Mandela had redistributed wealth in 1994 instead of allowing white South Africans to retain the wealth accumulated through apartheid, we probably wouldn't be dealing with Elon Musk and Peter Thiel today.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 12/06/2026

To everyone in an open relationship: you are still entitled to having your needs met in an attachment-based relationship. Accepting crumbs is neither healthy nor functional. Non-monogamy should expand possibilities for connection, not become an excuse for neglect.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 09/06/2026

One of the greatest tricks colonialism ever pulled was convincing us that hierarchy is human nature. For most of our existence, humans lived in egalitarian bands. Domination and scarcity are political choices. Life doesn't have to be rule or be ruled.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 31/05/2026

You're monogamous because you'd rather be cheated on than face the fact that someone might honestly want to be with someone else. I am polyamorous in part because I hate lying more than someone being with someone else. I can handle anything if it's transparent. We are not the same.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 14/05/2026

Even if you can see the coloniality of compulsory monogamy culture; even if you recognize how deeply your nervous system may have been conditioned toward monogamy, it is still perfectly okay to say, “I don’t want to spend my life struggling to practice non-monogamy.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 20/04/2026

But honestly seeing both the collapse of monogamy and the American empire makes me all warm inside.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 17/04/2026

Some of y'all need to hear this: participating in cancel or call-out culture isn’t a substitute for organizing against institutions and structures of power. It can feel like action, but it doesn’t replace the harder work of building movements capable of changing material conditions.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 17/04/2026

I really think the colonial mentality (both colonizers’ and colonized minds) is a mental illness. It should be treated with the seriousness we reserve for things listed in the DSM. There should be yearly updates building on the work of Franz Fanon...

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 17/04/2026

The right applies virtually no moral threshold to its leaders: credibly accused predators can hold power without consequence, as long as they deliver politically.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 13/04/2026

“I am so SICK of hearing "History will judge them." Judge them now. With judges.”

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Marcela Alonso @marcelasobella.bsky.social · 08/04/2026

This weeks episode with @decolonizinglove.bsky.social was a honor to have them on the podcast open.spotify.com/episode/3sSj...

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 10/03/2026

Real harm should be named but movements lose themselves when carceral punishment replaces proportion, relationship, and real transformative justice.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 03/03/2026

The US government will evacuate white South Africans from a fake genocide but not American citizens effected by the war in Iran the US started. That's crazy!

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 01/03/2026

It really makes sense now why the started with Venezuela. Secure their oil before destabalizing Western Asia and disrupting the oil flow. And it kills 2 birds with one stone. Meanwhile Cuba is being strangulated so they'll be too weak for an eventual invasion.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 28/02/2026

“EVEN IF YOU START A NUCLEAR WAR, WE WILL CRAWL OUT OF THE ASHES AS SEVEN-LEGGED MUTANTS DEMANDING THE RELEASE OF THE EPSTEIN FILES.”

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 23/02/2026

The John Davidson tourette's induced N-word outburst at the BAFTA's towards the Sinners Cast is where we see the intersection of racism and disability. Because if the harm was towards a white audience, there would have been an apology issued already.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 23/02/2026

The amount of racism the cast and crew of Sinners has gone through has been insane. I'm not a fan of the movie but it's genuinely been vexing seeing that level of racism.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 22/02/2026

Most Polyamorous Names: 1. Bex 2. Quinn 3. Dan

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 22/02/2026

Ok hear me out: what if, instead of releasing the epstein files, we release Luigi, give him a copy of the files and just let him cook?

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 21/02/2026

Some cold water: not every boundary is based on a rational value, and not every desire for freedom is healthy.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 20/02/2026

“Therapy isn’t enough. I need Jeffrey Epstein’s clients publicly executed.”

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 20/02/2026

Some of my safer sex standards for partners: -Recent STI test before we first have sex - HPV vaccinated - Few months of dating before I fluid bond - They must test after sleeping with someone new, and open STI/safer sex talks with new partners. Do what works for you, this is what works for me.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 20/02/2026

We need to kill the idea of the "ideal polyamorist": never jealous, cool with everything, doesn't even need much of a safer sex agreement, has multiple partners and is compersive. And If you're not that, you're not really polyamorous? We didn’t leave one script just to pick up another.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 19/02/2026

Everyone’s talking about America’s Next Top Model doc but am I the only that's always seen reality TV as cruel to me. It preys on vulnerable working-class people psychologically, by dangling a carrot. Cheap to produce, modern Circus Maximus, the only ones it really empowers are studio heads.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 19/02/2026

Puritan leftists are a hive mind. Colonial politics is a horseshoe, on one end is MAGA, and on the other, puritan leftists. Neither tolerates plurality of thought.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 18/02/2026

Today I realized even egalitarian polyamorists can be pussy whipped. Just because they’re polyamorists doesn’t mean they’re as good with friendships.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 16/02/2026

I often reflect on the transcontinental Nazism and white supremacy ties of Elon Musk and Peter Thiel. Musk's maternal grandparents were Nazi Party members in Canada who relocated to South Africa for its apartheid system. Thiel, a German whose family did the same, joined them there.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 05/02/2026

Yup, we've been telling you repeatedly: the nuclear family is designed for control. Control of women, control of populations. That's why capitalist governments push it so hard. That's why marriage comes with tax incentives.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 29/01/2026

Most infamous moments in poly discourse / internet poly history 1. Womblands on Tiktok 2. The “solo poly amputee hijabi” memes on X 3. West End Girl - Lily Allen 4. Frida Kahlo dating León Trotsky and Josephine Baker, while Diego Rivera violated their messy list by sleeping with Frida’s sister

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 02/01/2026

If I ever get kidnapped this is how you'd know

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 15/12/2025

What do Kris Jenner’s facelift, COVID, and billionaire transhumanist ambitions have in common? This unsettling piece connects the dots of our dystopian moment, and bonus traces how Blackness is mined for legitimacy, from Octavia Butler to the Kardashians. substack.com/home/post/p-...

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kris jenner's facelift: a transhumanist cautionary tale

hollywood is getting younger, and silicon valley is investing billions hoping you won't get any older.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 15/12/2025

Heartbreak of the week: learning that Noam Chomsky has vehemently defended Epstein multiple times, including after his convictions, and considered him a good friend. I also learned this week that Chomsky said Antifa was a gift to the right. Don’t learn more about your heroes.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 09/12/2025

Not sure who needs to hear this but leftists who are quick to cancel, constantly call people out, or scrutinize other leftists over the smallest missteps are carrying on the legacy of Christian puritan culture.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 09/07/2025

Shibari comes from hojojutsu, a martial rope techniques used to restrain and shame prisoners in imperial Japan. These roots include fascist policing. Post-WWII, artists eroticized them as kinbaku. Its origins, like Western BDSM, lie in carceral and colonial control.

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Decolonizing Love @decolonizing.love · 08/07/2025

People often underestimate the depth of research that goes into our work. I have hyperlexia, which allows me to absorb and synthesize vast amounts of information quickly. Before I speak on any topic, I read everything I can find.

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