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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Healing can mean learning to let in experiences that contradict our chronic shame, rather than explaining them away. Over time, allowing new evidence to reach us emotionally can begin to challenge the belief that we are inadequate.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 22/09/2026

Emotional healing asks us to turn towards pain, fear, grief and shame rather than simply push them away. We don’t do this alone or all at once: safety and support matter. I explore this paradox in my forthcoming book, Chronic Shame in the Spotlight

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 08/09/2026

When chronic shame makes us judge ourselves as irredeemably flawed, we become our own adversary. Healing can change that relationship: we become less of an adversary and more of an ally, easing the loneliness within.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 01/09/2026

One important consequence of chronic shame is the fear it generates.These fears can remain hidden and unrecognised even when their effects compromise our lives and relationships. I explore these concepts in my forthcoming book, Chronic Shame in the Spotlight.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 18/08/2026

Chronic shame can affect how we see ourselves, our emotional world and even our bodies. It may show up as anxiety, depression, disconnection, or feeling like we’re not living our potential. Healing means going beneath the symptoms to the deeper wound.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

Healing from emotional trauma and chronic shame is rarely a straight line. We make progress, feel hopeful, then suddenly find old patterns returning. It can feel like we’ve undone everything - but we haven’t. Healing isn’t linear. Keep going with curiosity, awareness and self-compassion.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 11/08/2026

I first read Sam Keen’s words 20+ years ago, and I still return to them: the questions we ask shape how we experience life. I’ve found it equally valuable to notice the questions I’m avoiding. Sometimes they have the most to teach us. What are you asking - and more importantly, avoiding?

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 27/07/2026

I read ‘The Choice’ by the late Dr. Eger’s a few years ago and it had a deep impact at the time. One of the ideas that resonated most was this: we don’t heal from trauma because the wounds simply disappear. Instead, healing comes from discovering new ways to live alongside those wounds.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 20/07/2026

When we begin healing, many of us hope it’s a straight path to being "fixed." But as Marion Woodman said, healing follows a spiral. Each turn brings us back to ourselves, meeting another layer of what we carry.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 10/07/2026

We cannot undo what happened to us, nor can we simply unlearn the protective strategies that developed in response to traumatising experiences. Healing begins when we become more conscious of what happened to us and of the fear and chronic shame that often remain long after the original events.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 07/07/2026

Chronic shame makes us hide who we are from others and ourselves. The ways we try to protect ourselves often deepen shame instead. Healing begins by questioning the belief that we're fundamentally inadequate. To learn more join my mailing list - www.danielasieff.com/sign-up

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 30/06/2026

Dag Hammarskjöld was a Swedish economist, this quote is one of my favourites. Letting go of comparison isn't easy. It takes practice. But on the occasions when we manage this, it brings a spacious generosity to our lives and to our relationships with other people.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 23/06/2026

Trauma often leads us to disconnect from the parts of ourselves we believe made us vulnerable, while strengthening defenses that seem to keep us safe. Healing asks us to know both our defended self and our unlived potential - to meet both our shadow and our light.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 16/06/2026

Unrecognised chronic shame doesn’t disappear, it shapes our behaviour from the shadows. It can lead us to hurt ourselves and others without understanding why. Healing begins by recognising and understanding it. This is the focus of my forthcoming book

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 08/06/2026

Healing from trauma may feel like a series of breakthroughs. But mostly it is a matter of patience and perseverance. If you would like to learn more about this area you are warmly invited to join my free mailing list, link below – www.danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 19/05/2026

Emotional sensitivity isn’t simply a gift or a flaw - it depends on where it comes from. At its healthiest, it deepens compassion and connection. When rooted in unaddressed trauma or shame, it can lead to reactions that hurt ourselves and others.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 05/05/2026

This passage is from the book I’m currently working on. I explore these ideas deeply over two chapters. If you’d like to learn more, you’re warmly invited to join my free newsletter. Click here to join: danielasieff.com/sign-up/ #danielasieff #chronicshame #shamebasedidentity #shameandpower

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 20/04/2026

The many names for shame reveal how central and painful it is. They also mean that we often miss it. In my upcoming book, I explore the many expressions of shame of both healthy and chronic shame. If you’d like to learn more, you’re invited to join my free newsletter 👉 danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 07/04/2026

Working with chronic shame is not only personal work. It quietly shapes the emotional climate around us, reducing the harm we pass on and widening what becomes possible between people.My upcoming book on chronic shame explores how we can work with chronic shame and the difference that makes to us ✨

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 31/03/2026

Some shame comes from the inside - not from being seen, but from feeling we’ve betrayed ourselves. Sometimes there is a genuine betrayal, and then we need to listen to shame. But other times, we are betraying values that are not true to us. And then we have to step forward anyhow.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 24/03/2026

Grief is not a detour from healing chronic shame; it is part of the path. It is something I explore in depth in my upcoming book on chronic shame and its healing. If you’d like to learn more, you’re warmly invited to join my free newsletter via this link – www.danielasieff.com/sign-up

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 17/03/2026

Chronic shame isn’t a passing warning signal. It’s a distorted alarm system turned against the self. I explore this in depth in my upcoming book on chronic shame. Feel free to join my free newsletter for updates, priority webinar booking, and discounts - danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 10/03/2026

Shame has a genuine protective role to play in our lives, but it can also become distorted. This kind of inner shaming voice is a distortion. I explore this topic in my upcoming book. If you’d like to learn more, please click here to join - danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 03/03/2026

This is from a draft of the book I am writing on chronic shame. Healing asks for the next step, not the whole path. If you’d like to learn more and get priority booking and discounts for the webinars I’ll run once the book is published, sign up link here - danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 24/02/2026

Shame is part of being human, and so healing from chronic shame does not mean getting rid of it. Instead, it means learning how to recognise it and steady ourselves when it arises. #DanielaSieff #ChronicShame #HealingShame #TraumaHealing #DepthPsychology #EmotionalResilience #SelfDiscovery

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 17/02/2026

Shame can isolate, yet it’s always relational. It can be healthy or harmful. My book explores both through lived experience - mine and others’ - and research in anthropology, evolution, depth psychology, and emotion. Join my free newsletter to learn more: danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 10/02/2026

Emotional resilience is not emotional control. It’s the ability to notice when we’re overwhelmed and hold our feelings before acting on them. Like learning to swim as an adult, it develops slowly - we practise, falter, and try again, and over time it changes how we relate to ourselves and others.

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 03/02/2026

Chronic shame may never fully disappear - but healing changes how we relate to it. For me, the shift came when I stopped silencing shame and learned to recognise it, endure it, and return from it. I explore this in my forthcoming book, to see more of this topic - danielasieff.com/sign-up/

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 27/01/2026

I offer an on-demand presentation on the Archetypal Death Parent and toxic shame, exploring how internalised beliefs of unworthiness form through early caregivers and distort relationships To learn more please see link here - courses.danielasieff.com/store/arch-d...

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 20/01/2026

When I interviewed Daniel Siegel for my first book, he talked about how rigidity and chaos contribute to mental suffering. Do you notice yourself pulled more toward rigidity or chaos? #DanielaSieff #DanielSiegel #TraumaHealing #EmotionalHealing #HealingJourney #SelfCompassion

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 07/01/2026

I first read Sam Keen’s book more than twenty years ago. These words spoke to me then, and they still talk to me now. I return to them again and again – especially at the start of the year. #DanielaSieff #SamKeen #ReflectiveInquiry #QuestionsThatMatter #InnerQuestions #SelfReflection

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 27/12/2025

These words from Marion Woodman always strike a chord, and in particular, they come to mind as I approach the New Year and reflect on change. “Change means change. Stark honesty, however painful, is needed... We must be willing to face many cruel truths” #MarionWoodman

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 09/12/2025

What if your “bad” feelings aren’t bad at all, but evolution’s way of protecting you? Shame, anxiety, and sadness may hurt - but they can also heal. @randynesse.bsky.social has written about this in his brilliant book: “Good Reasons for Feeling Bad.” #DanielaSieff #ShameHealing #TraumaHealing

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 27/11/2025

Fear grabs us when danger is near, but some fear runs quietly in the background. Healing means bravely bringing these unconscious fears into awareness. I explore this in my essay Fear Created by Trauma Often Operates Unconsciously - danielasieff.com/reflections-...

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 25/11/2025

My niece Lottie asked, ‘How many cups of tea do you drink a day?’ Honestly… far too many. Whenever I get stuck writing, tea feels like the answer. My next book on chronic shame is basically fuelled by an alarming amount of tea! 🫖 #WritersLife #TeaLovers #BookWriting #AuthorLife #TeaTime

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 21/11/2025

Working on my book about shame is reshaping how I see resilience. It’s not about bouncing back, but staying present with the pain we’ve avoided - and choosing responses that support growth. #DanielaSieff #ShameHealing #TraumaRecovery #EmotionalResilience #HealingJourney #TraumaHealing

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 07/11/2025

Between cave and sky, Macfarlane finds a thin border. Between light and shadow, so do we. We slip between the conscious and the hidden self - sometimes gently, sometimes without warning. #DanielaSieff #DepthPsychology #InnerJourney #ShadowWork #TraumaHealing #SelfDiscovery

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 30/10/2025

Writing this book was so important for my own understanding, and I'm always deeply moved to know it contributes to others. Reviews like this mean so much. #DanielaSieff #EmotionalHealing #InnerHealing #TraumaHealing #ShameAwareness #EmotionalTrauma #InnerGrowth #PersonalGrowth

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 28/10/2025

The best part of writing? When it’s done - and it actually says what I meant to say. That click when the structure works, the ideas land, and I can think, Yes… that’s it! #DanielaSieff #AmWriting #AmEditing #WritersLife #BookInProgress #AuthorsOfInstagram #NonfictionWriter #ChronicShame

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 23/10/2025

We celebrate what is ‘up’: positivity, achievement, optimism. But in the psyche, as in the earth, the depths hold treasures too. Descent can bring understanding, transformation, and a different kind of light. #DanielaSieff #DepthPsychology #InnerJourney #ShadowWork #TraumaHealing #SelfDiscovery

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 17/10/2025

Today is World Trauma Day. Trauma shapes lives in unseen ways. The defences that once kept us safe can later hold us back, shutting out connection, growth & joy. Healing means not just dismantling walls, but building new resources to meet life as we are now. #WorldTraumaDay #TraumaHealing

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 10/10/2025

For World Mental Health Day, I’m sharing an excerpt from my conversation with Allan Schore. As he says, security isn’t automatic. It is something we build through lived experience, self-reflection, and nourishing relationships. #DanielaSieff #AllanSchore #WorldMentalHealthDay

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 30/09/2025

Imagination can be a lifeline, yet it can also become a prison. For many, retreating inward was once the only way to survive. #DanielaSieff #Trauma #TraumaAwareness #TraumaHealing #EmotionalTrauma #MentalHealth

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 23/09/2025

One of the themes I’m exploring in my upcoming book on chronic shame is how it takes root, how it distorts our sense of self, and how we can begin to loosen its grip. #DanielaSieff #ChronicShame #ShameAwareness #ShameHealing #HealingFromShame #TraumaHealing #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 19/09/2025

Healing from trauma isn’t quick or simple, but it is possible. Over time, we discover new ways to live so that trauma no longer defines us. #DanielaSieff #ChronicShame #ShameHealing #TraumaHealing #ShameAwareness #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing #InnerHealing #SelfWorth #SelfCompassion

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 17/09/2025

When life is too much, the psyche makes a trade. It hides our most tender and vital parts, not because they are broken but because they are too precious to risk further injury. #DanielaSieff #emotionaltrauma #healingjourney #traumarecovery #donaldkalsched #Jungianpsychology

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Daniela Sieff PhD @danielasieff.bsky.social · 31/07/2025

If this speaks to something in you, I would love to hear how it lands. Your reflections are always welcome here. And if you would like to go deeper, I invite you to join my mailing list. In my newsletters, I share more about these inner dynamics, the roots of emotional pain,

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