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Tracy M

@dandelionmama.bsky.social
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Expert at 3 a.m. anxiety. Second-hand goddess. About the messy business of making a life. Vaccines and civil rights are good actually.

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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 24/09/2026
I miss sleep. I miss being able to sleep. I miss what it feels like to be rested. I’m not sure I remember anymore.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 21/09/2026
I miss my dog a lot. It’s a grief akin to losing a person and it’s still hammering me.
Older gentleman English mastiff chewing on his comfort lamby.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 20/09/2026
How’d AMC do such a truly phenomenal interpretation with Anne Rice’s vampires and then botch the Mayfair witches so goddamn badly?? Because these three? And the arcs? Loooooove.
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Bailey Bass Iwtv
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 19/09/2026
I’m not sure I am. My sister-in-law died suddenly, my beloved dog died, spouse has been out of work for 10 months and we’re sinking, I can’t sleep anymore, my country is…waves hands…and I feel on the brink of losing it all the time
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 19/09/2026
As a looooong-time thrifter, please hear me when I say fuck resellers. I know times suck—J has been out of work for almost a year & we are hurting—but that doesn’t mean pushing people aside to pile a cart with everything we can grab to then check eBay & leave discards in piles is ok. It’s not.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 18/09/2026
I am not a Video Game Person—but my kids are. So last night I told my birthday kid I wanted to play a video game with him—his choice. After his initial surprise, I watched as he contemplated me against his games & what we could play together & what I might enjoy. He picked MonsterHunter.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 11/09/2026
imagine that—what we’ve been screaming from the SpEd community for years:
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
!!!!!
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 10/09/2026
But…but…the premise IS RIGHT THERE! You don’t even have to invent anything—it’s RIGHT THERE!
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 08/09/2026
Oh no. Oh nooooo…
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 01/09/2026
I just finished reading Sharp Objects and Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn and I need a new book that will pull me in fast.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 14/08/2026
Just read Gone Girl for the first time after listening to "Zero to Well Read" and that's why I got 3 hours of sleep last night
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 11/08/2026
We got Tiberius’s ashes back today, and in discussing where he should go, Bean suggested we put him in the middle of the kitchen and have him move around on the floor so that he’s always inconvenient and in the way, just like before.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 03/08/2026
My heart hurts so bad I can’t even sleep.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 03/08/2026
To it turns out today was that day and none of us are ok.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 02/08/2026
My heart is breaking for my weird and beloved Spokane tonight.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 01/08/2026
Such a thing of beauty:
A screenshot of a clock showing “Saturday, August 1, no events today, your day is clear”
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 31/07/2026
It's Lughnasadh Eve--the Gaelic celebration of August 1, BECAUSE WE ALL HATE JULY AND ITS ALMOST OVER.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 30/07/2026
I should not be afraid to eat strawberries in July. As a matter of fact, the produce and fruit are the ONLY GOOD THING about JULY at all and these deregulating fuckers have ruined even that.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 26/07/2026
I'd like another reason to write, please. dandelionmama.com/2026/07/26/w...
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What Remains After the Fire
I keep wanting to write about something good, anything beautiful that I can find, and each time I turn around, I get the wind knocked out of me. The above photo is deceptive—those smoke plumes are …
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/07/2026
Some redheaded kids with alopecia are about have some options.
36” of long wavy red hair on a man sitting in a chair. Zip ties of extremely long red hair about to be donated to Wigs for Kids. Eight hanks of very long red hair in zip tied bundles laying neatly on a tray
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/07/2026
You guys. I found an enormous framed Thomas Kinkade print with the engraved gold name plaque & certificate and everything for $20. What should Abby and I add to it besides hobbit holes, Barad Dûr, Totoro, and Firefly in the atmo??
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/07/2026
When I moved I made the switch and the change in my breathing was bonkers. As a cook, I didn't want it to be true; I'm still not over it—but I can't go back.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 24/07/2026
It’s that goddamn day again. dandelionmama.com/2026/07/24/s...
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Such a Long, Long Time to Be Gone, and a Short Time to Be Here
Dear David, I don’t know where to start these days. We are worlds removed from when you left us, and yet this day circles around every year and the weight in my heart remains. I used to think…
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 17/07/2026
If Odysseus and Circe are on your mind for some unknowable reason, pick up the Emily Wilson translation--its so accessible and SO much better than whatever you read in high school.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 16/07/2026
Whew. dandelionmama.com/2026/07/16/t...
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Tiberius, Age 11
This is not that post. He’s snoring in the living room right now. When David died the grief counselor suggested we get a dog. For a variety of reasons (including prior dogs named Daisy, Napol…
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 13/07/2026
Just finished Margo’s Got Money Troubles and if you know me at all you can guess what Nick Offerman’s performance did to me. I’m wrung out. Apropos nothing, here is David and our first baby.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 09/07/2026
My kid who didn’t learn to read until 4th grade just used “simulacrum” properly in a random sentence while talking to me, and 🥹💖
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 06/07/2026
This good boy turned ELEVEN yesterday and nothing else even remotely as important happened this weekend.
Grey faced fawn English mastiff looking past his younger dog-brother who is half out of frame.
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derek guy @dieworkwear.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
Justice Brown Jackson's argument for birthright citizenship is very moving. I recommend reading it in full. An excerpt with alt-text below. “The Reconstruction Amendments were an anticaste, antisubordination reset for the Nation, not a mere spot treatment for the dark stain of slavery.” — KBJ
Still, most freed Blacks resisted the pressure to self-deport. Instead, many started organizing toward the creation of the kind of Nation the colonizationists opposed—one that guaranteed liberty and justice for all. In the decades leading up to the ratification of the Fourteenth Amendment, Black Americans organized and gathered at more than 600 local and national conventions across the country. There, delegates erected the political and intellectual scaffolding for the Fourteenth Amendment and, later, for the Black Civil Rights Movement more generally. 

Critically for present purposes, these visionaries already understood themselves to be American citizens. “The refrains ‘we are Americans’ and ‘we are citizens’ echoed in conferences throughout the North.” Moreover, “[b]irthright figured importantly” as “delegates frequently characterized their status as that of native-born citizens.” The delegates argued that, as such, they had the requisite allegiance, so, at a minimum, the Federal Government owed them the duty of protection. 

The famed orator Frederick Douglass was one of these delegates. Capturing the spirit of the moment, Douglass proclaimed that Chief Justice Taney—the author of the majority opinion in Dred Scott v. Sandford, 19 How. 393 (1857)—“[could] do many things, but he [could not] … change the essential nature of things.” In the absence of the artificial evils of slavery and racial subordination, Douglass explained, “the glorious birthright of our common humanity, will become the inheritance of all the inhabitants of this highly favored country.”

Do note this: The citizenship thesis of the Colored Conventions was thus not that some new status should be created and conferred on freed Blacks.It was instead that freed Blacks already had a rightful claim to citizenship because they had been born on American soil. After all, the Nation, from its founding, had “boldly proclaim[ed] that all men are born free and equal, and that consequently life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, are inherent in every individual, vested inalienably by natural birthright.” No ideal was more inherently American. Now, “rest[ing their] cause on the republican standard of the revolutionary Fathers,” freed Blacks were “knock[ing] at the doors of the constitution and demand[ing] an entrance.” And “[i]f … asked what evidence [they] bring to sustain [their] qualifications for citizenship, [they would] offer them certificates of … BIRTH and NATIVITY.” Would the Nation live up to its promise?

Such universalist appeals were a conscious choice. Yes, Black Americans had suffered a singular wrong. And yes, they had “fought and bled” for the Union, paying a steep price for their freedom. But the delegates did not rest on these laurels. Rather, they drew upon the moral and political force of the universal principles that were already core to the Nation’s identity.

That bears repeating: Freed Blacks did not advocate for a unique set of rules that catered only to their situation. Nor did they seek to advance their own position relative to, or at the expense and exclusion of, other marginalized groups.Instead, those whose gatherings helped galvanize the push for full equality understood that “[a] diverse origin does not disprove a common nature, nor does it disprove a united destiny.” The firmest foundation for freedom would require an anticaste reset—“both for his sake and for ours”—and would benefit all.

During his U. S. Senate candidacy, Abraham Lincoln developed a similar vision. In the lead-up to the now-famous Lincoln-Douglas debates, Lincoln explained that the promise of liberty and equality in the Declaration of Independence “was held sacred by all, and thought to include all.” Lincoln expressly and intentionally linked the fate of Black Americans and immigrant groups (“among us perhaps half our people who are not descendants at all” of the Founders), and noted that the Nation’s future hinged on a universal definition of citizenship that excluded neither. He explained that the Declaration’s promise that “all men are created equal” was the “electric cord … that links the hearts of patriotic and liberty-loving men together,” regardless of race or descent.

The case was made. First, there was war. And then, the delegates’ (and Lincoln’s) universalist view of citizenship made its mark on the Constitution.
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Rebecca Brückmann @historleans.bsky.social · 01/07/2026
Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson: "The Reconstruction Amendments were an anticaste, antisubordination reset for the Nation, not a mere spot treatment for the dark stain of slavery." #ThatPart 🗃️🔥
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 29/06/2026
Summer SAD is upon us and folks, it’s hella real. Where are my fellow summer SADs?
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/06/2026
We’re in the bad place.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 16/06/2026
Watermelon Cotton candy Textural nightmares.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 14/06/2026
Explaining to my husband, who is normal, why our very fine perfectly nice modern updated clear glass shower is my mortal enemy.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 12/06/2026
Pondering the eternal quandary of boundaries in writing what I know v. maintaining relationships that impacted what I know.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 10/06/2026
Thanks to @jpbrammer.bsky.social I am now deep into a Toni Morrison novel that I started yesterday and can’t wait to get back to after work. Giving my curiosity reign but directing it away from easy dissociation. Go read his short essay on attention and reading. DO IT.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 08/06/2026
There is an interior designer on the clock app who says to folks wondering why their homes don't feel personal or special "Your home is not weird enough." I think about that a lot.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 07/06/2026
me*: cleaning up a mess I asked someone else to take care of days ago and they didn't them: i was going to do that! me: WHEN BECAUSE WAITING AND ONLY ACTING ONCE I AM RAGE-DOING IT IS NOT DOING IT *every mother/partner/woman everywhere*
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 06/06/2026
I just learned we lost our Colorado minor league baseball team and I am now unreasonably unhappy.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 05/06/2026
I’m writing again. If you want a link lmk.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 02/06/2026
this surgery taught me about how debilitating pain is and how limited the options are—my surgeon reached in & relocated my liver with her hands…but yeah, sure, TYLENOL WILL BE FINE we have to do better
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Bugs Bunny Crying Tears
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 30/05/2026
Five weeks post doozy of a surgery, living on these and have no regrets
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 21/05/2026
Pauls Boutique. It’s in Brooklyn.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 29/04/2026
Home.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 26/04/2026
Let’s hear it for DAY SIX. I will not leave ama I will not leave ama I will not leave ama…
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a man in a hospital gown is smiling and laying in a bed
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
Day Five: Nope.
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a woman laying in a hospital bed with the words am i good to be discharged below her
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 25/04/2026
Apparently when a chest tube output is <100 it can be pulled & a person can go home. Some folks chests are overachieving assholes, however, and are still putting out >400 four days later.
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a woman is sleeping in a hospital bed with citytv on the bottom
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 24/04/2026
Day 4 in the hospital. Transplant nurses still rock. Chest tubes decidedly do NOT.
Woman’s eyeball peeking from the corner of a us hospital room in the background.
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Tracy M @dandelionmama.bsky.social · 23/04/2026
I’m reading James Baldwin right now and he pointed out this problem so clearly 75 years ago; it appears nothing much has changed. We’ve got to do better.
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