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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

Trotzdem, a happy lady who got fucked real good and had a great time- in spite of everything hard in her life.

Cupcake, a gorgeous tall pink haired tattooed white transgender woman, stands naked in a bedroom, blushing/flushed, from having great sex 🙂

Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

And this isn’t “easy” like lustful sex. This isn’t the storybook romance we read about in pulp, poetry, etc. Our culture sells us an ideal- We rarely measure up to ideals. It takes work, it takes trust, it takes security in yourself and joy in your body how it is. That’s the work 💪 So worth it 🩷

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

Okay but haven’t you read Angela Chen’s “Ace?” This is allosexual-normalcy! You’re part of the oppression! Pause, Chen writes that they fuck their partner to connect- they don’t feel desire for sex, but they do it for pleasure and connection. That’s what Perel/Nagoski/Reilly all say about LTR sex!

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

“Maybe I’ll disappoint my partner and she’ll stop wanting me” 👉🏻 Insecurity, she’s asking now. “I’ve been sexually abused by partners, this feels similar” 👉🏻 trauma. OK, how do we heal and rewrite/close that story? How to identify this is not that? “I wish I felt sexier rn” 👉🏻 insecurity again, shame

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

We might not like what we find- Insecurity, Sexual trauma, Shame, Performance anxiety, Etc Okay, so I’m just going to say no to getting my pussy licked because it might not be as good or magical? Because I might not be/feel my best? If I don’t try, I’m not feeling pleasure. What is actually lost?

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

And that’s the key- interrogating what we feel and investigating where that negative association/vehement response is coming from. What parts of me, even as a happy hedonist most of my life, fears sex enough to guard it behind lust/desire? What stories do I hold that tell me “no, only like this?“

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

Sometimes, right before, I think “fuck, this is like a chore, I just want to play video games or something else” Okay, but why not? Why really? What are you feeling about it? “Anxious. What if it’s embarrassing/i feel shame/it’s disappointing?” Yeah, that happens sometimes, sex is messy. So what?

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

I don’t even really want to eat or sleep or shower or clean the flat either, but I’m still doing those because I know it’s what is healthy for me and us. Pre surgery, esp pre-transition Cupcake could never do this- too penis-focused in sex- either it “works” and my body wants it or don’t bother.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

This feels like being a bonobo with a huge forebrain- Knowing what’s good for the relationship and body and just doing it regardless of the prevailing social/narrative norms around sex. Like I’m sick rn- on work leave, chronically exhausted- I just want to sleep, stretch, and play factorio lately.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

I think I am really understanding what these books have been talking about re planning sex and growing emotional maturity and connection in LTRs now. Like yes, sex drive waxes and wanes, but we, as apes, don’t only have sex to satiate horniness, we do it for a myriad of reasons and benefits.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

✅ we’re having fun ✅ happy brain chemicals ✅ we’re finding spontaneity ✅ sometimes we just cuddle ✅ feels vv good to be wanted Honestly, after the long term relationship and sex woes I’ve bad previously, ✅ and I’m so grateful/happy for this skill/habit ✅ this heals some of that trauma/pain for me

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

My libido is quite low from low thyroid function, naturally. So desire isn’t really the name of the game for my sex life lately. So lately I’m practicing some intentional, pursuit of sex for the sake of connection and pleasure- AKA scheduled sex with my partner. Some notes 🧵

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Katie Tightpussy, Editor-In-Chief @katie.bzky.team · 28/09/2026

they should make grad school that isn't an exploitative meat grinder

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 29/09/2026

Wait that’s so stupid, I think Jira can already just do that with some automation/config. Jfc

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

Doctor called me yesterday: "how are you feeling? Are you feeling tired, bad, and like doing nothing?" Me: yes, exactly, so the labs show this is expected? Her: Correct, your thyroid meds are too still, I am increasing them to (about double). I guess I feel validated in my hunch. Small wins.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

So the super power is just saying no. Great, so just be like a German? Wow, how underwhelming 🙄

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

Ngl, I was really hoping for super powers. I read this and my ego did the "this is worthless to me" meme. Baby girl, Nothing you're going to do will change people to make them want you more, to make them want to treat you better. We just gotta say "No, that's not my job"- and hold that drawn line

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

I'm at the part of "It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with Almost No Help from My Spouse" where the big reveal happens: The skill for staying married? Choosing too. Choosing to stay, to cope, to accept that you will fight and you won't change them. You learn to just be happy anyway.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

And it's weird, like so weird- To be so rules-focused and learn "oh, the rules are just schema projections, they're made up. Wait, so why are we so attached to them? We're too divergent, queer, and progressive to believe such things." And you realize "oh, traumatic experiences reinforced this."

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

> If she loved me, ... No > I really want her to want that. And it hurts that she doesn't. No > She should know/understand ... No > I wish she knew/understood ... Yes 💯 > Because we're married, you owe me ... No > What do I want to ask for? If she says no, what will I do next? Yes, but very hard.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

Studying differentiation in relationships is wild as an abused, neurodivergent person. Like oh, I can just do/say that? > I've given more than I wanted to give, and I'm angry about it. What do I want to choose going forward? > I want her to understand. She may not. I can still make the decision.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 26/09/2026

when I refinanced the ypsi house, I was so "yeah whatever" about it while my loan agent was so excited. "But Cupcake, your interest rate is so good now!" "Yeah OK Jay, but it's all made up numbers. $350k is too abstract to comprehend. We're shuffling monopoly money 🤷‍♀️" "Um, ok I guess. Sign here."

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 19/09/2026

Cleaning this bong without alcohol is fucking impossible tier 💀😫😵

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

This is my food baby, Rosalinda Ann Tortellini- oh- oh yep, she just kicked! Here, feel.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

Spelling 🤦‍♀️ Psoas muscles Recommend this routine btw. That said, for me it was very intense the first time. It may make you feel things if you have had sexual or dysphoric trauma. youtu.be/JsE4csvlUfA?...

youtu.be

Yoga For Psoas | Yoga With Adriene

YouTube video by Yoga With Adriene

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

But I’m still a little bashful thinking about her holding me while I make the ugly crying face- “I DIDNT KNOW IT COULD FEEL LIKE THIS, HOLY FUCK A—. Thank you. thank you. What the fuck?” (sobbing) That’s a lot of love and support and safety- Couldn’t feel like this if we didn’t build it together.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

We talked a little about Waking Tiger by Levine and trauma trapped stress/energy. I mentioned my experiences with the soas and pelvic floor muscles in particular for that for me. I didn’t expect to have a whole body kept the score discussion at midnight in the dark but it happened and it was good.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

She asked me later about the shaking and what I think that was about. I explained I’ve been working out big, painful, months-long tension knots with deep massage and stretching the last few days and this just felt like a dam breaking and a lot of that could just flow out of me in that moment.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

This was deeply unexpected and frankly embarrassing when it happened, but it happened with A and she’s such a sweetheart- gentle and compassionate about this stuff- so it wasn’t a big deal.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

Pussy eaten so good you ugly cry and trauma-tension-release-shake in her arms afterwards 🫪😵‍💫🫠😵💀

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 15/09/2026

DClaire used to talk about its favorite being “[excuse me] sir… sorry- ma’am… uhhh um sorry um [excuse me]”

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 08/09/2026

I’m so happy Having a Good Time was decriminalized. That dark period of mirth prohibition was really harmful to our communities.

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Katie Tightpussy, Editor-In-Chief @katie.bzky.team · 08/09/2026

dude have you heard of the latest drug on the street? it's called Having A Good Time. all the kids are doing it. you gotta get in on this

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 06/09/2026

Truly 😭😭😭 I am feeling a ton better since starting new meds tho!

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 05/09/2026

I don’t really suffer the “that will spoil the excitement” crowd socially so it’s not something I intersect with anymore either. Those people find a way of self selecting out of your life.

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 05/09/2026

Clear communication is a super power. Managing ambiguity is safe, clear, and kind. We are helping to heal a whole community- exemplifying “hey there’s a good way to just negotiate what you want with dignity, clarity, and shamelessness.” We grow together- one hook-up negotiation at a time 💕

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 05/09/2026

I just asked a cute friend out. Lil avoidant bean I had to circle back and say “hey hun that was me asking you out, to be explicitly clear. Can we talk about that?”

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 04/09/2026

@katie.bzky.team tysm btw for everything you do for us 💕 We all give what we can and girlie you’re giving hope to a lot of us (newbies and longtimers alike)

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 04/09/2026

So this marks my joining of the surpreme Thursday injection gang. Fitting to sync to KTP’s cycle since I’m referencing her guide anyway 😉

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 04/09/2026

Last night I took my first dose of DIY EE. Patches were fine enough I guess, but I’m ready to get back to cyberpunk transness again thank you. I’d rather just source my own, better hormones than rely on the German system’s medicalization and gatekeeping checks. Also started thyroid meds. YOLO 📈

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Dr. Tessa Fisher @tessafisher.bsky.social · 03/09/2026

My therapist recommends giving me absolute and total dominion over the entire planet. Y'know, for my anxiety

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Cupcake, think different (or something)-era 🏳️‍⚧️🧁💭 @cupcake.rip · 01/09/2026

Reading “Mating in Captivity” by Esther Perel now, about halfway through it already. I like it, but I always wish for more genderqueer representation since we’re talking about identity, gender roles, and shame in these books a lot. Taps the “I guess someday I write my own book” sign…

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