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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her)

@coffeeandkink.bsky.social
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Sex & relationships writer. Specialist topics: polyamory, pleasure products, sapphic sex, kink and BDSM, pleasure & love after abuse. Homoflexible, polyamorous, femme. "A bit weird but in a nice way!" Writing: coffeeandkink.me

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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 26/08/2025
I know this is an unpopular opinion but I didn't like BBC's #Unforgivable. It's a moving and well-acted piece of drama, but it perpetuates the narrative that sexual abuse causes sexual abuse (e.g. survivors are more likely to go on to become perpetrators.) Which is *not evidence-based.*
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 15/08/2025
Sticking to your principles is expensive sometimes. I've turned down three paid gigs in two days because I will not promote AI.
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Sydney Screams Talks Toys @sydneytalkstoys.bsky.social · 23/07/2025
I don’t want your AI designed toys. I don’t want your AI written reviews. I don’t want your AI generated images. I don’t want your AI ever, at all, anywhere.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 18/07/2025
Same.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 14/05/2025
Kinda cool to see Lovehoney toys being sold openly in Boots! #normalisepleasure #normalisesextoys
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 09/05/2025
More Than Two Second Edition, by @everickert.bsky.social and @andreazanin.bsky.social, is so so so good!
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 06/05/2025
I'm soon going to write about being an s-type (submissive) with two D-types (Dominants.) What do you want to know, and if you have experience of this dynamic from either side, what are your thoughts?
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 25/04/2025
Look I know everything seems to be written by fucking AI these days but there are actually still human content writers out there, and when you're rude to us about work we poured our skills and hearts into it still hurts.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 24/04/2025
I tried "vibrating" orgasm gel and I regret all my life choices. That shit BURNS.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 21/04/2025
Cosy, secure polyam life: your partners gently making fun of you in the group chat (which is named for an obscure in-joke, obvs) 🥰🥰🥰
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J. D. Harlock @jdharlock.bsky.social · 15/04/2025
My exclusive interview with Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury about her graphic novel, "Titties," has been published by Coffee & Kink (@coffeeandkink.bsky.social)! It's available to read for free here: coffeeandkink.me/2025/04/15/n... #comics #graphicnovels #publishingnews #writingcommunity #comicbooks
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[Guest Post] Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury’s "Titties": Resistance Against Misogynistic Censorship in the Arab World with Erotic Graphic Novels by J. D. Harlock
J. D. Harlock interviews SWANA artist and writer Nour Hifaoui Fakhoury about her explicit adult graphic novel Titties.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 04/04/2025
I often wonder why I'm usually some level of sore/stiff. Then I remember that I'm over 30, I work at a desk, and I like to sleep in the most unhinged positions imaginable.
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Strange Bedfellas - Friday 10/2 @ 4 PM CST @strangebedfellas.bsky.social · 02/04/2025
I meant to launch this last month, but better late than never! TIME FOR ANOTHER GIVEAWAY! Read the whole thread to find out how to enter our Double Rainbow Giveaway to win either an XL/Super Soft Philco or a Small/Super Soft Philco! Be sure to comment on THIS POST after you read over the rules 🌈💖
Pink dragon Meesh introduces the Double Rainbow Giveaway. Photo shows the XL and Small Philco being given away and invites the viewer to read the rules on how to enter the giveaway
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 02/04/2025
Pro relationship tip: date people whose tone when they pick up the phone sounds like you've made their entire day by calling. 💜
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 31/03/2025
🚨 New post! 🚨 Ready to get deinfluenced? Here are six pleasure products and sexual wellness things you DO NOT NEED. coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/31/d...
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Deinfluencing You: 6 Sexual Wellness and Pleasure Products You Do Not Need
I'm jumping on the deinfluencing trend and deinfluencing you from sexual wellness products and pleasure products you definitely don't need.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 30/03/2025
Things I get excited about in my 30s: our new custom furniture pieces we ordered months ago are finally arriving tomorrow! #renovating
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 29/03/2025
Pro abortion and proud.
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Girl on the Net @girlonthenet.bsky.social · 28/03/2025
Reminder that Doxy is selling off old stock of the Doxy original (they're updating the look for 2025). You can get 40% off with code CLASSIC40 between now and... whenever they're gone. So be quick if you want a massive bargain. doxymassager.com/doxy-origina... (my affiliate link)
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Doxy Original - Doxy
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 28/03/2025
🚨 New review! 🚨 Blush Novelties Avant Lucky, a spectacular sparkly thing stocked and sent to me by the wonderful @pgshop.bsky.social 💜 coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/28/b...
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[Toy Review] Blush Novelties Avant Lucky Glitter Dildo - Coffee & Kink
The Blush Novelties Avant Lucky is a silicone glitter dildo in a beautiful blue, pink and purple ombre reminiscent of the bi pride flag.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 27/03/2025
People who strap-on top: does the aesthetic of the dildo you're using impact how you feel about your gender and/or gender presentation?
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 24/03/2025
At the station waiting for the train to the other train to the shuttle to the airport to the plane to my girl 💜💜💜
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 21/03/2025
🚨 New review! 🚨 Blush Novelties Neo Elite confetti dildo for @pgshop.bsky.social 🥰 coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/21/b...
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Blush Dildo Review: Neo Elite Hanky Panky Glow in the Dark
This Blush dildo is made of clear silicone and filled with blue, green, purple and pink confetti pieces. It also glows in the dark.
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The Pleasure Garden @pgshop.bsky.social · 20/03/2025
New review from the lovely @coffeeandkink.bsky.social - Who doesn't love a bit of Lesbian Pride! coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/13/a...
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[Toy Review] Avant Pride P3 Beauty Small Suction Cup Dildo - Coffee & Kink
The Avant Pride P3 Beauty is a small suction cup dildo from Blush Novelties made of body-safe silicone in the lesbian pride flag colours
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Build your relationship with yourself. Choose partners who help you to become the happiest and healthiest version of that self. Treat long term love as a group project. Maintain identities as separate people. Resist becoming a single unit. It's not romantic, it's creepy.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
It means we will show up for each other. We have each other's backs. We commit to working through conflict and problems together, to going on adventures together, to embracing everything the other person is now and everything they might be in the future.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
I don't believe in "The One" but I know someone is right for me when I feel my entire body and soul relax into a place of peace in their presence.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Nomi and Amanita in Sense8. Their relationship is absolutely beautiful - full of fierce support, mutual protectiveness, and a genuine appreciation for everything the other person is.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
You don't need to go to bed or wake up at the same time. Different sleeping schedules are just fine. Sincerely, me (gets tired by 11pm) and my nesting partner (semi nocturnal.)
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Coffee followed by browsing something we're both interested in - a museum exhibit, art show, market, bookstore...
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Text your "primary" to "check in" Noooope thank you, if my prospective meta can't leave us alone for one date I'm out.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
"What does polyamory mean to you and how does that show up in your life?"
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
They talk positively about other people in their lives - their other partners, their friends, their family, whoever is important to them. They ask thoughtful questions, listen as much as they talk, and respect what I have to say even if they disagree.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Communication. Willingness to show up even when it's hard. Laughter. Self-awareness and a commitment to self-improvement. And, yes, those compatible values again.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Having or wanting kids. Nothing but the greatest of respect to folks who do, but I absolutely do not want to be a parent, step-parent, or pseudo-parental figure of any kind.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Say it with me: C O M P A T I B L E V A L U E S
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
My two current ones, and honestly... it's that compatibility thing again. We have similar values and see the world in a similar way. Also, laughter. Never underestimate the power of play.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
A person can love you in the sense of feeling love towards you, but if they don't LOVE you with their actions then all the pretty words in the world mean nothing.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Repeatedly ignoring or dismissing bids for connection.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Believing they can or should change their partner.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Right wing politics.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 17/03/2025
Passion is fun but compatibility of values is essential.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 16/03/2025
You know that "deinfluencing you from shit you don't need" trend? I'm gonna write one sexual wellness and pleasure products. What should I include? So far I've got: - Toy cleaner - Anything to change how your bits look/smell/taste - Flavoured/scented lube - Arousal supplements - Textured condoms
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 16/03/2025
Good morning! I'm on holiday 💜
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 12/03/2025
And I'm so fucking grateful for every bullet I dodged to get to you 💜
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
"It smells like the inside of a new car" is not a thing I want to write about a sex toy.
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 11/03/2025
Mr C&K just forgot the term for an interrobang and called it a "Cillit Bang" 😂
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 06/03/2025
🚨 New post! 🚨 Why do people weaponize "boundaries" in polyamory, what does this look like, and why is it a problem? coffeeandkink.me/2025/03/06/w...
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Weaponizing Boundaries in Polyamory
What does weaponizing boundaries in polyamory look like? Are you really setting a boundary or is it actually a rule in disguise?
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Amy @ Coffee & Kink (she/her) @coffeeandkink.bsky.social · 05/03/2025
Omg this is an actual masterclass!
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Girl on the Net @girlonthenet.bsky.social · 04/03/2025
Today I broke an #accessibility feature on my site, and turned off #audio for UK users. Everyone else can listen as usual. UK users cannot. You can still read the text. But you can't hear the #accessible version. This is the Online Safety Act: www.girlonthenet.com/osa/ Pls share
No entry sign with the text 'can't hear the audio?' click here to find out why
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