A lot of us, definitely myself included, burn through life as if we have all the time in the world. That is until something happens that forces us to come

I haven't posted anything here in a while. A lot has happened between my last post and now, and I'll do my best to describe what I experienced. It may not

Disclaimer: I don’t like AI, so obviously I don’t take a neutral stance here.

I haven’t published anything for the last several days. I’ve still been writing but those writings have just been for me. I needed the break.

I spent all of yesterday sick and in quite a bit of pain. I’m feeling better today, not completely back to normal, but good enough to run some errands and go

I use the word chose deliberately because that's what happened.

Last night I ate a lot of cherry tomatoes with my evening meal. Usually there wouldn't be anything special about that but these came from our own garden.

What to write about today?

Recently in Albuquerque, a city not far from where we live, a man reportedly pulled a gun on a Catholic priest after getting mad over the priest’s public support for religious freedom and his wife arg...

There’s one part of every day that I dread. Bedtime. As the sun starts setting I can already feel it creeping in. The closer bedtime gets the more the anxiety builds. Ever since I got off alcohol a…

What’s your favorite ways to deal with stress? Would you be willing to share them? What about those times when you’re way more stressed out than you realize until your body starts letting you…

Life has taught me to be very careful about absolutist thinking. There are definitely certain things that are clearly wrong like cruelty, abuse, and intentionally hurting innocent people. Those are…

I write a lot about how happy I am with my life these days, and I am happy. Very happy. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still struggle because I do. The last few days have been hard. We h…

I’ve written a lot recently about how I’m happier than I’ve ever been before. I even made a video talking about it. (I’ll try to do more videos, that’s just unfamiliar territory f…

I remember when I was in the middle of detox, there were times I was too sick to read. So, I’m gonna make some videos for people who are in that place. Hopefully, I’ll get better as I g…

I haven’t been writing as much lately obviously. Life has been really busy lately but really good and full too! We’ve been settling into our forever home, and moving doesn’t reall…

There’s something I would call a “unique kind of wreckage” that detox leaves behind even when it’s done. Not just in your body, anybody who’s been through it knows it takes the body apart too…

My decades long internal self loathing, conflict, and strife are at an end. And I didn’t have to die to achieve that. When I look back on the decades I carried that self loathing, it makes me…

I can honestly say with certainty that I’ve never been happier in my life than I am right now. And that scares me a little in a strange way. I’m sober and clean, living in New Mexico, a…

For whatever reason I’ve seen more people giving up in the last two weeks than I have since I began recovery myself. Those of us in recovery communities see it happen, and it’s heartbre…

Getting ready to move into our new home has brought a lot of choices. What to keep, what to donate, and what to throw away. Some decisions are easy. My books, for example. Those are staying. I don&…

My wife and I spent yesterday babysitting our little grandson! This coming Thursday we close on our new home, and after that we start the process of moving in. Just last week we spent the week in T…

The world now has its first trillionaire. Think about that for a second. At the same time millions of people are struggling to buy groceries. Some adults skip meals so their children can eat. Peopl…

What’s real and what’s “woo”? Most of the time it’s pretty easy to spot actual nonsense. Snake-oil salesmen have always been around and probably always will. Whether they’re selling miracle c…

I’ve touched on this subject before, but recently my wife and I were talking about it again. During that conversation she suggested I dedicate an entire post to it, so here it is. We were talking a…

Last night we were sitting in a restaurant in Texas with our granddaughter squeezed into the booth between my wife and me. We were playfully elbowing each other as if we didn’t have enough room for…

Here’s something I’ve considered writing about several times but haven’t actually done so until now. The reason I’ve wanted to write about it is because I really do believe …

“Don’t change anything for a couple of years.” Those were my doctor’s words when I got clean. He said them in response to all the plans I had for improving my life. I wanted to quit tobacco, fix my…

I realize my writing schedule isn’t the same as it was before, but as I’ve mentioned in recent posts, it’s because life has been really, really busy lately. Buying a house, welcoming a new grandson…

I keep learning since getting clean new ways to approach life and I’ve realized I’m not just learning new things… I’m also un-learning old ones. Modern society tries to tell us that softness …

Wow! So many things are happening so fast, and these are good, exciting things. Our new home is officially under contract now, so nobody can come along and snatch it out from underneath us. Even th…

A lot has been going on the last few days, lots of changes. But that’s how life is, life is change, life is movement. Today my wife and I are going to look at a house. Today is also the day my wife…

I saw a post someone recently did about why they are conservative. Some of it I understood, even if I disagreed. But most of it was openly hostile toward other human beings, especially LGBTQ+ peopl…

Here lately I’ve been asking myself what do I really want with the time I have left? Not a “to do” list or a bucket list, but what do I really want for my life now? And also maybe just as much, how…

I’ve been feeling a weird and persistent heaviness lately, a sadness I just haven’t been able to explain or completely put my finger on. The recent birth of my grandson is certainly joyous, and I c…

A few days ago my wife and I were out walking together. I always love walking with her, holding her hand while we talk about our hopes and dreams for the future. That day we were talking about all …

I haven’t written anything in a while. I’ve been busy because I have a new grandson! I think I really needed the break from writing. I feel refreshed now and maybe even having a slightly different …

I’ve been struggling more here recently and I couldn’t figure out why. One reason is obvious though, I’m in a wave at almost 17 months out. But the rest I just couldn’t quite put my finger on it. T…

One of my favorite recovery writers announced today that they’re taking a break for a while. I truly hope they’re OK and finding what they need. I understand though. Recovery is hard enough on its …

Several years ago someone very dear to me was really struggling. Life was kicking them in the teeth as the saying goes and they just couldn’t find a way out. They were heading down a very dark path…

My wife told me this morning that she woke up in the middle of the night thinking about something that might help someone today, that everyone needs an “anchor.” Something to hold on to, through da…

This is a hard thing to write about. I’ve had at least two attempts at writing this, trashing some drafts because I felt I came across too angry for it to get my point across. It’s personal, and I …

“This sucks!”. That was the insight during meditation yesterday evening. No nirvana without samsara. No lotus without the mud. No “good” without the “bad.” Everything exists right here, right now, …

I had a post ready to publish today but just as I was about to hit “publish” I stopped myself. That post was driven by my own anger and I didn’t want to put that kind of energy out into the world. …