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I love Portland and I choose to live there but god it’s nice to visit a real city.

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There’s a reason I save my hemming for flights.

Saturday, so I’m good. It’s just… so much hem.

besha @besha.bsky.social · 13/10/2026

I spent the entire PDX-PHL flight hemming this dress and I’m still not done.

view from an airplane seat: iPad playing Abbott Elementary, lap full of blue silk with pins stuck in

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A white wedding dress pre-Victoria, or in fantasy.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 13/10/2026

A.K. Larkwood, THE UNSPOKEN NAME, finished 10/7. Reread. Child priestess runs away to become a swordswoman, exchange rude notes with her BFF, and fall for a sorceress. The A plot is less fun but it’s still a very good read.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 10/10/2026

(first two words of each, which is apparently a common way to represent them)

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 10/10/2026

Hebrew-reading spouse confirms Ten Commandments

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

This week feels like a weight, pressing me down into something small and quiet and close to the ground, and I’m not even a survivor. I don’t have acute trauma to relive every time we read about this, again and again and again. I’m just so fucking tired.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

The research in this article feels like fatigue leaving a mark in bloodwork. Men and women see things differently: women see danger everywhere, because we have to. Most of us know our rapists and our murderers, but we still scan shadows for strangers. www.not-ship.com/safe-streets...

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Do we actually know how to make cities safer for women?

Women-only buses, catcalling fines and gender-sensitive design — we've tried them all.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 09/10/2026

I have been thinking about this article, and particularly this excerpt, quite a lot over the last couple of days. It’s a “research demonstrates what we already knew” scenario, like chronic pain finally leaving traces on an MRI. I’ve known my whole life. I’m so tired of knowing.

Screenshot reading:

Let's start with what people misunderstand about sexual violence on college campuses.

One of the biggest myths is that men rape by mistake. Like, "Oh, they need consent training." But research is very clear: Sexual violence is not a mistake. It is an intentionally made decision by people who know they don't have consent. They just don't prioritize consent over things like status, power, domination, and sexual gratification.

For my research, I got a certificate of confidentiality from the National Institutes of Health, so my notes couldn't be subpoenaed. One of the reasons I call them perpetrators in my work is because every single person I interviewed confessed in that context. The first question I would ask them was, "When you received that email from Title IX that you were under investigation, did you know what it was about?" Every perpetrator I interviewed said "yes." If sexual assault were a miscommunication, you would be wondering, What have I possibly done wrong? That is not the way that any of them reacted because they knew.

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“I refuse to understand the extremely relevant historical context here and it is you who suck at arguments”

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“You correctly called me out for doing exactly the thing I’m accusing other people of doing and therefore you are a high schooler, yawwwn” is really changing hearts and minds here bro

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Bookshop.org @bookshop.org · 06/10/2026

Pssst bsky.app/profile/book...

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Anti-Prime Day starts…NOW! 🥳 Today through midnight on 10/7, enjoy free shipping site-wide, all while supporting local, independent bookstores.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

do LED headlights day three and you have my sword

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Wellesley friend just suggested there’s someone out there doing an art project with the requests for money their alma mater sends them and now I wish I’d saved everything Swelles has sent me in the last 21 years except I would need another goddamn room in my house to hold it all

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

C.M. Waggoner, THE VILLAGE LIBRARY DEMON-HUNTING SOCIETY, finished 10/4. Cozy librarian solves cozy mysteries, until she starts wondering why nobody’s questioning the murder rate in the cozy village. I love unreliable/uninformed narrators, and this one is extremely well done.

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Goth Capo @tinalope.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

I’ve had enough

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

C.M. Waggoner, UNNATURAL MAGIC, finished 10/3. Reread. Dilettante falls for troll; proper young woman becomes the improper Lord-Magus’s assistant; they all solve murders. I wish there were more in this series, because it’s such a well-built world.

ceej @ceej.online · 04/10/2026

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“how do we win back trump voters in 2026” we don’t. we create an environment where admitting to voting for trump is so socially embarrassing as to render them completely inert. you don’t “win back” trump voters. you demoralize them into staying home. you make it a dunce cap

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Omg I lived down the hall from Tina sophomore year

Jjinandtonic @jjinandtonic.bsky.social · 02/10/2026

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I can’t believe we’re back to medieval level conflicts like “local merchant princes attempt to bribe theologians and the Pope’s advisors so the Pope will issue a favorable proclaimation”

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

51 books in 3 months, which is way more than I expected given that I also played like 100 hours of Tavern Keeper

besha @besha.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

DNF: Dorothy Dunnett, THE GAME OF KINGS. Too many dudes, but this is absolutely where Elizabeth Peters got John Smythe. Terry Pratchett, THE COLO[U]R OF MAGIC. The first Discworld, and he’s a long way from settling into his voice. Also too many dudes.

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

C.M. Waggoner, THE RUTHLESS LADY’S GUIDE TO WIZARDRY, finished 9/30. Beloved reread. A jolly-hockey-sticks troll and a gutter witch hunt a murderer, sell drugs, befriend a dead mouse, and fall in love. BONG.

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Well, that possum wasn’t grateful at all, even though Griddle was kicking it in the face when I got out there.

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I’ve noticed this with Mood lately and they do seem to be using ground to mean a different fabric in the same color or print. Which makes sense when it’s leopard print on cotton lawn vs rayon challis, or their in-house specialty colors, but black? I’m seeing different SKUs for each though.

Megan Whalen Turner, THE RETURN OF THE THIEF, finished 9/26. Written from the POV of a character with multiple disabilities, and realistic about what that means in a fantasy Ancient Greece. A satisfying end to the series.

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Urvi @theurv.com · 28/09/2026

T. Kingfisher, HEMLOCK AND SILVER, finished 9/27. A scholar of poisons tries to save a princess and falls through the looking glass. Reread from just a year ago, but Kingfisher is always worth reading.

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There were more men in a single documented gang rape at one school than the number of competitive trans athletes nationally. But I’ve heard a lot more politicians being asked about protecting girls from one of these scenarios and not another… I’ll let you guess which is which.

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That job got me a volunteer role, which got me a job, which got me a career, and also I have fun stories, so I don’t regret it! But I am too neurodivergent to set loose on the general public, and in retrospect probably only being young and blonde kept me from being let go for being too weird.

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Every time I write a novel-length text message to avoid using the phone I remember that I was a receptionist for five years and my brain short-circuits for a minute

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You can’t just dig a holy well, Elizabeth. You need to find a noble Christian virgin and betroth her to a pagan king and then get her to cry on the spot where you want your well.

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rehab, third marriage, Bible verses; tweaker with a “white chicks only” tattoo

my current theory is lead exposure

besha @besha.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Every time I Facebook stalk people I grew up with there’s about a 1/3 chance I’ll encounter something utterly batshit. A seems like a good dad, B is doing community theater now, and C is… [spins wheel] a transatlantic slave trade denialist

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Elizabeth Peters, DEVIL MAY CARE, finished 9/25. Reread. The older I get, the more I appreciate how many of her characters are kooky women of a certain age who are living their best lives.

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George Monbiot @georgemonbiot.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Here's today's column on the astonishing, ongoing mistreatment of people with #ME/CFS. Please spread it far and wide: the only thing which can break the media's wall of indifference is seeing an article about the issue go viral. Thank you. 1/2 www.theguardian.com/commentisfre...

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Abandoned, dismissed and gaslighted: there is no excuse for the way ME sufferers have been betrayed | George Monbiot

Changes in guidance and science seem to have little impact on millions of devastated lives. It’s a social crisis playing out behind closed doors, says Guardian columnist George Monbiot

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besha @besha.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

huffing permanent markers