benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 12/05/2026Meet Saucy Fries (name curtesy of my toddler), my Mother’s Day gift to myself. Not to be hyperbolic, but she has maybe cured everything that has ever ailed me? 1160
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 14/04/2026Slightly related, half of my social circle are fellow academics and we all quote your “academia runs on service and grudges” very regularly. Mostly when we’re doing service or holding grudges. 1343
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 07/02/2026Just so you know, I think of you often for inspiration as I am spending weekday evenings after my son’s bedtime prepping my P&T packet to be submitted this summer :) congratulations!! Bask away - you more than earned it! 110
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 28/01/2026Mine is currently crying because he wanted “the bottom of the bagel,” which is…exactly what I gave him?? 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 01/01/2026For what it’s worth, I know this not how AA tends to frame things, but I think having a ratio of something like 1:700 days of drinks/sobriety is still pretty damn impressive. 080
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 22/12/2025Child psychologist here. I co-sign this SO hard!! The word “manipulative” gives me a visceral reaction at this point. (I realize this doesn’t sound sympathetic to how damn hard it is to parent, but if it helps, I am also a single parent of a toddler. I promise I get it) 050
Reposted by @benderhead.bsky.socialKYGrace💙 @kygrace.bsky.social · 17/12/2025From a good friend: 27777215
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 25/11/2025In case it helps you to know you’re helping others, please know that I will be borrowing “a sad mom is better than a dead mom” for myself. 050
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 11/11/2025Small drops of water will erode an entire rock face. (Cheesy, I know. But I find it helpful in those times, so sharing anyway) 030
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 06/11/2025We have had the emotional support plastic cup (a very specific cup) and emotional support pie pumpkin. To its credit, the pumpkin lasted a shockingly long time for produce. 080
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 23/10/2025And yes, you do look pretty! Both your ring and your lip color rock. 010
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 23/10/2025Here is one of my favorite poems for those days, in case you find it helpful too. Sometimes I need the permission to not be okay, ya know? 110
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 13/10/2025Fun fact - it’s also one of the first things I learned in grad school for clinical psych (well, for mentally switching but/and more so than writing it, but same idea). Works wonders on how you think about the world. I find I hardly ever even say the word “but” anymore. 020
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 24/09/2025One of the best parts of finding a long lost home video from 30+ years ago was getting to hear not only my grandmother’s voice, but her classic and beautiful southern accent that just sounds so different than southern accents now. 110
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 18/09/2025That once happened to me and then all three of us got a bath 😢 I swear the dog smelled like sour milk for days. 120
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 06/08/2025I am one of those folks and am so appreciative of your honesty about the struggles of being an early career woman/mother in academia! 050
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 02/08/2025The Mustard Museum in Madison, WI is fantastic! 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 11/07/2025Chacos are also excellent for this exact purpose 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 01/06/2025Always amazed at how much a 20 min nap does to help me be (at least closer to) the mom I want to be. I can actually parent based on my values instead of just surviving the day. Just in case you want to reframe “lazy” to something kinder and without any negative connotations ;) 010
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 15/05/2025I (Lindsey) once taught a course with a TA (Lynzee) and a cohort mate (Lindsay). Poor students never knew who to email. 010
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 03/05/2025Has anybody tagged @hankgreen.bsky.social in this yet? 020
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 10/04/2025I actually first started following you because I am also a (single) mom and early career academic. Not entirely sure which is harder, but this shit is hard!! We need community. We are both going to make that percentage just a smidgen higher though. 250
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 23/03/2025Ha! I bribed my 2 year old to run errands with me by promising him a car wash at the end. Seriously considering one of those monthly memberships… truly never imagined myself saying that prior to parenthood. 100
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 18/03/2025@tashacoryell.bsky.social out here teaching literacy from an early age 😂 170
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 12/03/2025As a single mother of a toddler, this post gives me hope 💜 130
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 06/03/2025Currently read this book on repeat with my 2 year old and laugh just as much every time. Perfect. No notes. 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 22/01/2025Thank you! Evidently the key is to do it on a big screen and not my phone :) 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 22/01/2025Silly question - is it possible to gift this? I am not great at tech and couldn’t figure out how to sign in with a friend’s email address. 110
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 01/01/2025I got three by 8 am! Are you kidding me?! 000
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 23/12/2024Reminds me of the kiddo I saw once whose support object was… a coat hanger. 050
benderhead.bsky.social @benderhead.bsky.social · 24/11/2024My toddler also enjoys yelling when he offers the dog his food and she does NOT eat it. “Gadget! Cracker! Gadget! Cracker!!” 0120
