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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

I'm so thankful to @benjaminjriley.bsky.social for inviting me to share this essay with Cognitive Resonance readers! Writing about a humane vision of schooling buoyed my determination to keep fighting for the learning environments our kids deserve. I hope reading the piece does the same for you.

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

A reminder that babies cannot be vaccinated against measles until they are 12-15 months old. Ensuring that your own vaccine is still effective protects you and it protects babies!

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

Taps sign: Parents, it is your job to love the child you have, not the child you imagined. Everyone else, it's our job to hold the kids whose parents can't do this and love them like they're ours. P.S. This is why we need to stand up to hospitals caving on care for trans kiddos in cities like NYC.

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We Can’t Know Who Our Children Will Become

We can only show them who we’ll love

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 06/10/2026

"But one of humanity’s most important 'feedback loops' arises from our profoundly social dispositions. The computational model, it turns out, doesn’t account for this well either — and neither does the AI industry."

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

"Raising kids who will prevent—or at least interrupt—harm in real time requires that we provide a lifetime of rehearsal leading up to that decision. Courageous solidarity must be built into muscle memory."

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Raising Children to Disrupt Harm

Dismantling rape culture starts in preschool and never ends

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 05/10/2026

notesonhope.net

Raising Children to Disrupt Harm

Dismantling rape culture starts in preschool and never ends

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 04/10/2026

Lots of beautiful children's book recommendations in the comments on this thread. #KidLit friends, any more titles or great lists to add for our sweet Arab kiddos? 📚

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

Seems like a good time for a reminder that school professionals are mandated reporters of abuse and neglect in all 50 states. Gonna leave the definition of neglect under TX law here. 👇🏻 (Source: statutes.capitol.texas.gov?tab=1&code=F...)

TX Family Code, Chapter 261, Definition of neglect

(4) "Neglect" means an act or failure to act by a person responsible for a child's care, custody, or welfare evidencing the person's blatant disregard for the consequences of the act or failure to act that results in harm to the child or that creates an immediate danger to the child's physical health or safety and:

(A) includes:

(i) the leaving of a child in a situation where the child would be exposed to an immediate danger of physical or mental harm, without arranging for necessary care for the child, and the demonstration of an intent not to return by a parent, guardian, or managing or possessory conservator of the child;

(ii) the following acts or omissions by a person:

(a) placing a child in or failing to remove a child from a situation that a reasonable person would realize requires judgment or actions beyond the child's level of maturity, physical condition, or mental abilities and that results in bodily injury or an immediate danger of harm to the child;

(b) failing to seek, obtain, or follow through with medical care for a child, with the failure resulting in or presenting an immediate danger of death, disfigurement, or bodily injury or with the failure resulting in an observable and material impairment to the growth, development, or functioning of the child;

TX Family Code, Chapter 261, Definition of neglect (continued)

(c) the failure to provide a child with food, clothing, or shelter necessary to sustain the life or health of the child, excluding failure caused primarily by financial inability unless relief services had been offered and refused;

(d) placing a child in or failing to remove the child from a situation in which the child would be exposed to an immediate danger of sexual conduct harmful to the child; or

(e) placing a child in or failing to remove the child from a situation in which the child would be exposed to acts or omissions that constitute abuse under Subdivision (1)(E), (F), (G), (H), or (K) committed against another child;

(iii) the failure by the person responsible for a child's care, custody, or welfare to permit the child to return to the child's home without arranging for the necessary care for the child after the child has been absent from the home for any reason, including having been in residential placement or having run away; or

(iv) a negligent act or omission by an employee, volunteer, or other individual working under the auspices of a facility or program, including failure to comply with an individual treatment plan, plan of care, or individualized service plan, that causes or may cause substantial emotional harm or physical injury to, or the death of, a child served by the facility or program as further described by rule or policy;

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 03/10/2026

I always come away from @sandyernestallen.bsky.social's writing moved by his humanity and by the humanity of his subjects, whom he holds with such gentleness and care. He accomplishes with words exactly what he describes Loren Rex Cameron accomplishing with photography.

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Dr. Cara Berg Powers @clbergpowers.bsky.social · 30/09/2026

If we're serious about raising kids who speak up when something is wrong I think we have a lot of work to do to support them when they do and also help them navigate the challenges and big feelings that come with it. Being that kid is risky. How do we support them in that risk?

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

I’m seeing a lot of posts about talking to your sons in light of the Cornell article. And yes. Talk to your sons. Here are some things you should say, based on anti-violence research about what they need to hear:

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 29/09/2026

"We can’t just tell youth what not to do, we have to tell them what they should do. We have to actively teach boys and young men what to do when they witness the dangerous behavior of their peers. We have to teach them to disrupt the group chat…” - @ruthz.bsky.social

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Lena Bilik @lbilik.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

The US is the only OECD country w/out paid parental leave. Most other countries guarantee ~a year of parental leave before families enroll their kids in universal childcare. Instead of pitting families against each other, we should demand paid leave AND universal childcare like all our peer nations.

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Building the Future of the Care Economy - Roosevelt Institute

The US is facing a care crisis. Our care work focuses on addressing gaps in care through stable, long-term public investments that center worker equity and quality care outcomes while resisting privat...

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Nicole Bedera @nbedera.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

In this moment, I hope all of us are thinking about how to support the survivors who are demanding more. College campuses are often the source of social change. The students find optimism in the places the rest of us are cynical. And they will be more powerful if we stand in solidarity with them.

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 28/09/2026

Parents: Your job is to look for the spark that makes your child most themselves and to help them magnify that light. This almost always requires letting go of the child you imagined before they were born. But that child was never real. Your job is to love the child you have.

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We Can’t Know Who Our Children Will Become

We can only show them who we’ll love

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

PSA: If you were born before 1989, you likely only received one dose of the MMR vaccine and may need a booster. Please do this to protect yourself but especially to protect young children, who do not get their first MMR dose until they are 12-15 months old.

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Prisonculture @prisonculture.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Update your measles vaccine if you need it and make sure to vaccinate your children.

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Matt Seybold @mattseybold.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

We know what works 👇🏻

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

Hi @mayor.nyc.gov 👋🏻 Where are we on protecting trans kids' access to healthcare, though? If we can't be a refuge to the most vulnerable NYC kids, I don't think we can really claim to be a meaningful refuge for anyone. Healthcare is a pretty important component of finding a place to call home.

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Ash-Lee Woodard Henderson @ashdashlee.bsky.social · 27/09/2026

This whole entire thread. Read and share.

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John Downes-Angus @johndownesangus.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

This is great. When someone who has spent the past 26 years teaching young people in our city has something to say, you should listen. Makes sense that the most common sense is coming from educators and parents. www.nydailynews.com/2026/09/25/l...

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Let the children play: NYC parents demand more activities, less tech in schools

The effort is part of a growing pro-play movement emerging as the next phase of the ed-tech backlash that gripped classrooms across the country, and spurred cellphone bans and screen time limits.

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AI Moratorium for NYC Schools @aimoratoriumnyc.bsky.social · 26/09/2026

Fun fact: they scheduled the PEP meeting at the exact same time as curriculum night across the city—so they can vote on it with no parents or teachers there. That should make you mad!

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 25/09/2026

Today would have been Jim Henson's 90th birthday. So I thought I'd re-share this note on the motley magic of The Muppet Show. 💚

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

This school is the logical consequence of the anti-empathy tech billionaire ethos colliding with a long US history of failure to take children's rights seriously. "every single time, [the software] would tell me that I look really sad, which is fair because I was really sad"

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 24/09/2026

Efficiency and acceleration are almost always a trap in education. Or, as Piaget disdainfully called the desire to speed up development: "the American question." ⤵️

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The Efficiency Trap

What kids lose when we value efficiency over curiosity

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 23/09/2026

Some things aren't meant to be checked off a list. They're meant for us to come back to again and again. Little kids know this, but grown-ups forget. "Return nudges us to focus, to study, to make our knowledge and our understanding more intimate."

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Walking the Same Paths Every Day

What children know and grown-ups forget about revisiting familiar places

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Mannie T'Chawi … (the “T” is silent) @mannietchawi.com · 23/09/2026

This story is a great example of when @prisonculture.bsky.social speaks on picking something to focus on, organize around it, and keep at it! You don’t have to do it all, but what you do, could make all the difference.

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Barred and Boujee aka Madiba Dennie @audrelawdamercy.blacksky.app · 21/09/2026

ngl I was stunned by this article's cite to a study showing that 5.4 million children & teens in the US have family caregiving responsibilities @jessicacalarco.com has done lotsa interesting work on how the US uses women in lieu of a social safety net but I had no idea how much labor falls on..kids

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Brian W. @pyynk.bsky.social · 21/09/2026

If I had JKR’s money, rural libraries would never have to worry about funding ever again.

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Bright D Limm 임대중 @bdlimm.myatproto.social · 21/09/2026

"Sometimes routines make us blind to the details around us.... Sometimes, though, revisiting the same places again and again allows us...to notice the small things that go unobserved when an environment or an experience is new." — @aliciastoller.bsky.social www.notesonhope.net/walking-the-...

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Walking the Same Paths Every Day

What children know and grown-ups forget about revisiting familiar places

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Bright D Limm 임대중 @bdlimm.myatproto.social · 20/09/2026

Which state has maintained the nation's most segregated public schools for the past decade—and still holds this distinction today? New York. @matttheg.bsky.social explains the racist + other harmful consequences of a new fed tax credit program—and why we must thus push Hochul not to opt NY into it.

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

This is maybe the best thing I've read about all the AIpocalypse hype, mainly because it's not really about AI, it's about us. Let's talk more about us. "the only logical responses is to revel in the absolute best parts of our humanity, loudly and collectively"

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talia jane @taliajane.bsky.social · 20/09/2026

but inevitably i find myself running a checklist: does this discourse conclude to rationalize harm? does this discourse ignore or manipulate some important facts, or does it work with those facts toward something bigger? does this discourse enhance or weaken my values?

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Bright D Limm 임대중 @bdlimm.myatproto.social · 17/09/2026

That the experience of reading this piece leaves me with the feeling that the best thing anyone can do is to teach another person well is a lovely tribute to the teacher of writing it's about.

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

I wrote about losing my wise friend. "If we're very lucky, we have a few people in our lives who remind us who we are & re-illuminate our spirits when we’ve forgotten how to do so ourselves. And, if we are attuned to the frequency upon which they operate, hopefully we learn to do this for others."

notesonhope.net

The Friends Who Remind Us Who We Are

Finding each other in a world where it’s easy to lose ourselves

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 18/09/2026

"I hope that, by reading many books aboard the Children’s Library: Hon no Mori-go, children will discover a special book of their own, cultivate the ‘strength to live,’ and joyfully spread their wings from the Seto Inland Sea toward the great ocean of the wider world.”

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ashley fairbanks @ziibiing.com · 17/09/2026

find one thing today that isn’t awful and notice it’s not-awfulness i believe in you

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ashley fairbanks @ziibiing.com · 17/09/2026

a baby got shot at a mass shooting in baltimore. imagine what a sane society would do with guns if people shot a baby.

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

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The Friends Who Remind Us Who We Are

Finding each other in a world where it’s easy to lose ourselves

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Alicia Stoller @aliciastoller.bsky.social · 17/09/2026

Two-year-olds taught me this, but it applies to learning at every stage of life. "When our urgency to reach an end-point becomes so all-consuming that we sacrifice opportunities for curiosity, connection, and exploration along the way, perhaps we are the ones who have lost track of the goals."

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The Efficiency Trap

What kids lose when we value efficiency over curiosity

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